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To me the power of affecting the level of my own happiness keeps increasing year after year, not the level of happiness per se. So the older I get, the easier it seems for me to turn my life into either bliss or shit.

It’s actually able to come up with recipes for you based on the picture of you fridge. Still not an omelette on a plate, but that’s a great start.

I've been using Adobe Digital Editions to read borrowed ebooks. It's generally okay but it has a huge flaw: it resets the book and clears all my notes when the loan expires, so when I renew the loan, I will have zero of my precious notes left. If there's an app that allows you to keep the god damn notes after renewing the loan, I'm more than happy to even pay for it. Also tried Bluefire Reader, no shot with that one either. Would appreciate if someone had some info to share.

I would be careful dogmatizing relationships that way. Just a single relationship can develop you way more than any of those books of yours.

From health perspective, it's one of the most stupid things you can do. From social perspective, it has value. Although, that value (and more) can be generated through improving and developing yourself (without alcohol).

https://www.livelarq.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQiA0oagBhDHARIsAI-BbgcVS9q6x2cLUNsNXNRLSG5lZB2z6zpRvVYbSTdLhJHnOs1FuSmzMRMaAod8EALw_wcB They basically have two types of water bottles, PureVis and filtered. PureVis offers some UV light technology that cleans the water and the bottle in itself, removing up to 99,9% of harmful bacteria. The Filtered version is said to filter plenty of heavy metals. The bottle also comes with an insulation feature, to keep the water cold for up to 24 hours and hot for 12 hours. I remember watching an episode of shark tank few years ago, where this bottle was represented. The guy made a deal with two sharks and they've been expanding the business and increasing sales ever since, to a point of drawing my attention with their advertising. Does anyone have any experience with these bottles or something to say about its technology and capabilities? A useless gimmick or a legit and practical little product?

I used to be bad at math in high school, but then there was a girl in my class I had a crush on, who was a straight A student and was always competing with others, especially in math. I decided to impress her and started putting effort into math and soon became an A student as well. I ended up dating her and after our little romance, my interest in math dropped down, which led me to have an epiphany that my grades were precisely proportional to my level of motivation. So I learned that I really wasn't bad at math, but I just had never had proper force motivating me before. Chances are that you are suffering from lack of motivaton, or the feeling of powerelessness. If it's the latter, then it's good to remember that in the end it's actually a really small area of math you need to handle in those tests; usually it's just statistics. It's a small area but challenging enough to require effort and input. It might seem overwhelming, but once you get on track, it starts making sense surprisingly much. If you can't put in the effort, then it might not be a bad idea to check your motives one more time. I know people who applied to psychology. One guy I know got in the secound time he applied, another one applied at least 4 times, not sure if he ever got in. What seperates those two people is the fact that the guy who got in worked his ass out and attended a math course that was designed for the test, whereas the other guy didn't. And guess what, the guy who got in was bad at math.

Great tips on how to use it as a tool with creative work.

Yeah, it's brutal what measures some people are forced to rely on to survive. Should make us 1st world country folks more humble and to appreciate the luck we had.

Let the man blow off some steam for God’s sake! Nothing personal, still all personal

Very nice!

You definitely need to have a serious conversation with her about this and start to change your home life to other direction. Sounds harsh, but in the end you should demand the free space, even if it costs you the relationship. With one of my ex I lived together with I had no problem with that. She respected my own time and would even kick my ass to get me more focused on my own shit, as I was bit of a pussy back then. Living together doesn't necessarily mean you need to give up your own time and space, but it very much depends on the boundaries which naturally form with some girls depending on their personality. I hope you two get this sorted out through talk and action!

If it’s a completely new problem, then I would get my teeth checked. Some tooth infections have a tendency to slowly burst out in your mouth and it can be very unnoticeable.

The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.

Healthwise there apparently is nothing to worry about as long as it's 1-2 cups a day. It's about how it plays in your life and suits your lifestyle. Teachers, specifically spiritual teachers are biased in that way that they will guide you away from caffeine, because it's clearly not beneficial for your spiritual growth (IN GENERAL). Eventhough their advice is great, it's still up to you to use your own wisdom to make the best out of it. Caffeine isn't probably good for someone doing hours of hardcore spiritual practices every day, but that's not you is it? No matter if you are ''spiritual'' or you are constantly developing yourself or just doing any productive work, you are still propably part of modern society and part of its mechanics, where caffeine plays its role. Therefore it might not be a big deal and it might support your growth at the moment. Although, it indeed is stupid to let the quality of your day to be determined by some stupid bean, but we are stupid creatures doing stupid stuff

I used to love competitive gaming but the toxicity around the culture became untolerable during the years. I have also became aware of my reasons to play, which has greatly changed my attitude towards gaming as my values have evolved.

Good old motivational speech once a year please It could have a tone of the current theme of Actualized.org.

Maybe going through the diagnostic process with a doctor would not be a bad idea. That way the medication could be regulated fitting your needs while still keeping it safe healthwise. There's also some amphetamine-free ADD medication available. I tried some ADD medicine out of curiosity and the affect was significant on me as well. Eventhough that stuff is available for me and it doesn't contain any addictive or harmful substances, I've decided not to use them. It gives me a great mental boost, but I don't want my mind to depend on any non-organic additives. Although, I manage well without so can't talk on your behalf. If it brings balance to your somewhat chaotic life without too much of side-effects, then maybe it's not a bad alternative.

Just be careful not to deceive yourself by using that ''I can always leave later'' rationalization as an escape from the hurt that would come from the breakup. Breakups are painful and that is an appealing alternative, especially if the relationship doesn't totally suck. You know the best whether you should keep on or not. Listen to your intuition. I've also struggled with relationships while having business and career changes going on, and as a guy who have high standards for relationships I can say that those big changes will eat your time and energy so that you might not have enough for the relationships. It could work if you are totally on the same page and respect each other's boundaries, assuming you have the necessary feelings towards each other.

Stuff I study and focus on is a combination of stuff I love and stuff I know I need for my development. Love for psychology took me pretty far. Today I use my intuition to push my center of interest (the center of my focus) to the direction that I feel is best for me holistically, while maintaining balance and avoiding backlash.

My cousin didn't have emotional support in his childhood. He used to withdraw from his family as much as possible, as a coping mechanism. Few years ago (him being 29 years old) we took psychedelics together for the first time. He hadn't cried almost like ever. We were tripping in my apartment where it was safe and calm, mostly just sitting by ourselves contemplating, didn't really talk much. At the end part of the trip he went into my bedroom and started crying his ass off. I had never seen him crying before. He said it was one of the most relieving experiences of his life, like a huge pile of shit falling off of his shoulders. He clearly has emotional package to offload, especially from his difficult childhood. Today he don't really do psychedelics anymore, but he is aware of this ''emotional imp'' inside of him and he's been working on finding ways to let loose sober. So it definitely helped him at least, to let go of some ''negative energy'' and point him to the right direction with how that stuff should be handled. I say it's crucial to do it in an environment where you feel safe enough to become emotionally vulnerable. Public park will not do. Man my cousin barely dared to open up in my presence even though we were in a comfortable environment plus I'm the closest person to him in this planet.

Human life consists of infinite amount of factors, but the amount of factors that are relevant to ‘’ordinary life’’ and the common sense of personality is pretty limited. That’s what those tests assume as well. If you live (or forcefully try to live) very unordinary life where you are detached from basic life factors, such as money, relationships, work, etc., then those tests might not serve you very well. But if you proactively operate in the ordinary realm, then those test can give you great insight, because they seem to include those factors in their theory quite well. CIA might not use that model to find out what a monk meditating in Himalayas is up to, because he is out of the reach of fundamentals of ''ordinary life'', whereas a common citizen is not. MBTI doesn’t go super deep, but it goes deep enough and include nuance enough to guide you with the fundamentals of your life. If you are wise enough to see its limits, I think it serves you really well, no matter what personality type you are. If you try to use it to make sense of everything that’s going on inside your head, you’ll just end up hitting your head against a wall. For example, the model shines light to some personal development concepts and ideas Leo talks about. It gives perspective to why having a life purpose is hard for some while it's easier and even a no-brainer to others. Or how it’s easier for some to not give a fuck what others think of you, while the idea of that seems impossible to others. It never gives you the whole truth, but it might give enough for you to live more authentic life and deal with many challenges on the way.

Deep breathing throughout the day is said to move sexual energy in your body, so that it doesn't get stuck in the genital area or your head. Might sound like woo-woo, but give it a shot. Deep, proper, regular breathing has had an enormous effect not only to my sexual urges and performance, but also to my ability to be present and generally out of my head. Dedicate 5-10 minutes 3 times a day to just breathing. Sit down, set a timer and just focus on deep breathing. First, inhale deeply into your belly, from lower to upper belly, then to your solar plexus and finally to your lower and upper chest. Exhale slowly and fully. Make this a full smooth movement that you keep repeating. You can practise this throughout the day whenever you catch your breath shallow. You can really do it anywhere while doing pretty much anything. Try that for a few weeks and see if it works for you. Besides that as a general advice, having something to do and something to proactively put your energy into usually makes a big difference. That way your mind simply has no time to dwell in the sea of sexual fantasy.

Wow that's dope!

I can relate. The 3g seems to be such a doorway for me too. For me, changing the set and settings have seemed to be the key to preventing that chaotic anxiety from kicking in. If you have the opportunity, I would encourage you to try tripping in a peaceful and remote place, in a place where you have minimum amount of those possible threads, that might lead you to that awful loop. Those threads could be stuff that remind you of your ''normal'' ''civilised'' human life, such as your phone, or just the basic surroundings of where you spend the most of your time anyway. Some grounding work to detach you from everyday activities and obligations a day before a trip is also big. It would be great to have some room to become a bit ''crazy'', with nothing there to remind you of how relatively ''bad'' it is. By eliminating most of those threads or distractions, it becomes easier to accept the mindfuckery, that would otherwise work against you by twisting your mind.