Dwarniel

You might be coming off too strong or acting needy. Maybe you are too forward sexually. It's hard to say without any concrete examples. I'd be happy yo assist you if you provide some more information.

How to overcome jealousy in romantic/intimate relationships

I'm just going to leave this here. This speech gave me chills.

Lately I have this strong urge to just leave everything and serve at a Vipassana center for a year (Long term servers have to sit 10 days every 3 months) I feel totally exhausted by the western society and the lack of connection with like minded people. (I'm aware I sound like an edgy 14 year old, but I literally feel this way so strongly) I've done a lot of retreats, served and this summer I stayed at a center for 1 month to serve and sit (It was a hassle to make that work with my bosses, but somehow managed). I don't want to do it because I'm seduced by the Vipassana "doctrine". The centers have a very unique vibe, and there's not a lot of other places where you can live and work for free and solely concentrate on consciousness work, giving selflessly and meditation. I'm just getting this feeling in the back of my mind that this is me trying to escape.. Everytime I return from my retreats I watch myself getting sucked right back into the stuff that makes me miserable. I'm so tired of it. The retreats (especially the long ones) are hard and boring - But at least I feel like I'm progressing on my path, and I get these windows of clarity and peace. Back at home I get so distracted, I feel like I'm wasting my opportunity to figure this out. I do 1-2 hours of meditation every day, read a lot and stuff like that, but I want... more. And with all the grinding to pay the bills, I don't feel like I can have that. Me being "weird" becomes so highlighted when I'm back at home, nobody understands what the fuck I'm interested in and love. Guys I date literally tell me "you were so attractive before you opened your mouth" because they think I'm weird. I love my friends, but I still feel so lonely because I can't talk about the stuff I love. And all of this might just be the thing I want to run away from.. But how can you really know for sure if it is escapism or a "call to adventure"? Maybe leaving to work hardcore on meditation and consciousness is just what I need. Any advice?

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Trust me, it's not like it's any easier for us to find attractive guys that's interested in this stuff. It's pretty rare, male or female. Maybe your best bet is to find someone that's high in openness, if you lead by example they might get interested in self actualizing and spirituality over time

I just had the weirdest insight. I scrolled past a picture on Zizeks instagram, and I saw a quote that went along like this: "If we have a toothache, our tongue keeps going there. We're never unconscious of a wound". And I just managed to draw parallells between my injuries and the depression i used to struggle with. (I'm still diagnosed with depression but I've learned how to manage it, whilst younger me would be totally overpowered by it for months.) Haha, I don't even know how to write out this insight but I'll try. 5 years ago I hurt my back really bad during some heavy squats, I fucked up a disk in my lower back and I could not walk for 5 months without immense pain. In the beginning I would literally cry if I tried to walk because the pain was so bad. I went to a chiropractor that treated me those 5 months, and the first thing he told me was: "You need to stop feeling your pain constantly". And i was like "huh? i don't want to feel my pain, i want it to go away", and then he said: "Humans have this weird tendency of always wanting to "feel" their injury. If a guy has a bad inflammation in his shoulder, you can be damn sure he'll press his shoulder constantly with his fingers just to feel his pain." ...And while this information was super weird, I just had to laugh because I knew I did the exact same thing. It's just like the quote about the tooth in the beginning. My chiropractor went on by saying: "If you constantly trigger your pain, just to feel it, you keep on irritating the injury and you heal so much slower." Like I said, I could not walk in the beginning without crying because of the pain. But the only thing that heals the injury i had is time and activity. You need to get the blood running through your back. My only wish was to lay in bed to get some relief, but I knew I had to walk to heal faster. So I had an alarm on my phone every 40 minutes, and I would get up and go outside to walk around the house. It was so awful, but it really speeded up my recovery. I see soooo many parallells between this and depression (or other emotional hurt). If you keep on pressing your fingers into your emotional wound, you're just irritating it and slowing down your healing process. I'm not saying you sould ignore or resist your pain. You need to accept it, but the thing that saves you could hurt. Like my walks around the house. That symbolises working out, going to work, meditation and being with friends. It's super painful when you're really depressed, but it really aids you in the healing process. It's a distinct difference between feeling your wound in a way that irritates it (spiraling down in bad toughts, feeling like a victim, feeling sorry for yourself++) and letting go of resistance towards it and feeling the wound in a helpful way (let's say meditation or a good old crying session when you've been bottled up). Thinking about it over and over and over and over is just not helpful - But see, that's our automatic response and what we naturally want to do. idk, i kinda failed in writing this down, but with a little goodwill i think you'll understand where I'm coming from. Maybe this is super obvious, but I just thought I would share, just in case it could be of help in some way

I'm so happy to hear that ? hugs

@enderx7 @enderx7 So true ?

@enderx7 Thank you so much for your time ❤️ ill most def check out that book!

I know they need long time servers in sweden. I know a guy who has served for 19 months or so in Germany as well. You can stay for free as long as you work. Maintainence work, administration, cooking etc. Meditate at least 3 hours a day + follow code of discipline / the presepts

Can you debate this on PM? You're hijacking my thread ?

I already volunteer a lot. (which i love) I don't know, I have this strong urge. It feels like a call to adventure. But I'm always suspicious of me deluding myself, so i might just be kidding myself. Seems like most of you think it's a bad idea haha

(im not able to remove that quote from my phone for some reason ?) I don't think I got my point through. I don't want to escape my job, that's not the point. I love my job, it's creative and good money as well... A dream job. But I don't feel like I'm able to dedicate the hours (to reach the levels of consciousness that i want to reach) with the regular kind of western lifestyle. There's distractions and tempations everywhere. And it's easy to get sucked into that, especially when connection with like minded people is missing.. If anything, it's the connection part I struggle with. Not work.

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I love tall, skinny guys Maybe contemplate why you feel being tall and skinny is a bad thing

I'm going through some stuff lately, and i made this doodle during a meeting at work... without really noticing myself doodling at all. Can someone interpret it? I thought it might give me some insights into my situation ??‍♀️

I'd love to have a look at your doodles as well hhaha

Noo, that has to be the first doodle i've done in years. That's why i was so interested in it... You can try to doodle unconsciously yourself the next time you listen to a podcast, talk to someone or watch a documentary though, kinda interesting. I don't know if it's legit, but some behavioural psychology suggest doodles like this can reveal your inner state

❤️ This makes sense... thanks:) Edit: thanks to everyone else as well.. My friend just interpreted it as "boredom" ??

Just make sure to rinse them thouroghly enough in water and you'll probably be fine after a while ???

I went vegan overnight last year, I had never tasted a legume in my whole life and I went from eating 1kg meat every day to eating a shit-ton of beans instead (such protein anxiety lmao).... My poor, poor belly. It was terrible for two weeks. But now I don't notice anything when i eat legumes, my body is very used to it. No digestive issues at allll. I eat like 300g every day most of the time

(Another thing to consider about soy is of course the environment if that's a priority for you. Especially in the light of the rainforest fire, even though most of the soy is used to feed animals.)

I don't see any problems with high quality vegan protein powder. They're made out of peas which is fruit seeds. I do eat some soy personally, but you can get your protein in with beans and lentils. Chickpeas is soooo good. I just spice them the same way I would spice chicken, I don't miss meat at all. It's mostly the spices you taste anyways. Chicken without anything doesnt taste much haha.. Chickpeas has 350kcal and 19g protein pr 100g, black beans has 340 and 22g, red lentils: 340 and 25g... etc

I feel like they agitate him on purpose for the lols. They have animated a clip from this episode even. It is really funny, but like... is it worth it compared to the damage it does? Idk