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I'm in my mid-twenties, and texting seems to be really important in the dating scene at this age. The attention span is so low so if there's not near daily interaction, people can't handle it. I'm fairly confident in my ability to read body-language and flirt in person, but over text there's so much room for misinterpretation, and people are going on about their daily lives, so girls are either not fully focused on responding to me or I to them. How do I make conversation engaging over text? I've been texting this girl that seems relatively interested in me, we've met in person and had sex and our conversations have been deep, but over text I just don't know what to say because I'm just going about my day, and I feel like just talking about my day is boring. She doesn't continue the conversations forward much, mostly just reacts to it in some way, usually enthusiastically but not with any effort to build on it. Yet she will still message me first, usually with a "good morning, how did you sleep?" or a "what are you doing?" and I'm essentially put in a position to carry a conversation when I have nothing to talk about. How can I develop my texting game?

Creativity is a muscle that you need to build as much as possible. Techniques that you use to create music will suddenly give you a new sense of dimension when it comes to engineering, and vice versa. Learning and playing with many different hobbies and ideas and concepts is how you become a more well-rounded and intelligent being and come to conclusions that somebody who studies strictly engineering likely would not have come to. Write one song every day for a year, without spending too much time judging it. Create a SoundCloud profile and dump every song you make, no matter how bad it is. Just make sure you complete it in a day, and whatever is done at the end of the day is uploaded and out in the world. The results will speak for themselves.

I'm a music major at a community college, and I consider myself to be a pretty damn good guitar player and singer, and have been told I am by many others. Yesterday, however, the time came for mu performance jury for the end of the semester, and I crashed and burned hard. I felt like I blacked out halfway, my leg kept bouncing and I got real shakey, possibly having a very minor panic attack. This extends past just music performance, though. I get just as nervous when having sex with a woman for the first couple times. Once I get comfortable, I'm fine and I can perform at my best, but for whatever reason I cannot control my anxiety. It doesnt matter how big or small it is, if I am doing something and people are watching or I'm aiming to showcase what I'm capable of, my brain shuts down and I panic. I try meditation, I try breathing slowly and clearing my mind, but for whatever reason the moments right before and just as I'm starting to perform I start shaking with anxiety and my breath gets short and I can't stop it. Besides further meditation and exposure, what can I do to combat this?

There are a lot of communities out there based around hobbies that involve food and alcohol. Many people who are heavily passionate about food and experimenting with it will likely use ingredients that are generally considered by nutritionist's standards to be bad such as wheats, alcohols, sugars, etc. Even deeper than this, there are similar things with wine and whiskey, where people are genuinely passionate about the craft of these things rather than the "binge and get drunk" factor. Is there any balance to be had here? Is there legitimacy to these passions? I know there are chefs who will have a higher goal of cooking only with fine ingredients that are pure and healthy, but what about bakers? How does one maintain balance between partaking in what they genuinely feel passion for doing, and living a healthy lifestyle? This topic can be stretched even further outside of nutrition with people who are passionate about video games and film, even. At what point does passion become addiction, and how can one maintain it as a passion without ever falling into a harmful addiction? Or is there no difference?

I'm no stranger to weight loss, I've done all sorts of diets and calorie counting and I've lost a significant amount of weight since high school. However, as I get older and more into personal development, I find myself pushing to eat more raw foods and do more cardio. My goal is to get as lean and toned as possible. I can usually go a week or so with a near perfect diet, but then I hit a point where I just binge and I don't know why. Should I have one day a week where I eat bigger meals? I thought I'd gotten over binging long ago but the closer I get to my body fat goals the stricter I need to get and it just brings me back into binging.

How can you do it in such a way that you can market something that will provide benefit to society? That's probably the biggest question.

An ex girlfriend recently has been trying to get back in touch with me. My relationship with this girl was very toxic and she ended up cheating on me. The person that I was during this time was terrible. I was mean, selfish, and hurt a lot of people during that time. I've made the firm decision with myself that I will, under no circumstances, be seeing her again. However, with all of these thoughts and emotions arising, I'm feeling a lot of shame and guilt for who I was during the 2 1/2 years I was with her, and I don't know how to forgive myself or move on.

Definitely a point there but I wouldn't believe it to be inherently harmful, definitely susceptible to being harmful though. I.e. animal abuse.

I'd like to take supplements but I just can't afford to buy individual vitamins and minerals once a month. Is it worth taking multivitamins or is the quality too low to bother?

What would be the benefit of supplementing vitamin D over anything else? I probably should take it as I don't particularly get much sun exposure where I live or with my lifestyle. I also fast most of the day, generally I only eat one or two meals a day so I fear being vitamin deficient, especially with having gut issues.

Don't worry so much about ego and spiritual death and all of that if you're so new to the work. Focus on practicing personal development and self-love. Playing and modding games is fine, do it for passion if that's what you enjoy. The whole point of self actualization is to see what it is that you can offer this world and to explore your own existence with love and passion driving it. Don't listen to spiritual people with a stick up their ass, you don't need to sit around and do nothing all day to be awakened.

I actually work at a liquor store now, and even though I can agree that it's extremely damaging to people and many fall victim to severe alcoholism, it's unfortunately extremely important. With so many doing construction, nursing, or any other abysmal yet EXTREMELY necessary wage slave job, it's the only thing some people have to look forward to. Besides, like others have mentioned it can be done consciously. There's a huge difference between downing a 12 pack of cheap beer or a bottle of booze, and buying a high class bourbon or wine and enjoying it amongst friends on occasion. It's a great thing that requires a lot of responsibility that some just don't have, but it's one of the most necessary evils imo. It's not going anywhere.

If it has calories it's going to break a fast. Coffee and tea have been debated but I don't believe they break a fast, also I've heard of bone broth being a good option but I have yet to try it

I've noticed that I have a very sensitive stomach. It does not take me much to feel satiated when I eat, and it also does not take much for me to feel bloated. So far I have notice that a good number of nuts, beans, dairy and an overabundance of cooked vegetables makes me feel bloated, but I'm not sure what else I should look out for. Does anybody else have a similar problem? I've been to a doctor but all I received for advice was to experiment with my diet, and maybe get allergy testing.

I'd never even heard of SIBO but all the symptoms sound exact. I see that there are tests you can buy yourself online, can I trust them?

You'd be surprised how much other people might like your work, you're better off releasing it and moving on to the next thing. I believe somebody else mentioned it but being a "perfectionist" is more so being insecure and afraid of failure. Embrace your art and the potential failure. Once failure is no longer seen as a negative thing, you will be able to move forward fearlessly.

I managed to weasel my way into community college with a scholarship that covers tuition and I'm going for a music degree. I'm in my first year and I started composing for fun with Sibelius and I'm finding myself dive deep into video game composition without the initial intention to, but loving the whole trip. My question is, is there anyone else further along on this journey, and what should I look out for on this path? Obviously the more I compose the better I'll be, but I know that music can be an unstable path that many follow but few can handle. I have a strong sense that this could be my purpose with how easily it's coming to me and how strong I'm naturally drawn to it.

You're putting too much thought into it man. Meditate and let go, be intuitive during sex, work with the problems. Plenty of foreplay before penetration and if you aren't hard or she isn't wet, don't make a big deal of it. Answer that with more foreplay, ask her for head, give her head. I doubt you're asexual since you're so hung up on the issue of wanting to have sex. You're probably just not confident enough yet in your skills, which is fine. If she wants more sex, then you're not doing too bad, seems like you got a good opportunity to learn and become comfortable. Get out of your head and into the flow.

How do I maintain that mindset when those around me are constantly giving me the "realistic" approach of "that's not feasible" and "do something more reliable"? My idea of what greatness is always seems just out of my reach

Lol my phone serves as a cemetery for musical ideas

Thank you! Luckily I have a DAW program that I'm used to known as StudioOne which is a bit of an up-and-comer I'm noticing in the industry, plus I'm familiar with ProTools. I'll definitely work on creating some tracks to compile in a portfolio. I think one personal drawback that I need to work with is that I am a perfectionist to a fault. I tend to not want to share anything until it's where I believe it should be, which is often far beyond my capabilities at that moment. I've found that to be the block in my path time and time again, but I'm gonna try to focus on quality simple tracks over pushing myself to be at an expert level. I dont think I've felt this excited about a goal in some time, so I'm very determined for this.

I didn't say that music made me enlightened. Music is just great for meditative purposes and a good playlist always pairs well with tripping. What's with your need to tear everyone down? Sounds like you could use some soothing spiritual music and a little meditation session

The purpose of art and music is not to achieve enlightenment. I'm not sure what your goal is here but it seems like you're just putting people down. It's expression, obviously music is not going to make anybody enlightened because the only way to achieve enlightenment is on your own through intense practices. Your responses are foolish and negative, there's no substance to what you're saying and you're coming off as rude. The goal of finding purpose is not to make the world enlightened, purpose is up to the individual to find and it's not up to you to tell somebody what their purpose is or if it's useful or not.

Music has been a large part of my spiritual path, as a matter of fact all art forms have. Art is the closest we can get to conceptualizing enlightenment and god in a material, digestible form. Let them go for it. As a side comment, though, be sure to market your music properly. Spiritual music of any kind is not easily spread on a wide scale. The only example of popular music that I can think of with heavy spiritual themes is Tool and The Beatles, but both were popular before they had gone into spiritual territory. The music business is vicious, and the stuff that spreads the fastest is the stuff that keeps things general and focuses on selling points. John Lennon marketed the concept of peace through his music, and he utilized his wide audience to sell an idea. If you want to make music that sends a message, you need a solid platform to do it from.

I've been told not to put a lot of energy into helping individual people, but I tend to do it anyways. My girlfriend is a very aggressively anxious person. She has very low self esteem, very deep depression, and a ton of anxiety which sometimes comes out in anger. I've been coaching her through breathing exercises, got her going to therapy, and generally she cares more about herself than she did before we were dating. However, she's only doing well when she's with me. Without me, she is as anxious, angry and depressed as ever. Is it more likely that she grows and develops and what I show her will spill into her life, or that her anxieties and aggressions will spill into our relationship thus ruining it? I've only been with her for about 5 months, so it's still a honeymoon phase. I enjoy all of our time together, I love spending time with her, but how she is with her family and how her anxiety is gives me a lot of red flags.