Ulax

I always found the following mantra (of Owen Cook) useful: - *Envisions doing anxiety-provoking approach* Who the fuck would have the balls to do that?

@caesar13 You might be interested in some Nietchze, particularly the genealogy of morals, re the will to power.

Two senior cabinet ministers have quit, meaning its v likely that the UK PM will have to resign. Election incoming.

@JoeVolcano Thanks dude

@Leo Gura Okay, thank you

Thanks. That is what I have done extensively over the past few years. However, one still needs some sense of direction for the other aspects of life, i.e. jobs. And, I don't know of a trauma informed source for that, which is of a similar standard to the teachings on here.

??

Congrats on the first time

I see. Sounds like you have a degree of healthy self-awareness. I like Internal Family Systems (IFS) as my depth psychotherapy of choice. If that is something you're interested in pursuing, there is a book called, 'You are the one you've been waiting for', by Richard Schwartz. Its about the IFS model re relationships.

Have you done any work on the unconscious level? It may be that you have an unhealthy attachment dynamic, i.e. rooted in unhealthy attachments styles with your parents. If not, a depth psychotherapy may help you.

Sounds great for you. I'd need to sort out my psyche first, let alone finances before that sort of life.

I dunno man, there's far worse things you can do than laze around.

I think there's some value to what you say. However, I think it is more of a spiral dynamics thing. It sounds very orange like to me, mixed with some endorsements of other stages. I think its important to remember that tier 1 stages are not merely to be moved through, but integrated with other stages. Otherwise, one is left with a shadow, which can cause things to happen in their which people tend to usually not want to happen. ----------------------- I would also wonder about what your definition of suffering. On a meditation retreat, some time ago now, a monk proffered that suffering was the result of pain + resistance to pain. We worked, during the retreat, on placing awareness on the pain, whilst doing strong determination sitting. The result sought was to no longer resist the pain, and therefore suffering was avoided. So, in this context, if I were to love my suffering as you advise, would I really be suffering anymore? Or would I simply be aware of my pain. So, perhaps, it is pain you want to remain, rather than suffering.

I like the way you put that

@Raptorsin7 I get ya

I don't think you're retarded and annoying my dude

what about osama?

Oh yeah. Unintentional

Also, cool to see another IFS user on the forum, @Michael569. There's a few of us now. Am curious to continue reading 'no bad parts'. Have it bookmarked for a future date. You might like Jay Earley's Self therapy series btw. He's an IFS therapist who wrote a series of books explaining a step-by-step way of doing the therapy on yourself. Either way, good luck with the IFS. P.s. What process do you use for unblending?

My guess would be some form of PTSD-like psyche.

Ye tbf a lot of women have rape fantasies. Have been some studies on it, too. Regarding the original topic, I disagree with the title but like the main body of your post.

Damn, that's heartbreaking

I'd look into a depth psychotherapy. It sounds like you're in a really good place to get some real growth from it. I personally like Internal Family Systems (IFS) psychotherapy the most.

Answering 1st set of questions - What is somatic experiencing? https://www.healthline.com/health/somatic-experiencing#the-freeze-response - Did you work with an IFS Certified Therapist from the IFS Institute? Yes. A level 3. Answering 2nd set of questions - Do you guys think it’s plausible to think that one can have lots of trauma but not be aware of it? Yes. If you only live your life seeing things through one perspective, then you tend to think that is how life is. It makes sense as you have never experienced anything else. Therefore, you can live a life where you have deep trauma, but because you've never experienced anything else, you just think that is just how life is. Also, there's a phenomena called 'idealization' (Alice Miller termed this, to my knowledge). Where those who suffer traumatic childhood idealize their childhoods, such that when they reflect on their childhoods they see it as being a happy time, though it wasn't.

wth seems like you rewrote my quote