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Great stuff man. This might also help out a lot re IFS. It seems like you'll be having a lot more access to self.

To my mind, rational argument isn't likely to work. The identification with the blackpill movement will be fulfilling some of their needs, albeit in an unhealthy manner. So, I reckon you would need to make it so that he would believe that he wouldn't be losing out of meeting those needs. For example, identifying with the blackpill movement might fulfil a need to belong that your friend has. Therefore, no matter your argument, if you didn't offer an alternative means of fulfilling that need to belong you wouldn''t be likely to get very far.

Agreed

https://davidtianphd.com/recommended-readings/ Best reading list ik of. Would chuck in somatic experiencing too

Thank you. I can't tell you how useful that is to hear from you

@Leo Gura I saw, in a thread about Teal Swan, that you have to readjust your expectations of people who've had a bad childhood. I am one of those whose experienced such a childhood, which has left me with having to deal with some circumstances that others do not have to. I was wondering whether I, and others like, should look to take onboard your teachings differently? I understand its kind of a vague question, but would be curious to hear your thoughts. I also understand your time may be limited, so answering this may not be possible. Thank you.

I always found the following mantra (of Owen Cook) useful: - *Envisions doing anxiety-provoking approach* Who the fuck would have the balls to do that?

@caesar13 You might be interested in some Nietchze, particularly the genealogy of morals, re the will to power.

Two senior cabinet ministers have quit, meaning its v likely that the UK PM will have to resign. Election incoming.

@JoeVolcano Thanks dude

@Leo Gura Okay, thank you

Thanks. That is what I have done extensively over the past few years. However, one still needs some sense of direction for the other aspects of life, i.e. jobs. And, I don't know of a trauma informed source for that, which is of a similar standard to the teachings on here.

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Congrats on the first time

I see. Sounds like you have a degree of healthy self-awareness. I like Internal Family Systems (IFS) as my depth psychotherapy of choice. If that is something you're interested in pursuing, there is a book called, 'You are the one you've been waiting for', by Richard Schwartz. Its about the IFS model re relationships.

Have you done any work on the unconscious level? It may be that you have an unhealthy attachment dynamic, i.e. rooted in unhealthy attachments styles with your parents. If not, a depth psychotherapy may help you.

Sounds great for you. I'd need to sort out my psyche first, let alone finances before that sort of life.

I dunno man, there's far worse things you can do than laze around.

I think there's some value to what you say. However, I think it is more of a spiral dynamics thing. It sounds very orange like to me, mixed with some endorsements of other stages. I think its important to remember that tier 1 stages are not merely to be moved through, but integrated with other stages. Otherwise, one is left with a shadow, which can cause things to happen in their which people tend to usually not want to happen. ----------------------- I would also wonder about what your definition of suffering. On a meditation retreat, some time ago now, a monk proffered that suffering was the result of pain + resistance to pain. We worked, during the retreat, on placing awareness on the pain, whilst doing strong determination sitting. The result sought was to no longer resist the pain, and therefore suffering was avoided. So, in this context, if I were to love my suffering as you advise, would I really be suffering anymore? Or would I simply be aware of my pain. So, perhaps, it is pain you want to remain, rather than suffering.

I like the way you put that

@Raptorsin7 I get ya

I don't think you're retarded and annoying my dude

what about osama?

Oh yeah. Unintentional

Also, cool to see another IFS user on the forum, @Michael569. There's a few of us now. Am curious to continue reading 'no bad parts'. Have it bookmarked for a future date. You might like Jay Earley's Self therapy series btw. He's an IFS therapist who wrote a series of books explaining a step-by-step way of doing the therapy on yourself. Either way, good luck with the IFS. P.s. What process do you use for unblending?