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@illusory Ye dude i get psychologically unintegrated vibes from her. some of her behaviour just seems off. Move on i reckon. Shame tho she sounded sexy af

@OBEler I fucking love watching IFS lol. I watch videos on it all the time so process of elimination. Good luck to your gf btw. Shits rough,

Love it!

@narkuser You're welcome. Hope it works out for you.

I was reading a book called, 'Music and Politics: A Critical Introduction', Book by James Garratt. Thought you might like it. Its academically written. However, I found it more accessible, i.e. better written, than other academic books. Anyhow, here are some songs.

@flowboy Damn. That sounds like a smart af to deal with that situation.

You could give it a go, and see how you find it. I'd personally recommend trying out a few different places. I know from my experiences with boxing, which I got pretty good at, that its not uncommon for gyms to have a toxic masculine atmosphere. For example, not respecting personal boundaries, coaches manipulating folks into competing. Imo, there will be plenty of places where you get that masculine energy, but in a respectful way. So, I'd recommend searching around for one of those. Good luck.

I'd recommend the book, 'Atomic habits'. However, trauma, or neurodivergence, to my understanding, might get in the way of being able to effectively create systems.

@Leo Gura Thanks

Schwartz recounts how in the earlier parts of his career, as a psychotherapist, he saw family systems therapy as the real answer to therapy, and disavowed numerous alternative methods. A therapy based on working with the external family, rather than working inside one person's mind. However, he later developed the IFS model which is all about working inside one's mind. However, there are similarities, to my mind, between family systems therapy and IFS in some other aspects.

Yep, and ye I meant to tag you

@ThePoint You're welcome

Oh yeah, I'd check this out too https://integralguide.com/

Glad you enjoyed it. I meant the part where Dr Schwartz talked about how he was so certain about family systems therapy. Then came to dramatically change his views over the years.

You're welcome. Ah. I meant to reply. I'll do so now. - What is the best way to go about it? Read the books? Go to a IFS certified therapist? @Ulax What are your thoughts? I haven't personally achieved my main goals in this area (IFS progress). So, I don't think I've achieved a level of mastery, with IFS, which would mean I could reliably say what the best way to go about it is. However, I have done a lot of work with the model since the beginning of the year, and engaged with a lot of resources. So, I'll give you my recommendations based on my current understanding. I'd recommend you treat my words here not as advice, but rather the thoughts of a fellow traveller on the journey who has had some experience in an area you're interested in. Here are my recommendations 1. Watch this introductory video. - What is IFS Therapy? | Intro to Internal Family Systems 2. Get the following audible: 'Greater than the sum of your parts' By Dr Richard Schwartz, and do the meditations as they come up 3. Get an IFS level 3 Therapist -- A. A level 3 IFS therapist refers to someone who is a licensed psychotherapist who has the highest current level of certification (level 3) from the IFS institute. Here is where I understand to be the best place to find them: https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners. -- B. If an IFS level 3 therapist is not available, then I'd recommend getting a level 3 practioner. A level 3 practioner has the same level of certification from the institute but is not a licensed therapist. -- C. If they are not available, look for level 2 therapists/ practioners. If they are not available, then look for level 1s. -- D. I understand there to be not much lost by doing IFS online too, i.e. over zoom. -- E. I recommend getting someone like this because of mentorship, and recommendations from experts. Firstly, here is an analogy. Let's say you wanted to learn to box. Would be better suited learning boxing better by reading books about it and training yourself, or have a world-class boxing coach regularly teaching you. Secondly, Jay Earley, to my mind, a master in the field, recommends you do IFS with someone else leading the session. -- F. I'd recommend doing initial consultations with a few different therapists/ practioners and choose the one you like. Btw, if you have trouble with setting boundaries, i.e. telling a potential therapist you don't want to work with them, I'd recommend just not messaging them i.e. ghosting. 4. Learn each step of the IFS process through reading and doing the exercises in, 'Self Therapy (Vol. 1) Second edition' by Jay Earley. - A. This is a pretty optional recommendation from me. I don't want to overburden you with resources. I have been going through this book slowly, just trying to improve each step of the process one by one. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ All the best :).

Have you considered HIIT? (High-intensity Interval Training) I understand it to be a high-calorie burning activity. Something like an intense boxing keep fit class would be an example of this. I doubt how many calories will be getting burnt during your weight lifting sessions.

I understand you weren't asking me. But here is the most prominent directory of certified IFS practioners. https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners

I reckon it may be because people overstepped your boundaries in the past, and you now feel a sense of powerlessness because part/ parts of you believe that you cannot enforce boundaries. Meaning you're somewhat at the mercy of others. I'd recommend the book, 'When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope--Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive", by Manuel Smith. I think you'll find some value in working through this book list to some extent too: https://davidtianphd.com/recommended-readings/

I think most pick up stuff should just be avoided if you want to grow. I reckon about 20% is useful for growth. On the other hand, I haven't come across a single red pill theory that I think is valuable for growth or true. I find red pill stuff pretty pathetic personally.

Sounds courageous. However, I think there would be numerous issues with such a decision. For example, physical health. I understand there to be many provisions in developed societies (presuming you are in a developed society), which protect your physical health. Throughout our lives we'll likely be confronted with multiple urgent physical health needs which societies generally provide adequate help with. If you were to live outside of yourself, I doubt whether you could be able to find an appropriate alternative means of protecting your physical health.

I don't think its particularly appropriate to communicate with OP like that, re the first sentence. Anyhow, I do like the points you make in the second paragraph.

His stories are so unique lmao

@ShardMare I get ya. I do all those things too, as well as in the context of joking. I'm diagnosed ADHD myself. I understand there is an overlap between autism and ADHD symptoms too.

I like this perspective from @ZenAlex. Looking into the potential for neurodivergence might be of value too, i.e. ADHD. I understand re depth psychotherapy not working for you btw @ShardMare. Sorry to hear that.

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