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The most helpful thing I've found is to have a conversation where you indulge them, pretend you are agreeing with them (or at least don't fight them on it), and get to a point where you feel you've both come to some conclusion about X conspiracy. From there ask questions like; "Alright maybe it's true, now what do we do about this?" "Can we see why these people might behave this way?" "Is this really as dangerous as it seems?" "Does it even affect you personally?" "Does it change anything about the world even if it's true?" Basically from a non-hostile place make them question the utility of their beliefs, and slowly realize how these thoughts and convictions aren't important and kind of just a waste of their time. It erodes the toxicity and potential violence they might be feeling inside. I remember practicing this method with a very low consciousness person at work last year, and I could feel him actually get calmer as he started to answer my questions and doubt himself. I feel sad for him because most people would assume he's just crazy or something, but I don't think he was a bad guy since I could tell his heart was in the right place. He just isn't very intelligent and fell into the trap of blaming certain people (politicians, etc.) for why the world is the way it is.

Perhaps. Let's just pretend she is. Does it change much? The focus should be on the message, and not so much the messenger. We are all hypocrites to some degree, and all have flaws to be worked through. That doesn't mean we don't have things to teach each other. If you have too high of standards then you'll be sitting around waiting forever, never giving yourself a chance to learn anything.

A trigger indicates a part of reality you haven't faced and integrated, or tried to genuinely understand yet. Which is precisely why the most helpful thing you can do for yourself is ignore your instinct to move away from it, and actually B-line directly towards it. Of course that's easier said than done, but at least now you don't have the excuse of not knowing any better . I want you to imagine the most toxic, annoying, unhealthy modern progressive person you can. Someone who gets triggered by everything. You've probably seen them in clips on the internet, having some sort of breakdown or screaming during some unhinged rant. These are examples of people who refuse to face anything uncomfortable, either about themselves or the world around them. They let their triggers consume them. They don't take any responsibility for anything, thus end up being deeply perpetual victims that are dysfunctional, and typically reliant on others for most things in life. From such a state it's hard to get anything accomplished or extract any joy out of life. So make it a priority to face your triggers. Have you ever noticed how the most developed, healthy, or enlightened people never get triggered by anything? There is almost nothing you could say or show them that would offend or upset them. In a way they are actually invulnerable. That's a pretty inspiring goal if you ask me. Imagine what you could do if you were invulnerable.

Not masturbating will probably build up some anticipation in your body, so that's a simple thing you can do. Next time all you need to do is relax. Good sex is about enjoying the process and spontaneity, don't worry about logical outcomes like a checklist of "Did I cum X number of times? Did we do all the positions she wanted?" You won't enjoy yourself and probably won't be able to get off if you're in your head like that. Breathe, be present. Enjoy your time with her and everything will work itself out. Did I mention breathe.

Whoa those Hitler paintings are actually pretty good! Though my personal favorite work of his is where he painted the inside walls of a bunker with his brains.

The key here is to stop caring about how other people feel so much. I don't mean that in the way of "be an asshole". What I mean is try to be your most authentic and best version of yourself, and don't worry about whatever outcomes arise from that. It's the fear that's holding you back from being that better version.

Because most people are fundamentally envious. It's a plague of an emotion.

Slap them while saying, "Wake up! Wake up!" Tends to work for me.

Don't just post links to satire videos.

I am sorry you're in pain. Look, I don't what your experiences are but I would try and take a step back from spirituality/philosophy or at least try to feel neutral about it while you focus on other things like your basic health. Personally I think solipsism is bullshit, and if it's not doing anything good for you and actually damaging then maybe you should drop it. If you cumulated the ideas that it's accurate, you can unaccumulate those ideas as well. Or find a different perspective just for now. I also highly admire you for looking to get sober from all those substances. I believe you can do it, just do one day at a time, all you have is one day at a time anyways. Maybe a game that would be helpful for you is to write down a list of all the different drugs you ever took like you did here, and then write an alternative "stimulant" to give you pleasure that is a physical activity or hobby. Smoking = Going Walking down the street Alcohol = Listening to your favorite music It can be anything. The point is replacing your habits is equally as important as quitting them.

What do you mean by this, exactly.

Soldiers are more or less ALL going to be around Red/Blue, it's way of life and career that demands intense commitment to lower consciousness modes of behavior. You aren't going to be a very effective soldier if you continually expand your ethics and your ways of thinking/interacting in the world become more dynamic. It just doesn't square within the confines of what's required in war. Increase in consciousness will literally make it untenable for one to participate willingly. This is pretty obvious as it's a young mans game and people tend to get out of it as they age and develop. Of course within the military there are other branches that don't get their hands as dirty like logistics, HR, leadership, etc. I'm sure those paths leave a lot more room for more developed Spiral Dynamics. As for "soldiers" though, no. While they obviously deserve a level of respect for what they do, they are more or less useful idiots that just serve an unfortunately necessary role in the physical world we live in. I recall wanting to be a med tech in the forces in my early 20's, but now in my late 20's after all I've been through and wisdom I've garnered it's essentially unthinkable to me. I'll stick to firefighting and first responding thanks lol. While their reasons (and methods) for fighting are radically different, I'd argue they have an uncomfortable amount more in common than we would like to believe.

Have you considered you maybe lost those friends because you are identifying too strongly with being a "self-actualizer", going on a lonesome journey? Everybody is going on their own journey really, whether it's spiritual or otherwise. Sometimes whatever path you end up taking might be great for making friends, or maybe it won't be, but there is no reason you can't make a conscious effort to leave room for people. Even if you don't resonate fully and can't talk about all the same things, there is value there. Contemplate that there is a difference between the price you're actually paying for your path, and the price you're paying that you think you ought to pay.

@Scholar just hit the ball out of the park.

You just exactly proved his point lol. You don't really have any idea. Really for all we know he could be lying, maybe he just learned all the techniques and talks about it eloquently just to make money? He's never actually shared any real proof, in-field videos, or information from his personal life. I'm not saying that he HAS to, there are very good reasons not to share such information on the cess-pit that is the internet. It's not that I personally don't believe him either, he isn't a malicious person to me. My point here is that you have to be careful and check yourself when putting people on a pedestal in your mind. You don't need to be as neurotic and uncharitable for them to have to prove every little thing they say, but also don't pretend to assume everything they say as true and take it as gospel, either.

Look there are a lot of radically different paths one can take in life, but there is a reason it's considered a unanimously terrible decision to drop out of high school. Don't be a dumbass. Just finish it while trying to enjoy it the best you can. It will fly by faster than you realize. Also high school isn't even technically a fulltime thing. You're only there 5-6 hours of the day. If you want to make money there is still plenty of time to get a part-time job after school and/or on the weekends to save up. Not to mention you'll get to keep it all to yourself since you shouldn't have any expenses at your age. If you drop out it will actually even be harder to get a job at your age if you're not in school. Employers look at people without high school diplomas like lepers.

@Leo Gura So basically become Christian Bale from American Psycho, got it. Hehehehehe.

I'm honest enough to have a conversation with him, but I'm not honest enough to say which caller I'll end up being. I'll leave that to guess

Blasphemy is when your basketball opinions operate outside the narrative of what is acceptable to Stephen A Smith. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oiuXRfUnezw&t=2s&ab_channel=StephenA.SmithBurner

Exactly. It pierces right through so many layers that people are used to playing in-between, that just the act of being purely honest is kind of like trolling. Not the malicious type where you're trying to cause grievance. Like I said I think it's a bit for his own amusement. He is obviously keenly aware how he's more authentic than most people, and realizes he's got to play a bit of their game to connect. I'm actually going on his call-in show tonight so I'll feel first hand what I'm talking about haha.

From what I've gathered MrGirl seems to amuse himself by trolling and playing up a bit of a role, exposing that people on the internet take themselves way too seriously. He's so committed he's even playing it to the point where most people really think he is a Pedo and he barely even denies it, which is honestly probably the worst label possible. You'd get less flak being an Islamic Terrorist online because at least there are some lunatic relative progressives that would defend you (assuming you were brown). It's probably not the most effective way to introduce Yellow but, at least it's working somewhat? We live in the age of shock and stupidity and if that's what it takes to get more Yellow out there so be it I guess. You have to realize most people aren't even close to being ready for Yellow, it's such a small percentage of the population. Only a small portion of people are actually searching for it. A guy like Peter Ralston has been around forever and nobody has really ever heard of them. Even Leo's sub count while still large has kind of stalled out for a few years because of his advancement in level of content. His views have tanked compared to his old stuff simply because the majority of people aren't ready for it. Going from Tier 1 to Tier 2 it's difficult to appreciate how incredible a leap that is. Getting to Green is basically like surfacing in the water after drowning in the shit of Red/Blue/Orange. Then to get to Yellow you have to swim all the way to dry land that you probably can't even spot yet. Most people are exhausted when they surface the water at Green, and when you tell them they need to get to land they'll tell you to piss off.

I love Sam. He is the person that bridged the gap from materialism, to opening me up to everything else. For that I'll be forever thankful and supportive of him.

If he really doesn't want to do them and you keep pushing him, it says more about you than it does about him.

The problem I have (in Canada) with my governments response is they have been inconsistent and scared to piss anyone off, even for a short period of time. Yet there is also narrative of shaming people for not following the rules they set. The problem is when you try to please everyone, you end up pleasing nobody. They've done all these half-measures and between braking then and putting their foot on the gas, that it feels like it's just prolonging our ability to set up the systems we need to deal with living with the virus long term. For example anytime they know a wave is coming, and they DO know when it's coming, because everybody knows - They should have just done a hard lockdown for 1 week, or 2 weeks. It would suck for a very short time, but would put a massive dent in the surge of cases and give us longer intervals to recover and get things back to the way people want them to be. It would mean less annoying minor rules being constantly implemented and revoked that just piss everyone off, like vaccine mandates, gathering restrictions, cancellations, etc. Instead, what we have is a perpetual stream of incompetence because those in power are too worried about jeopardizing their jobs next election cycle. We are so so lucky this virus is relatively mild to what could have happened. Covid has exposed how deeply complacent and misguided our systems and resources are set up.

You move on by finding the next thing that's even better, when you're in the middle you'll only be tempted to reach back. In my experience.