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I had the same habit months ago sometimes I notice as it rises. the consequences of not being in the body for the longer period of time will manifest variously in various individuals. so it's nail biting in your case. as I practice being in my entire body for longer period of time, I see a sense of lightness in my body so give it a shot too.

the problem is that even when you're trying to do the observation, you're doing it for the sake of relief and it's also judgmental too, for instance when you experience negative thing, you would think to yourself: lemme do the observation in order to ward off this negative experience, Then you do that for 10 or whatever minutes and you see nothing changes, then your Ego mind's chatter starts: see? I knew it's worthless trying, as you know the EGO doesn't stop, Yes, I mean that there are unlimited levels to the observation and concentration, and maybe they take effort at first place in order for the brain to set up neurological hardware associated with those in your brain in order to come into effect significantly, my advice is that you should do the observation meditation for longer period of time or as a shortcut any psychedelic that befits your personal psyche that can transform your whole structure of your mind after you come back to your daily life. so accordingly you'd see an enormous change in your observation and concentration. Hope that it helps my friend

don't blame it on observation. just because we have shaky observation ability doesn't mean that observation per se is groundless. observation just like any other skill like concentration is a brain muscle that can be trained for better qualities through rough practice.

@Nivsch well, how do you think you'd be able to transcend your EGO so that when you come back to yourself, you experience a radical shift within you? that's what I mean when I say "hardcore approach" and it's not a certain technique, it's a personal solution. and here's a thing: don't listen to the voices inside your head or don't talk with yourself (those are originated from the EGO), just observation is enough. but again, the pace doesn't come before mindfulness, oftentimes it comes from the heart of the mindfulness. conscious person knows where to rush and where not to, but oftentimes he's slower. but remember, any type of obsession has roots in racing thoughts, you should be vigilant about it so me should either.

affirmation without the certain feeling which will give rise to frequency change is nothing. the most important thing is feeling that changes the program of subconscious mind.

well, medicine loves to put names on the various kinds of dysfunctional behaviors done by humans like : OCD, PANIC ATTACK and etc. but to put it simply, it's an obsession to repeat the same thing over and over again. well, we now know that if EGO is activated and spin out of one's control, any type of non-adaptive behavior could manifest. but to know OCD, I should say that the one who is suffering from acute condition of OCD is someone who has racing thoughts ( or speedy thoughts) and they tend to do their daily activities in a higher pace. as we talked before, solution could be mindfulness practices but the hardcore approach!! and slow down! doing everything in a hasteful manner will give rise to the various kinds of maladaptive behaviors. the pace of your daily activities can determine whether you're going to combat OCD or not.

SEX is the same SEX

there's no right answer. just when you finished your comprehensive progress in your life you could decide to bring another human to this life (for example: when you reached to the normal extent of emotional mastery, financial mastery and so on and so forth) remember, majority of parents in the world are irresponsible and they transfer they whole dysfunctional limiting beliefs, psychological complexes, mental illnesses, false perceptions and beliefs right into the brain of their children.

remember a human doesn't have one personality at place. in any condition or situation, one persona manifest itself automatically out of the group of personas when a certain situation appears. be conscious how you're behaving when you're with professors, and how you're behaving with your close friends. how you're behaving when you're walking down the street all alone and the same with friends. this is called "fragmentation" maintaining awareness on your fragmentations could easily help you to choose the one you like most of the time.

modern society is not ill per se. the lack of consciousness work makes it ill the consciousness work could be anything like : meditation, concentration and...

Yes, Carl Jung maybe. Stanislav Grof (Czech psychiatrist) could be great.

all tribes are not the same, maybe one is more higher than other in spiral dynamics. bunch of them are welcoming if you happen to go and live with them. bunch of tribes are cannibalistic and they will chop your head off if they happen to see you around them (a different and modern person)

It's not simple you'd say just because I saw a tribal community were doing psychedelics, then they're not purple. the spiral dynamics is a comprehensive approach. not only it considers the consciousness level but also lifestyles, culture, the place of living, the interactions and all stuff together

you are the trident gum man

just unmodern

if you'd be able to maintain that awareness, why not! but maintaining that awareness needs much power!

@AlldayLoop @Elham the position of meditation isn't important. but the most important thing is the sense of your comfort, if you're meditating while you have distractions from outside (like your back is aching severely because of that unsuitable rough cushion or you're feeling discomfort because the temperature of the room is not well-regulated) I should tell you that that session of meditation is gonna be an unproductive one. so choose the well-suited position for your session. but you should maintain the full waking state while you're doing meditation. so solution for this problem is getting enough sleep before meditation, or having cup of coffee or green tea.

@Aeris

do the work, that's great!

maybe a myth but the more you practice, the more you fire and wire your neurons in your brain. but practicing consciously would most of the time reduce the hours significantly.

don't expect someone would come and say that marriage is good or bad (in a dualistic way) because it's your preference at the end of the day. but speaking of my case, I'd like to prefer not to marry and have kids, it's completely outdated notion for me and I understand that what your girlfriend is trying to express and trying to be true to your love out of wedlock. most of the time, a person is immensely afraid of their own loneliness and solitude of their future and that's why they choose to get married and have kids.

yes, 100% of problems are inside, yes it's hard for me to accept this fact, but hardcore consciousness work gives you the power and capability to realize that all the things outside are merely the reflection of your inside.

this style has nothing to do with any stages at all!! those courses are trying to present you a fixed perception about one subject so try no to fall into that trap. as a matter of fact, saying romantic relationship is dead or alive is just focusing on the limited cases but you should consider the world-wide cases, billion cases! but the thing is related to stages is that how freely you behave with the sex subject. do you label the girls who want a sex combined with love a nice girl? and a girl who just want to have sex an asshole? (it's all in your head!!) remember, there's no need to be in love to be involved in sex, those who say that the partner should firstly see your soul and be one with it in order to have sex with you are the creepiest words that I've ever heard...

@Leo Gura I just wanna raise a question here: it's said that if you hate something in your life, life will bring you more of that to teach you not to hate it but to love it. so why the heck is life trying to do that when hatred is the twisted and contorted form of love? why reality wants to be dualistic in this case?

this doesn't apply for the emotional mastery achieved after an enlightenment. but yes, two sides of spectrum are far from each other but when you reach the end of spectrum it begins from the other side abruptly (YING AND YANG) It's said that the darkest moment of night is just right before the dawn so this applies to our emotional system too.