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@acidgoofy @Benton @Adodd I heard the same from Sadh Ghuru. I can't find the video but he said psychelics just pump a lot of energy through a person's body which causes premature aging. He didn't talk about balding but I guess IFFFF you are prone to balding balding will happen sooner, IFFF you are not prone to balding it will happen. Please read the ifs.

What? That stress causes premature aging and hair loss? Quick google search will give you billions of studies. With psychedelics a lot of life energy gets pumped through your system, if you think this doesn’t have any side effects, then I would like to sell you some land in Florida. if somebody tells you something is good and says there are no bad (i.e side effects) some bells should be ringing.

Getting bald and premature aging. It activates a lot of things in the body. Bad trips can cause a lot of stress which is obvious what can it can cause but I think even good trips have a toll.

Point is not to identify with the failure. It is just feedback.

@Ninja_pig I think state is a snapshot like you say Self-image is really what matters. State is just a momentary expression of your self-image. A girl’s shit test is just to see the validity of your self-image. If you buckle after some insinuation of the possibility of some tail, you failed the validity test. The same way we don’t want counterfeit money, she doesn’t want a guy with a counterfeit personality. I don’t even blame myself for the collapse of my state at that moment. These girls were 8/10 and 9/10. It was far out of my self image (and what I think I deserve at this point) for things to succeed. Also I don’t al have a lot of experiences approaching two girls. I usually approach only one girl.

Look at her like you would look at your favorite food

Thank you :)) Porn has made me very picky. It also made me unromantic.

Sex is very personal. It is just like asking what is the best ice cream? Personally I don't indulge in fapping or porn, I'm doing sexual transmutation according to the buddhist tradition. I have seen a lot of benefits first hand so I will keep doing it until I'm healed.

How does a hungry human stop being hungry? By feeding it. You want females to feed you but you can feed yourself too.

Good topic on how to escalate for the kiss: Leading is mostly done nonverbal: Last weekend I had a cinema date: It is the same girl I mentioned earlier. The roles were reversed, she was chasing me, trying to get validation, and at the end she tried to pull me home. I said no and it gave me a huge ego boost. She was also a little pushy and not confident about herself: it was interesting to observe that and to see what kind of effect that had on me. It was a buzz kill. Now I understand why girls don't like guys who are not confident, who are pushy and not know how to lead. One really has to experience it first had to understand it. Now I understand girls much better and why they don't like certain types of guys: it is not only the dish but how it is represented. Pickup is basically about representation. Imagine how important that is: good restaurants understand this. It reminded me of saltbae... Basically be this guy who is confident, funny, teasing, who doesn't take himself too serious, and knows how to keep attention and lead: Notice how he cuts the meat, like how he is making love to it finding the balance between lust and love. Similarly in PUA situation, in conversation you can subtly make love to her in conversation. It is 80% about the subcommunication (vibe and personality), and 20% about the explicit verbal communication.

For me Buddhism solved my addiction to porn. They already practice semen retention for thousands of years and the benefits are already proven by science. You really can't find the solution to your addiction in a forum post, you really have to dig deep into yourself and use spirituality.

You have to take a leap of faith but also not be foolish about. Give her indicators like touching on the leg/arm, then face. Hold eye contact, if she allows you to look into her soul, you have a good chance.

@Leo Gura I guess they don't need to understand our needs. In a PUA I think the vibe is the point of contact between male and the female. It is what she judges the male on. Internally the male could the masculine but if it can't broadcast it it doesn't have an effect. Vibe is also a snapshot of your personality and you get judged on it without mercy: especially in the beginning. I befriended an obnoxious pickup guy who is a natural and he has zero game and just rolls on confidence/vibe/masculinity. It was such an eye opener. All the things I thought I had to be were false. It was a humbling experience too because this guy has nothing going for him and they still chose him. He just blasts his vibe onto the girl, holds frame and keeps the vibe going. That last part I have trouble with and I think it is just a matter of exercise, presence and experience. This is what I meant. I want to get this PUA frame down before I will look for a serious relationship.

I got friendzoned by her as expected. I would have been a miracle if she didn’t after I flinched and acted shy at the end. She is still up to hang out as friends. Energy/vibe one radiates and frame is so important. Before pickup I was totally blind for this. I’m not even angry, disappointed and sad about this happening. I get it. The difference between men and women We males just get off from a girls physical beauty. Females get off from the vibe of the guy and if you don’t have the vibe you just become an annoying dildo that doesn’t understand her needs. Females have an over abundance from guys to pick from so they pick the ones with the qualities that they don’t have themselves: masculine confident character traits. As girls they understand our needs and that is why they wear crop tops and makeup and shit. As guys we should understand their needs too. It is simple as that.

Rigidity is not good but having no skeleton and being a clown is not good either. The phrase "buy me chocolates" won't even work if it is not delivered the right way. Especially if it is done in a clownesque way, instead of a confident way. Holding frame is nonverbal, it is staying energetically grounded. From this place you can get away with a lot. If you are energetically reaching, it is creepy, you will be seen as an energetic beggar. The basic enemy of being grounded is fear. For me, my fear is messing up the set, which I (probably) did by fearing it. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Testosterone (which is in the body) will they you what to say and what to do but you have to keep grounded in the body, if you start fearing you lose contact with - your balls - and move up in your head. With pickup you basically want to stay in attack mode, not defence mode but at the same time you also have to be receptive to see how much you can escalate to not over-escalate. Shit test, which this thread is basically about, are basically to see if you can hold your ground.

Dating is really about self-development and gaining self-knowledge. As another user said: people are mirrors, you are basically looking at yourself. Don't be a monkey who looks in the mirror and think there is another monkey in the mirror. No, it is just you. Especially girls just give back the vibe you give to them. If you give bad vibes, you will get bad vibes back or they just ignore you. So you have to work on yourself, get to the root cause of your negativity and process that/let it go. It is difficult work.

Learn from girls and how they do it: Ignore Give short answer Be dismissive In other words, you don't need to spell it out. Just give hints and most will bail. Spelling it out is rude and should be avoided unless she is trying to push the envelope.

@Leo Gura I was getting the phone number of the one with the crop top and the other was equally cute. Perhaps even cuter. She said you are not going to get her number too(from the other girl)? I said “what? you guys want a threesome?” And they giggled and said yes. I’m still not sure if they are serious but if they were they aren’t going to bend over backwards for a timid nerd which I revealed by flinching haha. I don’t even want a threesome. One is enough.

Sometimes I'm confused what the difference is between a concept, belief, principle, thought, and so on. A lot of them are synonyms but a lot of times there are fine distinctions depending on the context it is used. Is there a book on the book list that explains these metaphysical differences?

My English is bad compared to the other languages I speak. It is not even my mother language. Yes. It is confusing me. I find it strange that Leo doesn't have a video on these simple basics. How can you even communicate complex ideas when people don't have a firm grasp on the basics?

If she likes you a lot she will put up with business mode for a while. Yesterday I had a date with a little older women than I usually date and it was no business mode at all. If she already likes you it helps a lot but I notice that younger girls (20-25 years old) expect a lot more vibe from me. They are more girly and expect a lead of the vibe. This is really my achilles heel right now.

This is great work. Thank you.

Inertia is death. Movement is evolution into the direction you want. So identify your next move and do it. It is as important as planning shit out.

For how long? I'm always socially exhausted after 1-2 hour into a date and I go into business mode