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BMI never claimed to be a standard for all people. It is a standard for the average of humanity with normal height and weight. In any case 1000 cal per day is not healthy for your weight with or without taking BMI in consideration. Sooner than later it will take its toll.

Thank you thank you

What did you expect her to say? I’m curious about that.

Why is there such an emphasis on this forum on psychedelics? Is God experience in my (astral) dream less valuable than in the physical? In my opinion too many people are betting on psychedelics and they get bummed. And rightfully so. Psychedelics is like nitro. It has its upsides and downsides. I had god experiences in the astral and they were profound. I can’t compare it to god realization in the physical: I never had that one.

Primal fear of being ousted from the tribe comes from the primitive part of the brain and that part doesn’t understand reason and logic. Exposure therapy is the only way.

I’m being shit tested left and right and this is a good sign. I’m developing but it also exposes that my frame/self-image has massive holes in it and girls are poking through them very easily. Hot girls don’t put up with that shit. Only if a girl likes you she will put up with it but then again… if she likes you enough she will put up with everything. Also I’ve started to see through my own veil of illusions about girls and about dating. When I see what kind of guys they like and how shallow they are: how lowly I thought about myself that I thought I didn’t deserve these shallow girls; in fact they don’t deserve me. How blind was I but I do get my own delusions considering my traumatic past with my mother. It is about giving what they want(BEING that what they want) and getting what I want. Major paradigm shift is moving from outer to inner lotus of control with dealing with this bull. It is about moving from <200 LOC to >200 LOC. Currently I’m just a magnet. I don’t need to pull. I open my mouth and I attract. I can easily attract 7’s and if I continue this work I think I will be able to attract 8’s without effort. In fact I attracted 8,5 by just being myself last week so I’m going in the right direction.

Key points with leading being authentic and not fake is the basics. It is better to train being real than being fake. momentum and state building can only be done through action in-bodying uplifting vibes by letting go of downward pulling vibes. Good vibes is created by letting go, not by forcing! Love doesn’t like force! self image/esteem is key: assuming you are a 10, and having an internal locus of control is major when leading

But you can’t sit at home and develop a diamond unshakeable self image/esteem. Diamonds are created under pressure so he is right about taking massive action. Once it is developed you don’t need 20 approaches. Nowadays I need two approaches and I’m on fire.

My leading skills in social situation have gone up from level 1 to level 5 on the scale of 10 but it is still not where is suppose to be. Sometimes I’m still a little bit reserved and too watchful. In such cases I get stifled and turn into a moron. If I’m not stifled I don’t have a problem: this thread is about cases when I’m stifled. For example seeing a girl I like and thinking “what the fuck am I going to say to her?”. And then just I start bullshitting and fuck it up. I’ve tried multiple things but sometimes I just can’t snap out of it. If I’m in a good mood I know what to say. Personally I think it is a matter of intuition. I discovered my mood is key but what to do if my mood is just not good. Everybody has a bad day and I have many of them. So the question is should I just accept I have a bad day or just pretend I don’t and push through?

Which substance?

Psychedelics should be done in extreme moderation. It causes premature aging, balding and many other health problems. Psychedelics is not fuel but just a boost for development. Or at least that is how I see it for now. thanks :))

I’m already in state after two approaches. The thing is that night game is not my thing. I don’t have the friends to do it at this moment. Currently just doing day game, in dance class, shops and such. Day game is low intensity and indirect game. Direct game (night game) is easy for me: leading is straight forward. Indirect game (which is day game) is much more difficult. Especially leading in indirect game while staying socially calibrated is a tough nut. I still have some insecurities and bullshitting to weed out. I could just throw out indirect game and just do direct game in day game but I’m over that. It takes too much energy to plow through. Currently trying to refine my skills.

Great point you made there. Being authentic is definitely a skill. I have some in deprogramming to do to be more authentic.

Self acceptance was your default. You need to undo, not do.

@Knowledge Hoarder she didn’t reject me. What I tried to illustrate is that it is part of the game. Pickup is not called game for nothing. You need how to learn to play just like how children learn to play in kindergarten. Taking it personal is a game killer. I caught her jealous and that was just - fun - to see. I enjoyed it and I don’t need more out of it. I already got the other one that is hotter anyway.

@Knowledge Hoarder some girls don’t need a honey boo. They need that **** that is off limit. Nobody wants something that everybody can get. That premium shit that one has to work for is just valued more. It is just human psychology. Today I was in the gym and this hot piece didn’t give me any attention although I looked at her couple of times. So I went and I talked to a hotter girl and I caught her looking at us with jealousy and she quickly looked away. Never let a bis take you for granted. She should be walking on egg shells for you.

When you reject a guy it hurts his ego. A guy with self respect doesn’t chase a girl who rejected him. And that is why you secretly like him right now. ?

Don’t take anything personal. Just find one that matches your vibe frequency and use her to level yourself up. After a while, if you leveled yourself up enough, you will be the one who will be doing the rejecting. Dating is very selfish , so are girls, so develop yourself and be fun to hang out with. Offer more than you take. Don’t be a value suck. She needs to get the feeling she is winning by being with you; she shouldn’t get the feeling she is letting you win by being with her. This is very important. If you give her the vibe that she is letting you win by being with you, you are done. Essentially you need to find out what makes women tick. They are very different than guys in the realm of emotion and mentalization.

@Leo Gura I think if one is a nice guy one has to learn to love itself, be ok with being selfish and when we get ours we can truly become more spiritual and a better partner. Girls don’t like nice guys because they haven’t incorporated the inner warrior (the go-getter) and that is very repulsive because it is a huge aspect of survival of her and her possible kids. The problem is that developing this inner warrior can’t be done without causing damage. One can’t develop it without overcompensating somehow; let’s be honest. I’ve had to learn to break hearts and break pussy with minimal damage done to the other party. Once the inner warrior is developed and integrated one can become more heart centered but it is easy to become heart centered if one already got the bacon many times. And girls don’t feed bacon to thirsty guys.

It is an emotional signature that everybody can sense. Women are more in tune with emotions so it really sticks out for them.

Was it awkward after you rejected her? Or was she chill about it?

Stop porn and that hentai shit. A healthy guy should be able to do it even though the girl is not your type.

Bro you are going way to fast. Girls are like cats. If you hold your hand out the first time and she doesn’t come have some patience. Perhaps she needs some time. What you did was just project your own pain onto her and scared her off with your hissy fit. Also if you are so into a girl and are so invested while she is not, it is a huge red flag for girls. Emotional investment has to be done gradually and calibrated to her emotional investment.

For example if I’m competing for a girl and I see the other guy being sad, I can be heavily influenced by that and stop pursuing her. This is a question about competition. In competition the eye is on the prize, not on your opponents feelings. I really have a hard time developing this ruthlessness that is needed to get mine. I think it comes down to emotional mastery? Not being identified with feelings of compassion? Obviously I want to be a compassionate person but I think it should be in balance with my own survival needs. At this moment I feel I’m too soft. I want to have the ability to be hard or soft according to own wishes. I don’t think there is a magic formula for this. Just be selfish by not listening to my beta feelings? I’m not happy with being this soft.

Don’t resist being needy. Just be yourself and be needy and look for girls that put up with that. You can’t just throw away parts of yourself and don’t listen to people who say you can. Just see yourself as a vessel and currently there is neediness energy within you. flush it out by recognizing it and live it out. Don’t be ashamed by being needy. Resistance to neediness will only make it worse. So put your dick on the line and just have congruency. Your inner and outer should match. The worst is if it doesn’t match. You will be labeled creepy. So just own who you are.