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Haha yeah I have been there/am there so I can relate. I think you are using your own joy and desire to help as a way to avoid the spiritual work and break your stagnation. Like your reasons make sense and maybe helping other people become more joyful is what you're meant to do now, but I have a sense that it's an elaborate ego game to avoid spiritual work. I would say if you can effectively bring joy to people than there's no issue, but I would be on the look out for if you think you're helping people, but people aren't getting the message or aren't benefitting from what you're saying, for whatever reason.

I think sometimes there's a point on the path where we believe we have a lot to share but our own practice may stall, and so we look to help and share with other people. I'm not saying you don't have anything to offer, but I think it's a subtle trap where you get caught up in a role of teacher or helper, and it lets you avoid your own stagnation. I think when it's time to help and share, it happens spontaneously as a part of the flow of life. I think being a teacher, or even people who are teachers but reject the teacher label, is an unnatural out flow, and those people would be better off sinking into their own practice. If you aren't completely satisfied with your spiritual growth then I would say pursue that more intensely, rather than trying to teach and help other people.

@zurew I think the people hate the smell and have no other way of venting their anger. I don't like walking near here, and I'm lucky I don't have to sit near here during the shift of I'd be stuck with a rancid smell for 8 hours per day. I have her husbands number, I think I'll text him and tell him she has to get deodorant. But I have no idea how to frame it in a non insulting way

Hey I have a work issue that came up and I'd be curious to get some advice. There is a new woman at my work, and her husband works in another department, they are both Indian immigrants, and they just told me that she was crying because some of the other women at work were being mean and not helpful. I am a temporary supervisor so I guess it makes sense to speak to me, but idk how to handle it. One thing that I think is relevant but hard to approach, is the new girl does not where deodorant and smells terrible. It's very repulsive, and I wonder if this is motivating some of the bullying behavior. I got her husbands number and said he can text me if there are other problems, I was thinking should I mention that to him. Any insight is appreciated thanks

Yeah I highly recommend it. Its incredibly insightful and wise. I'm hooked right now. I've read some stories about people not enjoying it, I'm curious to understand why. But for me it's like perfect for where I'm at. I can feel this book working on my brain when doing the exercises. This is near the top of my list of practices, if not number 1

@Hardkill It can. If you have the mental capacity to understand the logic of self improvement and you have the ability to function, then you can develop skill with woman. Human beings are primitive relative to where we can be. So there's so much room for improvement so you can out compete other men and attractive desirable women. Maybe everyone has different ceilings, and maybe some woman will be not be interested no matter how much you improve, but I would bet my life that anyone can develop themselves to a point where they are satisfied with their relationship with woman. Attraction is energetic. If you learn to be an desirable energetic magnet for woman, you will be irresistible. Attraction isn't logical, you can make a woman go crazy for you, when logically she may have never been interested.

@Hardkill You're right, this is a blind spot. You can do a 1000 approaches and still be completely trash with woman relative to your goals. Everyone starts at a different baseline, so for some people 1000 approaches may be enough to develop some skill, but for others it won't be enough. Don't just spam approach mindlessly 1000 times. If you combine pick up with a genuine teaching/approach to self improvement then you can mitigate the risk of doing 1000 approaches only to be sorely disappointed with where you are not with woman

@Barna Your motivation to help people may not be what you think it is. Sometimes there are shadow motivations that arise from our own impurity. There's egoic healing and true healing, it's worth looking into it so you don't fall into the trap of "helping" prematurely

@Michael Jackson Well said. The course in miracles frames it in a similar war

A course in miracles is fucking incredible. What a divine book. I don't think I can go a day without reading this book

Okay. So here are the best practices/teachings/teachers i've come across in my past few years of being seriously into spirituality and psychology etc. I'll give a brief description of each, and then if any of these peak your interest I can explain more, or send you links and you can ask any questions you have about it. Basically, the logic behind all these practices is our normal way of being in the world and how we feel and operate is sub optimal. Most people are way more unhappy then they realize, but they are able to repress it with video games, food, porn, woman etc so they may think they are "ok" but they could be operating at way higher levels of well being if they were to pursue it. These practices and teachings are wise people's way of finding happiness and well being in the most optimal and efficient way possible. Although some of the things i'll recommend are stand alone products like books, I really recommend finding a good mentor/teacher because it makes a huge difference. I've done it both ways where I was just doing my own thing, and I've done it where I had a bunch of mentors, and it's clear that mentors will sky rocket your practice. 1. A course in miracles (Book) This book has two portions. There's a wisdom portion that you can just read for a few minutes per day if you want, and it's designed to get you into a better feeling mood and give you a little blessing essentially. And there's a workbook which consists of 365 exercises to be done once per day, although you can skip days but it recommends you just do 1 per day max. The exercises are really good because it's designed to slow and systemtically retrain how you percieve the world. All of us see the world through our own distorted lenses, we don't actually see reality as it is clearly. Imagine a really a hot girl who always says how ugly she is, everyone knows shes hot but she genuinely beliefs she's ugly because of her own fauly thoughts and judgments/feelings etc that she has about herself and the world. That's just one example, but you can apply to that virtually everyone to some degree or another. This book is designed to address that fault perception, and the end result is more mental peace and clarity because you no longer suffer your own distortions and judgments. 2. Koharalan (Mentor) 3 months of coaching for about 3 grand. This is the best mentor i've ever come across, and i've spent like 50 grand over the past 3 years on therapists/coaches/gurus etc. He has a spiritual approach, and he's the guy who taught me pc clenches so you will learn exercises like that, but he also talks specifically about anxeity on his channel and I bet if you asked him he could provide a lot of great insight and help with your anxiety. You can book a single session first and see if he resonates and you like what he's saying and then go from there. I got an immediate benefit the first call I ever did with him, so 1 call could be really helpful even. His program takes you through a series of exercises and concepts that are designed to slowly develop your inner strengh and masculinity. You work on bringing energy into the body and that also correlates with aspects of our life. The lower spine/groin energy relates to sexuality, the energy in our stomachs (where anxeity is) relates to feelings of confidence/self worth/value etc, and feelings in the heart relate to how feel about other people and our relationships. 3. Sadhguru's Isha Kriya. This one you have to go to a center in America or Europe, where you spend like 4 days at a retreat and they give you a specific yoga practice. The practice is incredibly powerful, although I haven't done it yet, I have a good friend I trust who swears by this and said it's one of the best things you can do to improve yourself. The guy who designed this yoga system made it so enhance people's mental functioning in the world, and it also brings greater bliss and mental ease through practice. It's really good because the practices are simple, it's not like gym yoga where you are doing downard dog and shit like that, it's simple breathing exercises that are very specific and scientific to get max benefit in as little time as possible. I think you will only have to do it about 5-20 minutes per day, and if you are consistent you will be guaranteed results. My friend said when he was doing this kriya yoga a lot, he could dominate league in perfect flow while having full conversations with his friends. That's how much mental balance you can get from this kind of stuff. The downside is you have to go to a center to get the practice, there is something about receiving the teaching from a guru and in the context of the center that his it's own power, and I was skeptical about this too I used to ask my friend why can't he just show me, but I think if you do it the right way and go to the center then you will get max benefit. 4. Sahaja Yoga This is a simple yoga practice where you chant a mantra for 15 minutes, and then you sit in meditation for 15-60 minutes and surrener your will and basically let a higher intelligence come up with whatever pracitce you need in the moment. I know it sounds woo woo, but this one is really powerful. Basically, if you think about it, there is a higher intelligence within our own bodies that governs our lives. None of us control our blood flow, our digestion, etc. It's all done by a natural intellgience of the body. The idea behind this practice is that most of us don't know what is the best thing to do for ourselves in the moment. Each one of us is unqie and so there is no one size fits all for practice. But if you can learn to surrender and allow god/higher power etc/ to come up with whatever practice you need in the moment, it can be incredibly powerful. Let me know if you have any questions I wrote this for a friend, but i may as well share this here too

Kill the boy, and let the man be born "This is the objective, advance, looking neither right nor left, bore into the thick mass, cost what it may" Napoleon to Marshal Ney before the battle of Friedlan

Thanks for sharing man, it's cool how a lot of your stories are interconnected. I also felt good going into this date, I thought I was calm, confident etc. But I can see pretty clearly why I failed, and where to improve. I believe masculinity and manhood comes from embodiment and mastery of our lower chakras. Specifically the solar plexus(stomach) and root/sexual energy centers. On my trip last night I had a moment where I experienced an intoxicating sexual energy coming from my stomach and groin, it was an addictive sexual energy. I could tell in that moment that this sexual energy is what woman respond to, if I was able to embody and display this sexual energy on my date the woman would have felt it in turn and she would have been turned on and into me. She told me she would know within 5 minutes if there was anything sexual that was going to happen, and I believe within those 5 minutes she sensed I did not have access to that energy and so she wasn't stimulated. I remember thinkin during the trip that this sexual energy is what would make sex interesting and fun, it was so addictive and hits so deep, I'm almost certain that mastery over this specific sensation is the key to sexual mastery and growth. The path forward for me is greater discipline with my practices, and learning to get in touch with these lower chakras and sexual energy more and more through sober practice, and also through psychidelics

I don't think Leo's ever been in a conscious relationship

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eSgYZksIoUw

1.5g of shrooms later I realize why she wasn't sexually into me. I have no sexual mastery or confidence. She would essentially be raping me or teaching me like my mother, both of which I'm cool with, but to her there is no appeal, especially given she has options. She said maybe we would be sexually compatible in 20 years, but I will do this in less than 2 months. The archetype i must embody is oberyn Martell. That man has the sex appeal this woman finds desirable. Idk if I even want to be with her, part of me sais fuck her. But we will see. Kill the boy inside. Create space for the man

My greatest desire is to let go of the boy, and to become the man

A woman I went out with said she sensed a boyish vibe from me, and she doesn't feel sexually interested even though she wants to be friends. AHH so sad. I was hoping this would lead somewhere. At first I said I am not interested in being friends, but I reconsidered and we had coffee and talked for a while. I think I stand to learn a lot from her no matter what, but still it hurts to be rejected and she has a sexy vibe. This is a wake up call though. I am not a man, but I must become one. I was planning on doing a small psych trip today, but fuck that, I am upping my dose.

Nice, yeah I don't like describing my trips in terms of ego death because I always had a sense of existence, but maybe an ego transformation. No I don't. I can feel the exact same resistances that were dissolved present every day, like a cracking and popping of my third eye, but I can't have a full liberation like that sober. Although I'm getting close and increasing my understanding over time

@Razard86 So basically, after a few hours of feeling a bit of a headache and masterbating a few times on LSD, I started to relax into the sensations of my body. It felt good to just focus on my breathe, and then I remember repeating a meditation pointer to myself, "Look for the one who is looking", and it brought my attention to just pure knowing of consciousness. This started it's own energetic process, and I started to feel this tension in my head start to dissolve and unwind, and then ultimately I felt these knots in my head like pop and dissolve. At one point it felt like someone was pulling my brain apart from the inside, like fingers were prying in it, and finally I heard these knots pop in my head when I breathed into them. I could hear like poof, poof, and then i felt this weird substance flow throughout my body. After this I finally got up out of my bed and I felt better than I ever felt before. I could feel myself as translucent rather than solid, and I could feel bliss coursing through me, I could feel tubes in the space where my head was, and it was like I could feel bliss coursing through me from these tubes. I had never felt like that, and this was trip was a few years ago, and even though I've had some other good psych experiences and learned a lot, I have never reached that same level of bliss and divinity before. My bad I misread your message. The one specifically about league of legends came after this one, but I consider it a lesser trip. Basically, on psychs you enhance your ability to feel and empathize with things around you, like I feel stuff on psychidelics that I did not even know was possible, but I also feel stuff that I rememebr feeling in childhood, birth etc. When I was playing league of legends it came at the end of an LSD trip where I was able to expand my capacity to feel, and so I was much more interconnected with reality. The league of legends game is not something seperate from myself as this conscious presence of experience, but normally there are blocks to our ability to feel into this interconnectedness. While playing I was in touch with feelings and I shed sufficient blocks in my psyche, so rather than just feeling sensations of the body like normal, my capacity to feel expanded out to the game to where I could feel a perfect sensational connection to what I was seeing in the game

I'll dm you

I laughed at the fact you thought you had the ability to hex me. I have been completely open minded to powers since my breakthrough a few years ago. I laugh at anyone who thinks they have the ability to harm me with magic or powers.

Yeah I haven't had any inspiration to pursue it. Although I would still like to do it, or something related. Maybe I will meet a developer or something, or I'll meet someone with a similar passion. I think my next step is to do a twitch stream for league of legends. Not sure how I will frame it, maybe i'lll just speak about my own experience on the path etc, but I think people will find me intriguing and my presence will be enough to draw an audience. My main focus right now is healing and working through chakra blocks and making money. I expect that i'll do the game idea after making much more progress in these fields, or maybe I will go onto something else. I still love the Napoleon series, so my game would be an embodiment of that energy

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@Zeroguy True, thank you