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Its not really that people actually think independently, There are a sea of ideas circulating in our culture and people gravitate to the ones the best fit there values at a given time. Its like picking your favorite flavor of ice cream. There are literally no novel thoughts just values picking reasons. Discoveries take a small step outside the bubble. The ecosystem of living idea holons. Is it people who have ideas or is it ideas who have people?

They grew up watching TikTok not Disney movies. How tailoring media to maximize views indoctrinates the next generation.

I went on a date with a girl who told me she was looking for a platonic spiritual relationship and I also didnt want sex and wanted friendship with deep intimacy forms of love making/connection. All of this was communicated to her at some point during our long intimate conversations and obviously it lead to sex lol.

Board game hang out places. There is this local place that host board games for people to play on Friday nights, its a casual place to meet people and have fun. Out door movie drive ins, where your in your car, or parking the car in a nice area with good scenery and just talking, this some how happens often on dates and we talk for hours. Obviously if you have a place of your own, cook for her and watch movies, but if its a first date this is usually not going to happen

Learn to carefully observe her and the right thing to do next will come intuitively.

Side note you could try changing your diet and seeing if that stops it.

Start shaving daily. Also welcome to the club my man.

Im looking for a way to make heavy foods easier to digest. Cooking of course does this to an extent but the energy it takes to digest these foods is still very high. Is there maybe a technique or dissolving agent that can break things down before consuming? Maybe a product can be made from this.

I understand how you feel, I was like that my whole life and still struggle with it and have autism, but the rules still remain true. You don’t wanna date anyone like you, you wanna date someone fully developed! And you’re not gonna find them without seriously challenging yourself to go outside your comfort zone. We get the work we put into it and nothing more. I worked very hard to develop social skills and to go out and talk to people and to go on physical dates where I had to perform and put myself out there despite being seriously nervous and unable to function.

@Tyler Robinson The only guys who enter purely long distance relationships only online are low quality men that can’t get women, the majority are incel types with deep insecurities. Needy men with no options seek these kind of relationships.

In the future we will no longer need to eat.

@Tyler Robinson Red flags and mistakes to never repeat again. Hes interested in a long distance relationship. (avoid all online only long distance dating, only date local) He tells you he loves you before any physical contact (exceptions for highly developed people where the meaning of love is coming from understanding and not a needy emotion) avoid needy emotional attachment forms of "i love you", literally if you have not had physical contact with this person and hes attached to you in any way and its long distance get far away from him. There is to much passion (hot sex and attraction) and early dependency (cant be separated) and not enough intimacy/friendship (shared values, interests, world views, lines of development...). Friendship is KING. These rules should be followed like absolute truths.

So what kind of relationships do you guys tend to fall into?

Its a mindset issue, the mindset of what you want a relationship to be. Think of a relationship exactly like a good friendship and not a soul bond, complete me, make me whole halleluiah pursuit that is prone to overly high dependency. The good stuff is in the friendship and the intimacy that comes with it. 2. Friendship develops when two people share intimacy through an intellectual, interest-based, or spiritual resonance in kind and degree through their lower left quadrants. The quality and depth of their friendship are determined by the alignment of their respective interior lines(cognitive, communicative, worldviews, values, moral, spiritual, etc.), as well as shared interests and hobbies. Friendship is often the pre-requisite for a woman to enter into a sexual relationship, while men tend to be more driven by their physical/sexual attraction in the right-hand quadrants that may (or may not) lead to friendship after sex. Vulnerability, truthfulness and honesty are vital factors for the development of mature friendships through intimacy, since integrity is the main ingredient for building trust. Check this out.

What are you curious about? if you have curiosity then doesn’t that mean you have questions?

@Carl-Richard Bars, Clubs... forget it, We need playgrounds and jungle gyms for adults. Billion dollar idea.

lmao I agree not all mods are made equal

Instant addiction

TRANSCEND AND INCLUDE/EXCLUDE The sexes not only play different roles in the co-creation of consciousness development, but also grow through the stages differently. Males, who tend to be single-focused (agentic) and growth-oriented (ascending), advance through them by transcending and excluding the limited views of the previous levels through negation, dissociation, and repression. Females, who tend to be relational (communal) and fulfillment-oriented(descending), tend to transcend and include previous stages through attachment, fusion, and preservation. As a consequence, males act more consistently from the highest level of consciousness that they have reached, and have a hard time tolerating the behavior, values, and worldviews of people in stages below or above them (i.e., let’s force our views onto others by getting them up to our standards or rein them in to our level). Females, who are conditioned by evolution to rear children (who naturally all start out at the infrared level) and to accommodate a male protector/provider, unconsciously float between the stages that they have transcended. This makes their personality seemingly more complex than that of males. For example, a postmodern green woman may at times experience irrational existential fears (beige), trust her horoscope to make decisions(purple), selfishly emasculate her partner to protect her emotional wounds (red), subscribe to family- and home-oriented magazines to improve her skills as a mother and wife (blue), pursue a career in the corporate world to become financially independent (orange), and support an environmental organization to stop global warming (green). This fluidity between the stages also explains why most women in first-tier consciousness don’t think hierarchically and either reject the idea of vertical stage development in adults altogether, experience growth and development as a smooth horizontal expansion rather than a clumsy vertical climb up a hierarchical ladder, or see only men as moving through individual stages of development after adolescence but not women. Because men in first-tier consciousness relate to others predominantly from their highest level of consciousness development, they resonate with their partner (or other people for that matter) only at the highest common denominator that they share. For example, a postmodern green wife with a husband at the orange level may feel met by him in her rational and material needs, but disconnected when she flows to lower or higher stages. She can then either repress the feelings, views, and needs that originate from the spectrum of her consciousness outside his range, and feel unfulfilled; constantly nag him to connect with her (by being emotionally available); or meet her needs with respect to others, such as joining a conformist church (blue), a feminist group (green/red), an astrology class (purple), and/or a pagan circle (beige/green). In other words, a woman feels increasingly disconnected from her first-tier partner with every higher stage that she has adapted to. This is one of the reasons (the others being socioeconomic and psychological) why there are so many single women (and consequently men who can’t attract a partner) in the orange and green stages. This all changes in second-tier consciousness, where relationships are no longer driven by deficiency needs, but by Being values. Teal males begin to integrate, and turquoise males embody, the healthy feminine and masculine qualities of every previous stage, which allows them to meet their partner and others with empathy at any level (or state) of consciousness that they may experience. Source book Integral Relationships.

Lol that's like attraction to the personification of ideas. Ideally id like to masturbate to wisdom itself and not a biological form. Can one see the beauty in a rock with the vigor of 1000 pussies? The true test of spiritual-sexual-state development.

I've said this before but I experimented masturbating to chess to see if it would improve my chess skill. It didnt work but now I cant play with out an erection. Becarful for what you wish for lmaooo If only there was a way to become sexually attracted to wisdom. Hmmmm it might involve becoming sexual stimulated to love itself, or reality itself. Moral of the story, sexuality can become arbitrary once the ability is unlocked. Sexuality is a property of the universe.

Like when I was 10 and I landed my first kick flip I felt a love for being alive and the joy of life. My childhood is filled with these moments. There are also many moments where I finally get away from people and I’m alone for a while and feel content and happy alone and enjoying being alive. All experiences I had with people and opening up to people involved fear and shame and attacks. Getting away from all that, being alone and focussing on my hobbies gave me satisfaction and the feeling of love. I received a lot of praise from peers because I excelled and was good at everything and that made me feel special and separate from them. But I only experienced love when I gave myself something. The love people would gave me always had strings attached or I never appreciated anything they did for me lmao, I appreciated the things I had to work hard to give to myself! I also felt love when ever I hugged my dog, I could love her and she would accept my love and i loved that and felt love from the intimacy. Something I couldn’t do with people, because they would bite me in the end.

Go into the most silent room in your house, leave your phone or any electronics somewhere else, close the door and just sit there and listen to the silence. How does that make you feel?

Agency and communion are on opposite ends of the spectrum. It’s not possible to be in both states at the same time and it takes work to learn to balance the two gracefully.

Try signing up to activities you enjoy To meet people with similar interests and to have a place to hang out (outside of your house), like a chess club or Martial arts… The trick with good friends is you need weekly or monthly physical contact and meet ups to nurture the connection.