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TRANSCEND AND INCLUDE/EXCLUDE The sexes not only play different roles in the co-creation of consciousness development, but also grow through the stages differently. Males, who tend to be single-focused (agentic) and growth-oriented (ascending), advance through them by transcending and excluding the limited views of the previous levels through negation, dissociation, and repression. Females, who tend to be relational (communal) and fulfillment-oriented(descending), tend to transcend and include previous stages through attachment, fusion, and preservation. As a consequence, males act more consistently from the highest level of consciousness that they have reached, and have a hard time tolerating the behavior, values, and worldviews of people in stages below or above them (i.e., let’s force our views onto others by getting them up to our standards or rein them in to our level). Females, who are conditioned by evolution to rear children (who naturally all start out at the infrared level) and to accommodate a male protector/provider, unconsciously float between the stages that they have transcended. This makes their personality seemingly more complex than that of males. For example, a postmodern green woman may at times experience irrational existential fears (beige), trust her horoscope to make decisions(purple), selfishly emasculate her partner to protect her emotional wounds (red), subscribe to family- and home-oriented magazines to improve her skills as a mother and wife (blue), pursue a career in the corporate world to become financially independent (orange), and support an environmental organization to stop global warming (green). This fluidity between the stages also explains why most women in first-tier consciousness don’t think hierarchically and either reject the idea of vertical stage development in adults altogether, experience growth and development as a smooth horizontal expansion rather than a clumsy vertical climb up a hierarchical ladder, or see only men as moving through individual stages of development after adolescence but not women. Because men in first-tier consciousness relate to others predominantly from their highest level of consciousness development, they resonate with their partner (or other people for that matter) only at the highest common denominator that they share. For example, a postmodern green wife with a husband at the orange level may feel met by him in her rational and material needs, but disconnected when she flows to lower or higher stages. She can then either repress the feelings, views, and needs that originate from the spectrum of her consciousness outside his range, and feel unfulfilled; constantly nag him to connect with her (by being emotionally available); or meet her needs with respect to others, such as joining a conformist church (blue), a feminist group (green/red), an astrology class (purple), and/or a pagan circle (beige/green). In other words, a woman feels increasingly disconnected from her first-tier partner with every higher stage that she has adapted to. This is one of the reasons (the others being socioeconomic and psychological) why there are so many single women (and consequently men who can’t attract a partner) in the orange and green stages. This all changes in second-tier consciousness, where relationships are no longer driven by deficiency needs, but by Being values. Teal males begin to integrate, and turquoise males embody, the healthy feminine and masculine qualities of every previous stage, which allows them to meet their partner and others with empathy at any level (or state) of consciousness that they may experience. Source book Integral Relationships.

Lol that's like attraction to the personification of ideas. Ideally id like to masturbate to wisdom itself and not a biological form. Can one see the beauty in a rock with the vigor of 1000 pussies? The true test of spiritual-sexual-state development.

I've said this before but I experimented masturbating to chess to see if it would improve my chess skill. It didnt work but now I cant play with out an erection. Becarful for what you wish for lmaooo If only there was a way to become sexually attracted to wisdom. Hmmmm it might involve becoming sexual stimulated to love itself, or reality itself. Moral of the story, sexuality can become arbitrary once the ability is unlocked. Sexuality is a property of the universe.

Like when I was 10 and I landed my first kick flip I felt a love for being alive and the joy of life. My childhood is filled with these moments. There are also many moments where I finally get away from people and I’m alone for a while and feel content and happy alone and enjoying being alive. All experiences I had with people and opening up to people involved fear and shame and attacks. Getting away from all that, being alone and focussing on my hobbies gave me satisfaction and the feeling of love. I received a lot of praise from peers because I excelled and was good at everything and that made me feel special and separate from them. But I only experienced love when I gave myself something. The love people would gave me always had strings attached or I never appreciated anything they did for me lmao, I appreciated the things I had to work hard to give to myself! I also felt love when ever I hugged my dog, I could love her and she would accept my love and i loved that and felt love from the intimacy. Something I couldn’t do with people, because they would bite me in the end.

Go into the most silent room in your house, leave your phone or any electronics somewhere else, close the door and just sit there and listen to the silence. How does that make you feel?

Agency and communion are on opposite ends of the spectrum. It’s not possible to be in both states at the same time and it takes work to learn to balance the two gracefully.

Try signing up to activities you enjoy To meet people with similar interests and to have a place to hang out (outside of your house), like a chess club or Martial arts… The trick with good friends is you need weekly or monthly physical contact and meet ups to nurture the connection.

Not being able to give love to my mother and others who have helped me in life. They deserve so much love in many forms and it’s outside my current capacity to give.

I like experimenting , playing games and picking perspectives outside of peoples comfort zones

I don’t think they give mod status to does with warning points

LOL I was the cool kid ? and the best skater whoever lived or so I thought

Skateboarding while trying to find the biggest set of stairs to Ollie off of with my 6 friends.

Write one word in mouse language and its explanation.

Yellow For the small group of people who have entered yellow, and if you read this far, you are most likely one of them, the big “aha” about the limitations of deficiency-motivated first-tier partnerships and the resulting conflicts arises. This insight feels extremely liberating and provides men and women with the opportunity to vastly improve their relationships with all people. Unfortunately, yellow can become quickly frustrated and isolated, as it no longer resonates with the singular worldviews of people in first-tier consciousness, who may perceive them as arrogant, manipulative, condescending, passive-aggressive, or cynical—and sometimes for good reasons. As there are very few people in second-tier consciousness to begin with, and even fewer women (almost all Integral pioneers 456 and their followers are men), yellow men have a hard time finding an equal partner. While they can empathically relate to women below yellow , they either get quickly bored with them, or get dumped because they don’t exclusively subscribe to their partners’ partial perspectives. On the other side, yellow men may use their second-tier awareness to befriend one or several women from various first-tier stages for uncommitted relationships. Females who are entering the yellow stage open up to males again and value their unique contribution to humanity, just as males in second tier honor and value females. This ends the battle of the sexes and opens the door for truly interdependent partnerships. Conflicts in yellow are resolved through an understanding of intersubjectivity, the ability to take multiple perspectives, and the finding of creative solutions that take both partners’ emotional and practical needs for growth and purpose into account. TURQUOISE AND ABOVE In this and all higher stages (indigo, violet, ultraviolet, and clear light),457 the Primary Fantasy of both sexes shifts to partners who care about their body, mind, heart, and soul in a balanced and harmonized way in order to live their true life’s purpose while being economically, environmentally, and socially responsible, to love all sentient beings unconditionally, and to be of altruistic service to others. For turquoise, partnerships become an act of authentic loving between two human beings, and not a twisting of the self or others into objects to be lovable. As a result, pathological desires and fears to be alone or in a partnership vanish. Men no longer compete with their peers for financial status and social power at the expense of others and the ecosystem to earn a woman’s “love,” company, and sex (which is at the root of all major challenges that humanity is facing today), while women’s attraction to men is no longer unconsciously dominated by their former desire for an irresponsible protector and provider, but rather for a responsible integrated partner. As the term “transpersonal” suggests, this allows couples who have been divinely appointed to support each other in their growth and further awakening at all levels of their being—beyond their biological, cultural, and social conditioning.458 They honor and value each other’s authentic feminine and masculine expression of their sexual essence and invite the naturally arising conflicts between them as opportunities for further healing and growth, without attachment to any particular outcome. Couples at this level have entered the state of “inter-being” which allows them to fully be themselves, while staying consciously devoted to the co-creation of the larger whole (or social holon) of their partnership, which they experience as “the miracle of us” or as a “third body.”459 Once they commit to their soul mate they have no incentive to leave their partner, or to have multiple lovers, which leads to mature monogamy. Transpersonal partnerships are still extremely rare, as there are very few people (and predominantly males) in turquoise and above.460Turquoise females with an animus complex stage five are usually in partnerships, while turquoise males without a partner embrace the growth opportunities of their singlehood while staying fully open to embrace their soul mate when she arrives.461 They no longer exploit women at earlier stages of development for company and sex, but support them in their growth and, if they like, in finding a suitable partner. Once a woman in this stage chooses a man, they co-create partnerships that are neither based in fear, desire, or attachment, nor in a need for emotional/financial safety, nor conventional contracts/agreements 462 as seen in need-based relationships of first-tier developmental stages. Conflicts in turquoise are resolved by the desire of each partner to transcend their limited views that created the differences in the first place, and by brining any unconscious aspects of their being into the conscious.

Did you guys trying talking about the sex life and working to improve it?

Say no to his requests and when he spam calls you eventually answer the phone and say no to all his requests over and over until he stops asking you. there should be no downside to the friend group. you could also make an excuse and say you’re working full-time and you have no time for anything else.

Sounds like you don’t like bro culture

Because when you reach tier 2 you stop judging.

@Tyler Robinson yes but we could also just let it go and not hold people to standards that they were never able to uphold from the beginning. Everyone is flawed and perfect. What matters now is whether you can accept his flaws as good enough for you and if you both can grow independently and together. You’ve reaching the burnout phase and Growth in a relationship is the antithesis of burn out.

The trick is to think without words, don’t try to subvocalize in a linear way, instead use intuition to go straight to the answer. It’s a silent thought process jumping from one symbol/image to the next.

Do you know who he is? Don’t you love him the way he is? If not do you need him to be different? If so why? What would you change about him?

Why does it matters to you that he pulled this stunt? Isn’t it a game?

Is all of this happening because you don't like the perception he has of you? It seems like you almost want revenge, why? Didnt you just proved yourself to him with this test with such a high score it gave him shame?

IDENTIFYING HER ANIMUS COMPLEX What is a man to you? What do you expect from a man in relationship with you? Tell me ten things that make you feel loved, honored, and respected as a woman? What do you think about male-female equality? What differences do you see between men and women? Are there different roles for men and women in a relationship and our society and what are they? What role did your father play in your life and what is your relationship with him today? Who were the most significant males in your life, during what period, what role did they play, and howdid they influence you? What role did your mother play in your life and what is your relationship with her today? What roles did you and your partners play in previous relationships? What makes men attractive to you? What kinds of men are unattractive to you? She may be in stage 1 (men as alien outsider) if she has an ambivalent relationship with her father and other significant men in her early life. Additional indicators are reports of tumultuous love/hate relationships with former partners, longer periods in her life without a male partner, sexual relationships with women, and if she goes back and forth between a desperate clingy desire for your love and then fearful rejections when you get close. Pointers to a stage 2 animus (men as father, God, or king) are a critical or disapproving father figure whom she never felt to be good enough for. She may speak favorably of kind men who adore, support, and treat her well, and negatively of those who criticize, challenge, or dismiss her. Women in this stage may struggle with aging, can be emotionally needy, constantly ask for approval and reassurance about their lovability, and are afraid to do things wrong. Indicators of a stage 3 animus complex (men as her hero) are answers that favor loyal, supportive, generous, and loving men with an unwavering commitment to honor and support their wife and children. She likely had a stable childhood and a good relationship with her father and mother, or at least healed most of her earlier emotional wounds. In her eyes, men should know right from wrong, be hard-working, good fathers, family-oriented, heroic, protective (if need be, aggressive towards others), and benevolent towards her. Women in stage 4 (men as independent being) are particularly easy to identify, as they talk about the financial and emotional independence that they have attained through their own work or through successful divorces after one or more long-term marriages. They express a desire to explore who they are, independent of a committed partnership with a man, and want to live alone, often with a dog or cat that they are proud to love more than they would any man. If women in this stage consider to be in a partnership they often exclaim...“where are all the good men?”...and of course no man within their reach is ever good enough. Successful, up-beat, entertaining, self-assured, and happy men who display empathy, understanding, and support for them while pursuing their own purpose and interests without needing a female partner for sex, approval, support, or “to mother” them are valued by women in this stage, who sometimes maintain uncommitted sexual relationships with younger lovers. Most eco-, radical, and social feminists—who resent men and what they stand for—are found in this stage (or stage 1) as well. She has arrived in stage 5 of her animus development (men as equal partner) when she realizes the benefits of being in a committed love relationship with an integrally informed man whom she values as an opposite and equal. A woman in this stage sees the benefits of a healthy, live together committed marriage as the foundation for her ongoing personal growth, spiritual development, physical sexual well being, and socially, economically, and ecologically responsible livelihood. Her focus is on the inner qualities of a responsible man who lives his authentic life purpose and can love unconditionally in a committed partnership, instead of his worldly possessions and social status only. A single woman in this stage is a rare find, as she is clear in what she seeks in a life-partner, and actively pursues men who are her equal. She has no problem finding a suitable partner within a few weeks of her opening to relationship if she is attractive and sex-positive,451 as men are naturally conditioned by evolution to be chosen by a healthy woman who honors and values them.