JohnnyBravo

If you want to be grounded here is a method: 1. Imagine a person who is grounded. They can be real or fictional. It could be the version of you that is grounded, or a fictional guy. I visualise Ken from Fist of the North Star. 2. Visualise that person in front of you. Take your time until it feels like they are actually 'there.' Imagine they are in a circle on the floor in front of you. 3. After you feel they are there, physically step 'into them.' If you do this properly, you wont feel like yourself. You will feel like someone else. 4. Behave in the world as this person. 5. Over time, youll naturally find you take on these qualities. Soon you wont have to use this method because you will embody the trait. You can use this technique for any skill or talent or attribute you wish to have. The key is doing is daily consistently.

Yes this is a truth. Have compassion for the 'posers'. They are doing the best they can with their beliefs systems.

Yes, I can vouch for Pete Walkers material and especially that book also. From memory, there is an anecdote in the book on public speaking and the author describes the intense, unfair anxiety he would feel and exercises he did to combat it. The book goes very proper on why anxiety etc exists. Its a very different, original book. Dont expect to read any standard nonsense in there, because Walker is highly original. If you read this book, i will say, it can be a depressing read here and there. The author is a trauma specialist, so you must be careful to not go too deep in the book for too long. Use with respect and caution.

You feel the fear physically in your body, and you let it BE. Welcome it, and let it take over and absorb yourself. It wont hurt you. It WILL hurt you if you repress it. When people say "face your fears " really this should be interpreted as "feel your fear." Once you feel it, facing it in the real world becomes a non-issue. Dangerously, it can become an ego game. So feel it in your body, the sensations. Fear is an unpleasant emotion like shame, so you must have the courage and boldness to allow is to wash over you. This is hard even for me to do still, so credit to you if you can do it. For further ideas on fear, you can read about Geoff Thompson; a wimpy scared comfort zone man, who eventually decided to knock fear out and became one of UKs best bouncers. He invented an idea you may like called The Fear Pyramid. Its the pinnacle of self help tools.

@Nahm Well done. Good facilitation/process you unfolded. And mature. God bless you.

@Tistepiste Its a fair question because it plagues many people. Most people need and want one thing......control. what is control? Knowing. How do you get comfortable not knowing? You SIT in it, you dont demand any more trying to figure it out and you surrender. But how/why can one even get to this stage? Because with experience and time, you realise, not knowing is TEMPORARY in nature. Its a phase. It passes. Yes, im telling you something bold. Everything that happens in your life any questions you have, you get closure on everything and anything in the end. You get closure on everything in life, at some point. Once you know that, youre happy to not insistently demand and force a knowingness to happen. And fear of the unknown? How to deal with that? You think of the worst thing that can ever happen, and you vow to accept it if it occurs and you will face it. Your brain will quickly side with you.

Do you mean all the women you have met so far in your life?

And if you want to get GOOD at something, all you have to do is do it a ton. Do it alot, do it multiple times. Do it in a shitty mood. Do it in a good mood. Do it for results. Do it for no results. Do it when you dont feel like it too much. Do it when you feel inspired. Do it forcefully. Do it non forcefully. Do it slightly differently. Do it in a unique way. Do it for the fun of it. Do it as a pastime. Do it as a discipline. "It" means ANYTHING YOU WANT TO GET GOOD AT. Just do it alot and practise it. A boxer is a great fighter. Why? All he does is punch a lot. Just do it alot, do it more than the average person, and just find ways and opportunities to do it. Meditate? Do meditation and just practise it alot (example)

Don't worry about Leo. Be greatful for his help, and yes he is a good man, but your journey is not his journey. Dont bother wondering how he gets insights etc....You dont have his mind and you never will. Whatever you do, dont get into the comparison trap. Can you force insights? ......sort of.... You cannot brute force an insight. The only thing you can do is set up the correct parameters/conditions to let the insights flourish potentially. Like planting a garden. You cannot force the seed to grow. You cannot speed the process up. But you can get good fertiliser, water it, sunshine, speak nice words to it. Those things you can control. But you still cannot be responsible for the seed growing. You arent involved. So thats the same with insights. Dont bother trying to have them or force to think them. They come to you from God only when the time is ready. Parameters you can set up: - meditate daily as a lifestyle. - journey about things in your life and look for patterns every 2 weeks. - improve your eating choices a little bit. - responsibly, and with pure intent, take some small psychadelics - exercise your body and move. A stale body leads to a stale spirit. You need a flowing nature for insights to flow. - Get out of your comfort zone as a spiritual means. Doing these parameters can hopefully sprout new insights in the fastest way possible. But never ever force insights. If you force them you kill them. You must have the courage and trust to let your mind go elsewhere.

Some genuine probing of mine...why is it you say you cannot create a relationship with a woman?

If time is pressing, try 30 minutes a night for pickup. A few approaches here and there, and 2 nights a week you can spend longer. Or cut the meditation time to 15 minutes. What I would do is go with the flow. On the days you have time to meditate, do an hour. On days you dont because of a big night, do 15 minutes. And if you go out and sets just arent hooking, cut it short to 30 minutes. Tomorrow is another day. But if you are out and you feel the night is on fire and you are on fire, keep going.

You dont have a self-forgiveness issue, oh my Dear @Pharion you have an inner critic that has gone mad and not serving you to be the man you are meant to be. From now on, for the rest of your adult life until you hit enlightenment, you are to do your best to talk gently, easily, kindly, compassionately and lovingly to yourself. I have tried the Way of the Bully. The Way of the Petty Tyrant. The Way of the Harsh Boss with a black heart. It just doesnt work. And even if it did 'work ' there is a sad consequence to this; that consequence is that if you manage to bully yourself to a fictitious success you will pour that aggressive Chi onto other beings. Lets be clear, this is all an ego game. He who speaks with the softest voice believes in his message. He who shouts and tries to sell other people deep down lacks conviction. The Thai Boxers have gentle soft voices. The Aikido Master flows smoothly. So what am I really saying? - sincerely acknowledge all the work you have already done - focus on the good. Ignore the bad - did you realise every journey is unique? Leo says meditate an hour a day. But this wont work for everyone. It may not be your path. - Guilt and shame are weapons of destruction. Know this. Study this. You cannot guilt yourself to change. Please know this. Guilt is a poison....it is the root of all evil. All evil resides in shame and guilt. The opposite of love is not hate, its shame. Go to any person who has lived enough and they will tell you shame is the Devil. So dont utilise guilt to whip yourself. - You wish to become the man you were meant to be. You are already on that path. I see a man who is living their destiny. - Find a meditation style that is FUN and dont comprimise on this. It will find you

You just need to claim you arent a professional and thus all advise you give needs to be taken loosely. You legally must mention this to your client.

Then go get a sexual partner, fulfill these desires enough times until you begin to realise the futility of it all. Your asking a highly advanced question I dont think myself or anyone on this forum is good to answer. Seek out a master if your journey is that serious.

@B_Naz I sense youre gotten some accurate insight here actually! No im not being scarcastic or tricky. First off, this is only a phase and its ok. All thats going on is you've done sufficient work on yourself that you reach a stage where you think, "Ok, now what? I feel good enough with who I am. Whats so bad about life?" You may even secretly think what the purpose is of even doing all of this stuff. You might secretly beat yourself up for thinking why you needed to do so much stuff to get to terms with yourself. Its a bit of a feeling of "Really? Thats it?" Its refreshing but at the same time slightly disappointing. You realise there is nothing to achieve in this life and there never was! So no, youre no lazy or doing the wrong thing. Youve just taken a big step but it doesnt feel like youve taken a big step. After a few weeks or months, youll suddenly have the desire to get back to this work. The difference will be (might be) you are no longer doing this stuff for yourself, but for yourself and for the world around you to benefit you. If you examine the morale code by Taekwondo, you will see that the reason they train is not to make themselves feel better or be stronger for themselves; they do it to promote a world of peace and justice.

If all else fails... Have the courage to wait it out and face it head on. Say to yourself, "Im gonna face this, Im gonna do this whole heartedly. Bring this depression on. Lets do it." Use an attitude of iron fisted determination. Wear an indomitable spirit. This type of attitude one can adopt in a Viktor Frankyl sense. I use it as a means to exercise some of Gurdjieffs 'Fourth Way Philosophy.' Fourth way is akin to the way of the Sufi, Yogi and Monk.....these are three ways to spiritual mastery, the fourth way is the way of the civilian. What to do? Just pick hard psychological items to endure or face to 'wake up' to the trance humanity is in faster and get yourself to believe in your own power. The depression/upset feelings are to do with YOUR ISSUES not the comedown of a substance. If there is anything to take away it is this. Dont confuse a comedown as some "non event." It is still part a component of your journey. Use this time to be thankful for any issues that surface, and when you emerge out of this, examine those "issues" when you are your balanced self. Do what you can to mitigate the effects. An ice cold shower for 10 minutes is a good magic bullet that can ease you into a deep sleep. Beyond these efforts, use determination. If Viktor Frankyl can be tortured in a Nazi camp long term and endure it happily, you can survive an MDMA comedown. Ive been through this before. I know the depression you speak of, the flavor to it.

An expert LOA master told me this, "Its a sin to tell people that you dont have to do anything to manifest money. Why? Because its so deeply ingrained in the cultural psyche that money only comes with action as if it is some rule to follow. You are better off following the rule, its easier, than trying to combat hundreds of years of conditioning that money doesnt equate to doing nothing. So take action, but appreciate the action isnt really whats getting you the money; its the obeying and following the built-in rule that we believe getting tangible money equates to doing something." Vibrational work always trumps action. But in the realms of money, this master said money is one of the few items where action is easier to do to get. ........However...... This master did say..... What do you need the money for? Concentrate on the item you wish, which you believe you require money for If you want $2000 for a new fridge, toss aside the money. Focus on the ice cold fridge. No money or brute force action required to manifest a fridge. Ive done it. So once you get used to doing this a few times, very slowly, you drop out of the money game entirely and you just go for what you want/need. Much more efficient. Money is boring anyways. Just go directly for the items you want. If money is required cool. But alot of the time I get things I want with little cash money ever circulated around. If you want to make money/get what you want........flow and send energy for no purpose.

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I have never ever enjoyed modern radio. There is a theory that modern music contains vibrations in it designed to keep the masses down. Simply listen to some ambience, or sountracks from movies you like, or music of non western countries, and in a week you will realise how much the world is missing. A religious master I know only listens to classical. He says his ears refuse to absorb anything else. Music is to be taken very seriously. Dont consume anything. I listen to Eminem now, and all I hear is a very angry, upset and wounded hurt guy. Noone hates him because he is sincere. Sincere music not only sounds good, but it has the chance to sell good. Try some slower 70s love ballads.

Pity is one of the first states to arise as you begin to wake up. And you are correct; pity for those around you. Pity for humanity. This is why Buddha and many people decide to stick around post Enlightenment. Its no longer about yourself, its about being a beacon of love to elevate those around you. You elevate those around you, because you know how dark, ugly and terrifying the darkness is. And you understand its unnecessary to stay there. Humanity is desperate not for the darkness to go, but for light to be there permanently. So what to do with this pity (for now)? Stay in it for a while. Get familiar with it, as long as you dont stay stuck on this level. Give it a few months and every so often revisit this pity. Its not really pity. Its an original compassion overshadowing the Universal Brotherhood. And your purpose in life is about changing it. Thats why youre here and you know it. And you will succeed

'The flow' is always here. You know you are in the flow because it feels good. I dont mean exctasy all day long but a subtle, healthy sensation in your being. When you have two options, pick the one which makes you feel easy and light. A feeling of heaviness is against the flow. It will take you a few weeks to resensitise yourself to these feelings, so be easy on yourself in the beginning. The flow does mean being tired from time to time. Only go to bed when absolutly ready, eat only when you feel ready, everything is to be in the flow. God has a unique flow for everyone. Follow it for a fun, interesting and magic life.

Once you create your own vibration of being secure enough in yourself to not contend, naturally, you'll find these bullies and jerks just disappear. Im not telling you off or trying to get superior to you; I struggled with this thing of guy-jerks for a long, long time. It felt like the Universe was bullying me because everywhere I went there was always some dude ready to humiliate me or 'out-alpha' me or something. I have one very, very interesting story that involves a diamond beauty French woman and a case truck full of pot smoking punk idiots willing to do anything to make me feel bad. After this story, I learned my lesson. A happy ending. Maybe another time. You don't have to look or aspire to alpha to get girls. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hfdDUqO-V70

@jerrypua How to handle jerks and guys like that? The ultimate way is....you don't. No fighting allowed. You walk away every opportunity you get. They steal your hat, and you get the realisation that they're not just innocently joking with you but are seriously attempting to start conflict, you walk away. Leave the hat. A $300 jacket you have, same situation. Leave it, let it be. Yes, I am saying to 'let them win.' I have seen, and first handed experienced behaviour like this quite a bit when I first began going to bars and clubs. The jealousy over women thing, you think as a species we would all be beyond this by now, but apparently not! It's super primordial and in the bones for a lot of people (still). Someone may be able to clue me in on spiral dynamics what stage this is; it is at the core lowest stage of psychology. It used to happen to me many times. These guys that try and start fights usually have a TON of dark beliefs with their own insecurities with women and people in general. Once you understand this, you wont feel any desire to fight them or 'fight back' or 'stand up for yourself' because those thoughts come from fear-based paradigms, and ideas that respect/love has to be earned. Respect and love are ideals that CANNOT be earned even if you tried. Their makeup of these qualities is not sociological but metaphysical. A true story. There was a Wing Chun expert and doorman I associated with. The following story is not me being out with him, but from a friend of his who told me this and WAS with him. For contexts sake, the Wing Chun doorman is a professional security industry worker, who has a history of being employed around slums of Europe where bars or clubs have a bad reputation for attracting idiots. This man and his team had their reputation of being employed at a bar for two-three months and then moving on because the atmosphere of the club was now reset and totally healed. This is a man who can handle himself and is a professional at this. One time, this expert and his friend were not working the door but just casually having some drinks with each other. For some reason, five rough looking men had it in for them and wanted to pick a fight for some silly reason with this expert. They did not know each other. Here is what happened: The wing chun expert ending up buying the 5 guys, over the course of an hour or so, about $200 worth of drinks collectly for these men. Everyone went home unharmed. No fights happened. This 'expert' could easily have dealt with these dudes fist fighting. Maybe they would have ended up in hospital with permanent brain damage because of some ego poking and status behaviour bullshit. "Yeah but he lost $200." Did he? Or did he just save everyone's life by refusing to fight? Did he just preserve life by doing this? Calming them all down, and the five men surely got some free drinks, and maybe went home that evening and decided that their bullying ways and intimidation has met its expiry date. If these guys are trying to 'steal your girls' LET THEM. If the girl is genuinely attracted to you, she wont be pulled away by some dude. But if she is their for her ego and playing the ego game, who cares who steals her; she wants men to fight for her so she can feel worthy about who she is. You don't need to play this role and enforce such barbaric nature. And if you feel like you are a coward for walking away, then you are only grasping this ideal at its superficial surface level. The untrained wimp walks away because he has no other choice. The trained martial artist walks away because he KNOWS the karma of fighting, and doesn't want to hurt people. Because of such knowingness, he is happy to be temporarily humiliated or lose something trivial like a sock or a hat for the sake of peace. For more ideas on this, I would recommend you watch Kung Fu (1978) with the young David Carradine. The show is about the philosophical pinnacles of martial arts excellency (in its philosophy). The best martial artists never gets into fights. Ever. He has a vibration of peace, and by this stage, he realised how silly it was training in martial arts in the first place. Oh! And don't fall into the Ego trap of saying, "I am such a good fighter and can beat all of these guys so look how holy and humble I am." That's a toxic thought.

@theking00 Existence needs you. Your game is not over.