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@Jed Vassallo Yes sir. Agreed fully. And horrifically shocked.

Instead let a seed germinate and grow by not even mentioning social anxiety initially: "Surfing the soul: A step by step guide to developing smoothness in crowds and establishing self- dignity." But if I had to pick a title from yours it would be #2. Because you used the word "openess." God speed.

Whoops forgot to finish this! Point is: when one feels aligned doing something, there is no anxiety or doubt. My argument is this: approach anxiety manifests because one is not in alignment with the idea to approach those girls/girls that way with that intent. So how to never get approach anxiety again? Wrong question. Re-frame is to, when one feels approach anxiety DO NOT APPROACH THE GIRLS. Something inside you feels off about it. Doesnt matter why. But there must be a reason. One must check approach anxiety is not a genuine spark of extiement to talk to someone you want. Most of the time for me, it was because i didnt believe in what i was doing. Pickup up girls. It didn't fit with my values and thats why i felt nervous. Thats what i meant with peterson. Yes he talks in context of speaking, but i extend it to everything in life. If you feel 'off' about something, you need to pay attention. If approach anxiety was as innocent as some mild nervousness, then there wouldnt be so much literature and discussion around it; it would just be seen as a non-item. It would have as much relevance as knowing that when you first jump into a pool of water expect to feel a bit cold for a while till you aclimitise. But AA is one of the biggest topics in pickup. Its probably the largest discussed item, so, why so much discussion around it. I argue it is because AA is a way more important higher issue than people want to admit. AA will happen when a guys Higher Self does not align with his choice: talk to THAT particular woman. AA is a blessing. Listen to it. Obey it. Dont go against it. Its like trying to make me a criminal. I want to learn to rob people at gun point, but I feel nervous about the idea. Is it called "robbers anxiety?" Oh, you get over it. You just get anxious so you need to warm up on some people before you mug someone you really want to mug. You must learn and practise to desensitize yourself enough to make robbing feel easy so you get good at it. All good robbers learn to depgramme that feeling out of them. That way you can be a skilled robber. This is what AA is. One doesnt vibe with their decision to talk to a girl. Its usually their intent on talking to the girl that is messed up. Its a theory. You can publically disagree or you can read the words and gain an insight into this 2 years from now. Because.....not every girl one gets anxious about. Right? Because it feels in alignment with your being/Life. Always do things that feel fluid.

If your awareness is in the right spots, Legend of Zelda Majoras Mask is one of the most spiritual games invented. Not the mechanism of game play, the themes and maturity involved. Its an adult game.

Borderline mothers. A level 10 challenge for any soul.

@jerrypua See my (upcoming) post on my theory on approach anxiety. Its a theory I have never heard mentioned anywhere.

Something screams dogma to me here. This is the magic formulae?

The ark angel goes against God (the whole). The whole is flowing one way. The ark angel is threatened and says "I will go the other way." Arkangelo.......Go out and fall in love.

Absolutly disgusted with all you people. Your fellow @Sharp has communicated something significant for him of whats going on right now. And you judge him, mock him, shame him, bully him, psychological manipulate him, insensitive to the content of what has just been discussed. This is a forum for Actualized.org. At least I think it is. A forum for openess of discussion. Openess of discussion does not translate to a Free for All. It is not a dogfighting Mad Max arena. What I have just witnessed with all your comments and stabbings is nothing short of a terrorist act by many of you, yes, in my judgement and projections. @Sharp I feel for. The importance of this for him, the delicacy of the nature of things for him I understand. I do not understand his situation or content, but I understand the delicacy of the manner. I am shocked by all of your comments. It is barbaric. It is inhumane. I will not be responding to this or any rebuttles. I am shocked at your treatment of him. It is not to him, Sharp, specifically. This is how you would relate to a majority of people. That to me is criminal. Everyone here says they meditate? This is Actualized.org? Really? @Sharp has done me a massive miracle by showcasing the Devil that exists in you. No-one is pure or Actualized at all. What is your intent of being on an online forum? Is your responsibility and karma somehow 'non-applicable' here? Enough.

Once one has played through all their dark memories, what is there next?

Richard Grannon discusses this trap of spirituality alot. Its not a trap because its not spirituality; its the MARKETING of spirituality and the falseness and pseudo spiritual stuff or virtual signalling of spirituality which is dangerous. I respect and love that man so much.

@Roch Yes. I went through a similar thing. Afraid to shine, because, tall poppy syndrome. You become a target for others to dump their issues on because your radience triggers issues in them they dont want to face. Ah yes......the forced humility is such an exhausting role to play. I hear you. You dont need advise from anyone here. You have figured it out yourself clever one. Keep putting attention on it and it will dissolve over time. But if you want advise.....now that you are aware of your fake humility....DO IT MORE! AND EXAGGERATE IT!! Have fun with it! This is based on what Ali G, Borat and some of Bruno do; a fake measurement of humility to draw the other person to admit their prejudices publicly. But thats another thread I can discuss if you want me to elabotate. Be playful with the fake humility. Youre not hurting anyone. You see what youre doing. Self compassion for yourself also; this was a defence tactic for your childhood. Stay small to survive and downplay everything. Story of my childhood. Its a disappointing thing to do because you feel like you are never recognised for the 'real you.' How can I help?

Rawjudah, Judas was the only son in his family that rose above a lineage of unfair power and spoiled chauvenisitc mind. Judas sleeps with Tamer, whom was actually a prostitute but lied to Judas. There is great significance in your user name. And the similarity of story of ancient Judah is the solution and narrative to your dilemma. Dear Rawjudah, after Judah had a child with Tamer, only afterwards did he reassess who he was and his Inner Essence. It is only then we see him do a heroic act of saving a brother of his in a sacrificial manner; the first good deed of his family to perform. So the transformation with you begins with the physical woman. You wish to Self actualise, but no you dont not really. It is an artifical longing you have; it is fashionable. Maybe you had strict parents that encouraged you to attain the best and now you are trying do that in self help. But deep down, you know this pursuit of yours for God is phony. You secretly desire power, material. Sex. You did not mention a girlfriend, you mentioned sex. And Judah was initiated into his Godliness BECAUSE of a sexual act. The sexual act led to a chain of events that brought him to his proper path. Once you are on your proper path, the journey to God might begin. For now, IT WILL NEVER BEGIN! You are disrespectful in your pursuit of God now, because you are not sincerely ready for it nor even want it. .....However, after the experience of sex and women, your journey definitly will begin. It is an inevitable destiny for you. Go for your desire. Attain sex in many ways. I will pray for you to have sex. Because in having sex, the sooner you will sober up and gain a new horniness, a horniness that a woman cannot relief you for; The horniness for God.

Just want to say, for me learning pickup was a comfort zone nuclear bomb. If you persist with pickup, one thing zi noticed is that you are forced to break comfort zones constantly without it feeling like a tabboo or big deal. Your personalitu shifts to an ADVENTURER OF LIFE rather than a spectating shadow sitting mushroom. Beyond pickup, keep this adventurer approach to life afterwards.

You visualise yourself resisting all of these things you want, and resisting the anger/disappointment around not getting all of these things. And now visualise a big channel or tunnel being cleared ahead of you with all the light pouring into your solar plexus region. Stop resisting the flow of life. Stop resisting your emotions. This visualisation is a permission slip for that.

Women and men are not books. Children are not books. Do not 'approach' women. Meet them and invite a connection. Warning. The real feminine will burn away all bullshit you hold onto. Including theory But if pickup theory helps to get on the path, then by all means, it has merit in this

Ask yourself the question, "Why am I choosing to remain in this shame? What is the payoff to staying in this spot?" If I choose shame.....then I don't feel good about who I am......then I don't feel like worthy to go out tonight with my friends.....then I get to feel comfortable.....then I don't have to face up to things......then I don't get to be my confident self the world needs....I remain in a closed box.....I feel worse....I turn to the bottle. Ego loves shame. It loves to marinate in it, so check yourself to see if there is a naughty temptation to do this. Above was just an example.

No need to work life out. Life works out for you. Pick something to do. And if you cannot pick, wait till God shows up (and yes, God will).

Yes here are 3 secrets: 1. Learn a couple items really well, really deep, really confidently. Its better to know 10/100 concepts really well than 50 loose disconnected ideas. 2. Practise uni work every day. Do not skip a single day. Every day just for 15 minutes. It is so important to not skip a day. 30 days back to back and then for the rest of your university career. 3. Try Photoreading. And dont just dismiss it. Investigate it.

@daniel695 Simply believe in yourself. It is your birth right. Talk soon.

This is a great insight. There is ONE difference that is subtle. - The leader, leading from Shadow/Ego, cultivates this practise as a strategy for self-interested gain. A bit like Dale Carnegies How to Win Friends and Influence People; all salesman tactics. - The leader, leading from their centre, does this naturally because of the inherent sense and trust in humanity.

@Preetom I actually agree with her in this video. She put him in his place, and I agree.

Osho encouraged drugs- but not in the commune. He requested that the pharmacists do their best to make the drugs as PURE and CLEAN and SAFE as possible, so people can get a taste of God as quickly as possible. He also advised that if people meditated better on drugs, to take the drugs if they desired and enjoy. He was one of a kind.

Sheeva was a power-tripping, psychopath. She desired nothing but power. My friend/mentor (disciple of Osho) said Sheeva even refused him to travel to America with Osho from Puna. Osho heard of this, and realised quickly he was powerless with the little mini-cult Sheeva was creating already. She was the devil. Yes, she is charismatic to listen to. But she is a good tool for recognising we all have a devil inside of us.

My dear Daniel san @daniel695 You have an issue of lack of self-trust. Beyond this, a better term for it is a style of carelessness. Carelessness) "Stubbornness; refusal to believe in the self. Denial of one's personal power, manifesting in the form of over-thinking, constant self doubts, intellectual trappings to avoid producing art or work. Refusal to acknowledge one's place in Existence and one's importance and necessity for being involved in Life." The 'tiredness' you experience when you make videos is a lack of purpose in life. You don't know why you are making videos, so tiredness comes up. This is a psychological trait not a physical one. If not tiredness, some other distraction. If you know clearly why you are making videos, or you trust yourself, then notion of tiredness becomes nonsense. To get out of the loop? Don't "get out of the loop." Burn the loop altogether. Kill the loop, kill the paradigm of the loop. Destroy it, burn it, make it a permanent destruction so that the loop never exists again and you can never risk being caught in it again. Meditate or come into your centre. From there, act without needing fruit from your seeds. From this position, you are clear what you are doing. You don't need to know why, or who will watch the videos, or what people think of you. Come into your centre, shoot the video, and then produce it as it is. If the word 'perfectionist' comes up, then that is a little boy/girl in you that needs to be loved, tamed, and then understood that they are good enough as they are. The secret to killing perfectionism is realising than nothing in life is perfect, that people grasp what is graspable and attainable over what is a fantasy fake beautiful plastic flower. In practise, the way out of perfectionism is to do something deliberately non-perfect in your mind, release it, and allow your beliefs to recorrect themselves. The purpose of life is to flow energy for no reason or agenda. Not producing your videos, you are killing yourself slowly. Do not wither away! Become alive! Produce that video as it is! If you cannot produce your video, if you do not have the conviction to do it, you are going to live a painful life for a bit of time. Then in yours 40s you hit a mid-life crisis (healing in disguise) and begin to live. Be a Heisenberg now. No more Walter White hiding in the shadows, afraid of their own beauty.