RoerAmit

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  2. Posted

    16 hours ago, Cireeric said:

    Is it really just holding pretty hard when ejaculating and then you dont cum, or what do I need to do?

    From my experience right now, first, you got to be aware of this muscle and understand how to control it. Then you start making it stronger, as you practice more and more you're gonna be able to stop yourself from cumming/ejaculating, and at some point, the orgasm continues and you wouldn't ejaculate. (Still haven't reached this level) and this is when you feel the distinction between orgasm and ejaculation. They are different. Then you can have powerful multiple-orgasms without wasting your sperm and be so tired. 

    Awareness of your body plays a huge role here, you must feel if you can handle it and continue or to stop the sexual act. You don't want to ejaculate. Stop the sexual act before you reach the point of no return. If you will, you'll ejaculate.

    I just started reading "the multi-orgasmic man".

    I am working on it daily and will update my results here.     

  3. Posted

    10 hours ago, LeoX8 said:

    @RoerAmit I read this kind of stuff in a book called "The way of the superior ma" by David Deida. He also talks about controlling your ejaculation by using the pelvic floor (muscle for stop peeing). By doing this you can gain not only so much more energy, but can give  your girl so much more pleasure and love and ultimely help her to open herself up with the use of your love by penetrating her. It is a deep, intimate romantic moment. 

    use this technique not to only pleasure her, but to give her all the love you can

    It is difficult but you will be rewarded by training yourself for this. Try also some breathing techniques and read "The way of the superior man" by David Deida, I'm not paid to say this, trust me IT WILL HELP YOU A LOT!

    hopethis has helped

    I read this AMAZING book!!

    And yes he really said that and this is one of the reasons I started thinking about this more seriously, I started practicing weeks ago and I wanted to see if there are experienced guys here. Thanks man! 

  4. Posted

    Hey man, I also felt the exact same feeling.

    First of all, please understand that the thing will cure you for sure is time. 
    Try to cut any connection you have with her, it will speed up the process. (unfollow on all social media, don’t meet her etc..)

    Also, stop beating yourself up. Its not your fault, you aren’t deciding how to fall in love with. 

    Let yourself feel the pain completely, and mindfully. Ask: Where its located? How does it feel? Is it like a knife or more like a cloud of pain? Be mindful, it will help you and grow you.

    You can use the letting go technique. VERY powerful on these kind of cases.

    Reflection can help a lot!

    Do some self love and self acceptance work.

    Also, try to be decisive - or that you try again and all the way to be with her, or you just let EVERYTHING go. This little hope that “maybe she one day will want me / Maybe there is a chance” can be very toxic and just make you stuck.

    And just remember that within few months it will be behind you :)

    Be strong, you are loved

  5. Posted

    Sooo I really want to improve my sexuality.

    I heard about man multi-orgasms, which is being able to control ejaculation, and then the orgasm is more of energetic experience in the whole body. I heard its even better than ordinary orgasm. You control ejaculation by using the muscle thats stops the pee when you’re peeing, and by gaining control in it you can DECIDE if you’re gonna ejaculate or not.
     

    I hope it is very powerful as they say, I see the power in it especially during sex because you can last for hours without the energy drop after ejaculating that kind of says the sex is over, and it will make the sex wayyy more powerful and satisfying for both sides.

    I started to practice this.

    There is also a book - “The multi-orgasmic man”, and I know few sexual teachers on YouTube explaining this concept after they became multi-orgasmic.

    Is there anyone here heard about this? Tried to practice? Became multi-orgasmic? Do you think its a healthy/secure thing? I really want to become multi-orgasmic and be the best lover I can.

    Leo - are you familiar with this concept? Tried it?

    Thanks a lot everyone!

  6. Posted

    On 9.9.2020 at 3:14 PM, Dodo said:

      I have tried first hand and notice significant difference when I stop ejaculating. I am still a newbie and nowhere near 100 days, but together with my meditation practices I get so much more energy and magic starts happening. I feel much more confident and content. 

    Some golden information inside of this video. This man speaks my language. Try the 100 day challenge with me if you want to try! Don't forget this is best done together with an energetic practice (yoga of some kind or another) so that all the new energy you get doesn't get stagnant and you use it to the fullest to become your best version in this world. 

    Oooh yeah! Good luck, I'm diving  deep.=)

    I’m two weeks in and now it started getting hardddd. 
    I hope it will worth it!!

  8. Posted

    All of Actualized.org is full of parts about this topic.

    But, since all of self help goes over this, I think it is a must have episode.

    I know it is not so simple as it looks like, because every person is soooo different, and every person needs different advice, there are still generic pillars for creating a change.

    you must understand concepts like:

    Self-deception | Responsibility | Self Acceptance | Meditation | Self-Love | Limiting Beliefs | Paradoxically | Systems thinking | Ego | Ego-backlash | Death | Truth 

    and many more...  

    I think we need an episode of holistic explanation about change.

    Maybe a low conscious part and a high conscious part..

    Thanks!

  9. Posted

    So I am installing the every day meditation habit.

    I find myself struggling to stay alert and focused.

    I changed my nutrition almost two months ago, I am vegan and I am more energized than before, exercising 3-5 times a week. My sleeping habits still not great I am sleeping between 5-7 hours a night. I feel it’s not enough for me, and working on fixing it.

    Any suggestions why am I sleepy? It sometimes happens afternoon, but mostly when I meditate.

    Thanks guys :)

  10. Posted

    So I am tired of getting no results with women. And after I saw the last episode (What is Actualized.org - Must-View for everyone, thanks leo), I am fucking serious, and gonna bite the bullet about attracting women authentically, and have a superb dating life since I got almost 0 experience.

    The main problem is that I am a people pleaser. I most get love and validation from every fucking person I meet. I can see now how unattractive I am and I am ready to change everything about myself.

    I just cant be me authentically, that weirdo Self-Help guy that thinks about reality and love and truth, so afraid to get rejected because its unpopular. 
    I am afraid to lose the love I need, by telling who I am.

    Does anybody can understand where I am at?

    What is the first step to take? And what I don’t see in the big picture?

    Thanks :)

  13. Posted

    You’re saying that reality is infinite, and as someone who is open but haven’t reached this point, I am wondering about self-deception. 
    Is it possible that I am going to be self-deceived forever?

    Because you’re saying that there is ultimate end to it, and in the same time, if something is infinite, how can it end?

    It demotivates me, and I am introspecting about it.. there is no clear answer yet..

    thanks :)

     

     

  14. Posted

    9 hours ago, Recursoinominado said:

    Bitch, after the third rejection you will realize it is actually fun as hell. Soon you will be like that even on your first approach. Pick one easy target, just put yourself in front of her, try to speak non-stop and self-amuse the hell out of it. MAKE the "rejection" as fun as possible and you will be a lot freer when the interaction end. 

    You opened up my mind.. gonna try that after the quarantine ends in my country :)

    Thanks!

  15. Posted

    I am needy of a girl I started to date with..

    I want to send her 1000033728 messages and talk to her 24/7. I feel like I NEED her, that’s what neediness is about. She gives me love that I am lacking, and when she talks to me it feels so good, like finally I have the love I was lacking.

    Of course its a big problem and toxic. I know. And I guess that if it will keep going likes this she will stop talking to me. Before that I am practicing Self-Love, and filling myself with the love I am lacking from an healthy place.

    I hope my perspective helps :)

  17. Posted · Edited by RoerAmit

    On 15.9.2020 at 3:42 AM, Leo Gura said:

    Those hot girls are just using Instagram to get money and ego validation. They're not gonna sleep with you.

    Go talk to real girls, not Instagram cock-teases.

    So.. there are no short-cuts...

    I guess I just need to go talk to girls on the street and get rejected 1000 times, feel the pain and repeat until I get good at this..

    I just want to blame something for the problem uhhh :(

  18. Posted

    So I want to be a full-time musician, I play the guitar for like 10 years. I am 20 now, so yeah it's a lot of time.

    BUT - As I get more and more into self-actualizing I understand I have A LOT of psychological problems, and it looks like I have to solve these, and only than I could really become a full-time musician. Furthermore, I really interested in deepening my understanding, and become more truthful and loving.

    And I stuck because it looks like I have two different things to master. I'm torn and don't know what I TRULY want to master? the guitar or personal development. My heart is tearing apart I love and want both too much... I can't see myself without one of them.  

    It demotivates me and makes everything harder.

    Does anyone has ever got into this kind of problem? what do you think?

     

  19. Posted

    Sooo 

    I am following the forum here for a while and I really want to ask everyone her:  where do you learn pickup from?

    Lately I saw mystery is back in business and he teaches through Instagram. Do you find his material working?

    Another question is: I am 20 years old, and all the hot girls are on Instagram, do you think it’s possible to meet girl and to create hookups or even long term relationship through this app?Or only real ‘on field’ pickup works?

    Thanks

  20. Posted · Edited by RoerAmit

    So I am a musician the last 10 years

    I am 20.

    And I really have a motivation problem. I know that a big vision and meaning will make everything move. 
    But for gods sake, how do I do that? I feel so stuck. Tried to write a vision few times but everything I write seems meaningless.

    Every time I get to the “WHY” point I feel like it is not important.

    Even things like improving my life, improving others life, to become a source of love, and more examples feels meaningless.

    What am I lacking?

    I guess I have some sort of depression

    Did anyone here created true inspiring life purpose? One’s which created infinite motivation and inspiration?

    Thank you

  21. Posted

    Hey there!

    Working a lot about tapping into authentic motivation.

    Is anyone here acting from a place of authentic motivation? 

    I am really trying to accept myself as I am after many years of Self-hatred.

    I am really trying to apply self-love, self-acceptance. 

    I really feel stuck it's hard and I feel my ego resisting it so much. It's so painful and sometimes even makes me cry. I really want to grow that and loving myself authentically, be happier and grounded. I am tired of suffering so much although I have great living conditions.

    As I become more and more aware I see how egoistic I am and it just makes it worse.

    Is anybody knows what's going on with me? I know we don't know each other... I feel lonely and It looks like there is no way out I am responsible for everything.

    I Just want someone to hear me...

    LOVE 

  23. Posted · Edited by RoerAmit

    Hey there!

    So I know its not an advanced topic, but its still means a lot to me.

    I am a pretty fat guy since I remember myself, and I tried to do several diets and ways to become leaner, sometimes it even succeeded, but eventually, I came back to the same weight.

    I have the strategies, gym, food and everything needed. But still stuck.

    I am really trying to understand why I “should” get in shape, but I can’t find a meaning that will actually make me want to change myself completely.

    Maybe its OK to be fat?

    I see it as a problem because it hurts to see myself fat on the mirror. And also have kind of limiting belief “Its bad to be fat”.

    I feel like I don’t know what the problem is..

    Lack of motivation? Low self esteem? Limiting beliefs? Not accepting and loving myself as I am, unconditionally?

    How I really solve this problem? 
    How we create a real life changing change?

    I am tired of being fat and I want to get in shape and stay there to the rest of my life.

    Someone here did this kind of change? Deep, life changing change, painful and real.

    Thanks for helping :)

  24. Posted

    13 hours ago, Aquarius said:

    They are all beliefs. Love yourself even when you are a work in progress. Let go.

    I am in many ways imperfect, yet even when working on myself I love myself deeply. You can love yourself even when you want to change. You change because you love yourself and want to be the best version of yourself, not because you hate the way you are.

    The problem is, that I want to change myself because I don't love myself as I am. How can I solve that?

    I already started to accept that sometimes I hate myself and that's okay. 

    But, still, I want to change myself because I am tired of being the way I am now.

    As far as I understand if I completely accept myself as I am, there is no reason to change. And only there real growth and change come. 

    But being as I am now is so unacceptable that I can't love myself and "not needing" to change.

    Can you understand?

  25. Posted

    13 hours ago, Serotoninluv said:

    There are different contexts. I’m pointing out the conditioned ‘you’ and a purer ‘true you’. 

    I gave the example of climbing trees when I was younger. Consider these contexts:

    Context 1: When I was young, I was told that I wasn’t “tall enough”. That I would get bullied in school because I wasn’t tall enough. I wouldn’t get a girlfriend because girls like tall guys. This conditions the mind with an identity that “I’m not tall enough”. This may lead to a low self esteem and being shy because I’m not “good enough” to be loved.

    Context 2: Sometimes when I was climbing trees as a boy, I couldn’t quite reach a branch. I would realize “I’m not tall enough to reach that branch”. This is a totally different context. It has nothing to do with wether I’m “good enough”. It just means I’m not tall enough to reach that branch. As a child this is no big deal. It’s a non-issue. I just figure out another way. Perhaps I go a different route or next time I bring a rope and hook to help me reach the branch.

    Similarly the idea of “I’m too fat” is loaded with value judgements of not “being good enough” and being unloveable. All of that can be let go. Yet also consider another context, If I am 100 pounds over my BMI, I’m too heavy to run a marathon. It’s not about being good or bad. It’s just the physics. If I am 100 pounds over my BMI and try to do 20 mile training sessions, I will get injured. There will be too much impact on my joints and bones. So like a child climbing to the top of a  tree, I would need a new approach. If I want to run a marathon, I would need to start off with a lot of non-impact training, such as swimming, walking and the elliptical machine. Over time, weight will be lossed and we can add in some light running.  

    Thanks, its more clear now.