JustThinkingAloud

Me and my partner half retired when we were 33. Half retired because we still “work” but only on what we love doing. It gives us enough money to keep going but it’s not a luxurious life, we have to watch all our expenditures and be very good with money. We only spend on what we really love and necessities. We still prefer it to the hectic, stressful jobs. So if you really want this, I’d make and save as much money as possible in a shortest time possible. If you’re not sure, pick a more sustainable option that could give you at least some of the life you want and see what you can do with it.

Yeah, do we really need many things? The less we have, the better for the planet!

Why don’t you take charge of one song and let him do another song. Listen to each other’s feedback but only one person can make the final call that relates to their song. You can’t really boss someone unless you have some kind of power over them (eg. can fire them, don’t give pay rise etc) and even then it’s hard to make people do what you want them to do when they don’t really want to do it.

I love that!

Try to go for a smaller purpose. I’ve settled for happiness for me and people around me so I try to do whatever leads to that. Start small and grow it as big as you want.

Maybe try to do something that matters now. Do you really need to care whether it will matter 12417291827 years, probably not many things will matter then. You don’t have to do it just for yourself, do it for others too. Maybe try to do something that you like doing and others benefit from it and even pay for it, that way you might feel that it’s worth it.

When I studied, I found the theory to be very boring. You study to do what you want to do after that, it’s not the study that you need to be passionate about, it’s the resulting job. If you really want to be a psychologist, you do need to study to become one but once you get there it’ll be all worth it!

I don’t think that the environment is that important that I would spend that much money on it. The environment only influences you as much as you let it. I also can’t see why universities in the US would be that bad. If you’re so worried about the environment, you can study online where the only influence will be the environment you create. University studies are only few years, I don’t think it’s long enough to influence you in a major way. Maybe you’re worried that you might lose interest or won’t be able to pass the subjects if the environment is not right but it’s up to you how well you do and to keep yourself interested. If you need help with that you can pay for a good life coach or a therapist or a tutor, it still will be cheaper.

You can be who you want to be if you put the effort into it. If it’s really important to you to be like Tony Robins, you can. And yes, it takes work, time, energy that you take away from other projects that you might have. It really depends on how much you want it and whether you are prepared to put a lot of effort into it. Another thing is whether you personally have a problem with your solitude. Sometimes, the society can put a pressure on us to be certain way, I don’t agree with that. It’s up to you and you should be the one that decides who you want to be or accept who you have become. Have you also tried to see the benefits of being the way you are? Introverts are great listeners, they have a calming effect, they are big thinkers, they are reliable and consistent etc

The younger we are, the less information is stored in our brains. That’s why we don’t have a problem believing in Santa when we are kids. We don’t know any better. The older we get and collect more information about the world around us, the harder it is to believe in something that contradicts our stored information.

Very funny, thank you haha I'm trying not to picture that! haha I feel naked!

I’ve always been different, I got high IQ, I love to be honest. All these keep getting me into trouble so I try not to show it. Now you have it! Most of the people find it scary, annoying, intimidating etc Wow, I can’t believe I said it, now I might be in trouble again, all your fault! Haha (weird ?!?!)

Great! Out expectations can sometimes fail us but you still had some great time. Awesome

It’s you subconscious, it’s still you. Keep persevering with changing your mind and it will happen. It does need some time to get persuaded.

You didn’t get the love you wanted/needed. I’m really sorry about that as every child should get lots of love. Luckily, you still have whole your life ahead of you and plenty of time to get the love you want. Be open to love, make it easy for people to love you, appreciate the love you get and reward it with loving back so they keep loving you. It might take some time to find the love you want and be open to it but it can be done. All the best!

You don’t have to choose one thing if it all works for you. The only thing to watch out for is that you don’t do too many things. Not only that it can be exhausting, you might not become as good at something as you could if you put all your focus into one thing.

I don’t fully understand what is your problem with your mother. What are/were the reasons for your arguments? Me and my partner grew up in dysfunctional families, it really helps knowing what the real source of the problem is. Now, when you’re older, it’s easier to look back and analyse what actually happened. Also, it’s easier to remove a problem when you understand the cause.

Define work. Focusing on something that you enjoy 100hrs a week is completely fine. I think that at Elon Musk’s level, it’s not about work, it’s about passion that he’s fully focused on, he lives his passion. Of course, it’s not sustainable if we don’t watch our physical and mental health but I think that it can be all done quite well. We can “work” while exercising, watching TV etc.

I like that. I also watch their body language to see whether they’re interested, like it etc.

It all comes out of you thinking at some stage that you’re superior because you can do something that other people can’t, it happened often enough for it to become subconscious. You’re trying to suppress it but it’s still there. Maybe try thinking that you’re great at something and that’s good. It doesn’t make you superior though. We all have a potential to be great at something, some of us realised that potential and some of us are still working on it. Nobody is superior to you either just because they can do something that you’ve never even dreamed of.

I think that men have a much stronger sex drive than we do, especially when they’re young. I think it’s a part of them that they can’t change and it’s one of their needs that needs to be satisfied for them to be happy. To take that away from you might be selfish on her part, sex is an important part of a healthy relationship.

I just knew, I was 100% sure. Even now, after 18 years, I still know. He annoys me sometimes but it never lasts long.

Each to their own, all that matters is that it makes you happy.

You can just talk to them. Say “Hi, how are you?” and see their reaction, it can tell a lot whether they are interested or not. You can tell by their body language and friendliness. If she likes you, she’ll make it easy for you to keep the conversion going.

We still are! We act, we think, we feel and that’s what makes us. Yes, the way we are can change but it takes work and only we can do that. I think that love is about respecting and valuing each others way of living. If you feel like you need to change someone then you don’t really love that person, you love the person that you want them to be. We grow and improve but that means that we become a better version of our old self not a different person.