mmKay

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  1. I just realized this is a part of the cure for ADHD and ADD. Heavy metal detox being the second. Of course you can't get your yourself to focus no matter how hard you try. Because you have to absolutely minimize stimulation for months until your brain rewires, since you've been bombarded with it for years and decades. Otherwise all effort is useless and you feel helpless . And nowadays it's treated artificially by ingesting pills. It's ridiculous once you understand neuroplasticity. The answer is so easy but not simple . I would love to see a research paper and science experiment.
  2. The goal here is to manually evolve your brain at a physical level to more "human" and less CHIMP by strategically avoiding some things while actively pursuing others. You all have heard about Dopamine Detox challenges by now. The thing is that a lousy 1 month will not make that much permanent change in your brain. Your brain has to literally change at a physical level. I know Leo doesn't believe in abstaining from Cornography or even fappin' , but everyone is different genetically. If you're more like me, hear this out and have a look at the website below. I chronically struggle with ambition, motivation and focus. I've blamed it on genetics and heavy metal toxicity. But its obviously not the entire story. Given my life circumstances, I have spent decades bombarding my brain by hyperstimulating it with Videogames, fast paced videos, hyper-palatable food, cornography and social media. Even using a laptop or a smartphone are big dopamine providers, and so is searching the internet or using chatgpt. Infinite novelty at your fingertips . All of this this deeply rewires the brain and specificaly your neural pathways. Your dopamine pathways and your reward system literally rewire. You become desensitised to dopamine and need unnaturally large ammounts of it to feel its effects. You become unable to engage with tasks that you know are good for you but are not stimulating enough. One prime example of decreased dopamine sensitivity is Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction ("PIED"). This website is a gold mine on practical neuroscience and surprisingly insightful. https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/miscellaneous-resources/start-here-evolution-has-not-prepared-your-brain-for-todays-porn/ The good news is that neuroplasticity is a thing. You can rewire your brain again and unhook it from dopamine hyperstimulation, but it takes time . We are talking anywhere from 2 to 24+ or more months for decent results. Only you can decide if this this change is something you need. This list may sound cliché but it is what it is . THE GOAL IS TO REWIRE YOUR NEURAL PATHWAYS OVER TIME, not to rob your life of joy. Once you have succeded, you will get joy from a new set of activities and behaviors. More natural and healthy activities. I find neuroscience super interesting. You can plow CHATGPT for hours about it . Eliminate or minimize : multitasking, videogames, gambling, fast paced videos , watching content, scrolling for deals, porn, softporn, fantasizing about sex, sugar and hyper-palatable food, checking social media ( yes this forum counts ). Smartphone use . Fapping and edging also bathes your brain in chemicals for hours. You decide how far to take this. If you struggle with low libido, lack of intimate relationships and so on, I suggest that you give it a try. An abstainance into binging cycle actually rewires your brain worse because the dopamine hits you harder. It is one of the main components of an addiction. Same with videogames, gambling or social media where the reward is random and not constant, or even worse, when the reward is skill depending but has an element of luck, and also provides social validation and a sense of pride. Things you can do : Take high quality Omega 3, Meditating for training focus, physical exercise, being in nature, socializing, hugging, having actual sex ( maybe hold off if you have PIED until your brain rewires), laughter with other people, taking cold showers, holding uncomfortable stretches and resisting discomfort, learning new languages and skills, pursuing self defined meaningful goals, cleaning your room, taking care of an animal or other people, getting inmersed in a single task at once. Cold approach and anything that builds your willpower is exactly what you want. In simple terms, you can think of it as building yourself focus and willpower muscles while you weaken and atrophy your impulsivity brain muscles. Again, sounds extremely cliché but I find it absolutely fundational. How do you do any of this work if you cant focus, dont have motivation nor energy?? Imo it's even more insidious than permanently living on junk food. Purposefully limiting or abstaining from something as awesome as hilarious meme compilations, super entretaining video games , mind blowing cornography, your smartphone or social media DELIBERATELY is a very noble decision in my opinion. It's a very personal choice in the end. No one is forcing you to anything.
  3. Yup we guys like a piece of ass and titties. for some men that's the end of the story and that's fair enough. I've always been intrigued WHY do I find specific things sexually attractive and other things sexually repulsive . Why am I attracted to ass, titties, a beautiful face and smile, well put together, youth, slim , makeup and color? Today I'm excited to share some simple but personally satisfying answers. It felt like zooming outside of my human being to become conscious of myself being this chimp, and that this chimp has specific preferences and dislikes, like love for sweet and hate of bitter, or being a bee and realizing the evolutionary reason why I'm drawn to flowers This may apply to males at large but I've noticed that different guys have slightly different preferences, which only makes sense because of different successful genetic backgrounds ( if your ancestors mated with females with "X" traits, and you're alive here today, it means traits "X" work for survival and therefore are attractive to you) Quick note. All of this is from an non judgemental POV with the sole purpose of noticing and understanding . In no way I'm trying to make women feel worse about themselves. Second quick note. Since in the scope of our evolution the risks of sex are minimal for men compared to women (besides getting your head smashed in by another male/gang of males for having sex with the wrong woman ) we are more okay with just sticking it in literally any chance that we get and possibly skipping on any of these preferences. Women on the other hand get f*cking disabled for a year and they can LITERALLY DIE if impregnated. ACTUALLY LITERALLY DIE. Therefore they are a little more picky. Anyways, from my BIOLOGIES POV, for me to be attracted to a woman she has to display physical traits that mean she can bear children GOOD, and a minimum degree of mental capacities ( otherwise it would be a turnoff because it signals bad genetic material) For me personally, I know if I'm physically attracted to a women immediately. At a primal biological level. In a single glance. Now since I'm not an absolute chimp, her personality can be a further turn off if it's just not for a pump and dump. This one I found to be the most interesting. And it's the exception to the rule: Beautiful face , smile, teeth. A symetrical Golden Ratio face doesn't provide much raw survival value or information about fertility. The value of a symmetrical face is a strange loop. It's valuable because we value it. Beauty is slippery. We love the golden ratio. Beauty is valuable because we value beauty. But a pretty face by itself is not enough of an attraction cue as you may have noticed. You've got all teeth? Clear sign of youth and health. Showing your teeth in monkey societies signals submission . Perfectly aligned teeth are more of a aesthetic and universally recognized love of Beauty in the abstract, like Greek sculptures. Why men/I'm not attracted to chubby / fat women This one I've been racking my mind over the longest, and the Insight came to me watching an Instagram reel of a couple dancing bachata. It was a before / during pregnancy dance video. In the initial video the girl was slim and I felt she looked very attractive. Few seconds later, the video was cut to them dancing months later where you could tell she is just a tiny little pregnant, she had an inflated belly and my attraction was immediately killed!! So the Insight is that I'm genetically not attracted to chubby or fat women because it resemblances pregnancy. That their fertile real estate is currently taken and therefore not worth pursuing. Also you can't tell THAT easily if they're pregnant already . Imagine you had sex with a female thousands of years ago and she was pregnant already and you raised a child that's not yours. It's shooting yourself in the foot genetically. Although you may argue being overweight was pretty uncommon throughout history. I know personally men who are into chubby girls. On the other hand, easily storing fat would be extremely useful and therefore attractive for species who have to survive in places of extreme cold like Alaska. Otherwise It kind of signals scarcity of food and the need to hoard. Historically Surviving is easier if you're capable of consistently obtaining food from outside of your own fat sources. It's more efficient to be thin. Make up , Youth , Color An appearance well taken care of is the physical visual equivalent of seeing muscles on a guy . It's a what's called a "honest signal" , which means it's a conveyance of value that can not be faked. You are strong, end of story. Or in her case , you have put time and effort into your appearance, which signals good caretaking , which is essential for raising children. Contrast it with looking like this A dishonest signal of value would be mentioning you get laid a lot, even if it's true . Because that CAN be a lie and not true. Make up covers skin signs of ageing. And genetically we're attracted to young women because they're in their prime for bearing children. I'm genetically attracted to female eye contact, a primal indicator of sexual interest. Once two attractive women were in front of me. Only one had done her eyes and eyelashes done. It emphasizes her eyes A LOT more. Colorful make up for eyelids, lipstick etc, simply draw attention for humans overall, not just for men. I have been using my smartphone in black and white mode for the last few weeks and it's astonishing how much less distracting app icons are. Color provides vital information about ripeness of food, time of day, poisoning factor of food or animals or insects, purity of water, etc. Conclusion : color draws attention because it conveys information. Why the hourglass shape? Thin body with broad hips is the genetic preference. I didn't know this but broad hips are a big factor on how well the mother can give birth. The mother can literally die if her hips arent wide enough, because of the size of human babies. Nowadays C-sections exist which would minimize the attraction to wide hips, but it's still there instinctually. Why the attraction to booty? It comes from our monkey times. Bonobos and macaques specifically find swollen buttocks more attractive because it signals more estrogen and fertility Titties? I was watching a absolutely non sexual video. Some people were talking . The woman was wearing a loose shirt. For a speck of a second, she accidentally pulled on a part of her shirt and it slightly shaped to the form of her bra. I instantly noticed I felt a primal feeling of attraction. It was so quick I barely noticed it happening, and had to rewind the video to investigate what the fuck had just happened If she has breasts , biologically it means she is past puberty and ready to bear children. Non sagging breasts are a signal of youth as well. All of this is just from a primal perspective. Of course modern humans have the capacity to appreciate personality, and for quality couples it's an absolute must. Hope I shared an insightful perspective about why men judge women that heavily on physical appearance. Let me know if you want to share some interesting take. Do not turn this into a gender war post
  4. Pretty cool perspective. I doubt any of this could be " healed " without psychedelics
  5. LOA is one of these concepts that get overly mystified in this field. The very essence of " law of attraction " is basically the psychological phenomenon of selective focus and the reticular activation system. Do this experiment. Red Focus on everything that's red in your environment. Notice how you have the mental capacity for this. Notice that there exists a specific mechanism in your mind to be capable of Selective focus. Play around with this if you haven't before. Now focus on everything that's made of wood. Now focus on everything that's edible Now focus on everything that bothers you about your house Now focus about everything you like about yourself And so on You could even frame some types of depression as selective focus set on negative and disempowering perspectives. So, of course if you think a lot about becoming a stand up comedian, all of the sudden you will start noticing all the valuable action steps and opportunities towards what you're thinking about . And then if you think about it enough, it will become part of your subconscious mind and become more automatic. And then thoughts become actions. And actions have consequences. And consequences have consequences. So you think about signing up to a local gig. And you actually do it. And you happen to meet people from the industry, which is normal. And you keep showing up and eventually you get a paid gig, and suddenly you're a stand up comedian. And all of the sudden you have " attracted " your goal with your mind. Which Is still amazing, but no need to mistify it. The literal physical equivalent would be if you look at a tea pot , you see a tea pot. Why? Simply because you're looking at it. So if you look ( "mentally focus " ) at your goals, that's what you "attract", to use that terminology. There is truth to reality being " imaginary " but that's a different and very technical Spiritual topic. I remember very vividly how I mentally controlled physical reallity directly through thoughts while lucid dreaming and astral projecting. What I thought of, materialized. So the concept of vibration rather brings unnecessary unclarity. You could talk in terms of depth consciousness. If you have higher consciousness you think about more quality things , take action towards more quality things, and therefore " attract" more quality things. A lower consciousness person thinks about pride and status. That's what he thinks about and therefore that's what his actions will guide him towards.
  6. @Archie you keep taking the same supplements but DMPS you dose every 8 hours instead of 4 or 3 hours like the other chelators. As far as I remembered you shouldn't take it together with DMSA, but with ALA is fine. I'll update this post if I remember anything relevant. What doses are you currently taking?
  7. Another thing I forgot to mention in my initial post about attraction triggers for males in women is displaying a wide range of emotions and displaying a facial range of facial expressions. It signals high emotional intelligence and possibly empathy, which is very benefitial and required for upbringing healthy offspring. This one would be secondary to the main trigger points defined before and not easily spotted , but you can absolutely confirm it during sexual intercourse in the form of increased arousal. I'm sure scientists would love to perform a double blind placebo- controlled study of this phenomenon lmfao. Science meets p*rn in the name of Understanding Evolution 😂
  8. your position is backwards. Breasts appear in females during puberty, signaling the beginning of fertility, therefore triggering sexual attraction in males. The fenomenon you're pointing out is due to partial nudity being socially normalized, that has led to reduced arousal and ultimately desensitization. The logic puts the cart before the horse But I appreciate challenging my perspective. makes me think
  9. @ZenAlex Interesting. I doubt it's the music what's triggering it though. I'm almost absolutely certain of that. What you're sharing usually happens if you have pending and unresolved problems and are not adressing them, whether mentally or by taking real life action. physical exercise is known to be powerful for coping with anxiety and clinical depression, so it's normal that walking helps you out. So what's on your mind?
  10. I've never really hit rock bottom that hard but this song's title is literally the number for a suicide prevention hotline, and his speech brought me to tears the first time i've heard it:
  11. @Israfil yes, personal preferences , personal obsessions like crush psychology ( aka " infatuation" ), ethnicity , emotional connecion and cultural upbringing are a factor in attraction, both for females and males, but only after biologically wired definitions of sexual reproductive value. A long neck or a twisted foot will never be a trigger of attraction for males by itself, but ass, titties and youth will, and the point of the thread is to point at the possible evolutionary reasons why they are what they are. Pick up explains all of female attraction psychology mechanisms beautifully and this is male's version, often dismissed and undefined the title of the thread should be " understanding male biological attraction " . If any mod reads this, edit the title. The biological evolutionary origin of the existance of the " crush " fenomenon is pretty fascinating . It's a psychological strategy to increase reproductive success by facilitating mate selection and bonding. So cool. Reminds me of the " imprinting mechanism" in ducks and other birds
  12. blood gun shooting out of eye sockets jesus christ
  13. isnt this a fire hazard???
  14. Sometimes I astral project to Las Vegas and tickle his nipples. posts like this go into the fun section for next time
  15. if you define your issue more clearly maybe we can provide you some interesting perspectives. Lack of motivation can becaused by dozens of different reasons
  16. @Israfil why are you personally attracted to ass and titties over kneecaps and elbows, and prefer young girls over grandmas? i'm curious
  17. It's more accurrate to talk about " mind " instead of " ego " when trying to understand these topics. It just makes it unnecesary unclear. The psychological definion of what you're calling " ego " is your web of beliefs, asumptions and unconsciously held definitions of concepts. But the proper definition of " ego " is your state of consciousness, the " egoic state of consciosness", which is a different, metaphysical topic. If you keep looking into it, you may notice the relativity of concepts like " good " or " wrong" . In your case, your feelings are dependent on your definition of "good" and " wrong". " Reframing" is one of the core concepts of Neuro Linguistic Programming. The way you would apply it here is by consciously defining what a "good game" means for you, rather than it being vaguely defined perhaps as " I didnt smash and humiliate others by outperforming them", people cheering me on, etc. You could try to define it as " I showed up, tried my best during as long as I could, I enjoyed myself and my team, and I enjoyed the competition and the workout". Or whatever you resonate with more. So basically, you have a vague unconscious definition of what is a succesfull game is for you, and if the conditions of this definitions aren't met, you automatically call yourself / feel like a loser. It's possible for you to never feel like a loser again, or at least infinitely less often, if you consciously adjust your definitions.
  18. Lately we've been discussing a lot of potential health dangers in common food. I'd like to start a thread where we get to compile all health hazards of our modern lifestyle in one place. In October 2020 Leo personally pinky promised me ( true story) that in the future he will shoot a video about how to detoxify your entire lifestyle. We may as well get started here. As not to turn this into a thread filled with bad news, fell free to simply mention better alternatives. Videos, articles and simple hearsay are all welcome for discusision. Some ideas to get the ball rolling : Tetra Bricks are lined with an aluminium coat on the inside that can leech into your drinks, specially if it's something acidic like orange juice. Alternative : buy in glass when possible, or squeeze yourself. Comercial Fruit juices from concentrates may contain heavy metals as they rely on fruit powders. Chocolate filled with Heavy metals : https://www.actualized.org/insights/dark-chocolate-filled-with-lead-cadmium Deodorands commonly contain Aluminium. --- Better alternative anyone? -- If i find myself in a pickle I just spray the deodorant on the inside of my shirt rather than on my armpits. Do not drink tap water. Probably contains Halogens and Heavy metals. Lets say that Tap water < Spring/well water < Plastic Bottled water < multiple stage reverse osmosis water ( will share link soon ) < Glass bottle water . Some medicine can contain heavy metals, like eye drops. Cookware may contain toxic elements, specially teflon pans if you scratch them, or cheap stainless steel may be laced with Nickel. Go for high quality stainless steel or coockware. Toothpaste has Fluoride ( I don't know exactly about the health impact ). You can make your own toothpaste with peppermint and clove essential oils . I'm sure we can come up with plenty more oral health techniques. You see the point.
  19. Ultraviolet Radiation from electric devices Don't weld in flip flops
  20. In that case the expectation causing you to feel like a looser is believing you should perform at your peak everytime you play, which is unrealistic for numerous circumstances , and when expectations and reallity don't match , you blame it on your incompetence Let me know if that sounds more accurate
  21. What an absolutely awesome resource. The non-bias factor of AI is so crucial to properly understanding Politics. A few years ago , as I was ABSOLUTELY clueless about politics, but advanced in epistemology , I noticed how notoriously hard it was to get an understanding of the field. Everywhere you looked there was bias, ideology and misinformation disguised as truth, and I couldn't find an accurate big picture of it all. I only began to understand it once Leo started implementing politics into his videos and this forum. This is so awesome. I'm so grateful for it. Too bad the minds capacity for self deception and close-mindedness is more powerful than an entire galaxy of AI servers 😉
  22. The core of the issues you've described in the body of the thread is a problem of perspective and wrong expectations. Why are you supposed to perform decently without rigorous training? Unless you're a specially genetically gifted snowflake, the person with more practice time and better shape will outperform you. Period. You're taking it personally. In dating it's the same story, the perspective and expectation. Some people lack chemistry. Keep that context . Maybe you've been socially not on your best game for some time now and and your rizz is not sharp. Why would girls fall for you? They don't owe anything to you. Now given what you've just shared , plus the title of the thread, it seems there are further feelings of shame , disappoinntment and maybe pettiness behind the courtains, that fuel these wrong expectations, while these expectations fuel your negative emotions. Feel free to share more if you feel this resonated with you
  23. It looked like he was fearing for his life not to say the wrong thing and not to ask too sharp questions. That's what you get for playing on someone else's terrain.