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@Zak I am super glad I was able to help. Sometimes no force is stronger than any force. Also, even if you try to make someone thirsty for understanding, it will most likely not last very long. By pushing too much you might also make potential seekers uninterested. These are mostly speculations, but hopefully you see where I am coming from. Wu wei

There have been some attempts in the past, the threads are locked x) Thanks for sharing these vision boards guys, you are a real inspiration, do you think art works can work as vision boards too?

@Zak Yes I think i got it Maybe apologize to your friends and family, have a deep, vulnerable talk with them. If you've noticed your mistakes, learn from them. You are really brave to have noticed this stuff and been honest to yourself. Don't do personal development to impress others, to be turquoise or an advanced being or whatever you are trying to achieve, just don't. The juiciest stuff is in humility, selfless serving and present moment, no need to say anything to anyone. Just when you see that others are ready and you feel qualified enough to help, then you aren't pushing anything, but actually cooperating with the other person - that is when positive change happens. Good luck! @Arcangelo Watch out for projections and judgements. Are your parents really that bad?

@Raptorsin7 Do you think you could attend a retreat with a shaman? Maybe they will show you new ways. I am just worried about you when you say you are mess, do you think it is a good idea to trip alone at this point?

@kagaria If you want to get serious about meditation, stop misleading yourself and others with concepts.

Psychedelics can help you become more aware of your subconscious, which can be great for spotting flaws in your personality, such as projection, unconscious desires etc... But I wonder if it is a good idea to take them in your current situation, I am not so experienced with psychedelics. Just gotta be honest about what is happening.

@Zak This seems to me like a cognitive dissonance, I wonder if you are telling us the whole truth or not. Maybe you are still unconscious of it and that's ok, just keep noticing things, as you are already doing. Do you do personal development to feel happy, to find the truth or to feel superior to others? Imagine there was nobody there to perceive you as superior, not a single being, would you still be meditating and doing yoga etc..? Try asking yourself that. Also, what exactly do you mean by the people succeeding, what actually changes in them? It rarely happens that someone's life changes so much where you would call it success, when they have been given an unsolicited piece of advice.

@Zak I am just wondering, do you feel jealous for their success? Do you feel good about how your own life is progressing?

@modmyth It helps me with teaching online because people sometimes think I might have some sort of qualification to be a teacher, even though I do not, so they trust me more @mandyjw Thanks for sharing.

Some people now think that going to school is amazing after being stuck at home for so long, but it's also correct to some extent to say that school keeps you away from learning. I can see it in myself and my friends, that we have so much time to do our own projects and learn that way, me and my friends have started a language teaching business with facebooks ads, we already have like 30 clients, my other friend learnt how to edit videos and audio recordings, plus many things about graphic design, there is so much more time to go on spiritual retreats, yoga classes, for doing sports, reading books, I mean, you can do that normally too, it's just that you have half the time and energy for it. I am seriously thinking about taking a gap year at 17, since I am already accepted to a school.

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@soos_mite_ah So as a girl who maybe isn't so „mature“ (by your definition - not having a career, money etc...), you can still attract mature guys. Because guys don't value independency and self-sufficiency as much as girls do, they value different personality traits much more. But if that is something that is bothering you, these days, it is very easy to make money online.

@Sigitas It doesn't lead you anywhere, you are left with this here-now. Don't listen to what Leo says you should do, listen to your good feeling and follow that, do the things you like doing.

I think it's very devilish to think how amazingly loving you are, because you have experienced love or whatever. Firstly because those who keep thinking and talking about mystical experiences are usually the least woke and also those who do not learn and take action according to what they have learned probably live a passionless life.

What I noticed is, that kids (mostly pre-school) often naturally have the qualities we want in others and in ourselves, like confidence, focus, happiness, energy... So I guess it would be possible to bring meditation to schools but maybe for some people in the conventional education system, it's just too late.

@soos_mite_ah You can learn a lot from both socializing and solitude. Just follow the thing that feels right, don't force anything.

@SQAAD Fear like this is a predictor of suffering, not a predictor of what will actually happen Also by not fearing or not resisting the existence of rape, genocide, racism, child molestation, heart disease, corona virus etc., you are not adding wood to the fire of the issue, you are just feeling better for your own sake. And when you feel better, it's usually easier to work on stuff.

@PukkaDanks Exactly! It's hard to be present just sitting around, not having anything to do and not knowing what to do. @Sigitas Thanks for the recommendation. Maybe you have a good intuition, if you are doing the practices without being here and now, it's hard to enjoy them to their fullest. You can never become something you are not, you can just think that you did.

Why do you think mostly psychopaths live in the present moment? At no point on the path should you be going for something that doesn't feel good, that is not true, or become somebody/something you are not already in this moment. Do the practices and things that work for you, only you know what's the best for you, from your inner feeling.

@flowboy That really sucks that you wasted your time and resources. At least you've set down your boundaries and won't invite him to tripsit again, many people would have problems saying no to others. This is the kind of good quality post we need more of on this forum.

Maybe the lack of connection has a different root cause - too much time spent online together, only a few real life interactions, not listening deeply to the other one and trying to present mostly your own ideas, being decenteralized with confusion about the other because of the before mentioned assumptions... I don't know you, so these might be just speculations, but consider.

What about the number of people tripping together, was that ok, or would you rather try again alone or in a smaller number? Perhaps it's really hard for anyone to look after 6 children at one time... But yeh he wasn't ready, at least you know now and can share it with us, thanks a lot for that

Are you here and now throughout the day, or are you trying to time travel and be in a different state than in the here and now? Maybe you could also try yoga with a teacher, it is also a physical and energetic exercise, so you are working on more types of „muscles“ at the same time. And the results come more immediately. But never try to have results in the moment, if you are not having them. That is just not how it works to be in the present moment.

@soos_mite_ah Hey, I think I can relate. Perhaps what could help is to stop focusing on others, but on yourself. What feels good for you, what feels bad for you. Then you just follow the good feeling. Perhaps one on one conversations (be it in a proffesor's office or a café, doesn't matter almost at all) resonate with good feeling, and huge parties with meaningless group chats resonate with bad feeling. I guess you might not have as much life experience as someone older than you, but by trying different things and seeing what works for you, you will estabilish good values that you can trust almost always and also gain more life experiences, as you're gonna weed out the unfulfilling things and trying new, interesting things that you can do. Also, try not to limit your social circles to your school or some other institution, that can seriously limit you. Perhaps look up some interesting events in a nearby city and go there, since you will have a much higher chance of meeting someone you resonate with. If you don't have social anxiety and low self-esteem, it should be easy to chat them up. For example I love learning languages, so at the age of 14, I used to go to speeches of professors to the department of Asian studies in my city about the Chinese and Japanese culture and language, and I met amazing friends there, most of them older in age. I get it can be harder as a girl, since people will want to date you, but still, you can reject them if you don't feel like it, or start a relationship, if you think it is a good idea. Don't limit yourself to spirituality, often highly developed people have a passion or a life purpose, that they are working on, so you might not even think they are worth talking to, if you don't consider this about them. Good luck.

@Sandy6 See, if you yourself selflessly shine on others, there will be more than one sun for you. Just walk out of the shadows and look around There is not a single doubt about you in my mind.