EternalForest

Good luck with your search, however, also be careful getting too attached to online friends... Are there some people I met online in the 2010s that I'm still talking to on a weekly basis? Yes, absolutely! But are there also some people I grew a deep connection to, only for them to abandon or delete their account without notice, completely crushing me? Sadly yes, it happens all the time. So if you start getting attached, take it slow and remind yourself you don't really know someone until you've actually met them. Most of these people you talk to online you will never meet, and while that's okay, you also need to protect your emotions and be open to the possibility that they could leave at any time for any reason, and due to the nature of the internet you may never know who they really were. These aren't the same as in person friends who you have a tangible connection to, and visit their houses, and meet their mutual friends and family. You've gotta remember, as good of friends as you think you may be with these people, you've most likely never been to their house and never will. It's a hard reality to face, but if you face it now, you'll save yourself a lot of heartbreak, trust me. Have as much fun with them as you can, with proper emotional safeguards in place, prepared for any day with them to be your last.

The Understanding Solitude post was one of your best, Leo. Great work.

Well first off, Einstein obviously. For both his scientific and creative insights. Next, Alan Watts is way up there in terms of spiritual wisdom and consciousness! Mother Teresa's philosophies were invaluable and enlightening. For someone still alive, Neale Donald Walsch is brilliant as well and changed my life with his messages from God. Finally, I think George Washington had a lot of political wisdom we can still learn from today.

Certain internet posts I've made got a bunch of backlash but in real life I've never been "cancelled" because I don't hang around people who believe in that. My friends hold authenticity and being uncensored as our top values. The people that would "cancel" us were probably repelled by us in the first place haha

It's sort of an unwritten rule to not comment on extremely old posts that haven't been active in months. However, if you genuinely have something valuable to add to the thread, I don't see why you can't revive it. So no, there's no strict expiration on threads here.

I wouldn't use the term "fault". The situation is: expectations of men are unfairly higher, and their critiques of women aren't welcome. All of society (both men and women), perpetuate this.

Men who don't do "empathizing, emotional labor, and communication-related stuff" don't tend to last in relationships nowadays or even get into one. What you're saying might've been true in the 20th century but not in the 21st century.

And you have every right to do that. However, before you do, make sure you aren't prematurely/misjudging someone because they give off the "vibe" of a misogynist but aren't actually a misogynist, that's all.

I disagree with the idea that both genders are blameless, when society doesn't treat it that way.

If I was a woman I would not necessarily be the same. Plenty of women can see things from a male perspective.

Lack of discipline comes from lack of desire. If you wanted to do something enough, you'd do it. It really is that simple.

Type #2, and it's not even a question. Constant sex without intimacy would be torture.

In my experience, I disagree. It's treated like it very much is the job of men to perfectly sympathize with female pain or they're "not a good friend" or even boyfriend.

This would be all be fine if it was a two way street and you could sympathize with Incels who avoid women out of discomfort and claim avoiding women makes their life better. You just don't seem to view men and women on equal playing field and then expect men not be upset about it or react in a certain way. We will.

Get back in touch with your inner child! Make noise, draw, run outside, watch cartoons, play games, be silly, sing, yell, have fun!

For the record, just because they don't want to vote for the left wing candidate doesn't mean they're practicing group think. And the left isn't inherently better than the right... However I will say, their actual reasoning sounds very sexist and stupid, and you should address that when talking to them, and don't bring the Spiral into it because although it's helpful once you know it, it won't make much sense if they don't. And you can't fully explain unless you have at least a full hour, realistically (which not everyone is down for). Instead of the name calling and shallow Tik-Tok level rhetoric, try and focus the discussion more on actual policy. Focus on how the other candidate's policies will help them more. Also understand that it might be a bigger issue than you, meaning: Your goal should be to plant seeds of growth, not change their opinions through one conversation.

Thanks for the optimism, sincerely... usually I'm hearing about the impending collapse of society nowadays so it was a breath of fresh air to read this

You think it would be attractive for guys to approach women with the goal of "weeding out feminists" the way you do with Incels? Doesn't sound productive to me. Instead of silently judging, why not try and add a "good vibe" to the interaction yourself? Personally, I wouldn't like the feeling that if I make one wrong move, I'm put in the wrong basket... In fact, I'll purposely exude "bad vibes" with pride to ward off the majority and find the people who want to stick around to connect on a deep authentic level.

You might be able to live with it for a few years, maybe even a decade, but it will weigh on your soul eventually, make no mistake of that.

This is why you can never truly "get away with murder". Living with that guilt every day of your life is pure agony. After a certain point the guy had to admit to himself that life in prison with a clear conscience would be better than living that lie one more day on the outside.

Agreed. The playlist is fire!! Then again, Leo's always had great taste in music! And this new playlist even amended some of my issues with the last one (overly biased towards 90s/2000s pop when choosing pop songs, and not including quality tracks from other eras) I love it.

Even if this was all true in the distant, distant future, I don't know if you realize how primitive AI generated content is right now. The only reason we think it's amazing is that it's made by computers. The content itself is awful. It cannot compete with humans on any level. Think of your Top 10 favorite films, YouTube channels, shows, albums, books, etc. How many were AI generated? Exactly. You might say AI hasn't been out long enough to compete with human generated content. But try this: only consume AI generated content for even one month. You'll realize how empty it all feels. AI generated Actualized.org videos can't compete with real ones, it would only be a cheap imitation. (Keep in mind, I'm not against using some AI tools in the creative process. I'm referring to the dismal quality of completely AI generated productions).

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