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So, Ive been dating a girl Im really starting to like the past few months. However, things have not been easy. Actually, Its all going smooth, except for spirituality coming into the mix. There have been several times now when I have gone into some chakra openings and samadhi states when we are together. This really freaks her out, because it can take quite a while without me communicating, or not breathing, or moving wierd, or whatever. This makes her feel really lonely and uncomfortable. She has been on the brink of a panic attack a few times. In the meantime, at that moment. I aint in no position to comfort her either. She isn’t into spirituality, and knows little about what is going on. Were trying to figure out how to move forward. Our plan now is to communicate more, tell her more about spirituality and what these experiences are. Hopefuly we can create understanding and trust, so we can transform it into something beautiful rather than something sad. Does anyone have similar experiences, or any advice?

Interesting. I have started to notice indeed how big of an impact it can have. Thanks for the post, made a lot of sense to me. ??

Flying in with another update. Woohoo we're getting close to the opening. From the 1st of August I will get the keys to my room! So let's see what the situation is like, where I stand, and what steps I still need to take. I've made quite a bit of progress once again and am happy with where I am at. I have: - The first version of the site is complete! Check out Satoris.nl! In a week and a half I'm meeting with my friend to update some more things, but this is good enough to start marketing, and start the launch. - The logo is done (also visible on the website). Managed to do create one for only 100 euro's - I've practiced more. The support I have received is quite amazing. Literally,I've a friend of mine bought a foldable massage table for me out of the blue, so I have had the chance to practice more at home. - I've been spreading the message more. Found some places and connections to market with flyers and stuff. Been getting more comfortable with the overall idea, internalizing it. Watched more video's on techniques and stuff. So, from the first of August, I will have my spot. I decided I am not in a huge hurry to fill my time up with clients in the first weeks. The first weeks I plan to massage a lot of friends and family for free/low prices (I am open only the full Sunday and Monday evening). Just so I can get comfortable in the place, practice my techniques and really feel ready. However, it might also take a while before clients from the outside will start coming in. So, I will use this week to get some more things in place, and start marketing from next week onwards. What I will do this week: - Make and print flyers. Now that I have the logo, pictures, text and everything, I can make the flyers. I will to this in the next couple of days and print a bunch of them. - Make the Facebook page. I've already opened one and linked it to my website. However, it's still empty. Therefore I want make it nice with pictures and texts etc. - Google search. I have to figure out how to become more visible on google searches. I expect this will be an important stream of potential clients. At least, that's how I have looked for massages in the past. Just google it and see what pops up and resonates with me. I know someone who is specialized in this, so I will contact him and see if he wants to help me for free/cheap. Otherwise I will have to look for some other source, or see if I can find something online myself. - I have already planned a few massages with friends and family in the first weeks, but I want to plan more. So, that's what I want to do this week. After this week I will have everything in place to really start the marketing process. I will start spreading the flyers to stores and contacts I have gathered, and going door-to-door near the area of my business. I will start calling hotels and stuff to see if I can collaborate with them. I will make a post on my personal facebook. And overall just get the word out through my social circle and whatever opportunities I get!

My highest value is growth. I value growth a lot in both my personal life and see it as a huge component of my life purpose to help others to grow. I'm still young and have been on the path of mastering my own life relatively shortly, around two years. Now, the progression I've made that time is quite amazing to me, and I feel like I'm really on the right track now. I'm convinced that my life purpose will be centered around helping others to grow as well. However, at this point, I feel like I'm not developed enough to help others. Ultimately my life purpose will be centered around spirituality I think, but it feels like that is definitely 5, 10, 15, 20 years down the line. For the upcoming years I want to do it through having my own business that provides training and maybe coaching for people within organizational settings. I've got a little bit of experience with this, but starting my own company is a different animal. The plan I made recently is to open my own massage salon, part-time, besides my studies. I've got little experience with massage, but loved it from a young age. I figured it would be a nice stepping stone. Getting experience with starting my own business, gathering clients, building self-esteem etc. However, I had my first lesson today out of a 10-lesson 1-on-1 course I'm doing. This made me doubt whether I am ready for this step as well.. as my notions of giving massage were quite naive. I didn't take into account the emotional and energetic maturity that is required to successfully help both clients whilst remaining stable yourself. I've got just over a year of studying left, after which I have to become financially independent. Therefore I am now trying to build something up that can at least partly support me by then. The problem is that I don't feel ready enough to do it through the paths I can imagine for myself now. Feels like I need a few more years of self-mastery to actualize any of them. I'm not really sure what to do. Are these mostly limiting beliefs I have that I just need to bust through with radical action? Or should I listen to my self-doubt and build my self-esteem in these areas more slowly and gradually?

@Pilgrim Interesting. I don’t know much about this subject, but appears to me that you are taking a healthy approach. Good luck ?

I think there might be more to this twin flame business than merely fulfilling each others needs well. I personaly have no experience with it, but was talking to a women yesterday with a quite intense experience. she explained how she met this guy who totally blew her away from the moment they met. Everything was clicking, as if they knew eachother for decades. They had the exact same favorite songs, ideas, styles, all that. More than that she also had intens energetic experiences whilst being around him. She could start shaking like crazy and other things like that. They separated after a few months because it was too intens. They worked on themselves for a year or so, and now he appeared back into her life.

Time for another update, I've made some good progress over the last few weeks: - I have finished the massage course! Got the certificate and everything - I took an additional lesson from a Chinese massage therapist. It was quite useful and we are staying in touch. He was really kind and said he would be happy to provide further instructions for free, which I might follow him up on in the upcoming weeks. - I signed the sub-renting contract! From August on I will have a completely furnished room for a Sunday the full day and Monday in the evening. - I had a photoshoot last week. We spend the whole day taking pictures of both me giving massages and just me in different poses and contexts. I will receive all the pictures in the upcoming days. For so far I saw, they are very professional and great. This will be perfect for my website, social media, and flyers. - I completed the business side. I have registered myself as a business under the name Satoris. - I have layed the foundation for the website. Satoris.com is my domain name. Together with the friend that is helping me, we choose a template for the website. - I also spread the word a bit more. Talked about it with friends and relatives. Got more comfortable with the idea. I also talked to the owner of my local gym, she was excited about my business and would help spread the word and see if she can hook me up with contacts. - I bought some materials I need; towls, massage oil, etherial oils, candles. Overall, I am very satisfied with the progress I made. However, there is still a lot to be done before my business will be operational: - An important step I need to make soon is to make a logo. I need it for everything; the website, flyers, social media, etc. I had a contact who makes logo's, but her pricing starts from 450 euro's for complete process, but would digitalize a completed sketch for 150 euros. My budget is actually max. 100 euro's... Does anyone have a good idea for how to quickly make a logo in a cheap way? - Next weekend I am meeting with my friend to work further on the website. My plan was to finish it.. but I am not sure that will work out. Next few days I should get the pictures from the photoshoot. Together with the info and ideas I have we should come a long way. However, it will be hard to get the logo in time.. - As soon as I have the pictures and logo I will make flyers and start spreading them. - Pretty much what I need is to get the logo, website, social media and flyers in place. As soon as I have this I can start the marketing process, which will be very important. If I have this I can go to local stores and places I know to spread the flyers. I can start contacting hotels and other places to offer my services. I can start boosting my google visability and reviews, etc. - From August on I will have the room. To get comfortable I will use the first few weeks mainly massaging friends and family for free/low price. I have already planned a few, but will continue to plan more in the upcoming weeks. So yeah, It's a matter of tying all the 'hard' stuff together in the upcoming weeks so I can start marketing in time. Because I will use the first few weeks for friends and family, it won't be a big deal it I won't have many customers yet in the beginning of August. However, I definitely want to start marketing when August starts.

@Leo Gura I’m watching the new episode on authorithy, but am confused on the science part. the religion, as you said, is easy to see hoe it becomes a vicious cycle after a few question. Also, like you say, science is to a large extend based on authorithy in, to me, quite obvious way in the sense that you have all these labels we give people, journals, etc. But, If you would strip that away. If you would only look at empicical data. Just observe something and take notes, like science at least preaches it should be done, than still it would be a game of authority? would you not come to at least relative truths? Or do you than run into deeper problems in the sense that you are giving logic, symbols, objects, etc autority? is there anything to this notion of ‘relative truth’?

Hmm so the kind of ‘core’ of science, the direct experience and observation part that is preached is valuable, but highly corrupted by devilry? Kind of like the ideas of god in religion are reversed 180 degrees?

I’m just sitting here thinking, if we wouldnt have the ignorance we have all around us, in our society, the people around us, and ourselves, this whole game would be over wouldnt it? the whole sharade would just seize from being.

To be is to be ignorant?

Are you sure?

Would it?

Thank you all for the replies. This post made me realize the answer to a question that has been lying under the surface for me for quite some time. I've made a post before discussing my doubt between going deeper into consciousness work or focussing on 'my life'. I believe I framed it as 'realizing life is a dream' and 'mastering the dream'. I am choosing my priority for the next couple of years will be on mastering my life. I am at a critical point in my life, where the decisions and effort I put in will have a huge impact on what trajectory I will be headed in. I made a calculation, with the combination of business, master, teaching, habits, etc. I have scheduled from September onwards I will make a jump of like 20% in 'productivity' (I have a system with which I track my progress). In addition to that, I am also dating a cute girl . So if I want to succeed in all of my endeavors I won't have time for a lot of spirituality. Also, I feel that with the consciousness work, meditation, theory, psychedelics, yoga, etc., of the last two years, I went through an upsurge that kind of made my life fall apart in a sense. Now it has crystallized at a new level. Quite stable relationships, cognitive functioning, states, etc. Of course this distinction/duality can't be made as simplistic as I just put it here. Also, it doesn't mean there won't be any energy going towards it. It just means that for now it won't be my priority. I think it's good to clarify this for myself, otherwise, I might find myself torn between the two, not being able to formalize a clear vision. I'm only just in my twenties, so I will FOR SURE be back to it. The things I have realized, the way my reality has changed, there is no way spirituality won't be back as the nr. 1 priority.

Hmm, yeah, I agree. This part has been proven to be quite challenging to me. I’ve noticed myself accepting these parts of girls at the surface level, but actually deny deep down deny my own feelings. like ‘its totally ok’, because thats what I felt I should be doing, but actually feel disgust, or reject ?

Approaching girls like they are your sister might be good advise for some guys with particular issues. However, a lot of guys are afraid of showing their sexuality and creating sexual tension with a girl. Not smart to approach girls as if they are your sister than. unless you want to fuck your sister ??‍♂️?

☝?☝?☝? Also, genuine interest in girls, acknowledging their beauty. Pretty much, stage green and upwards teachers are pretty rare.

Thank you all for the replies, I’ve been shaking and screaming a lot, and it feels really good ???

So, I’m going through this ego backlashy experience atm. I just want to distract myself with whatever, and find it hard to get myself to do anything. I have this urge to shake my body and scream. I wonder wether I should go with this urge, or try to relax my body and just let it flow through me.

Just had this idea after you posted you won't be shooting a video this week because you are integrating an awakening. This term "integrating" is thrown around quite a lot in personal development. "It's important to integrate your psychedelic/mystical experiences" But I don't hear a lot about what that actually means. Does it mean you should for example take notes during trips and then make specific concrete action lits of what to do? Or is it more loosy goosy, meditate well, don't fall back a sleep kind of thing? How do you integrate psychedelic/mystical experiences in an effective manner?

Nice to watch, you know ??

A friend of mine asked me what it’s like when I’m in a mystical type state. I said it’s like you are in a dream where you took XTC ?

@Hellspeed Doesn't the ego create all notions of evil? Because you are identified with a part of reality and trying to sustain it, you create notions of good and bad. To survive you must see the things that destroy you as evil. And then I suppose when you realize you are god, this whole evil thing becomes part of infinite love. All conceptualization here btw, I might just start calling you evil if you don't agree with me soon

@Spiritual_Seeker Thank you, that means a lot to me I'm simultaneously working on a workshop to help students to create a vision for their life. Decided to apply some of the principles I'm putting together to the massage business. This is what I came up with: I want to have a massage business by the beginning of September that is up and running. A fully functioning business with everything in place that is necessary for it to run smoothly. A nice website, a nice room with towels and oils and music, social media, well-rounded packages with pricing and everything. A growing client base with happy customers that promote me through word of mouth. Nice flyers I can hand out at any time I want. Contacts with other businesses that refer clients to me and help me to promote and grow. I also want to feel comfortable and confident in the business. Handling clients with ease. Talking about my business to others without any resistance, do it proudly. Feeling like I am really contributing to the health and mind state of my customers. Being pleased through the fact that they are pleased.