SageModeAustin

this is the core of my jealousy. its a need i want on a fundamental level, but i don't know if this is fulfillable. i also dont know if i can transcend this because its such a deep core need/want of mine ever since i was a child i remember wanting to be famous and really good at something. i notice it affecting my relationship in subtle ways. Edit: the answer it to be self-less. All of the MC's in any game, story, book, movie share this quality

I read half of it, but I don't have time right now to read the rest. I just wanted to respond. I want to be like Luffy from one piece. He is self-less in ways, he is willing to die for what he loves (his friends) and his dream of becoming the pirate king. He does not care about fame, status or money. He does not care about the status quo, he questions even the highest of kings just because he's truly authentic and follows his intuition completely 24/7. He inspires all of those around him that he meets. He has great adventures, great relationships, great sense of self, enjoys to party, enjoys food. He is a light to this dark world, he is like a child with the pain tolerance and determination of a God. Yet, he is completely innocent at the core with no "ego" in the practical egoic sense. He is light-headed and just does what he wants like a child enjoying life to the fullest. He is naturally aligned with truth and therefore benefits the world even to those he defeats in battle. He is extremely intelligent, extremely intuitive, aligned with the universe in an inspiring intuitive way. I want to be the equivalent of this in real life because it seems the most fun/freedom/meaningful life. To be self-less like this and to enjoy life while doing it, whilst also inspiring others around me is epic

@Nahm can you elaborate on this? I'm not sure if I fully understood it. it sounds like you are saying use my jealousy to fuel my desire to be the character I want to be?

@Mason Riggle sounds like skepticism and just doubt/overthinking

@Liliaself-less doesn't mean not loving yourself. theres a quote that explains this well. "think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world" i believe its by miyato musashi but it points to what im getting at @WelcometoReality by asking myself how can i be self-less right now? throughout the day you'll find your brain finding ways in which u are selfish, and it auto-corrects

@snowyowl i like this. this is what im talking about here. i am currently in a relationship and find myself feeling more special to them as it gets deeper. also can u send me ur pfp? i really like it

@VeganAwake thats only true if its inauthentic self-less-ness. Someone who is woke and awake of the profound suffering of this world will naturally be self-less because when u realize this it becomes obvious it is the most meaningful and noble thing to do

@Superfluo i came to the conclusion that you need to be self-less to be the MC. Think about it. Being self-less has the most resistance. As opposed to fulfilling egoic desires needs and wants living in that bubble. The path with the most resistance is the path few will take. If you look at any other main character in any movie or story they are ultimately self-less. They want to help others on an authentic level. As for the side characters are selfish and live in their own bubble of the ego. Yes you're right you can't be self-less if your not authentically self-less. But it can be achieved. By raising you self-less-ness by 1 degree it is tangible and decreases chances of ego backlash

Ty

nope they aint ready

we started off as friends and now were dating. its going great. shes a gemini and ima libra , were extremely compatible with a few differences, but overrall its going too good to be true. how do i transcend fear of losing it. rn my solution is to apply self love and live from my heart

@flowboy I have goals and things I want to do that I work towards everyday but I wouldn’t say it’s my “LIFE PURPOSE”

I finally may have my opportunity this weekend to bring her over to my apartment for wine and jaquzzi after being friends for months we have finally started to move forward. BUT, this is where it’s hard because if I fuck this up then I risk losing the friendship and potential relationship IVE ESCALATED before in the past but it’s usually with girls I have no real emotional history with, like one night stands, so it’s easy because the loss isn’t as deep if it doesn’t work out. my idea so far is just to go with the flow and let my sexuality be turned on by being in the moment with her and just let it naturally “take over” but danm that’s a lot harder than it sounds cause we both have social anxiety when we’re with each other ?

A superconductor can have ZERO RESISTANCE. Meaning extreme electrical currents like a lightning bolt will not affect the super conductor at all due to it's non-resistance. It goes through and out, like nothing happened. A lot of spirituality and actualization work is all about non-resistance and experiencing everything you're experiencing without resisting it at all. David-Hawkins talks about how he got enlightened through non-resistance. He said whatever you resist, exists. Only because your resisting it you are experiencing it. So far i've been contemplating this daily and found that physically relaxing my muscles helps, but i want to know if there is more i can do to become more like a super conductor So i'm wondering what are the mechanics of ABSOLUTE TRUE NON-RESISTANCE?

theres this girl im seeing and she has an eating disorder. id like to talk to someone who actually has an eating disorder so i could talk to them about it because when she opens up to me she is embarrassed especially since we both like each other so its a slow process, but id like to be fully equipped and know everything i can about it. ive researched lots on it already and have a very good idea of how serious this disorder is but id like to be able to talk to someone who actually has it

@Shin yes ;D agreed mate

@Shin thats for if you've had sex a bunch of times we not there yet ;p

@intotheblack ty! yea theres a lot of trauma towards relationships in this 21st century so i can see why

@Preety_India <3 thankyou @Leo Gura got it. thanks.

@Leo Gura yes.

@integral yeah but how @Bando yes and yea u right just gotta enjoy the ride

@Harlen Kelly whoa calm down I’m not terrified of losing her lol. I can attract several woman it’s not a problem of abundance. For me it’s just like sad and hard to accept that things just may not go how I want it to in the end. And by no means am I needy. I’ve learned not to be needy the hard way with other failed “relationships”

@Leo Gura how would i go about this tangibly?

@Gianna yes i can see that. i prioritize empathy over sympathy so she doesn't feel somewhat humiliated. my mom always gave me overt sympathy with struggles i had and it did not help. whenever she brings it up i try to keep my roles as to just be there for her and encourage recovery from professionals and that it is POSSIBLE to recover if you get help. this way the dynamic doesn't become hero savior/victim toxic dynamic.

i was at a really low point in my life at the time. When you hit this point you really DO NOT GIVE A FUCK AT ALL. I remember i drove to this bridge, but as soon as i walked out of my car there was five sheriff cars all surrounding me. They all got out of their car and the head sheriff asked me what that tattoo on your ankle meant? he was trying to break the ice it was just a normal ankle tattoo nothing crazy, but I didn't care so much that I said it signifies all the people I've killed. He said oh really? How many? I said five. Then i got sent to the psych ward hahaha