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No-fap for several weeks now, and aside from morning wood, I only get an erection when I talk to or hug a woman. Sometimes, not all the time.

Salvia is legal and readily available in the US though, which is why I'd assume people would be interested, while the other more powerful ones aren't easy accessed if you're not in the know.

Emotions aren't real, they are the language you use to describe sensations you experience. Sensations, and inner dialogue can easily be manipulated, so you can design whatever mood you want to be in. Psychology is mainly focused on addressing abstract things like thoughts, feelings and meanings, not the root of the issues, which lie in your physical body. Leo does address this in certain videos about body awareness and kriya yoga, but all the rest of the time, no mention is made of the importance of the body, and you might get the idea that sitting on your ass reading, contemplating and meditating is the apex of life. Body stagnation, sedentary habits, lack of exercise are main reasons most people feel depressed, or empty. To bounce myself out of a depressed state (or prevent that from happening) I have to stretch and massage out any tension I am holding, some very intense deep tissue release on myself usually, and do many full, deep breaths, and some singing or sound meditation. Even just listening to upbeat music, smiling and clapping my hands begin to change my entire mood, and this can be a good way to push yourself towards deeper bodywork when you are in a funk and not feeling like even starting the process of emotional mastery. Or just go for a long walk. Even just an hour of walking outside, with no technology use will help reawaken your zest for life.

My goal is not necessarily to live as long as possible, but to be maximally healthy and able-bodied at any age, physically and mentally. I am also very optimistic that much new technology and ancient wisdom can prevent, or reverse diseases of aging. I'm not afraid of death itself, and the first world is becoming more accepting of compassionate suicide as an alternative to a slow and/or painful death. You've probably heard a recent news story of 104 year old man who went to the Netherlands to be euthanised, since he had declined so much he no longer enjoyed living. The best way to die would probably be in your sleep, but even if you have end-of-life care, you will be so high out of your mind on drugs you won't worry about anything.

If this was a guy saying it frustrates me that girls might not want to have sex with me, he would be reprimanded for shitposting, called an entitled creep, and told to just deal with it and man up I assume.

There is bountiful detailed information about how to start a business where you are working from a computer or providing a service to people in person, but very little in useful guides for how to turn your idea for a physical product into reality. I know I'm not the only one who thought about this, and maybe you can help point me in the right direction. For some very specific examples, I've had the idea to make the perfect stress ball or squeeze toy. First, I imagined having something that looks just like the hand therapy ball pictured here, but it would be made of a soft and squishy material that is very comforting to squeeze in your hands. Seemed very possible that such a product could become like the new fidget spinner, the hottest hand-held comfort toy. I never did anything about this, since I don't know any materials scientists, feel totally lost as to how I would even test and develop the perfectly engineered rubber gel substance to use. More recently though, I came across these scented water beads by chance, and it suddenly occur to me that I could just use these instead, and have the exact type of feel I want for my product. So I actually bought some containers of water gel beads and balloons, and made a few prototypes. I was super impressed by the how good it felt to squeeze them between my hands, and in the first minutes of playing with it, thought I could just bring these prototypes to someplace willing to develop and fund the idea. However, every bead ball I made broke open sooner or later, even with the strongest water balloons that only pop if you stomp on the with both feet. I also saw online that these things are actually made as professional products. All dirt cheap and imported form China, I ordered a few last month and they are taking several weeks to arrive. In the reviews on Amazon, there are many complaints about them breaking open and making a huge mess, just as my balloon ones had. So I'd guess to make an effective product, this would also require engineering a durable outer shell material that won't ruin the feel of squeezing the gel beads. So supposed you wanted to make some things like this, but have no experience, connections or capital to begin with? I know it would be easy to do if you actually worked at the creative department in a company like 3M or Staples. But I feel totally lost as to how to go about turning any product ideas I may have into real life creations, and also a source of income. Decided to just share these ones openly since I know by now these ideas are not original, and I'd just keep sitting on them anyway. If someone who sees my post decides to take this and run with it, all the more power to you. All I would ask is detailed explanations of the entire process of starting a business and getting the product made and sold, so I can apply that to other things from my unending stream of creative ideas.

As a male, sexual transmutation is as simple as retaining semen, and channeling sexual energy into things other than primal instincts, which comes part and parcel with abandoning watching porn and fantasizing about sex. Basically it's doing no-fap, and doing things with the sexual energy other than letting it fester, could be as simple as meditation, exercise, or learning. I hear women that have talked about experiencing sexual transmutation, but I have trouble grasping this, since refraining from ejaculation is the driving force behind male sexual transmutation, but women don't ejaculate. Sure, women can get addicted to porn, the act of pleasuring themselves or having sex, and stopping those addictions will boost their energy, but there isn't any loss of nutrient dense substance like semen, and I don't think female menstruation has any similar effect as male masturbation, even if they are as close as biological equivalents. Or does it actually work the opposite for women? In the epic Seinfeld episode The Abstinence, George became a socially adept genius while going without sex (and one would assume masturbation also) for several weeks, while Elaine was also not having sex, but it had the opposite effect on her, making her very dumb with low attention span. These are obviously exaggerations, but what happens to George resonates with any no-fapper, and Elaine's timeline might have a basis in female psychology. It would make sense if it does, if male and female are complimentary opposites, the man loses life force by having sex and ejaculating with a woman, while she gains life force by being stimulated by him and "taking" his energy like a succubus. Out of genuine curiosity, and I'd hope to hear from the female perspective on this. I haven't spunked a load for about 3 weeks so far, not exactly counting, and feel very full of life energy. Sleep better usually and less tired when I don't, exercise more, read more, becoming more sociable and able to stay calm in even the most stressful situations. How do women get when they go a month without sex and masturbating?

No need to overthink it so much. If you can accept that there is no objective experience, everything you perceive is some sort of self-manipulation, or personal filter, you can manipulate yourself into being the best version of yourself.

By changing yourself, you are changing the world. Those with the greatest impact aren't meddling in public affairs or going out trying to "help people" but expressing their truth and leading by example.

I am and always have been romantic, but fully realize that romanticism has nothing to do with sexuality or love. I romanticize going for a walk, eating food, listening to music, watching TV late at night, sleeping in, looking at women, and anything else. I can appreciate romantic comedies and lovey dovey music for what it is, a fictional artwork. A man into femdom is being effeminate and submissive, though it your case it might be just a symptom of your larger porn addiction. Creativity I believe is a masculine quality, doing, building, working towards a goal, innovating, detecting problems, finding solutions, pushing against the grain. Being in your feminine as I understand it is being in the flow of life, feeling emotions, having sensual experiences, trusting your intuition, just being instead of doing. Men accepting and embracing their feminine, without crossing over into effeminacy is the ultimate rejection of male disposability. Though it's hard to describe precisely using words exactly what masculine and feminine are, and how people experience them.

@Emerald So, a person who represses their less dominant energy will alway be looking for someone to complete them. So, a man will repress his femininity. And he will desperately come to seek that feminine part of himself through projection onto a women. So, sex will feel like the only acceptable way to be in touch with that aspect of himself. And it will be such a dire emergency to have contact with the feminine that all of his energy will be hung up in a deep need for sex. And his masculine energy that he hasn't repressed will remain "low" in order to seek the feminine separate from himself, as he has repressed his own femininity and made it impossible to have a connection with the internal feminine. Then, because he wants to be attractive to women, he wants to repress his feminine away more and more. So it becomes a repression snowball effect. I see this all the time. This really speaks to me personally, it concurs with my own unusual experience and I am glad that you mentioned it. I have always felt very different than the typical male in that I felt free to seek out feminine energy and emotional stimulation from my environment. But it is commonly considered gay or effeminate for a man to experience sensuality in ways other than through interacting with women, and my guess is this was historically the case since any outlet for mens' desires for feminine energy other than sex was a hindrance to procreation. So in this way it makes sense men cultivating their own feminine energy and/or seeking out other sources of it besides pursuing sex women, like enjoying sensual music, romantic dramas, aromatherapy, platonic cuddling etc. would be lumped in with the same stigma as homosexuality. This only started making sense to me recently upon learning more about the nature of masculine and feminine, most of my life it was very confusing why I was mistaken for homosexual or considered effeminate for being a masculine man drawn to feminine energy. My life now is about complete emotional freedom, reversing all the psychological effects of repressing my emotions as a child, teen and young adult. In this way I freely manifest both masculine and feminine energies, not afraid to fully embody either, but overall balanced. I feel whole and complete, not seeking anything or anyone to satiate me, I can enjoy being around women and not wanting to gain anything from them, which is a wonderful feeling just being in the moment having no expectations or attachments. This contrasts greatly from when I was attached to projecting masculinity and afraid of being seen as feminine, then I felt very needy, and lonely, and angry, falling for ideologies such as PUA, MGTOW and Incel to validate my feelings of emptiness. Having balanced masculine-feminine polarity results in deep inner peace, content with myself just being. I would not want to become overtly masculine feeling like I need a feminine woman as my missing piece. And the main reason I doubt I could ever be in a real relationship is because I value and trust my own feminine more than I could anyone else's. But on the other hand, I watched the videos Leo made about masculine and feminine, and his conclusions were that having complete freedom to explore their feminine sides is the best way to cultivate a deep and powerful masculinity. Friends have also told me I exude a ferocious masculinity in the way I carry and express myself, despite lacking the typical characteristics of a macho man. Being feminine is not the same thing as being effeminate, which I'd describe as being overly meek, submissive, cowardly, yielding, things I have always had a strong aversion to. But when the masculine and feminine are allowed to express themselves and enter into intercourse within an individual, there is no need to express libidinal energy low and it can be transmuted upward toward other things. And there will be a lot more energy produced as well because those polar energies can intermingle freely as they do in all of nature. So a lot more energy is accrued. So, largely it has to do, for both genders with being able to accept all aspects of one's self and all polarities. Then, these polarities will have a lot of tension which creates the libidinal energy that can then be transmuted toward things of a "higher' nature. This makes perfect sense now, I think I am really starting to understand. Sexual lust is extremely polarized energy, operating on lower levels of consciousness. Obviously this is why I have felt to be in a lesser state when I allowed myself to watch porn and fantasize about sexual things even while succeeding physically at refraining for ejaculation. And conversely I have noticed that the moments in life I am most blissful is when my mind-body wasn't focuses at all on sexuality, like it was something that never occurred to me. And the more people abstain from sex and self-stimulation the neural pathways reform, they become less preoccupied with primal urges and focus their consciousness on higher things. Now make me realize how important it is to have something, even something very simple like a meditation practice, to channel that energy to, not let it stagnate. because the non-sexual outlets for connection with the feminine have been blocked off within themselves, there is a deep pressure to be accepted by the feminine in a sexual way in the form of women. And if this is not possible, porn and masturbation is a substitute. And the small amount of libidinal energy that they have is spent on this. Indeed yes! Men addicted to porn and fapping oven think it is because they have a high libido, but it is mostly a craving for the feminine, seeking out a way to immediately address these cravings, and being stuck repeating an unfulfilling habit. Women might have it the same in this way, but for men the problem is compounded by the negative effects of constant ejaculation, which is very draining for the male body and psychology. I won't speculate reasons for this or look up data, but after stopping masturbating the difference is night and day, for me and countless others reporting on their no-fap experiences. Semen retention has a very profound effect on hoe men feel and express themselves, I for one find it much easier to connect with people and my emotional resilience is extremely high when going 2+ weeks without ejaculating. I can't say it's a bad thing to do and no man should wank or have sex except to procreate, but it is something which I have been severely addicted to for a long time, never could indulge in it with moderation, and so I feel 1000 times better cutting out masturbation altogether.

@Shodan What you are referring to is a retrograde ejaculation where semen goes into the bladder. That is not at all what dry tantric orgasms are, this does not involve ejaculation at all, and like I said, it can be done as a sexual act or not even involving the genitals, just using the breath and channeling energy. I wouldn't even call it an orgasm, this experience is just something else, a whole other level of vibration. Ejaculation is a lesser pleasure that feels euphoric briefly, then leaves men feeling numb, drained and depleted. You can have karezza (coitus reservatus) and experience tantric "orgasms" separately, but if your partner is willing, and you are both into self-actualization, why not try to do both and make it absolutely mind blowing? The subsequent chapters in the book explain in detail the process. I shared in the second post what I experienced when I first read Way of The Superior Man, but I don't even do it that often myself since it is just so intense, actually felt like I died for 2 seconds and then my entire body writhing with energy. Afterwards deep full breathing comes automatically, in sharp contrast to ejaculating where it feels like my diaphragm is constricted and I have a shallow upper chest breath.

Natural does not necessarily mean good, and on places like this forum I would hope men want to live extraordinary lives rather than just doing what comes naturally (pun intended). I could post all kinds of books and articles on the profound effects of seminal continence, which is written about through innumerable spiritual traditions, but I stopped trying to share information on it since all that matters most is your own experience. That's why I challenge you to go for a month without ejaculating and see how your life changes! You might be inclined to say that is an extreme reaction to a problem that is only in your mind, but is it really? Even if you didn't fap 5+ times a day like I used to at my worst, you like most male internet users are probably addicted to orgasm and ejaculation. Though you would never know it because you never went without masturbation or sex for a prolonged period, thinking it's not important and just a harmless everyday activity, or even a necessity. You don't need to ejaculate, or believe the reverse-correlation pseudoscience saying it's unhealthy not to. So yes, ejaculation drains your consciousness, but if it is something you do on a regular basis, you have habituated to your lower consciousness state so much that feels completely normal. It will take about a month of abstinence to reach a higher consciousness state, where you feel like a brain fog you were unknowingly surrounded by dissipates right before you. Be forewarned though, your experience of life becomes much more intense, and this includes facing all kinds of negative emotions you distracted yourself from by masturbating, they will come to the surface, forcing you to confront yourself and deal with them.

Because you don't need or want to. If you manage to have tantric sex I doubt she would ask. Besides, in the current year women know about things like no-fap and semen retention, would be no surprise to find you have balls of steel and want sex to be a much deeper experience than busting a nut.

You wouldn't need to ask such questions if you tried not ejaculating for a month and see for yourself. And I would highly recommend this.

Ideally we would view everyone the same, as human beings who have a subjective experience just like our own and whom are intrinsically valuable. This is a virtue I might assume comes to only the most truly enlightened though, for we all have our biases. We can't even delineate where a person's body ands and their personality begins, physical factors will inevitably color the way we perceive others no matter how hard we try not to. I myself tend to be more receptive toward women I find attractive, not because I'm trying to get anything from them, but because I'm so uncomfortable around or indifferent to people in general. So someone who is easy on the eyes, sensually pleasurable to look at and listen to determines how satisfying the interaction is, and before I can evolve I have to recognize that yes indeed, I really am this shallow. Case in point, I ignore all solicitors at the mall asking for non-profit donations, but when it's a pretty girl I let her give me the pitch and enjoy letting her waste her time before I walk away not giving any money. But still, I have enough self-awareness to recognize that any measure of value a person has, or the way they see themselves has nothing to do with how comfortable I am around them, or or useful they are to me personally. Value is arbitrary and subjective anyway, and how developed societies work ideally is recognizing that no one is any less valuable than anyone else. Learning to see everyone as intrinsically valuable probably wouldn't remove my biases, or make me any more sociable.

Ejaculation is draining and depleting, no need to ever do it unless for procreating, it's just a wasteful addiction that feels good briefly then feels empty afterwards, literally like doing drugs. What Deida is suggesting is that you can retain the benefits of semen retention while sexually active. Using the techniques described in that book I learned to have have "tantric orgasms" where energy rushes up your spine to your brain, you feel intense vibrations all over like a full body orgasm and see nothing but a white light for a few seconds. No ejaculation or blue balls, and seems to have the opposite effects than ejaculating, a sense of rejuvenation and healing, being full of life energy. This is very intense, I'm able to do it without genital involvement at all, or with an erection. Don't have the book with me, but as I recall, it said to imagine that you are her body and you feel yourself penetrating her, then you imagine light shooting up from the base of your spine into the back of your head, all while pulling in root lock and breathing very deeply.

Well self-censorship never works for me, since it is just a type of sexual repression. I should not be so emotionally weak that whenever I get aroused by something visual I feel the compelling urge to touch my junk. Life is sexual and there's no getting around it, being a heterosexual male is not a choice. I liked girls way before I knew how to masturbate, so in this sense I should be able to enjoy just looking at them with no need to act upon it, much the same as when I was a child lusting after my teachers, my mom's friends, and my friends' moms. If you are triggered by sexy imagery, I'd think it is because you are attached to your body's arousal mechanisms and feel the need to act upon them. I can browse softcore nudes on tumblr and content aggregator directories and fully enjoy it, much the same as I would walking through an art gallery or nature trail, taking in the view, appreciating the beauty as an observer, and not be tempted to start masturbating again. But the difference now that I'm not masturbating is I avoid watching porn videos, and only look at pics very briefly sometimes, akin to stopping to smell the flowers on a walk.

Well basically yes, although not necessarily. Aren't real monks, yogis and ascetics natural MGTOW? I have observed much overlap between their ways of life and the MGTOW youtubers who don't pursue women. Last hour I replied to a thread wondering what is the point of seeking sex and relationships: Either you are feeling incomplete and are looking for someone you hope will make you happy and give your life meaning, or you already feel fulfilled, a light unto yourself, and have no need to ever seek such things. No reason to at all, except for procreation. The more self-actualized you become, the less you crave external fulfillment, so if there was an endgame it wouldn't be avoiding anything, but no longer needing it. And this is the healthy attitude towards sexuality, non-attachment, not making an ideology out of doing anything, or avoiding anything. MGTOW can mean a lot of different things to different people. Ironically most of the MGTOW content online seems to be obsesses with woman rather than understanding and optimizing male nature. I stopped calling myself that or identifying with the philosophy, because it is a liming belief, and tends to be associated with all kinds of bitterness and resentment. There's really no point, I don't need any excuse for not pursuing sex and relationships, and it doesn't matter to what degree my lacking them is voluntary or involuntary. So just like my favorite 'MGTOW' youtuber Stardusk I transcended the label since it no longer serves me, yet is still a useful umbrella term to find and create content related to personal sovereignty and freedom from the male perspective. One thing I will add is that MGTOW knowledge is extremely valuable in helping men realize how embedded male disposability is within themselves, their society and human nature in general. Men are conditioned to view themselves only in terms of what they can do, not who they are, and they are valued only for their utility, like tools. And I often wonder if this is biologically ingrained in life itself, when there evolved a second gender that does not bear life, is this male gender literally designed to be a self-sacrificing disposable utility made only to provide for and protect the women and children? Will civilizations built upon male disposability crumble when MGTOW becomes as popular as feminism? Or will we enter a golden age where machines, biotech and AI replace all the needs for male disposability, and men and women learn to see each other as equally valuable? I'm somewhat unique in that I never became indoctrinated into male disposability, likely because I have a more balanced masculine-feminine energy, was never interested in typical masculine pursuits. I never considered my own health and well being any less important than that of any woman... if a woman asks me to move a table for her, I tell her I'll carry one end if she takes the other. Enjoying the moment and being in the flow of life are satisfying to me, needing to compete and achieve things, to prove myself and be of service does not. Whenever I had thought of women I desired, my feelings were of wanting to enjoy her and to be with her, not to provide value and protection. It was always about experiencing the richness of life, indulging in sensuality, embodying sensations, not finding meanings. Perhaps this is why this "life purpose" question baffles me so much, since being mission-oriented is said to be the epitome of masculinity, and to say "I am a human being, not a human doing" is essentially rejecting masculinity itself. In conclusion, I've come to see that there is a fundamental disconnect between what I consider to be eudaimonia as a self-actualizing individual, and that which women are attracted to. This realization obliterated any remaining negative thoughts associated with my status as an outsider of the "sexual marketplace." ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ And you have a habit of asking how much time people spend here as an Ad Hominem. How much time do you spend here? I don't come here that often and spend a lot less time online in general, but on these forums I actually take the time to read, think deeply and post well thought out comments to actually learn things. Very disappointed in the quality of replies I often see, so much shitposting, image macro replies and trolling for @(You)s it seems, like trying to up their post count rather than contribute quality content.

I'd highly recommend you read this latest book by Neil Strauss. I picked it up last year because I read The Game multiple times and wanted to see what happened to him, and he describes in depth the long journey from being a player cheating on his fiancée, to experimenting with multiple relationships based on radical honesty and vulnerability, having crazy sex adventures while trying to figure out what the best type of relationship is, and ultimately getting married and having a kid.

Breathe deeply and relax your body, don't try to repress anything, recognize the sensations you feel without attaching any meaning or emotions to them, and simply let them pass, don't get attached. It's not a matter of balls versus brain, it's about becoming a whole person, not at war with yourself; you are not a slave to your libido, you are your libido. The good thing about porn is you can always look it if you forget what a naked woman looks like, and don't feel the need to mentally undress every attractive female you observe. I quit fapping and watching porn, but I still like to look at softcore nudes, because beautiful female form is beautiful. Conversely it feels pointless to quit looking at such things on the computer completely since I might go outside and see equally arousing things right before me.

How are a jnani and selfishness similar?

Here I want to explore the relationship between self-centeredness and compassion for others, broadly speaking, and how I am starting to see both of these as complimentary virtues that come full-circle when fully actualized. When allowing oneself to become unabashedly selfish, self-centered, self-concerned, they inevitably come to realize that the well being of other people and of the Earth as a whole is in their own best interest. A simple example would be the golden rule treat others as you would like to be treated. The selfish person may not have any moral principles, but clearly sees the utility in it for themselves, that it will make their lives easier and more enjoyable to get along with others. And on a grander scale, contributing to anything which harms the natural environment, which inevitably comes back to harm you as an individual, is also against your own self-interest. Furthermore, a selfish person with any self-awareness will see that other conscious beings have selfish desires as well, and in this way be able to feel compassion for those who are feeling exactly the same as them. When allowing oneself to let go of self-centeredness and dedicate themselves towards embodying compassion for all living things, they can see that maintaining their own well being is beneficial to this end, that when being the the best one can be physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, they are best equipped to help heal others, and have an impact towards reducing suffering on the Earth as a whole. Conversely, self-sacrifice under the guise of being compassionate often causes more suffering than it alleviates, or is a display of virtue signaling rather than directed action. So these are my budding thoughts on the matter, selflessness and selfishness may be 2 sides of the same coin. I may be onto something deeper, or I may just be trying to rationalize my own self-centeredness. An interesting thing to note is that while I watched the series on Spiral Dynamics, I recognized myself as having mostly reached stage Yellow personality, but with the exception of retaining a self-absorbed mentality, being primarily concerned with my own happiness, health, safety and comfort above all else. This tendency is indicative of stage red thinking I never grew out of, despite advancements in all other areas of development. Being an extreme introvert with very little life experience but rich imagination, constantly running intricate thought experiments, constructing scenarios in my own head which usually never see the light of day, may have a lot to do with this. Contemplating further the similarities between selfishness and selflessness may be the way to more fully integrate, or maybe not. Would like to hear thoughts on this.

@Sbilko Maybe things like arrogance, anger, frustration, and greed. Are the result of misunderstanding one's own selfishness and being incompletely selfish, believing one is acting in self-interest, while overtly acting in ways that are self-sabotaging. Fully actualizing one's own selfishness would bring them all the way to the other side, to being selfless. Not saying I'm necessarily correct, I just want to push the limits of this topic until more clarity is found. I could just contemplate it deeply myself, but then am likely to get stuck in my own head and miss the obvious errors in reasoning others could point out to me.

Have you watched this recent video yet?