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It can be a bit too much pressure guys don't understand.. I think part of the issue is the built up fantasy they get from porn. Sex addicted doll is pretty hard to live up to especially once you have a child and it's hard to just find the time.

Well if the person in question knows "the truth", wouldn't they alter their beliefs according to it? if that makes sense.

Would this one count?

Well a belief is relative, totally dependant on the individuals thinking. While the "truth" is the same no matter what. That's the best I can think to say it lol

Well, according to the Bible, God has the final judgement. It was a Biblical question, so I answered it based on that. We sin even on our best day, but are saved by God's grace if we believe in Christ, it's kind of what the whole Bible talks about...

I guess I was thinking more along the lines of "relative truth", sorry. It's not the same thing, no.

It's talking about our sinful nature, I guess you could call it your "ego". We are born in sin, we live in sin, we die in sin. You just do your best and accept the things you can't change and move on. Sorry, it's a little hard to elaborate more without knowing the actual verse location.

Just whatever you consider "truth", I suppose, right?

Why would I be crying in a corner...? Did I miss something? I'm sorry, I just haven't been on. As for my username, I don't know... I used to like the TV show "Zoey101" on Nickelodeon when I was like 10-12 and it just kind of stuck with me. And foxes are my favorite animal. I love the color and just fine them absolutely beautiful and I found this picture just gorgeous. Not much of an interesting reason, I apologise.

Yeah, I try, but it's hard when your partner tends to be a little impatient and has a much higher labido I'm working on it though, I am trying.

You believe leo is "god"?

Keep going bro! You are capable of anything and you are living the proof of that! You only get this life once, so do what YOU want with it

A little surprised with all the positive comments about the cheating itself, but whatever. As a woman who fights through sexual anxiety and insecurity daily, all I can say is you need to break up with this girl before you cause damage that can't be fixed. You have every right to be with whoever you want and do what ever you want, but you DO NOT have the right to string someone along in a relationship that they might not want. I'm sure this girl wants a man that will be loyal to her and ONLY her, not a cheater. Personally, I wouldn't want to know. If I found out my husband cheated on me, it would destroy every bit of confidence I have left, which is not much. I think you should break up and tell her that YOU are just not ready for it. It's not fair to keep this girl by your side and create a reality for her that just isn't there, girls are very emotion driven and the longer you stay with her, the harder it will be for her if/when you guys break up because she becomes more and more attached the more time goes by. Cut her loose and just have your fun, nothing wrong with that, just don't get into something you aren't ready to commit to. Plenty of people your age are okay with casual encounters, no strings attached.

Wow the title for this is very misleading lmao I thought @Leo Gura did something crazy in his newest video and was preparing to be very shocked lol Thought I seriously missed something @Pluck I understand where you are coming from, but I don't think Leo thinks he is literally God (please clarify @Leo Gura) I think it's more of a motivational thing to get us to realize we have the power to do and be anything because we are in control of our lives more than we think. I could be wrong, but I can see how you could see a cult mentality forming. There are a few people on here that I have seen take it a little more seriously than they should and talk/defend Leo like he is the second coming of Christ, but I have seen Leo respond to them almost every time to correct and ground them. Again, I could be wrong, just stating what I have observed in my short time here.

winner post right here!

Thank you... Maybe you're right.. I'll just try to not think about it for now and just try to calm down. Man I hate it when I get thrown off my rhythm..

I just got into a fight with my husband over text message today and I am feeling pretty lousy... I feel like I just don't understand him anymore and like he doesn't understand me... We got into a fight this past weekend and I thought we were making good progress because he finally let me talk and tell him things I couldn't before because he would always cut me off... I told him that I have had anxiety towards sex and intimacy for a while now and don't know why... so he said we could work at it and he would try to be understanding... He said he knew it would be tough to work on it this week because I am doing VBS (Vacation Bible School) with my Church Sun-Thurs after work and Physical Therapy (Mon, Wed). So I got home last night from the VBS pretty tired and ready to take a shower, eat and pass out and he got all sad because I wanted to take a shower when we didn't get to see each other all day. So I just skipped it and hung out with him, despite how gross I felt... He asked if we were going to have sex and I didn't really feel into it because I felt gross, but I said "Sure, we can" but he got all moody and said "never mind"... So this morning he was still acting all moody and I KNEW it was because of the sex situation from the night before... So I tried to act cool and still make the morning nice and I dropped him off at work.. When I texted him and asked him how things were he said "Not Great" so I asked what's wrong and he said: "Nothing is wrong. I am incredibly unhappy, for no reason whatsoever. So don't waste your time worrying." WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO WITH THAT?!?!? I didn't want to start another fight so I just said "do you wanna quit texting?" and he said "Will it matter to you if I do? Or will I have to keep pretending that the way you ignore me doesn't hurt at all?" Of course that set me off because I felt like I was doing the complete opposite of ignoring him by skipping a MUCH NEEDED shower because he wanted to be clingy! I don't know what I am supposed to do with this you guys... It's to the point that I feel like he isn't going to be happy unless I am waiting for him in bed everyday... He knew I was tired and I still tried to be into it... but he keeps saying that I am "ignoring" him and "invalidating" him.. It's been 4 DAYS since I admitted to him my sexual anxiety... THAT WAS REALLY HARD AND SCARY FOR ME!!! I was scared it could end our relationship... I thought we reached some point of a little understanding, but this makes me feel like he just said "we'll work on it" just to pay me lip service and went right back to the way things were... I don't know what to do with this you guys... I am trying... but he's not taking into consideration how tiring and stressful this week is for me...

You could always do a test run. Go to wherever it is you think you would be happier and just immerse yourself. Give yourself a minimum time frame (6-12 months probably), get a job, a small place, make friends, and when you reach the end you will have better information to make your decision. You might have to work towards the expenses required, but I think the experience would be worth it, even if you decide to come back to the West.

@egoeimai @Athena Thank you guys... We got up today and I guess things are "okay"... neither of us brought it up... I'm just trying not to feel so depressed again... I worked so hard to snap out of it before and now it feels like it's all undone.... I feel like such a fuck up... it's just sex.. and we are married... been together 10 years... I don't know what's wrong with me...

I feel like all I do is try.. but if it's not sex it's not enough... I am trying to get over my issues but it isn't something that is just going to magically go away overnight... I've ALWAYS felt insecure and uncomfortable with sex... Not to say I don't enjoy it... I just don't like the build up to it and how much pressure it feels like there is to do it...

I agree.... but how could I possibly explain this to him without him getting all defensive and going straight to "you just don't care about my happiness"... Of course I care! I am his wife... the mother of his daughter... I want us all to be happy together...

@Max_V I agree with @Toby What you are feeling is a GOOD thing, if you didn't feel anything at all, you may be a sociopath. But boundaries are good. You need to be able to feel what you are feeling without it bringing you down. That is a very sad story and I know I cry every time I hear a story about a baby's wrongful death, mainly because I think of my daughter, it's okay to feel that. But once I feel that emotion, I let it go. There is nothing I can do or could have done, as sad and cruel as that may sound. I let it go and try to learn from the situation whatever I can, but I don't let it consume my thoughts. It is perfectly normal to FEEL, just know when to let those feelings go once they are felt and which ones to hold onto.

@John Iverson Long time no speak buddy! In my opinion, maybe you just need a little break. Not too long, maybe a weekend to just get your urges out of the way. Relax and just enjoy being. I think the second you make meditation and enlightenment basically a second job, you will lose your focus on it because the focus is on getting it done as opposed to the inward searching it should be on. If that makes any sense lol

Man... I guess you're right... I mean most of our medical discoveries, especially plastic surgery, came about because of Nazi Scientists in WWII... I guess I do see the "benefits" we have received from it, but it doesn't stop it from feeling so wrong and alien to me... I hate how many people have to die because of greed and fear of one group getting more "powerful" than us.. It feels like there is so much evil in the world and I know it's only like that because of the access we have to all the information online.. Truth is, I think we are living in the best time, so far. Like what would be the alternative? I'm often mistaken for African American so there isn't really any time in the past that would be too inviting to me lol Man this whole thing has my mind spinning guess I'm just too low on the "Spiral Dynamics" spectrum to see the big picture. It just makes so much more sense to just be indifferent towards each other. We don't have to agree of like what others do or believe, but it's their right to do it, just like it's our right. Plus it takes so much less energy to just not care about our differences. I don't know... Maybe I'm just too naive and idealistic....

Sorry if this isn't the spot for this, but I just wanted to know your thoughts. So I was listening to my local radio and they were playing something by what sounded like a political comic. Sadly, I only caught the tail end of his bit, but it was some intense stuff. He was talking about how War is nothing more than a profit based business designed to keep "us" (the lower classes) distracted from the shady deals and dirty money switching hands. He kept playing clips from a debate that was held recently (I think it was a Florida debate, I didn't catch it) and commenting on the candidate responses. One gentleman said that if we were to just "end the wars" there would be a lot of people without work and the unemployment status would sky rocket. The comic then began to get a little heated up, he talked about all the money that would be saved from ending these NEEDLESS wars with countries that did nothing but live on land that contained oil. He talked about how he visited Libya before it became a war zone and the Libyans were some of the nicest people he ever met. They were just like you and me, working day to day to make a life for their families. Farmers, teachers, laborers, just normal people. He said all the money saved from ruining these communities could go to creating more jobs in renewable resources to move away from planet harming resources and creating jobs in our healthcare system to make it better for the country and jobs in our school systems to make them ALL great schools to produce better and more capable students that will join the workforce and stand a chance in this insane capital market. He then said "or hey, maybe that money could go to feeding the thousands of Americas that are starving in the streets! But that's not good business folks. There's too much money to be made off of killing innocent folk" And proceeded to shout "WARS ARE LIES" a few times. He, of course, spoke a little about Iran and said that there is no doubt in his mind that we will be at war with Iran soon. "There's too much money to lose by NOT going to war with them." He spoke about how it makes him sick that Trump can sit in his cushy chair and threaten that "WE" will go to war with Iran, but it's not him. It's US that will be out there dying to "defend" some made up prerogative, our brothers, sisters, and children will be the ones dying, not Trump. He will just be sitting back taking in all the money and passing it along to his buddies The NRA, Big Oil, and all the companies that produce the weapons and gear for war. So what do you guys think? Are "All wars lies"?