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  1. A social group is a bit like a rowing boat, in that in order for it to go anywhere, people have to put in the effort of rowing i.e. speaking. This statement is not absolutely true but it may help. It's natural for groups to contain some disagreement over the direction in which to take a conversation, or even the kind of conversation that's worth talking about. What kind of conversation would you find interesting and could you find a group that discusses it?
  2. I get the feeling Jordan Peterson hasn't made much room in his life for promiscuity. He married his school sweetheart, started a family and became a workaholic to the extent that in the years when his testosterone was higher, he prioritised writing papers at his desk rather than... what would you say... seeking out new ink pots into which to dip his pen. Since becoming a global celebrity, it seems inevitable that he's received sexual invitations and I imagine his flirting skills could be high. That's about as far as my imagination goes though.
  3. A teacher is arranging a game of baseball for a school class. A democrat says "we should give each student the opportunity to choose which side they want to play for". A conservative says "the teacher traditionally has the authority to decide the teams, and should do so again this time". Then someone without an ideology comes along. They observe what's being proposed, they consider how the game might turn out if either of the existing proposals were implemented and, if they're feeling bold, they might make a suggestion about the method of team-allocation not being overly important so long as adjustments can be made in order to ensure that the two sides are roughly evenly matched, as this will likely create optimal conditions for a decent practice.
  4. What I personally like about Spiral Dynamics is how it reminds me that the views of those with whom I disagree might be in part seen as a consequence of the development of the groups to which they belong. And me too. It has sometimes helped me relate to others.
  5. Love is only authentic only when it gives freedom Osho
  6. I tick most of the privilege boxes. White male, no disabilities, educated, tall, middle class background etc. etc. As far as I can work out, being born prematurely as well as having several minor but impactful incidents like bouncing off my parents bed when I was 2 and needing stitches, someone throwing a rock through our family's car windscreen (didn't hit anyone) and perhaps having a socially anxious mother, also bit of an insecure (but successful) father, boomer parents who don't know much about "the self" the way communities like this do, resulted in me turning up to school feeling nervous and not wanting to explore the environment and socialise. My personality test results show that I'm very introverted and not very conscientious. I'm 37 years old now and I live a fairly hermit-like life outside of my administrative job. I'm intelligent and did well at school and I did have friends but work always felt way more difficult and I never progressed beyond a low-level job, despite trying different projects and teams and even a different organisation. I also had psychodynamic therapy for two years and saw a life coach, so I know how to set reasonable goals and work towards them but I still feel overwhelmed by the thought of spending more time around people or trying to progress career-wise which seems to require bigger changes. I took a few low-level counselling courses and loved them but the thought of committing to a proper diploma, which I've tried twice now, created so much stress in me, for weeks, that I simply had to let the idea go, for fear of the stress affecting my health. I think this mostly relates to actually meeting clients as a trainee for real. I'm not really interested in any other subjects though. At this rate I'm worried I'll become one of those millennials who are expected to be homeless when they're too old to work, because rents will keep rising faster than pensions. I couldn't afford, or handle the commitment of buying a house and my low income will mean that I have a small pension. Any thoughts from the community would be welcome and I'd be happy to elaborate on any of the above.
  7. @Average Investor thank you
  8. When were we ever not getting real here? We all know, or at least suppose, that Leo made millions of dollars by talking to, what appears to be himself, usually very arrogantly, about how dumb 99% of other people on the planet are, about every facet of their lives, and then resorting to dangerous substances because he wants some kind of cookie. It wouldn't surprise me if he had elements of insecurity in his attachment style (many of us do). We also know, or at least suppose, that he does meditate. He does read. He has had genuine enlightenment experiences, his content is some of the deepest, most open-minded, yet also digestible material available on YouTube. He is an accomplished psychonaut, presenting educational information about substances for your benefit, at great risk to himself. He regularly and carefully makes all kinds of checks and disclaimers to do his best to make sure, as far as possible, that nobody is dumb enough to follow him blindly down the rabbit hole. He has an amazing book list, he introduces people at a good pace to other thinkers and concepts they might not have encountered otherwise because many of us are lazy degenerates. Even this forum, where we so often complain about Leo, is such an important place for so many people to interact and share problems. There are some real saints on here and Leo's responses, while painfully blunt, are also sometimes helpful. And Leo is very dedicated, the forum requires a lot of cultivation. Most of the benefits of Leo's work are completely free to the public. And he has a vast library of videos that he's been making for years. Let me know if I've missed anything.
  9. Leo would never say that he doesn't want kids without also giving a reason. Therefore, while it might also be true, you arrived at the conclusion yourself that he doesn't want them. What made you do so?
  10. Imagine that: you suddenly discover that the entire universe is actually, fundamentally, profoundly horrid and terrifying it/you can't be fixed because essentially nothing's broken. You just realise the awfulness of existence and other people don't those around you can't see what you see. In fact, they think there's something wrong with you This causes your entire sense of self to weaken significantly, meaning you feel vulnerable and threatened, even by your closest family, friends and medical staff
  11. Hello I couldn't see any existing references to Dr. K on the forum and wondered if it might be beneficial to bring this individual to members' attention as he tends to teach coaching and a range of meditation techniques. He produces content through his organisation Healthy Gamer, on Twitch and YouTube. Dr. Alok Kanojia as he's more formally known, was at one point playing too many videogames, so his father sent him to India where he spent seven years training to become a monk. However, he met a girl, fell in love and decided to come back to the US again. Upon returning, he completed his degree and went on to become a qualified psychiatrist at Harvard medical school. Rather than pursuing a traditional career, Alok founded Healthy Gamer. We might say that he wants to help his former self, the loser who played too many videogames. Dr. K combines experience from both his psychiatry and his spiritual training to provide coaching sessions to individuals, some of which are streamed publically and shared as videos. He recently mentioned both Neti Neti and Siddhis, which made me think about Actualized.org. I've not heard him mention Spiral Dynamics but he managed to hold a room containing both David Pakman and a passionate Trump supporter recently as a demonstration of the power of empathetic listening and understanding. Admittedly Pakman didn't speak much.
  12. @Preety_India Are there ideas which, if shared, might assist with, not necessarily awakening but spiritual growth, if the reader is ready to realise them?
  13. @JaySwole can you recall another time where you had a dream and it was rendered redundant by something? I am wondering whether the idea of your hopes getting shattered has happened before.
  14. I like the way that Actualized.org explores a wide variety of topics from some very open-minded perspectives. I also like the helpful community members and the fact that Leo is a very active participant on the forum. I would like to see more sensitivity, for example the latest video starts by explaining that a person's family have informed us that a member has taken their life and then moments later says "I'm assuming it's true. Let's just treat it as though it's true... alright so let's say it happened". To me this came across as insensitive.
  15. We could say that calling someone lazy is lazy and we might be right in some sense but there are more important things than being right. Why is that person lazy? What do they need? Can we help them?
  16. What I like about Sadhguru is how rarely I can predict what he's going to say next.
  17. I find loneliness, and other things, can to some extent be independent of whether there are people around. I actually live "with" people i.e. there are people in my house but we're not that close in some ways.
  18. Hi Preety, I just read your message and found it uplifting. Glad to hear it.
  19. Best of luck and I hope you find a good therapist, who you like and respect.
  20. One option might be to take your desire to its limit. Find out the extent to which you can make it happen. Explore. Research. Be resourceful, open-minded. Nifty. Use your skills, your values, your relationships. Your feelings. Are you on the right track? Is this still something that you want? If not, what else would you do? We learn about ourselves and the world when we approach the boundaries of what might or might not be possible.
  21. That's the part I always forget Thank you again
  22. That things may not be what they seem... ... except @Nahm. Nahm is just as awesome as Nahm seems ?
  23. The proposed delay represents a tiny crack in the political structure. I worry that sinister forces will exploit such vulnerability.
  24. Below is how I would have thought of it. I also agree with the above analogy. Blue = we know other languages exist but we should all speak this language because we believe it's the best Orange = They have words that we want. We should trade. Let's learn enough of their language to do that Green = we should try to understand their language so that we can better connect with them as people Yellow = we know there are no "should"s that always apply but we also understand that many people think that there are ... or something