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It takes all types for a society to function. The real question is why are humans so obsessed with what everyone else is doing and feel the need to impose themselves on the way other people live their lives? The answer is simple: genetics and evolution. We are the sum of a few million years of evolutionary history, and I would argue our level of free will is actually rather limited. We are the sum of our culture, genetics, and upbringing, and tend to default to monkey mode, where we let past habits and emotional impulses and drives guide our behavior. The self mastery process I would define as Leo says in his video on addiction, to sit there and do nothing, observe the craving and sensation, notice it's a full body experience. Self mastery is not allowing impulses to control one's behavior. Self mastery is developing new habits over time. Loots of books on this. Intellects are just addicted to intellectualizing and conceptualizing. They get emotional juice off of it. It's become a habit for them. Anything can become a habit if done long enough. Eventually it becomes a personality trait. It's no different than if a young buy with an alpha father teaches that kid how to be a smooth ladie's man or have a high emotional IQ. Personally I am self aware of my deficiencies. I can tell you that the programming to put people at ease and be playful is underdeveloped among my software package. I never had strong peer group bonding as a child. That carried through to adulthood. Being offended by people's behavior is a trap to one's peace of mind. Most often their behavior is rather impersonal, a result of life circumstances, defensiveness, projection, etc. Not everyone can be a socially well adjusted happy person plugged into the pop culture matrix. I mean, anyone can reprogram themselves with practice, but that takes emotional labor and discomfort.

Here you are: https://www.marinhhs.org/sites/default/files/boards/general/equality_v._equity_04_05_2021.pdf

The left in the US have some bad traits to them. The main ones are going soft on crime in big cities creating a sort of lawlessness. Wal-marts are starting to shut down in the worst offenders such as Illinois. Why such a badge of honor by allowing criminals to not get punished for crimes? Society needs law and order. Virtually all these locations are places that prosecutors and judges make it a badge of honor to not punish criminals. https://sports.yahoo.com/walmart-closing-batch-stores-2023-161826876.html There's also this push by the American left (not so much the Europeans) to reward mediocrity in society. It's okay to do bad in school, not graduate, because they're a different culture... their culture isn't good at math, and other excuses and justifications. These two things aren't going to end well if they aren't nipped in the bud. Leftists have this socialist utopian fantasy of how they think the world should operate that would never actually work if applied due to human nature and evolution itself. Leftists ignore the science when it offends them. It's their one major flaw. Because they are a sort of cult, they like to take the opposite side that the "right" does just to spite them, which makes some of their policy choices not make sense. It's like a drug addict who knows the drug is bad but refuses to quit.. that's what the left reminds me of sometimes. That said, I'm not a huge fan of the right either. Pick your poison I guess. Still, lots of leftists can't see why someone might vote republican, and there are justified reasons to do so. I see them as brainwashed by mainstream media narratives, just like the right gets brainwashed by their alt right media sources. All conservatives are authoritarian racist nationalists, blah blah blah. LOL No, as a moderate I want the best and brightest to excel, no matter their skin color. American society more and more is rewarding mediocrity and outright bad behavior. I see this push for equity over equality that is NEVER going to work, and will not end well.

Took the test 3 times. I seem to bounce between Delta and Sigma but also identify with Gamma. A lot of the questions are not really the best however. Another imperfect test but still fun to take. This kind of meshes with political tests where I end up scoring as moderate as you can possibly get. A blending of all of the traits. Master of none. Not an alpha. No interest. The problem with Gammas is that it takes coming from a position of negative emotions to be one, so it's counter to any sort of personal development goal. Not something I strive for, to have my sympathetic nervous system, my neurotic fears, jealousys, etc running the show, so over time those traits WILL go down. Resentment is a waste of energy. Nobody with an excess of negative emotion should be in charge. To the degree I have no desire to be an alpha, I respect their ability to command and lead effectively. I also threw in my Ennegram chart from that site that charges you for the full report. I swing between 4W5 and 5W4 on every Ennegram test I've ever taken... typically 4W5. Myers Briggs is typically INTX.

Resentment towards women for desiring high status male is simply a natural part of our DNA. Recognize it, watch the feeling... don't let it control you. Perhaps seek to deprogram it over time with mindfulness practice. Get on the hamster wheel of self improvement to better yourself if you think it will provide you happiness... hit the gym, master your cravings, create healthy habits, things of that sort. Women would date a broke-ass man if he has an easy going personality and makes her laugh and feel comfortable. A lot of men are too serious or have an underdeveloped playful side and lack confidence. These are traits that are genetically more desired than money, considering women can provide for themselves these days. A lot of men say women are after looks and money, but really they are after the right personality, a personality the men who make these statements simply don't have. That said, if he's totally lazy and doesn't contribute at all, she probably won't stick around forever. Who wants to live with a slob? Another slob.

I tend to agree with the OP that promiscuity tends to hurt long term monogamy because the brain's dopamine centers are ratcheted up to permanently desire the higher levels of stimulation that come with fucking a dominant male with dark triad personality traits that women desire for that raw, sensual, animalistic experience that often a provider guy doesn't know how to provide. Not to mention new experiences provide a surge of dopamine and we are sort of genetically wired to a degree to desire multiple partners and get bored with the same old same old after enough time has gone by. Do you give into animal cravings or stick to principles? This is where cultural mores come into play. If there is no punishment for chasing one's genetic urges, most people will give into them. That's not good or bad, it just is. Culture and values make it good or bad. I could see a society where sex is more open and monogamy is not such a thing. It all comes down to values. Look at Bonobos, our closest genetic ancestor, who use sexual stimulation as a form of greeting. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bonobo That said, a lot of guys use this master key argument to try to justify their high body count, and I found those men to be hypocrites. I have no respect for hypocrites, who apply different standards to others than they do to themselves. If you want a low body count, you should have one. It's helpful to be aware that we are animals subject to evolution, and if you look at things from the standpoint of how we evolved, it makes the whole game much easier to figure out. We are just another animal species on this planet. The DNA provides the answers. We like to fancy ourselves beings of intellect and free will, but most of the time our emotions and animalistic drives and cravings determine our actions. You can't negotiate attraction.

I learned a little bit more about you after your other post I just replied too. Enjoy the journey! Those genetic cravings beware they come with a double edge, but hey at least you're having fun! Women like men who are confident and sensual especially when it's raw, primal, and animalistic. I actually think what the OP texted works.

This is your story. Personally I'd rather have a sweet, cuddly, feminine, nurturer who's not a looker. Also fiscally responsible, Thrifty, not plugged into this pop culture matrix of being on the consumption hamster wheel of having to have the next new toy or the next flashy experience. The chasing of the dopamine high. Someone I can meditate with. Go on nature hikes with. No bars/clubs. Not my thing. What kind of man needs a hot woman? The man who has lots of options so you're fighting for his affection over other women. Stop pursuing such men. There are plenty of good men out there... they just aren't making lots of noise to get themselves noticed. A lot of people of both genders have kind of checked out of the system, so if you want a guy's attention, initiate. I get it... women's genetic makeup drives them to be have a raw, animalistic attraction towards men with certain attributes. Try to look past your genetic drives. Being human .... sigh... it's not really my cup of tea, but I'm here, might as well make the best of it. Some genetic engineering in 50-100 years might improve our specie's psychological makeup.

It takes practice and repetition. Judgmentalism is basically a sympathetic nervous system response often based on subconscious negative emotion combined with a thought story whereas a DMT trip or enlightenment is basically a profound parasympathetic response. Is that thought story a valid one or a cultural construct? Is it part of "your story?" Reality just is. There is no ultimate right or wrong incarnating into this physical dimension. We are here for the ying and the yang. You can do what you think is right and still have it backfire on you. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Do what you feel obligated to do, but beware you create your own suffering for what actions you take and thoughts you decide to hold and believe.

Screens and video games. I had to delete my Zelda Tears of the Kingdom save this morning and be done with it.. the game has hundreds of hours of content. Also mindless youtube browsing. I even enjoy some thought provoking stuff, but it's still a time waster. I just found the "PBS Eons" youtube channel that has tons of fascinating science content on it. Sigh. Don't get me wrong, I love knowing that all the heavier elements came from supernova explosions, but it's still all mind candy. Reed Timmer is doing his live storm chasing right now. Sigh. Is he going to get cut up by broken glass from hail taking out his windshield again or his partner get his elbow pelted by hail? I saw this one live. He's had two of the best chase videos of his career in the last month, and this is one.

Honestly I believe in heavy checks and balances to keep human nature in check. I'm skeptical of anyone who says they have all the answers and thinks they should lead in any way that suggests they dictate to people. I honestly haven't read enough into the WEF to know what to think of them. I've seen some wise things come out of them and some not so wise. I don't believe in the top 5% getting special privileges, so if they think they are going to get everyone to eat vegan or insects, while they enjoy their Ribeyes, that's not going to fly. Either they apply the rules equally for everyone, or don't bother at all. It wouldn't hurt if they all got rid of their private jets also, if they are so concerned about climate change. People see these wealthy elites doing all the things they tell everyone else not to do, and thus don't take them seriously. Rules for thee, not for me, is NOT, I repeat NOT going to cut it. Lead by example, or don't lead at all. The major problem with our system of checks and balances is that right now, it can be bought out if you have enough money, and these people print money out of thin air, known as quantitative easing.

I see politics like a horseshoe. The extreme left and right have more in common with each other than anyone in the middle, and tend to lean either anarchist, authoritarian, or a combination. They are lower in the spiral dynamics scale due to fear, jealousy, anger, or other negative emotions, and basically want a society in which everyone is like them, because it makes them feel more comfortable. Diversity is a threat to them. Most Germans in Germany did not actually support Hitler. If you read up on how he achieved power, it was almost entirely by happenstance. https://www.nationalww2museum.org/war/articles/how-did-adolf-hitler-happen He ruled through fear, like all authoritarian leaders do. People did what they were told, because to not do so was to risk yourself or your family. It didn't help the nasty reparations Germans were made to pay after World War 1. There's a lot to it the history books don't talk about. History is written by the victors. There was blame to go around.

I just like to point out to people talking about how they don't drink Budweiser that Busch Light has the same parent company when I see them drinking it, so if they are trying to boycott something they accomplish nothing switching to Busch. In the end I think they're just trying to be trendy in their social circle rather than actually make cultural change, which is fine. Whatever. I like $3.99 Aldi peach wine. I'm having a bottle tonight.

Both the keto types and the vegans are unnecessarily extreme. Going zero carb and eating nothing but meat is just as silly as eating nothing but fruits and vegetables. It won't hurt you to have both, unless you're doing it for ethical reasons. The main dietary problem is refined carbohydrates, namely chips (including so called healthy crackers loaded with MSG like Triscuits), pop tarts, cereal, donuts, ice cream, regular soda, french fries, fried chicken, pizza, and mostly because they're addicting and make people put on weight. Too much fructose and alcohol can lead to metabolic syndrome and a fatty liver also, especially with a choline/betaine deficiency... so if you eat gluten free (wheat is the main source of betaine in the diet) and no eggs (egg yolks are the main source of dietary choline), with a caloric excess you will quickly build up liver fat, subjecting yourself to metabolic syndrome and prediabetes.

You need to immediately go to a doctor and get an A1C test done. Also get a fasting glucose test done by them. Report back here after you're done. Follow the recommendations of your doctor. He'll tell you if it's type 1, type 2, or what the problem is. I'm assuming since this post is a month old the problem is resolved.

Here you are. This guy's a walking science experiment. His diet is in this video.

I wear sunblock on my face and neck always, use tretinoin on my face, and take glycine supplements. Glycine is a component of collagen that people lack in their diets that helps maintain skin firmness. That's good enough of an anti-aging protocol for me. I allow my legs to get suntanned for the Vitamin D. Sometimes my arms too. UV exposure causes skin to age faster. Ever notice how African Americans look much better as they age? Whites are ugly when they're old. Some people also use things like NAC, NMN, and Fisetin. I don't really bother with any of that.

Don't worry about "toxins" in toothpaste. Fluoride in toothpaste is perfectly fine for your teeth, though I would argue it doesn't need to be added to drinking water. I'm not sure where that idea came from, but I don't lose a lot of sleep over it. I would suggest using stannous fluoride. It's superior to sodium fluoride. I use Crest. Not all of their brands use stannous fluoride, so check the label. If you are worried about fluoride or bromine, take iodine supplements. As for flossing, my favorite is Placker's "twin line" brand.

This is a hard question to answer. Partly it's greed, but if we did pay everyone more they'd just ratchet up their spending and inflation would increase. People tend to live paycheck to paycheck regardless of how much they make. Look at the cost of real estate these days. Kids get some inheritance from their parents and they all bid each other up on housing because there is a shortage. Are they better off? They are paying more. Blackstone makes a cash offer on that house you wanted? Too bad, so sad.. our politicians won't ban this sort of real estate investing. A lot of it has to do with supply and demand. A lot of it has to do with the supply chains and input shortages. Much of that was pandemic related, and I personally think the reaction to covid was far worse than the illness itself. A lot of it has to do with declining birth rates and less of a laborforce. The easy answer is to think paying people more will magically solve everything, or paying people UBI so that they don't have to work. The realities of markets and supply chains is far more complicated. We've relied on Mexican labor to do the jobs nobody wants to do for decades. Now, we rely on Chinese and other low paid labor to make all the tech trinkets we take for granted, as everything has been outsourced. Nobody wants to talk about the child labor used to mine the minerals for our EV batteries as an example. Again, no easy answers. If you want everyone in the world to have a higher standard of living, it generally means first world nations will have to adjust their standard of living down. The american lifestyle of a 5 bedroom, 4 bathroom house, 3 stall garage, with a boat parked on the lawn, is rather lavish by the standards of the rest of the world. The top 5-10% tend to live in a different reality than the bottom 90%. The bottom 90% tend to think they deserve this lifestyle without having to put in the emotional labor to achieve it. That's simply not going to happen. The middle class is slowly being priced out of the economy. Much of the same drama they faced 2000 years ago in Rome. These things go in cycles.

I would argue psilocybin and related compounds have far more therapeutic uses than marijuana and/or alcohol so I'm all for it, though given how the average person goes about new things, I'd be concerned they won't research proper dosing before they use the substance, and then have a negative experience. Both my parents did this with marijuana edibles despite my warning them to consult me first. Humans as a species generally don't like to take advice from others... they generally like to stumble along for themselves and figure it out as they go, so I don't fault them for it.

Nobody needs to do anything. Focus on yourself and not what everyone else is doing or what culture tells you that you should be doing. Use your intuition to try to make the right decisions. Stop seeing yourself or your gender as superior and making comparisons that don't really help your growth. Also I should point out that though men are generally more fit to lead, only a small percentage of men are fit to lead... those who have mastered themselves and their base nature.. their cravings, addictions, and found their inner strength and self confidence. Evolutionary speaking that's a small percentage of the male population, around 20-25%. The typical incel sitting at home playing video games and smoking pot all day is a slave to his addictions and has not mastered himself, so he has no ground to stand on complaining about his situation in life other than evolution is a bitch and growth and change are difficult and very uncomfortable. It would have been nice to have been given perfect parents who understood human psychology with ideal DNA but more often than not it doesn't happen that way. If anything we give ourselves hard lives to challenge and test ourselves. Also there's no need to bash women. There is no superior gender. There are superior individuals, based on their level of development. In the end we all share the same source, we just kind of forget about that. It's best not to see people who are angry or depressed as lessor however, they are merely stuck in a state in which there is seemingly no escape from their perspective based on their habits, brain chemistry, etc. Again, evolution sides with repeating the same behaviors because they worked before to keep you alive. Evolution drives you to overeat, sit in front of a screen, and chase the easy pleasures of hedonism that come from living in a culture of abundance compared to the scarcity in which we evolved as a species. My point? Reality just is. Good and bad are mental constructs. All judgements you make create needless suffering in you.... what Leo calls the "should statements." If it works for you to have them, great, but use them wisely.

I believe a stage yellow thinker can transcend this left/right belief system. When I hear people use the word "nazi" in the same sentence with conservatives I know they are a spiral dynamics stage green thinker, still subject to their particular cult belief systems, though more advanced than the stage orange, blue, and red beneath them, still lacking in some aspects. It shows a level of brainwashing by popular media as actual conservatives tend not to fit this "right wing nationalist" stereotype no more than a woke person represents a typical left winger. I believe stage green don't respect the need for discomfort as a growth tool and self discipline to the degree they should. You can't just give people whatever they want and let them do whatever they want, and give them a bailout every time they make a mistake. This does not result in a good society and culture, because we are still wired with traits given to us through a million years of evolution and still operate best on pavlonian style conditioning. The animal kingdom doesn't revolve around perpetual handouts and an umbrella society. It's survival of the fittest. It's raw, dangerous, competitive, diverse. I believe stage green don't really respect natural selection and evolution as a whole enough. On the same token I think stage greens are too quick to judge when people don't live up to their expectations. Humans are a flawed species and are wired in a way where we will tend to put our own self interest first unless we are more highly developed. There is nothing good or bad about this. It just is. Also, under stress, when the sympathetic nervous system is activated, people will regress to more base level responses to situations. I'm not really sure what point I meant to make with this point. I was kind of rambling. I see a lot of stage yellow in myself, but nobody is any single color... human ego gets in the way. Evolution and our DNA gets in the way. There's a lot of "ego" with the stage greens on this forum as an example. Their movement is almost like a religion of it's own. They might have good intentions, but sometimes the road to hell is paved with good intentions. There is no perfect system to manage human nature in a system designed with entropy in mind (this physical universe and all it's laws) ... we don't incarnate here to live in a paradise... it's more like a video game filled with rules for us to follow, suffering, to see how we respond to stimuli. You have to large degree play the game by the rules you are given. If you try to resist the rules, you create needless suffering for yourself. You can try to change them, but do you have the power? What kinds of rules? Our species, it's DNA, the culture in which you are raised, the laws in your country, and things largely outside your control. Fight against these to create needless suffering. Either do something about the situation, or accept it. All else is madness. Find your peace.

It really depends on context and the level of consciousness of the person answering the question. One person would say life is terribly unfair. One might say it's perfectly fair. Both would be correct. David Hawkins is known to say that all you need to do is remove the clouds that block the sunlight. What that basically means is that thought stories, fantasies, and comparisons get in the way of peace of mind. Especially comparison to the past and regret for actions taken or not taken in the past, and comparison to what others have and the resulting jealousy. If one focuses on the present moment, open focus, absent of thought stories, the peace of mind can gradually take over. It's helpful to keep in mind that the fantasy is often more alluring than reality. A lot of men fantasize over their crush, as an example, without getting to know the real person. Then they get upset that reality did not meet their expectations. This is insane behavior.

I like to listen to Leo's "addiction" and "subtle addictions" videos when I get back into old habits. This morning I just deleted my save file for Zelda Tears of the Kingdom because it's so time consuming and the line in the sand to tackle these addictions for me is now.... this game is designed to consume hundreds of hours of one's time and given I was maybe 25% through it, it had to go. On the other hand, cultivating acceptance with my weakness is equally important. Beating myself up over things just leads to a downward spiral. The trick seems to be to change behaviors first, and not fight the emotional reactions that are part of the old programming, but merely watch them. The cravings really are like a whole body experience, no matter what they are. I see emotions and cravings as one of the same... impulses designed to get the animal organism to take a specified action.

I use tap water. The minerals will condense on the filter over time. There is solution that you add to the water to prevent algae and mold growth. Add it. You can use as much or little water as needed. You're better off getting a higher capacity unit. Mine holds 5 gallons (20 liters) I only change the filter once every year or two. Its just there to wick up the water for release. I only use it for 4-5 months in the winter. Once a year is fine if you add the anti mold solution.