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I read this somewhere and it really made so much sense. If you love me, you will be liberated from me, if you hate me, I will be a shadow in you. Ahhh!!!!! Now that's good.

This is a different situation you're describing and I agree that if you or her are triggered then you guys can talk whenever you both feel better, but the situation I was describing is of a rather serious nature, and this happened between me and my Indian ex as well the American ex, where if I wanted to have a matured discussion, they would simply leave. But never wish to discuss again. It wasn't about emotion or trigger. The person doesn't want to change their behavior so they wouldn't agree to a mutual discussion. This is a huge red flag that I should have been too early to catch on. Both relationships failed and I moved on. Now I'm in a better relationship where if I want to say something, the other person gives me space and attention and respect. It's a huge red flag if a person doesn't want to discuss things with you, irrespective of gender. That's a complete no no. If they don't want to sit, discuss or resolve any conflict then that's a dead relationship. My biggest mistake was that I tolerated such relationships till they completely burned me out. I should have left at the very first or second incident. I should have served a warning or ultimatum that if it happened again then I would be leaving. Seriously it's a huge problem. A person not willing to resolve a conflict is creating a dead end relationship. They are not showing any path towards any solution. They simply want the suffering party to continue suffering in the relationship meanwhile they stay miserable as well. They are the type of people who are "themselves miserable and make others miserable", absolutely stay away from such people, they suck and drain your energy and leave you with lot of suffering and distress and trauma to deal with. In the end such relationships are anyways going to die out, they only prolong the suffering by dragging on. So if a partner doesn't agree at any point to discuss or resolve issues....... DUMP THAT PERSON RIGHT There. Sounds harsh, but what they do is much worse..

@Zak thank you and same to you.

@Zak The other thing is that Hinduism and Christianity, although they are the main pillars in my life as religions, they are not the only ones I follow.. Over the years I have explored many faiths and cultures and religions and so I like to explore all of them. Im a bohemian at heart. So my main religions and side religions that I follow include Main religions - Christianity and Hinduism Side Religions - Wiccan - other forms of witchcraft - Buddhism - Islam - Santa Muerte (from mexico) I make my own salad out of different cultures and religions like a true hippie. I love mixing different aspects and philosophies and seeing the good in every religion. To me that is true freedom of religion. I'm still researching Islam and I will be following parts of Islam and traditions of Islam which I like. I have a wonderful Islamic poem that I used to follow and I keep it in my old handbag as a talisman.. I Will write that Islamic poem here. It's my favorite and I sing it when I'm lonely. I also sang this Muslim prayer or poem to one of my Muslim colleague at my workplace and he was very impressed It's also called a "naat" in Islam. I also have a journal titled Islam recently that I started in order to explore Islam. Nahin maal-o-zar to kya hai Mai ghareeb hoon yahi na Mere ishq mujhko le chal Tu hi janib-e-madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Ke dawa wahin milegi Mujhe le chalo madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Deedar-e-mustafa (saw) ko Aankhen taras rahi hain Dushwar ho gaya hai Unke baghair jeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Ke dawa wahin melegi Mujhe le chalo madeena Mera dil tadap raha Mera jal raha hai seena Tasweer-e-Mustafa (saw) jo Nazar aa rahi hai dil me Main sochta hoon dil me Mera dil hai ya madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Ke dawa wahin melegi Mujhe le chalo madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Mujhe gardishon na chero Mera hai koi jahan me Main abhi pukar lunga Nahin door hai madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Ke dawa wahin melegi Mujhe le chalo madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Shab-o-roz badh raha hai Meri tishnagi ka alam Ye pyaas kab bujhegi Mere saqi-e-madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Ke dawa wahin melegi Mujhe le chalo madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Bhejo darood unpar Ye hai dua se behtar Bhejo salam unpar Jaana ho agar madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Ke dawa wahin melegi Mujhe le chalo madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Mushk-o-gulab ambar Har ek shai se behtar Dono jahan me mahka Sarkar ka paseena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Ke dawa wahin melegi Mujhe le chalo madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Iqbal naatwan ki Bas ek iltija hai Rahe zindagi salamat Main bhi dekh loon madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena Ke dawa wahin melegi Mujhe le chalo madeena Mera dil tadap raha hai Mera jal raha hai seena This is my favorite Islamic poem /prayer.

But there is good news. Hinduism does allow following and adopting other religions without the need for official conversions. That I can be allowed to practice Christianity in both private and public without losing my Hindu title or status. So that's good news for me that Hinduism is liberal in terms of following other religions freely and I won't have to surrender or give up my birth religion or religious rights to follow other religions. So that's great news for me.

Religious conversion is highly controversial in India. So I don't exactly know how to approach this. Plus there is no legal advice on the internet on this issue.. I was born and raised a Hindu. I have always been a Hindu. I adopted Christianity in 2015 after some deep personal experiences. But I did not give up Hinduism. So in a way I'm both a Hindu as well as a Christian. My official religion is Hinduism/Hindu. Not Christianity. I am not legally or officially converted to Christianity but I do visit my local church. I am not still not aware if an official conversion is a requirement to be a Christian or to marry my Christian boyfriend. I just looked up on the internet and it says that a person has to be legally Christian to marry a Christian in India. But the Indian constitution allows The Freedom of Religion Act. So the laws contradict each other. Now there is a problem I have been facing for some time and I did not approach any lawyer for advice on this. The problem is that I can't write on a certificate as both Hindu and Christian, I think it's not allowed, I have never tried it. I think it will be revolutionary in India and I will probably be the first person to write a double religion on a form. Every time I fill a form at a hospital or bank or government office, if the form says "religion", I always write "Hindu" .. There is no other option.. I have no idea what happens after religious conversion in India. I have a Hindu surname or last name. So I have seen people who go through religion conversions in my country and they place ads in the newspaper but they also change their surnames at the same time. The thing is I don't want to change my surname. So I won't go for an official conversion to Christianity. Also I might have to change my surname and religion if I have to marry my boyfriend. In that case, I will have a Live - in relationship with him. And no marriage. It's very complicated and Indian government does not resolve this complication. I'm afraid that I might lose my basic rights as a citizen if I legally change my religion because here the government makes a big deal out of religion conversion even if the constitution actually allows it. The everyday reality is very different from the constitution. I have searched a lot on the internet about double religion or belonging to two religions at the same time. Right now I think this is not possible in any country. I'm not aware of the legal aspects of "double belonging" in India or other countries. So for the current moment, I'm officially and legally a Hindu citizen of my country.. I can only say that I converted to Christianity in the sense that I adopted Christianity but did not legally convert to it Also I just looked up, conversion to Christianity is not simply by baptism. I will need a signature and stamp from Gazette and then ad in English National Newspaper and probably change in identity. This Indian girl in the video explains the complicated steps and procedures in religious conversion in India This can affect all my identity documents my passport etc because they all carry my Hindu surname and name.. It will extremely difficult to change these documents, so I rather not go through so much hassle to be a Christian. So legally I'm still a hindu. And I follow Christianity as a side religion is all I can say. I never really researched or thought about all of this until you asked me. Thanks for asking.

I wrote a short poem yesterday as a tribute to the religion I was born into, Hinduism.. The poem is titled 'in my heart' .. In my heart In my heart is Ram In my heart is Sita In my heart is Shiva In my heart is Parvati In my heart is Krishna In my heart is Radha In my heart is Brahma and Vishnu In my heart is Lakshmi and Saraswati In my heart is Kali and Durga In my heart is Bhagwan.

I was born a hindu. My Hindu prayer. That I sing often. हे राम, हे राम जग में साचो तेरो नाम हे राम, हे राम तू ही माता, तू ही पिता है तू ही माता, तू ही पिता है तू ही तो है, राधा का श्याम हे राम, हे राम तू अंतर्यामी, सबका स्वामी तू अंतर्यामी, सबका स्वामी तेरे चरणों में, चारो धाम हे राम, हे राम तू ही बिगड़े, तू ही सवारे तू ही बिगड़े, तू ही सवारे इस जग के, सारे काम हे राम, हे राम तू ही जगदाता, विश्वविधता तू ही जगदाता, विश्वविधता तू ही सुबह, तू ही शाम हे राम, हे राम हे राम, हे राम जग में साचो तेरो नाम हे राम, हे राम

I liked my reply in the above thread in dating section. Maybe she is suffering some Insecurities. If that's the case then address those and let her know that you still love her and it doesn't affect your love for her. Maybe deep down in her mind, she sees you watching porn as a sign of you not loving her. Also practice more intimacy. Relationships where a woman complains about sexual stuff are generally those that are devoid of intimacy. If the intimacy is very deep, the woman will have nothing to complain about. Make her feel wanted. Shower her with lots of affection. I know it might sound like a work or chore to many men, but the key to making peace with your girlfriend is to gently kiss her, make love to her and have a deep intimate connection with her. . Then she will not bother you or fight with you because deep down she knows she is loved. My ex boyfriend and me sometimes argued about sexual things, like not being in the same mood sometimes, this is because deep down there was very little intimacy. With my current boyfriend, he is very intimate with me, so I never feel unloved, we both enjoy sex and I never complain neither does he. धन तभी सार्थक है जब धर्म भी साथ हो।।सुंदरता तभी सार्थक हैं जब चरित्र भी शुद्ध हो। दवस्थान गमन तभी सार्थक हैं जब हृदय में भाव हो। दोस्ती का होना तभी सार्थक है जब उसमे प्यार और विश्वास होl The foundational thinking is that you deserve love anyway.

Maybe she is suffering some Insecurities. If that's the case then address those and let her know that you still love her and it doesn't affect your love for her. Maybe deep down in her mind, she sees you watching porn as a sign of you not loving her. Also practice more intimacy. Relationships where a woman complains about sexual stuff are generally those that are devoid of intimacy. If the intimacy is very deep, the woman will have nothing to complain about. Make her feel wanted. Shower her with lots of affection. I know it might sound like a work or chore to many men, but the key to making peace with your girlfriend is to gently kiss her, make love to her and have a deep intimate connection with her. . Then she will not bother you or fight with you because deep down she knows she is loved. My ex boyfriend and me sometimes argued about sexual things, like not being in the same mood sometimes, this is because deep down there was very little intimacy. With my current boyfriend, he is very intimate with me, so I never feel unloved, we both enjoy sex and I never complain neither does he.

Love you too.

Be honest be humble be simple Be honest be humble be simple

I need to take responsibility for myself. I need to learn.

I need to take

I need to begin to empower myself as a woman.

Never worry about what the world thinks or does or creates. Be you. Do what you like. This is the real authentic way of life This is the highest order. This is the real finesse

To express myself honestly is liberation To live honestly is liberation

Also stress is very dangerous. It impedes motivation

The other question is, Is it okay to justify hate like right wingers do especially when they talk about race, are they justified in showing Nationalistic love/sentiment or are they deluded in their beliefs that other races are a threat, also what needs to be done to change this situation, how can love be created in their hearts? Or will it be dangerous to their primal interests if such love exists. Thanks

Can you really love a person who has hurt you or are people simply faking it, is it possible to love an evil person and what is the purpose of loving an evil person, are we trying to change the evil person to good through our love or simply accepting their evil nature. The real conflict in these questions is that how can you love both the victim and the perpetrator/evil at the same time. (Because in my opinion) , isn't showing love to the perpetrator actually insulting or downplaying the victim or lessening the empathy towards them. How can a victim and perpetrator be loved equally at the same time since one is responsible for the other's suffering which should create a natural instinct of outrage against the perpetrator in the EMPATH. Is showing love to the perpetrator in a way diminishing the suffering of a victim and if you think it's not, then why not. Thanks.

Recent events of stress... Record it.. In private journal. Keep a 3 hour block period. Describe it in your private journal. This way I can have a track of time.