Preety_India

Casual insights. Quick insights ?You become so spiritually evolved that even reality feels challenged. ? God is gracious and God is fair ? Narcissistic dissatisfaction and narcissistic projection and narcissistic hypocrisy and narcissistic old sudden coldness. And narcissistic boredom. Narcissistic dopamine addiction. ? Embodying principles is more important than just mouthing or lip reading principles ?One way to stop being hurt is to stop being a person. ?MPM. Indoctrination along with some useful advice. Leo talks about it. ? Being sincere and authentic is better than being manipulative and psychopathic. That way you have a clear conscience. ? What you put into the system is what you get out. If you put a lot of hate and devilry in to the system how do you expect good things to come out of it. ? The truth is revealed to the person who is extremely sincere. That's the secret. ? You need to go meta on meta. That's the kind of people who understand why you do what you do.. ? ? ? ? ?

True. You're absolutely right. All this edgy nonsense is such spiritual de-evolution.

@mandyjw what a naive thing to say. One day the guy will look at another woman. Next day he will sleep with her. Creating drama out of nothing is one thing. But that's not the point. Those people who create drama out of nothing can never be productive. Being oblivious to the drama of life is another.. If someone is doing wrong in a relationship, pointing it out is not drama, but pointing it out means you opt for a healthier relationship. And you absolutely deserve a healthy relationship no matter what Era or country you live in.

So so true. Love your analysis. This is so needed. Many people have been blinded. Thank you for bringing up.

Thank you. Very much needed. This guy's been bullshitting the public for God knows how long. Yes yes that Jordan guy. Him.

Well that's a recipe for putting up with emotional abuse. Sorry women did that for a really long time. Give women a break. They have a heart that beats and not just a stomach to feed. You forgot that women can feed themselves now and don't need to lick a man's ass to get by through life. If survival was meant to sabotage your emotional health, it's no good either way. Who wants to be in an emotional prison for life? Most people who aren't happy don't do well in life even if their survival is secured. Tell that to a kidnapped victim how to obey the kidnapper. Give me freedom or give me death. Your golden cage, I don't want.

You made a valid point. The search for truth can also be just a search. Whereas investing in love can be powerful.

@Keyhole I have the same rule. Glad to know.

@RedLine what are you exactly looking for? Do you have a specific thought to guide you in your mind?

Oh wow you're right on so many levels.. A lot of people might arrow you down as being pessimistic or say stuff like "hey its not the same for everyone" but don't be misled, you're right that relationships can be so scary and bottle up your emotional and spiritual progress, it's a facade to make the ego feel better the way one might feel with a bowl of ice cream, relationships are nice only as long as they are nice and you're not wasting too much time, but as soon as you realize they are dragging you down, best is to exit and find better things to do in life which by the way give amazing results. Your reply was so on point and practical /pragmatic. Each word was gold.

Are these books expensive? Seems like a nice list.

@RedLine You'll be going round and round in this. Better stick to normal practical love, you make your life easier that way.

Right. This whole thing of not putting someone on a pedestal screams Insecurity and low self esteem in my head It's like if I said "hey I don't wanna put my boyfriend on a pedestal" like what?? Would he like it if I said that to him? Absolutely not. How does a woman feel when you say to her "I'm not going to treat you like a queen", that can appear really assholic and mean and probably a great way of pissing her off for good Also if a man didn't say that to her but acted in a way where he is putting her down or treating her like "not important", why should she care to be in a relationship with him. She might as well find a guy who actually treats her like a queen and puts her on a pedestal. I had guys who would say such things to me in the attraction phase and I would say to myself "next guy please" "don't want a man who doesn't value my presence enough." it screams such insecurity on the part of the guy and I don't want a guy with a strongly insecure mindset, it's already gonna be a rocky relationship. Some men are so clueless as to what's going on in a woman's head. Then they go read books to learn it yet those books contain wrong information. What a woman feels, she will show it in her action. If a man wants to regret his experience with a woman by seeing her walk away, then a good recipe would be to start treating her like she doesn't matter. Women are not fools. They see through a man's games and bullshit. They can feel a guy ignoring them, they just take decisions in the end and walk away. These insecure men then think what went wrong. It's really simple, as simple as - - treat others how you would want to be treated. Do you wanna be treated like a king and given value as a man in relationship, then treat the woman also like she really matters.

Becoming Michelle Obama

@ItsNick haha that was nice.

I agree with this.

YouTube is very helpful. It's one of the best things that happened to me. I'm no fool. I like paying YouTube.

I used to like vulnerable men but I gave up on them. They no longer interest me. I'm not saying everyone and I'm not trying to generalize but from my personal experience, they tend to take advantage using sympathy as an excuse and they turn me into an emotional dumping place which I gradually come to realize. So I've gotten used to this pattern and no longer wish it to be the theme of my life. If in the future any man sat next to me on a park bench and told me his sad story, I would simply get up and leave. No to that drama. They're simply difficult to deal with and they don't respect who is giving them a listening ear. Again not generalizing, just saying this is how I felt around such men.. They are only nice in the beginning, then the true colors come out.

Think how much it hurts the person you're with. I suffered delirium and lack of consciousness when I came to know that my ex cheated on me. It really sends a person into a dark place. Cheating is against core spirituality. It hurts like hell. It breaks the basic trust you had with the person. It removes trust over humanity. Human beings love exclusive relationships. Because it creates the idea of true companionship and belongingness. The last way to hurt a person is to make them feel that they don't belong anymore. The reason cheating feels so wrong is because the universe is created around the law of duality. Yin and yang. These two come together as soulmates. Cheating is a way of destroying the idea of a soulmate.

When we use the word absolute it means there cannot be anything outside of it. All contradictions become null. Which means absolute love is loving everything good and bad.

No you're not. It's ridiculous for you to be so offended over the fact that the girl has a boyfriend. Why can't you be okay with it. You should be totally cool with it.. You need to work on your deeper Insecurities. It's not the statement that is haunting you. It's the deeper insecurities that are haunting you. Raise your self esteem enough to deal with rejections. Even if you think that she might not have a boyfriend, it's fine maybe she just doesn't want to be bothered. You need to leave egoic tendencies behind when you ask women out. Remember nobody has the obligation to say yes just because you put the effort of asking. As simple as that. Learn to let go rejections and continue making effort to find the one that you want in your life. Obviously that needs patience and hard work.

Reality is not as soft and nuanced as you're trying to make it. Immigrants routinely face racist hate attacks and crimes. That's when such nuanced dialogue goes out the window.

@Leo Gura can you answer my question in the meditation section. Been waiting.

@Kalki Avatar hmm.

By suffering.