Preety_India

Does God care if the victims are 1 or 100. For God, every angel is precious. Numbers don't matter. Also when it comes to society, some people relate to your suffering whereas others don't. This will always be the case. People relating or not relating should not downplay your suffering. When this sort of a situation occurs, you get two opposing camps. A camp of successful people and another camp of sufferers. Both tend to blame each other. Reminds me of the classic battle between liberals and conservatives. The camp of victims who generally get shamed. And the camp of predators.

The bottom line is - nobody deserves to be discarded and everyone needs to be accomodated. But of course you know the Devil and his machinations!!!!!

Your suffering is taken more seriously if no one else is suffering unless the people are heartless who don't pay attention to you. And take you for granted for being a minority. Only a narcissist would do that right? The thing is when nobody suffers, everyone does better both collectively and individually. But this should not mean to take for granted that one person who does suffer. That would be narcissistic and cold. But when a lot of people suffer, nobody wins. Can't cherry pick examples of successful people. It's the count of victims that matters.

You don't realize this. It's not so much about the end time philosophies. Your suffering looks miniscule if everyone is suffering. In fact it's another trick that the devil plays. Whether the world moves to a better future or not,doesnt matter because the devil is always working in the background to absorb silent victims Would it be better if u suffered and the world was moving to a better future? That means I'm simply devaluing and eliminating myself. Would it be better if the world was moving to doom and I was suffering? Maybe I'm looking for confirmation bias. In each scenario it's not a good place whether it's successful or not if it doesn't accomodate you. How silly of me to think that I should invalidate myself just because I don't fit in. This is what social pressure is all about. Trying to fit in. This argument is like if I were to live in palace of the Monarchy and suffering behind golden walls and then asking myself - "am the only one? Isn't the monarchy doing better even without me? “ it doesn't matter if everyone else is celebrating with or without me. What matters is that if I suffer, they shouldn't exclude me and people like me but accomodate people like me so I don't have to suffer. Now that's a truly caring supportive and successful system and not a system that only works for conformists and slaves. Got it!

I'm again facing a religious hurdle in 2021 and it's in regard to Christianity.

Should I really believe In the end times I feel it's true Is global suffering on the rise? Yes. But why.. I think because of a lack of godliness. Where God ceases to exist there bad karma will abound. What about Christianity? I haven't yet made a decision on Christianity..

@Peter Miklis kinda simple but good. Helps with acceptance of the nature of things.

I'm not sure in what way the guy was trying to humiliate you. Was he simply teasing you or being sarcastic and making silly offensive jokes or was he being downright mean? Often conversations between two people could be easily misunderstood. Maybe the girls took it lightly and thought the guy was simply joking. If the guy was seriously humiliating you and it wasn't meant as a joke, then those girls lack respect and social tact and manners. They shouldn't laugh at someone in a serious situation. Sorry but there are always those tiny minority of people who lack respect and are totally nasty and classless. Do not pay mind to them. I think most people including both men and women are going to be sympathetic to your situation so don't worry, most people are not like that.

Actually this forum is the best place for it. Where else do you find people discussing these aspects so freely? Also a lot of men are not only interested in attracting women but also having stable long term intimacy with women.

I stumbled upon this video and some of it is just hands down ridiculous. The guy describes the ideal Christian woman and I can't help but see unhealthy stage Blue written all over it. It's so ridiculous that it's hilarious. Wanna know what you think about this. I just find it totally out of this world.

Exactly!

First start with Spiritual Psychological Emotional Physical System or Environment Philosophy

The thing is relationships are no joke and not a bed of roses. There are challenges in relationships for both men and women. If one is not ready for it, then stay with porn or look for casual stuff. Most long term relationships are going to come with their bunch of problems and challenges. We are not plastic. We are humans. As humans we go through endless challenges in life and relationships have to go through these challenges as well. Both men and women have to fulfil multiple roles in relationships. This is not exclusive to men. It also applies to women. You're misunderstanding the point. Nobody is asking a man to be a therapist. It's about having an intimate connection and sharing the person's struggles. Listening to them. Creating an intimate bond. Which involves understanding the other person's psyche. Cultivating understanding and intimacy is not the same as being a therapist.

The worst kind of stage Blue Dogma The crazy part is that he even thinks this is acceptable.

Absolutely agree. I thought the same thing. Don't know how that was misconstrued. Supporting someone in their healing journey is not the same as being their therapist. This is like saying to someone - if you got cancer, don't expect me to be your doctor.

A good thought from @Peter Miklis Everything is the way it is precisely because it is the way it is (damn, what a gem of a sentence). In the end, the best choice to make is to be as authentic as possible, regardless of what anyone thinks or what you get.

This diagram represents different aspects of growth. At the core or center is the spiritual aspect which means we need to first cultivate our spiritual aspect and get it grounded firmly. Once the spiritual side is dealt with grounded, resolved and healed, next we need to move to the Psychological Aspect. In this stage we need to care of our psychological side. Work on this area to have a healthy normal psychology. Next move your emotional area of your personality cultivate a healthy normal balanced well regulated emotional structure or system. make sure your emotions are always in the healthy zone. Next move to the physical zone. This is related to all of your physical needs and along with this also work on your environment and system that you're a part of. And explore life and world and learn different schools of thought and philosophies

@integral awesome.

There is a slight problem.. I can eat salad even if it tastes boring. Because I will think it's good for my health. I can just swallow it. But how do you have sex with someone that doesn't feel attractive to you? Sex is not like eating directly. It will only happen when there is sufficient stimulation otherwise it just won't happen.. A simple thought about sex does not lead to sex. Eating just happens. How do you fix the sexual part?

I like the tall guy who treats me like a kid. I like endearing terms. Like for example, every time my ex used to call me a dummy, I used to get turned on. So he began calling me "silly" during every conversation. Even piglet. Then he began calling me "leetul" the alternative version of "little" and he used to call "the leetul woman" although I'm quite tall.. I get some kick out of being treated like a kid in the relationship. I easily get attracted to those type of men who are stronger, domineering, protective and treat me like a little kid. But if the guy is trying to treat me like a woman, in the sense the conventional graceful grown lady, it puts me off instantly. Because he is expecting me to behave right. I find it boring because I don't get to be playful around him. I feel suffocated around such men because I'm supposed to be coy around them and that is to me is like putting on an act. I like to be submissive and feminine but mixed with childishness and innocent playfulness.

@integral or I can put it this way. I would love getting attention from him and a bit of his desperation because that would make me feel wanted and special. Of course I would want to make him feel wanted too, but I draw the card first so my turn first. His later.

I see it the other way. If he made me crave him, I will see him as gaming me or not being genuine. It will make me feel absurd and hurt my ego and pride I won't feel like craving him because I would feel crazy for it. I don't want to put myself out there like a girl who is crazy for him.. I'd rather want him to chase me so I feel assured that he really wants me.

That's exactly what it's all about. That's why it's so silly. Intelligent women realize this and see it.