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Yes but kinda rarely. I don't think a lot of people have the maturity for a productive argument. I myself always wanted a productive argument. But I found two things with the men I had an argument with - A) they would give a cold treatment. That is not wanting to talk. I become helpless there because it won't go anywhere if the other party gets up and leaves B) if the other party resorts to insults and name calling. That's not a productive argument in my opinion. So I usually leave the argument when that happens You're simply giving an example of bdsm. You have to be careful about how you word things. This statement " because they might not want to feel like somebody is their whore etc." is very very different from calling a woman whore while enjoying sadomasochistic sex with her. They're not the same thing. Considering a woman to be a whore can mean that she shouldn't be respected or her sexuality should be degraded or she can be taken for granted because she is a "whore " aka a woman with no value in his eyes As we all know that "whore" is a derogatory term, it should be used in a very nuanced way to indicate what the user really meant. Sorry but a lot of people defend the use of the N word in a similar manner when it's mutually agreed on that it's an offensive word and hence context makes all the difference. Similarly if you're going to use that word, it can be mostly interpreted in derogatory ways if not specifically mentioned otherwise. Now since you explained it, I understand what you're trying to convey but my point was that dominating a woman does not mean degrading her. Climax in the sense a point of submission where she is fully ready to mentally give herself to the man who is chasing her. Her mind finally agrees with her heart that this man really wants her in a genuine way and she is falling for it too. This point is only reached when she feels that he is genuinely wanting her and it's not fake. The longer the chase the greater is her reassurance that this man really sees her as a prize. If he doesn't chase her hard, she might feel that he only had a passing interest and wasn't too serious. More effort from his side convinces her that he is being totally serious and really wants her. Some women might take this as desperation. Some women might feel like they are really wanted badly. A climax is reached when she cannot resist the guy anymore and feels like she has to give in to his advances because her sexual feelings for him are getting stronger and reaching a peak point.

Yesterday I got many matches So I'm on this dating site looking for a long term relationship or marriage. And yesterday I got many matches. I was having a headache So I didn't have time to sort through them. Also it felt like a lot of guys were pressuring me to marry them. It didn't feel good. Just too much competitiveness. I want to take it slow but these guys want it fast. Too much desperation is how I felt about it all.

Cancelling a date In the month of February this year, I had applied on an online dating platform to seek a future life partner. I had been approached by a guy. My family thought he was decent. So I began talking to him.. At first he was too keen about horoscope matching. I like zodiac matching stuff but I'm not too hardcore with it.. I found that he was too keen about astrology. He also talked a lot with my family and less with me I felt like something about him was off.. I cancelled a date with him. So I rejected him. I recently got in touch with him again when I saw a birthday wish message from him So I replied him a thank you. We started talking again and I expressed a desire to take things further. He told me that I need to wait a pretty long time to marry him. I was a bit incensed by that. Long time? Why would he want to wait? I'm done with guys who come up with all sorts of excuses for the final question. I had a brief argument with him after which he said that we aren't a good match. He declined me. Basically he told me that I could look for some other guy. I was like..... Ok fine. His rejection did hurt me. Yet I felt like it was right to go separate ways if we couldn't come to an agreement on basic stuff.

I'm also going to talk about the men that I'm currently looking to date. I'll look at different aspects that go wrong while dating them or before arranging a date

To be Frank the whole anger thing creating sexual tension only happens temporarily. In long term, constant arguments and disagreements can fail a relationship. I'm not sure about this. For some reason, this sounds like a toxic relationship with some chemistry thrown into it. The whole thing about "having sex to make up after a fight" is a huge turn off in my eyes. I find it extremely dysfunctional.. I don't know if relationships last that way.. Dominating a woman doesn't mean treating her like a whore. You can have an elder brother who dominates you but also guides you. Domination does not mean treating someone badly. The husband / boyfriend is simply taking charge and doing things his way, being assertive and is good at convincing. He is able to dominate an argument but not by offending or controlling, by lovingly guiding and swaying the woman in his direction. The kind of domination that goes against a woman's will, I won't call it domination but controlling behavior. There's a fine line between being a leader and being a controller. A guy with leadership traits is attractive. A guy with controlling traits is repulsive. That's what I mean. A guy can be dominant, confident and assertive without having to be an asshole. A lot of men confuse dominance for assholism.. They think that if a woman wants a dominating guy, she is automatically looking for an asshole. There's a middle ground where a man can be well behaving yet having a sense of pride, trustworthy and dominating. He does not have to hit anyone to be assertive. Chasing a woman doesn't necessarily mean that the woman is ignoring you although I can see why you think that way. Maybe the woman is simply waiting to submit to your initiative? Maybe she wants to really feel wanted and she is looking for that peak point where you'll generate that feeling in her? Maybe your chasing is creating sexual desires in her but she could be waiting for the climax? If you suddenly stop the chase, she could easily lose all the sexual feelings that were building up within her, she might even assume that she isn't wanted enough. Maybe she's waiting for some more chasing and you're prematurely giving up. Of course chasing is hard, it's also hard on her because she has to hold the tension as long as the chasing goes on, it's like a sweet war. It's form of sexual persuasion that draws her in. It's not about ignoring someone or ego battles. It's about building sexual chemistry.

@bejapuskas I guess there are multiple factors here You made an interesting point. Women do feel a certain unusual feeling when a guy argues too much with them. A feeling of submission or surrender ? Probably because from an evolutionary perspective, men largely dominated women for a long time. It's possible that when a man is provoking a woman,he is releasing signals of domination that are picked on by the woman, she inherently senses the sexual tension in his aggression. Who knows if testosterone is responsible for this behaviour in the man and if it biologically proved that testosterone is responsible for this behaviour in a man (remember male elephants become hyper aggresive under the impact of male sexual hormones during musth) so it's easy to see that the male hormones might be contributing to the aggression, However if that's the case then it's easy for the woman to associate this aggression with sexiness or "desire for sex" because only the female can detect the intensity of male sexual hormones ( I mean that's how nature is designed right, the whole pheromone thing where the opposite sex can detect horniness through signals given by pheromones) so maybe this aggression gives out a pheromone-like signal that induces a sexual reaction in a woman and she automatically begins to feel sexual for the man provoking her. I guess that part of sexual biology can explain why that would be the case. The other part is that domination is always associated with sex. Because a guy tries to Dominate a woman during hot sex..I guess the woman detects this domination in the man, a reason why she will feel sexual around a dominating guy. The third reason why I think a woman feels sexual around a dominating guy is because she feels a sense of dependability there. If she is a naturally submissive woman, then her inner femininity is going to crave some dependability through vulnerability. This dependability is fulfilled by a dominating guy. These traits of domination, assertiveness and dependability are super important to her. It's like she wants a guy to hold her, make her feel wanted. Generally dominant guys are good at this, creating this feeling in a girl- "I'm gonna take care of this, you have nothing to worry," this feeling lifts a lot of tension and creates a huge sense of relaxation in a woman, it signals dependability and that's probably what she is looking for. The fourth reason why I think the woman is attracted to such men is quite easy to see. In nature we see images of the male relentlessly chasing the female and in the end mating with her. In reality too, a man chasing a woman can induce a feminine sexual response,(only if the guy is not acting too needy, or it repels her) and who do you think is going to relentlessly chase a woman? I guess only a man who shows traits of domination and aggression. So it goes to show that such men have higher chances of nailing a woman than a guy who sits in a room with a bag of books. Overall traits of domination/dominance, assertiveness, confidence, dependability tend to create a feminine sexual response because this has an evolutionary origin in women depending on men historically. It's obvious why such a mate would be desirable in her eyes from a "Evolutionary origin" and "evolutionary biology" as well as "female sexual biology" perspective.

Girls don't like assholes. They eventually leave them You guys have made a fantasy out of this whole asshole thing. It doesn't work like that Female attraction is not this easy that you become an asshole and you attract women. Women look for a lot of beneficial traits like confidence and Protectiveness. Sadly a lot of these traits are found in assholes. But a woman doesn't opt for the"asshole" part of an asshole. She is still looking for the good traits A woman is simply looking for high confidence and trustworthiness. If a nice guy can cultivate at least (even) 10% confidence that a typical asshole displays, then the nice guy can easily win the woman. If you think that you are a nice guy, you simply have to cultivate specific traits that make you look confident. Not narcissistic. Not psychopath. Just confident and trustworthy. Drop that fantasy.

Only girls with weak self esteem fall for the narcissists you're talking about. Healthy girls eventually leave such men. So if you want to become the kind of guy that attracts women easily also focus on the women that are exactly attracted to such men. For example if I only focused on my beauty to attract men and did not focus on evolving my character, then the type of men I'll attract will be shallow men, of course I can attract many men in that manner, but for quantity, I'm sacrificing quality. It's up to me to decide if it's a numbers game or not. It doesn't become a numbers game just because someone stated it. It's a matter of choice. Similarly it's upto the man to decide if he wants a numbers game or if he wants a healthy woman that admires a healthy man aka the good nice guy (not the manipulative nice guy.)

@captainamerica what is TMI

How can I liberate myself from this existence called life ? I feel a lot of things in this world are an illusion and it seems humans are stuck in this illusion. How can I stop living ? What can make me feel like I'm not living anymore ! What can set me free ? Of course I'm not talking about death.

But God creates something out of nothing, God draws good out of bad. So maybe I can have some hope.

One source of pain was my family. My Dad. My cat The other sources were my health issues and my exes. And financial woes. All of this creating a turbulent mix. Certain things have haunted me. Especially my childhood. Sadness. Loneliness. Pain Strong words with deep meaning.

@BlackMaze which book are you talking about?

@SamC what exactly triggers you ? Elaborate on the type of victim stuff that's triggering you.

@flowboy I actually had many bad experiences. Now it's simply impossible for me to believe that men can be good friends with women. It never really happened.. Theory is that it is possible.but reality doesn't match theory

There has to be something wrong with peanut butter. I have observed changes in my body every time I consume it. Maybe it doesn't happen to everyone but maybe it happens to some people.

Everytime I came across a nice guy, I found him to be very manipulative. He was a nice guy but more like a namesake nice guy, just trying to get his way into my pants. Not really a nice guy, not what I would consider a nice guy. More like a manipulative hypocrite. Some guys were extra nice that I felt it was creepy. If you get what I mean.

I'm in touch with an a lady psychiatrist. She has advised me to do meditation. She told me to call her after one month

I feel depressed.. I get bad feelings all the time. Negative feelings.

Goodness.

A good society, a good family, and a good ecosystem is all you need.

A book of prayers Post number 1

My ex boyfriend used to tell me that the earth is flat. I told him there was only one way to know.

The other scenes that I like from vintage Bollywood are from Nimmi's movies. I wish I could simply capture them.

This visualization is important