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@Marcel I love you.

I have always been a sensitive person. But the time has come that I toughen up a bit. I guess emotional labor is also like physical exercise. As though you're training a muscle.. From here on, I want to integrate a mega ton of emotional labour in my life so that I can feel mentally tough, strong and stable and take on more that life is going to bring me.

What do i know now that I didn't know before? How far have I come in my personal development journey? What is my focus for the future? In what way am I progressing in a realistic sense?

Psychology and productivity based questionnaire. Take surveys.

Only one advice. Always start with the smallest dose

Yes it's difficult to share it with people who never had the misfortune to deal with such circumstances. They almost never get it But those who have been there know what it means to go through it

My personal insights from dealing with someone who is mentally ill in my life. And what I learned. Sharing it with you. How to deal with someone who is mentally ill in your family Certain points to keep in mind You can always try your best to show compassion and help the person improve their symptoms If you tried your best and nothing worked, then it's not your obligation or responsibility to help the mentally ill person. Do not engage in Self blame. Let go. Learn when to let go. If a person doesn't put the necessary effort to change you're simply wasting your time. They might never change. Learn to accept this. Understand that caring for your own needs does not make you selfish. It is something you deserve absolutely and something that you deserve even more when you are dealing with someone who is mentally ill. Do not demonize mentally ill people. Yet it's important to understand that the caregiver family member who is taking care of the mentally ill member is literally going through a nightmare. Most people don't even think about them. The stress of dealing with a mentally ill person can cause a serious danger to one's physical and mental and emotional health. It's important to raise awareness in society about sympathizing with those who dealing with a mentally ill family member. Lot of people don't grasp the challenges of being a caregiver to a mentally ill person You will need more energy and stamina than average person because your challenges are really severe. To successfully deal with a mentally ill person, you need tons of emotional maturity, control, patience, resilience, strength, stamina stability, and lot of grit to survive under pressure and a huge amount of Positivity. They can transfer their state on to you. So if they're stressed they can get you stressed. It's like a ripple effect. Be consciously aware of this. Block this transfer by constantly resisting their transfer to you. Them Being mentally ill does not give them the leverage or license to commit a crime against you. They are still accountable. If they do things that are of a criminal nature, seek help and don't tolerate it. Don't blame yourself. Approach authorities if your life is at risk. And do not be lenient or too trusting or do not give them the benefit of mental illness as an excuse. Remember that mental illness should not be a license or entitlement to do wrong things and get away with it. They are just as accountable as any regular person. Mental illness is no excuse whatsoever for wrong things. Move out of the house/family if you have this option. Cut the cord. If you are having a distant relative who is mentally ill, the impact is not huge. But if you have a spouse, a sibling, a child and most importantly a mother with such a problem, the effect is going to be intense because you're biologically by birth and psychologically connected to this person. As a result they can have a huge influence on you because of this invisible cord they share with you. Cut it. Consciously Detach from them so as to minimize their impact on you. Mentally cut this bond. Sometimes mentally ill persons in your family can blackmail you emotionally and guilt you to stay with them. Do not fall for such manipulation. If you feel they are harming you, you are completely entitled and deserving of putting your needs first and not sacrificing your life for them. Do not think that you are selfish if you are not willing to put up with their behavior anymore or take the harm they are doing to you. You are not being selfish by taking better care of yourself especially when you need it so bad. You don't deserve to suffer the consequences of their mental illness simply because they are your family member. You have no such obligation to tolerate the suffering they are inflicting on you. When you are with a mentally ill person, it can take a toll on your self worth. Learn to love yourself because it's absolutely necessary you do it in order to protect your self worth When someone is mentally ill, they are literally like a ball of negative energy or a time bomb. This is not to demonize people who are mentally ill. This is only to understand how it feels like to be around a mentally ill person. . It's important to have a careful tradeoff between having compassion for them and not sacrificing your health or life for them. Of course you can have compassion, yet when it reaches a point where you feel like you are sacrificing too much or your compassion is coming at a huge personal cost, it's important to create a tradeoff and show compassion only to the extent where it's beneficial to both of you. Do not ruminate over the question why you are suffering so much, accept things as they are and let go. Don't go into a self pity mode. Do not let them gaslight you Have compassion and mercy for them but do not lose compassion for yourself. Respect yourself just as mich. Learn to say No when their mentally ill behavior is going out of control and hurting you. Especially when their behavior is infringing on your personal boundaries. Consider therapy. As much as they need therapy for their chaotic psychosis, you need therapy as a caregiver to be able to deal with their negativity and their constant attacks and consequences of their behavior. Therapy will help you to stay calm under the pressure they constantly create for you. Do not be too emotionally invested in them especially if they are not putting any effort or not showing any willingness to change their destructive ways. And taking good care of your emotional heath is no crime, in fact you as a caregiver deserve it much more as you are the one who is going to suffer the madness of a mentally ill person You are not less Empathetic if you consciously decided that you don't want to deal with their nonsense. Just because they are your family members, they don't have the right to snatch your life and peace from you. Learn to put your foot down firmly when something crosses the line. Never let boundaries be broken and mental illness should never be used as an excuse by the other person to break your boundaries. You are entitled to keep your boundaries. Don't give up. One day things will be better if you keep being positive

@EmptyVase that's a good point.

Mentally ill people(not all) can use the following Abuse, exploit, gaslight, blackmail, threaten, manipulate, hurt and disrespect

@Yeah Yeah I agree with you. Setting boundaries and not let them get away is a huge positive step to self protection

I want to try white tea some day. I have never tried that one. I have tried green tea And it wasn't such a good experience. I like the taste of certain teas that are not too strong and not too mild. I enjoy the Aroma and the nutty flavor. I usually like ones that are not too strong and don't leave a taste in the mouth. Choosing the right tea is almost like choosing the right perfume. You don't want it too floral and you don't want it too mild to the point you can't smell anything. You want just the right smell, a bit woody, nutty as well as slightly floral to keep it original without being too conventional. In other words you don't want your perfume to smell like a typical spray that the whole town uses.. You want it to be unique and special and not have the factory-made feel to it. You want your tea to be organic and natural and not some commercial factory product with a typical chemical taste. I have seen that a lot of teas can cause me a headache I prefer the milder ones.

My personal insights from dealing with someone who is mentally ill in my life. And what I learned. Sharing it with you. How to deal with someone who is mentally ill in your family Certain points to keep in mind You can always try your best to show compassion and help the person improve their symptoms If you tried your best and nothing worked, then it's not your obligation or responsibility to help the mentally ill person. Do not engage in Self blame. Let go. Learn when to let go. If a person doesn't put the necessary effort to change you're simply wasting your time. They might never change. Learn to accept this. Understand that caring for your own needs does not make you selfish. It is something you deserve absolutely and something that you deserve even more when you are dealing with someone who is mentally ill. Do not demonize mentally ill people. Yet it's important to understand that the caregiver family member who is taking care of the mentally ill member is literally going through a nightmare. Most people don't even think about them. The stress of dealing with a mentally ill person can cause a serious danger to one's physical and mental and emotional health. It's important to raise awareness in society about sympathizing with those who dealing with a mentally ill family member. Lot of people don't grasp the challenges of being a caregiver to a mentally ill person You will need more energy and stamina than average person because your challenges are really severe. To successfully deal with a mentally ill person, you need tons of emotional maturity, control, patience, resilience, strength, stamina stability, and lot of grit to survive under pressure and a huge amount of Positivity. They can transfer their state on to you. So if they're stressed they can get you stressed. It's like a ripple effect. Be consciously aware of this. Block this transfer by constantly resisting their transfer to you. Them Being mentally ill does not give them the leverage or license to commit a crime against you. They are still accountable. If they do things that are of a criminal nature, seek help and don't tolerate it. Don't blame yourself. Approach authorities if your life is at risk. And do not be lenient or too trusting or do not give them the benefit of mental illness as an excuse. Remember that mental illness should not be a license or entitlement to do wrong things and get away with it. They are just as accountable as any regular person. Mental illness is no excuse whatsoever for wrong things. Move out of the house/family if you have this option. Cut the cord. If you are having a distant relative who is mentally ill, the impact is not huge. But if you have a spouse, a sibling, a child and most importantly a mother with such a problem, the effect is going to be intense because you're biologically by birth and psychologically connected to this person. As a result they can have a huge influence on you because of this invisible cord they share with you. Cut it. Consciously Detach from them so as to minimize their impact on you. Mentally cut this bond. Sometimes mentally ill persons in your family can blackmail you emotionally and guilt you to stay with them. Do not fall for such manipulation. If you feel they are harming you, you are completely entitled and deserving of putting your needs first and not sacrificing your life for them. Do not think that you are selfish if you are not willing to put up with their behavior anymore or take the harm they are doing to you. You are not being selfish by taking better care of yourself especially when you need it so bad. You don't deserve to suffer the consequences of their mental illness simply because they are your family member. You have no such obligation to tolerate the suffering they are inflicting on you. When you are with a mentally ill person, it can take a toll on your self worth. Learn to love yourself because it's absolutely necessary you do it in order to protect your self worth When someone is mentally ill, they are literally like a ball of negative energy or a time bomb. This is not to demonize people who are mentally ill. This is only to understand how it feels like to be around a mentally ill person. . It's important to have a careful tradeoff between having compassion for them and not sacrificing your health or life for them. Of course you can have compassion, yet when it reaches a point where you feel like you are sacrificing too much or your compassion is coming at a huge personal cost, it's important to create a tradeoff and show compassion only to the extent where it's beneficial to both of you. Do not ruminate over the question why you are suffering so much, accept things as they are and let go. Don't go into a self pity mode. Do not let them gaslight you Have compassion and mercy for them but do not lose compassion for yourself. Respect yourself just as mich. Learn to say No when their mentally ill behavior is going out of control and hurting you. Especially when their behavior is infringing on your personal boundaries. Consider therapy. As much as they need therapy for their chaotic psychosis, you need therapy as a caregiver to be able to deal with their negativity and their constant attacks and consequences of their behavior. Therapy will help you to stay calm under the pressure they constantly create for you. Do not be too emotionally invested in them especially if they are not putting any effort or not showing any willingness to change their destructive ways. And taking good care of your emotional heath is no crime, in fact you as a caregiver deserve it much more as you are the one who is going to suffer the madness of a mentally ill person You are not less Empathetic if you consciously decided that you don't want to deal with their nonsense. Just because they are your family members, they don't have the right to snatch your life and peace from you. Learn to put your foot down firmly when something crosses the line. Never let boundaries be broken and mental illness should never be used as an excuse by the other person to break your boundaries. You are entitled to keep your boundaries. Don't give up. One day things will be better if you keep being positive

Please don't make this personal and stay on topic. I don't like being discussed in a very personal way when the thread is discussing a serious topic. Don't make it about me. Thanks

How to deal with someone who is mentally ill in your family Certain points to keep in mind You can always try your best to show compassion and help the person improve their symptoms If you tried your best and nothing worked, then it's not your obligation or responsibility to help the mentally ill person. Do not engage in Self blame. Let go. Learn when to let go. If a person doesn't put the necessary effort to change you're simply wasting your time. They might never change. Learn to accept this. Understand that caring for your own needs does not make you selfish. It is something you deserve absolutely and something that you deserve even more when you are dealing with someone who is mentally ill. It's important to raise awareness in society about sympathizing with those who dealing with a mentally ill family member. Lot of people don't grasp the challenges of being a caregiver to a mentally ill person You will need more energy and stamina than average person because your challenges are really severe. To successfully deal with a mentally ill person, you need tons of emotional maturity, control, patience, resilience, strength, stamina stability, and lot of grit to survive under pressure and a huge amount of Positivity. They can transfer their state on to you. So if they're stressed they can get you stressed. It's like a ripple effect. Be consciously aware of this. Block this transfer by constantly resisting their transfer to you. Move out of the house/family if you have this option. Cut the cord. If you are having a distant relative who is mentally ill, the impact is not huge. But if you have a spouse, a sibling, a child and most importantly a mother with such a problem, the effect is going to be intense because you're biologically by birth and psychologically connected to this person. As a result they can have a huge influence on you because of this invisible cord they share with you. Cut it. Consciously Detach from them so as to minimize their impact on you. Mentally cut this bond. Sometimes mentally ill persons in your family can blackmail you emotionally and guilt you to stay with them. Do not fall for such manipulation. If you feel they are harming you, you are completely entitled and deserving of putting your needs first and not sacrificing your life for them. Do not think that you are selfish if you are not willing to put up with their behavior anymore or take the harm they are doing to you. You are not being selfish by taking better care of yourself especially when you need it so bad. You don't deserve to suffer the consequences of their mental illness simply because they are your family member. You have no such obligation to tolerate the suffering they are inflicting on you. When you are with a mentally ill person, it can take a toll on your self worth. Learn to love yourself because it's absolutely necessary you do it in order to protect your self worth When someone is mentally ill, they are literally like a ball of negative energy or a time bomb. This is not to demonize people who are mentally ill. This is only to understand how it feels like to be around a mentally ill person. . It's important to have a careful tradeoff between having compassion for them and not sacrificing your health or life for them. Of course you can have compassion, yet when it reaches a point where you feel like you are sacrificing too much or your compassion is coming at a huge personal cost, it's important to create a tradeoff and show compassion only to the extent where it's beneficial to both of you. Do not ruminate over the question why you are suffering so much, accept things as they are and let go. Don't go into a self pity mode. Do not let them gaslight you Have compassion and mercy for them but do not lose compassion for yourself. Respect yourself just as mich. Learn to say No when their mentally ill behavior is going out of control and hurting you. Especially when their behavior is infringing on your personal boundaries. Consider therapy. As much as they need therapy for their chaotic psychosis, you need therapy as a caregiver to be able to deal with their negativity and their constant attacks and consequences of their behavior. Therapy will help you to stay calm under the pressure they constantly create for you. Do not be too emotionally invested in them especially if they are not putting any effort or not showing any willingness to change their destructive ways. And taking good care of your emotional heath is no crime, in fact you as a caregiver deserve it much more as you are the one who is going to suffer the madness of a mentally ill person You are not less Empathetic if you consciously decided that you don't want to deal with their nonsense. Just because they are your family members, they don't have the right to snatch your life and peace from you. Don't give up. One day things will be better if you keep being positive

So what I found after drinking the different brands of tea. Tata tea gold. - kinda okay and neutral. Tata Teaveda - good for a spicy taste Brooke Bond 3 roses - this one way too strong and acidic Brooke Bond 3 roses nature care - very bitter gingery flavour quite strong, Cambridge Tea masala not tried Taj Mahal Tea - rejected

https://www.mashed.com/22548/3-teas-drinking-3-teas-shouldnt/

The teas that I want to try this week. Tata tea gold. Tata Teaveda Brooke Bond 3 roses Brooke Bond 3 roses nature care Cambridge Tea masala Taj Mahal Tea - rejected

@RickyFitts hey thanks

@Marcel

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@Marcel I love you

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