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Justifying hurting someone doesn't work

Yet you're whining here. Maybe focus on your work.

I will get some rest for next 10 days. Thank God. No more traveling for a few days mo. No mo plz..

That was so perfect lol....

There is a serious error in judgement here. Historically it's women who were always oppressed and not men. And women are still oppressed because society especially men have a harsh way of judging them and men don't apply the same judgement to themselves and that's hypocrisy. If she felt oppressed as a woman, that doesn't make her a man hater. If a male artist did the same thing, he will deserve all the criticism because men can't cry like babies, they had the privilege for centuries. And like Leo said real men care about uplifting women and not ignoring them because they have been ignored enough.. Feminism only hurts those men who are anti-woman. I understand that there is a toxic side to feminism. But overall it's not about male bashing. It's about setting the woman free from the barriers imposed by men.. And don't call her a victim if she wants equality.

Today was the most frustrating day. Had to travel for 4 hours. Too tired

So tired

I have never seen them in real life just heard about them in other countries. Hope they don't come here. Sounds like a nightmare. I have read in biblical references that they eat everything causing starvation and famine and massive losses. Looks like the Bible was right when it said locusts are a curse. Hell hath no fury as a bunch of hungry locusts! Pray.

Because in America it's not considered a right. Same goes with education and housing. These are basic rights in a democracy and yet they are not respected in America. It's time they realize that the government is actually for the people. Everyone deserves a free system and a fair system equal to all regardless of their income or taxes paid or their productivity. It's nazi psychology to be divisive and allow for social and financial disparity. America has a long way to go to resolve economic disparity there.. So if we truly consider a group of people to be equal in terms of all privileges then by that law or principle, everyone automatically deserves the same level of health care and this has to be constitutional not a handout. Thats why free Healthcare is a basic right But don't assume that just because it becomes free it will be great and awesome and fair. For example take the NHS in the UK. Since it's free it does a lot of prioritizing sometimes in an unfair manner. So they cut off a lot of people who were actually deserving of disability payments and told them to go back on the payroll. Thus a lot of people who should have received benefits didn't get them since the NHS can't handle the load. This is what happens with free care. Everyone scrambles for it causing the system to become ultra strict with prioritizing and thus ignoring a large chunk of people.. Even recently NHS is trying to prioritize critical care for those affected by the Coronavirus. This means that you are lucky if you make it to the white list and unlucky if you make it to the blacklist. It's more like World War 2 rationing system. Early bird gets the bread, rest suffer. So really not sure if a socialist system is totally operable because the flexibility is low. But if the flexibility is high, then nothing beats the benefits of a socialist system

I hope some day someone gets a conscience.

Because truth always remains truth no matter what you think. Rest is Slander intentional or unintentional

Write down PTSD triggers

This is the funniest thread. Thanks for the laughs

I can be with someone who understands me better and is more sensitive to my emotions.

I have to understand that he is autistic.. I have to keep reminding myself

February 28 Today is the worst day of my life. There is a lot to be done and I am already stressed out. I am working like a horse since morning with no rest and no food. I got to go to so many places in the next few days. Fixing appointments is driving me nuts. Today so many people called since morning. I'm fed up, stressed out and exhausted. If this continues.... I don't know what.. Some days are so hard. Last 3 days I worked very hard on my event organization. Back breaking. Talking to so many people and fixing appointments and plans isn't easy at all. Just a lot of work. Plus it's my mom.. She has to be taken care of. She needs time too. Sometimes I just can't give her enough time and she starts bitching so bad. Wish she would understand that the young generation has a lot of problems and stress and just technology doesn't make it easier. She just takes me for granted. Life is hard with a lot of work, family pressure and constant problems. Wish

You have reasons to breakup. It's good to know that you care about her. However she is unfit to be in a relationship or at least she needs the handler type. Best it to be honest than carry on the festering resentment. One day she will get over you. If you wanna break up then just do it and let her go. It's for the best of both of you. Don't hold back. You're Guilting yourself. It's not gonna work. What is inevitable is inevitable. Go ahead and breakup because clearly you are not happy with her. It's the best thing to do.

@Etherial Cat I prefer attractive men. But I don't go exclusively for looks alone. That would be like objectification to me. I don't see any problem in liking attractive guys. In fact one of my ex boyfriends was not at all attractive yet I still was loving to him. It means I can compromise if I saw good virtues. The problem really lies when you want looks exclusively and give the okay signal to a shitty personality. To men both men and women who do that are kinda shallow but it's okay, it's their way, whatever rides their boat. Personally I don't think there is anything wrong in liking someone who is attractive because love is not just love its also sex and when sex comes, a bit of sexual attractiveness is necessary for the biology to get activated or stimulated. I can't tell a man "hey don't like an attractive woman".... Similarly if a man shamed me for liking or admiring an attractive man, I would liken to sexual oppression or repression of my sexual desires. Why shouldn't I choose if men can choose?...is the question that comes to my mind, I find it hypocritical for a man to admire a woman's looks and consider this to be wooing and admiration while if a woman did the same thing then she is a bimbo or shallow or low lying. That too me is not women empowerment, more like telling her she cannot like what she wants. This is usually used as a shame tactic in oppressive societies. Men in oppressive societies feel very challenged if a woman decides to express her desire or interest. They feel they're losing their hold. So shaming a woman is a legitimate way for them to get her to be submissive in which case they no longer have to conform to her desire or even validate it, they can easily force her to be with them and if she doesn't agree then she is a bitch because she is asking for sexual freedom. At least I see it this way. Of course I know that liking a person solely for external qualities appears like objectification and this should apply to both gender. I don't deny that. If I called a man shallow for liking a woman only for looks, I should call a woman the same if she did the same. However me living an attractive man is slightly different from how men express their desires for women. And I'm only talking about these specific men. They solely base their admiration on looks and personality doesn't matter to them at all. Meanwhile if like a man, it's both looks and personality. Which means I want a more wholesome male as a boyfriend /partner. I wouldn't take a guy with a shitty personality or attitude but great looks. I do value qualities. And in fact if I meet a less attractive average man who has wonderful qualities then I would happily compromise on the looks part because at least I'm getting a good Hearted person.. I'm not sure about other women but I can tell that most women would be happier with a wholesome man, looks, success, personality etc. Which does not make women callous or lousy or shallow. I think the reason for women to choose a more wholesome man is also evolutionary and biological.. She cares for the offspring and so she wants the best daddy for the offspring. So why will she settle for less. So shaming a woman for what she likes is kinda anti-evolutionary. Whereas men could care less for the offspring, they can easily divorce the mother of their children and move in with a younger hot mistress who may not be a good stepmother to his kids. Here I'm not trying to demonize men but by looking at general trends in both men and women, I have derived the conclusion that women are more oriented towards the happiness and best interests of their family than men. It simply means women are better biologically wired for a successful procreation than men. However in real life a woman has very few choices because most men who approach aren't standard since the standard guys are already taken, so she has to make the decision when her biological clock is ticking and settle for a man who may not be her real best choice but better among the options offered to her. That's the best that she can do given her circumstances. I think the chances for a man to get a woman will be narrowed down even further and very pathetically if women have standard or best quality men approach them and if they have total sexual freedom to make their pick out of these men. I guess that's what men were always afraid of and so they decided to control, manipulate and oppress female sexuality by over moralizing them so that they could at least win some chance at sex by oppressing women. If they didn't do that, they would be fastly replaced (most females would run after the successful attractive healthy male) and driven extinct by a small group of the most attractive wholesome successful good alpha males and that would be a pity. ..

That could be a symptom of depression or bipolar. Get checked by a psychiatrist. It's ok one time. But if you are struggling every day then it's abnormal.

@Arcangelo thank you so much. You are a godsend.

@Endangered-EGO I can summarize my opinion on the whole spiral dynamics issues in this way. Spiral dynamics thinking and character are two different things. There's a split between the two. So the spiral stage for both will be different. One spiral stage for thinking, opinions and intelligence Another spiral stage for character. What I mean is this When it comes to thinking I can consider Osho as Stage Yellow and sometimes stage Turquoise. When it comes to character, all these gurus are stage orange. They may have wise thoughts and solutions for human nature and humanity but they can significantly lack in altruism, purpose and empathy. So when it comes to character, they are far behind.

You're making the same point that I'm making. Some Indian guru is not enlightened or stage Turquoise simply because they have a long beard or because they are Indian.. That's why Spiral Dynamics is not accurate. Because it's the personality that matters. And how do you Guage personality? Through their actions, deeds and their true intentions and purpose. Maybe Yoghi Bhajan is a 100% turquoise in your eyes. But not in my eyes. A rapist cannot be a human much less turquoise. That's exactly the reason why spiral dynamics has limited success when it comes to evaluating a person. It puts people on a pedestal. Don't follow people on the basis of what stage they belong to or appear to belong to. Follow real people with real principles, authentic personalities and great intentions.