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I have to understand that he is autistic.. I have to keep reminding myself

February 28 Today is the worst day of my life. There is a lot to be done and I am already stressed out. I am working like a horse since morning with no rest and no food. I got to go to so many places in the next few days. Fixing appointments is driving me nuts. Today so many people called since morning. I'm fed up, stressed out and exhausted. If this continues.... I don't know what.. Some days are so hard. Last 3 days I worked very hard on my event organization. Back breaking. Talking to so many people and fixing appointments and plans isn't easy at all. Just a lot of work. Plus it's my mom.. She has to be taken care of. She needs time too. Sometimes I just can't give her enough time and she starts bitching so bad. Wish she would understand that the young generation has a lot of problems and stress and just technology doesn't make it easier. She just takes me for granted. Life is hard with a lot of work, family pressure and constant problems. Wish

You have reasons to breakup. It's good to know that you care about her. However she is unfit to be in a relationship or at least she needs the handler type. Best it to be honest than carry on the festering resentment. One day she will get over you. If you wanna break up then just do it and let her go. It's for the best of both of you. Don't hold back. You're Guilting yourself. It's not gonna work. What is inevitable is inevitable. Go ahead and breakup because clearly you are not happy with her. It's the best thing to do.

@Etherial Cat I prefer attractive men. But I don't go exclusively for looks alone. That would be like objectification to me. I don't see any problem in liking attractive guys. In fact one of my ex boyfriends was not at all attractive yet I still was loving to him. It means I can compromise if I saw good virtues. The problem really lies when you want looks exclusively and give the okay signal to a shitty personality. To men both men and women who do that are kinda shallow but it's okay, it's their way, whatever rides their boat. Personally I don't think there is anything wrong in liking someone who is attractive because love is not just love its also sex and when sex comes, a bit of sexual attractiveness is necessary for the biology to get activated or stimulated. I can't tell a man "hey don't like an attractive woman".... Similarly if a man shamed me for liking or admiring an attractive man, I would liken to sexual oppression or repression of my sexual desires. Why shouldn't I choose if men can choose?...is the question that comes to my mind, I find it hypocritical for a man to admire a woman's looks and consider this to be wooing and admiration while if a woman did the same thing then she is a bimbo or shallow or low lying. That too me is not women empowerment, more like telling her she cannot like what she wants. This is usually used as a shame tactic in oppressive societies. Men in oppressive societies feel very challenged if a woman decides to express her desire or interest. They feel they're losing their hold. So shaming a woman is a legitimate way for them to get her to be submissive in which case they no longer have to conform to her desire or even validate it, they can easily force her to be with them and if she doesn't agree then she is a bitch because she is asking for sexual freedom. At least I see it this way. Of course I know that liking a person solely for external qualities appears like objectification and this should apply to both gender. I don't deny that. If I called a man shallow for liking a woman only for looks, I should call a woman the same if she did the same. However me living an attractive man is slightly different from how men express their desires for women. And I'm only talking about these specific men. They solely base their admiration on looks and personality doesn't matter to them at all. Meanwhile if like a man, it's both looks and personality. Which means I want a more wholesome male as a boyfriend /partner. I wouldn't take a guy with a shitty personality or attitude but great looks. I do value qualities. And in fact if I meet a less attractive average man who has wonderful qualities then I would happily compromise on the looks part because at least I'm getting a good Hearted person.. I'm not sure about other women but I can tell that most women would be happier with a wholesome man, looks, success, personality etc. Which does not make women callous or lousy or shallow. I think the reason for women to choose a more wholesome man is also evolutionary and biological.. She cares for the offspring and so she wants the best daddy for the offspring. So why will she settle for less. So shaming a woman for what she likes is kinda anti-evolutionary. Whereas men could care less for the offspring, they can easily divorce the mother of their children and move in with a younger hot mistress who may not be a good stepmother to his kids. Here I'm not trying to demonize men but by looking at general trends in both men and women, I have derived the conclusion that women are more oriented towards the happiness and best interests of their family than men. It simply means women are better biologically wired for a successful procreation than men. However in real life a woman has very few choices because most men who approach aren't standard since the standard guys are already taken, so she has to make the decision when her biological clock is ticking and settle for a man who may not be her real best choice but better among the options offered to her. That's the best that she can do given her circumstances. I think the chances for a man to get a woman will be narrowed down even further and very pathetically if women have standard or best quality men approach them and if they have total sexual freedom to make their pick out of these men. I guess that's what men were always afraid of and so they decided to control, manipulate and oppress female sexuality by over moralizing them so that they could at least win some chance at sex by oppressing women. If they didn't do that, they would be fastly replaced (most females would run after the successful attractive healthy male) and driven extinct by a small group of the most attractive wholesome successful good alpha males and that would be a pity. ..

That could be a symptom of depression or bipolar. Get checked by a psychiatrist. It's ok one time. But if you are struggling every day then it's abnormal.

@Arcangelo thank you so much. You are a godsend.

@Endangered-EGO I can summarize my opinion on the whole spiral dynamics issues in this way. Spiral dynamics thinking and character are two different things. There's a split between the two. So the spiral stage for both will be different. One spiral stage for thinking, opinions and intelligence Another spiral stage for character. What I mean is this When it comes to thinking I can consider Osho as Stage Yellow and sometimes stage Turquoise. When it comes to character, all these gurus are stage orange. They may have wise thoughts and solutions for human nature and humanity but they can significantly lack in altruism, purpose and empathy. So when it comes to character, they are far behind.

You're making the same point that I'm making. Some Indian guru is not enlightened or stage Turquoise simply because they have a long beard or because they are Indian.. That's why Spiral Dynamics is not accurate. Because it's the personality that matters. And how do you Guage personality? Through their actions, deeds and their true intentions and purpose. Maybe Yoghi Bhajan is a 100% turquoise in your eyes. But not in my eyes. A rapist cannot be a human much less turquoise. That's exactly the reason why spiral dynamics has limited success when it comes to evaluating a person. It puts people on a pedestal. Don't follow people on the basis of what stage they belong to or appear to belong to. Follow real people with real principles, authentic personalities and great intentions.

So what are his yellow solutions to those religious disasters thought experiments? Genocide Or Conversion to militant atheism Because that seems to be what he is always hinting at. his talk on religion and IQ is very divisive and debilitating masked as truth and facts. He made a career out of religion. Ben Affleck wasn't far off the mark. Sorry but can't take that guy seriously and consider him yellow when a lot of what he promotes is juvenile ranting of his Insecurities. Last time on Twitter he suffered from Trump Derangement Syndrome TDS because he just wouldn't stop tweeting about him or Islam. He is stuck in orange forever.

You guys are making me jealous. Stop it already. If I ever do a teeny tiny bit of exercise, my feet begin to hurt like hell. I am must be really unlucky.

Holy Shit!! What am I doing? I'm so much younger than you. I better get going. I just stare at the laundry. Now I know I can I use laundry time.

To sum up what I really want to say. You can't rely on a label, however accurate it may be. You can't really know a person on the basis of a label and it won't mean much in the end. The label doesn't really matter. Whether you are stage Yellow or Turquoise doesn't matter as long as you are able to do the greatest good. Why? Because let's say Mr A goes on stage and gives a great talk, he is called stage Yellow or Stage Green and so on.. But when he goes backstage he doesn't even shake hands with the person who is waiting for him, he doesn't do acts of charity, only does to show people, but in reality he doesn't care about anyone. He can appear Stage Yellow or whatever stage because he knows how to act that part on stage but in real life he has a shitty personality. That only backstage folks will know but they won't talk about it. Therefore, categorising people into stages of the Spiral is like calling a person great or honorable for just being popular. The personality matters more because it's a mirror into who that person really is, it's exposed in the most challenging and vulnerable situations, it's exposed when nobody is watching and when there is nothing to gain. Even someone like Nicki Minaj can suddenly reach Turquoise by their deep empathy and philanthropic acts. They will not even understand Spiral Dynamics nor will they pretend to be a certain stage to look enlightened or intelligent to the masses. They won't have the vocabulary to look intelligent. They can have the biggest heart yet get easily dismissed simply because they don't fit a standard narrative. And remember a person is dynamic and constantly changing. Today the person that talks orange can appear Green tomorrow depending on how he responds to a situation. Thus we are in a constant state of Flux where one minute we can act selfish or lost and next minute forgive and seek the greatest good.. Everything comes down to personality and character which is rarely faked because it's who the person really is regardless of what stage of the Spiral he is on. A stage orange person might have done more good for humanity than the stage Yellow or stage Green out there. A person's possibilities for love, truth, authenticity, consciousness can be infinite and can't be decided on a spiral stage. Not saying that we shouldn't use these terms for reasons of simplicity but these labels aren't absolute indicators of a person's true nature and intentions. And a person's true nature/character and intentions matter much more in the real world than a textbook definition of their philosophy.

All business is business in the end, Sam Harris or Sadhguru or the Dalai. I'm not sure about the brand of Dalai but he doesn't seem to keen about money, more keen about his message Leo is the most turquoise person I've seen so far. He does his own shit his own way and not afraid or buying into general platitudes. In short Leo is the real deal because Leo is not a shill. There's no comparison between Leo and someone yellow or orange like Sam Harris. I will leave you with one thought to ponder on. Leo has contributed more to the forum, YouTube, Life purpose course and blog than Sam Harris can ever in a lifetime! That sums up Leo's extraordinarily high quality on the Spiral Dynamics stage. So far nobody beats him. Others are just children sitting on a high horse.

I had been on Sam's forum years ago and I remember it was free. I was a free subscriber. The last time I checked his forum and I was supposed to pay to just be a subscriber. Plus he started this new thing of selling T shirts and Mugs. Didn't expect that from him who was always touting how he gives everything for free. Now everything is charged. And the prices aren't for the student fanboys he has unless they're from Harvard with parents from Hollywood like his. Then I decided to settle for his meditation app. And when I checked the price I was...... Gobsmacked.. Like you would when you see an expensive handbag in Paris.. In layman's Language - dude making a lot of money on meditation eh! Ain't nothing turquoise about him!! Dude just doing his hustle like regular folks sitting on a high horse. He will even start selling underwear with Sam Harris stamped on it and fanboys will buy it.

Sam Harris is more black than yellow. His business is orange. His confabulations are blue. His never ending statements are turquoise. His view on psychedelics are more like identity politics. sorry couldn't hold back my laugh. Have a great day

Reacting Responding Inferencing

Grand delusions. And inferencing

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Should you pour the milk or cereal first?

Is death the cessation of life or is life the prelude to death?

Is light the absence of darkness or is darkness the absence of light?

If a tree falls in the woods and nobody is there to hear it, does it make a sound?

Zero is a number..... Hmm