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@Rilles@Rilles supposedly is not the best word. @Zanoni https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/amp/world-us-canada-50478821

I like her softness and all but someone committed suicide.

The pain body is created out of deep hurt because of some personal incident in your life or because of having to deal with a destructive person in your life growing up, for example your own mother's or father's behavior and their hurt or control can cause you to have a pain body over time. This hurt carries itself for the rest of your life if you don't address it through shadow work. This hurt causes you (the person) to act defensive because nearly everything begins to hurt you and you feel helpless in stopping it. Your personality has changed over time as a result of this hurt bomb inside you.. This results in low self esteem, feelings of victimhood which are natural feelings that are an offshoot or side effects of the bad behavior you experienced from your mother /father/another relationship.. When you think that you are above everyone else, it automatically elicits your forgiveness response and you immediately learn to accept other's behavior like their own misgivings or faults or limitations rather than approaching it in a defensive war zone manner.. You learn to dismiss the people who are trying to trigger you because when you let the pain body leave you, you replace the feeling of judgement with the feeling of understanding and dismissal. You dismiss the person who is trying to trigger you, because in the moment you focus more on the person and their karma rather than the trigger. You realize and accept that not all people are going to be humble and good and this raises you towards a higher consciousness. And coming to the Facebook part or practical approach. Here you need to be strategic. It's nice to forgive others but it's difficult. So if you can block and ignore people who hurt you, that's a very good thing to do. You are saving yourself some unnecessary trouble and drama. And you're right. Allowing them into your life and in your circle and constantly standing up for yourself can definitely be a self damaging practice. So the clever thing would be to block/ignore them for the time being. So they don't distract you with drama. But I present you with another example where my approach of letting go is suitable.. Let's say you are in a job where people are hurting you. You can't quit the job because it's your survival. Maybe it's difficult to get another job. In such a situation you cannot simply block people or quit the job. You will need to confront them, you will need to face them, you will have to deal with them and you will have to learn to take the higher road or else it will affect your work. So there are different approaches to the same issue. However shadow work and dealing with your pain body and hurt cycle is an important part of your healing.

Your hatred of others will only hurt you more. I call it a hurt cycle. A cycle that starts because of a deep wound and then feelings act like a fuel to fire and trigger the same emotion of hurt over and over. Some people take advantage of this and try to hurt you even more by making you jealous, by flaunting their life and making you feel like you don't have what they got, making you feel that you are lesser than others, if you have low self esteem, this can play dangerously into your psyche and even cause you to have a mental breakdown and the resulting frustration can spiral into deep depression. Don't let people win. It does not mean that people are your enemies but you are only opening up to more shitty experiences from people by opening up your vulnerable side to them, this is like a goldmine for bullies, something they vigorously thrive on is your low self esteem and your tendency to easily get offended /jealous /vulnerable /hurt/deprived/lonely /isolated /whiny /triggered. Stop the hurt cycle and everything stops. You won't feel triggered by seeing people in intimate relationships. In a way those images /words /people /sentiments /ideas are like a mirror into your consciousness and showing to you what's hurting you inside. Jealousy can come out of the need to control or be superior, a kind of narcissism that only you have to be the best and no one else or it can come from deep deprivation, hurt, desire (unfulfilled) because you always felt you weren't appreciated enough. I think your case is the latter one. Your Jealousy is not because of narcissism or superiority but because of deprivation or lack of appreciation. Here is the thing . I tell you these words that will change your life forever. Let that "pain body" leave your body and soul. Take the higher road and be above everyone else. Dismiss their triggering as nonsense and Let it not bother you anymore. Take the higher road. You can be above everyone if you want to be. Let them go who trigger you. And when this happens, you get liberated from your own demons, you are set a free bird. I hope you make that choice and the hurt cycle will come to an end. You're not a bad person. You are just hurting deeply and lashing out. Once the pain leaves, you will be the one You wanted to be (always) .

I like paintings of Kevin Sloan. They capture beauty. Also I like the concept art in this song as well as the message it tries to convey.

@LastThursday splendid

"questioning relevance" technique Set of questions. Personal Survey Is money important to you? Do you really want to make more money in your career? Will having more wealth at this point make a huge difference in the quality of your life? How do you feel about your life right now? Is there any aspect that you want to be able to fix in your life? Name any three aspects of your life that you think need further improvement or growth? What key aspect of your life do you really want to work on? Which particular aspect of your life will make a huge difference to your overall quality of life? What is your top priority for this month? What aspects of your personality or environment do you think that are not relevant to your life purpose? Is your focus streamlined? What factors are impacting your work and investment in your life purpose? More questions to come

Yes there are obvious psychological and biological differences between men and women. Men and women experience sex differently. For men sex is an experience of achievement, a conquest, a fulfillment whereas for women, sex is an experience of connection and longevity. Both are looking for different things. However if you look at guys who are more emotionally resonating to a woman's feelings, you'll realize that these guys to have similar attachments and expectations out of sex, hence their connections with women are stronger and their relationships last longer. Society in some ways is to blame because it does not allow men to cultivate their feminine side in them and If a man ever tried to develop his emotional side, he is shamed for it. Women are also hounded by Insecurities, either those that were subconsciously and unknowingly developed during childhood or by constant comparisons made to other women, such Insecurities can have a drastic impact on how a woman perceives compliments received from men, if the woman genuinely believes that she is not good enough, his compliments will have no impact on her. She is less likely to accept it as praise. His flirting will not get her excited in any way. Also society has this notion that if a man meets many girls then he is a stud but when a woman goes out with many men, she gets shamed so women are very much fixated on finding that one good guy who is the one size fits all solution to her needs and criteria so she doesn't need to look for another one, this tends to make her more discriminatory and judgemental towards partner selection because she considers it to be her only chance at scoring a stable potential mate for q lifetime.. Men usually think only about the moment. Women have a counting brain so they are calculating a lot about their future, the smarter the woman, the lesser are your chances with her because she has a long list of prerequisites in her mind that need ri be met before she even decides to reply to that message you sent her. This sort of social and biological conditioning of women makes it very difficult for men to get the attention of a woman. Also there's the Madonna whore complex, damned if you do, damned if you don't, which puts women in a tight spot while deciding any sort of a sexual commitment to a man. With men they hardly ever have to think about something called the shelf life, whereas with women, a lot of things are a function of time, so if they recklessly go out and spend too much time with too many men, they resent the time lost in not finding an ideal partner by distracting themselves with several men.. So yea, with women a lot of factors make them reluctant to accept the invitations from men even if they have several men vying for them, for a lot of women, this does not seem like a golden opportunity, as opposed to men

Get rid of all attachments and desires Be in flow with the natural flow of the universe That's the meaning of Tao De Ching. Nothing is lesser. Nothing is greater. No wisdom can ever fulfill man because it's a whirlpool leading you nowhere Be your natural self. And nothing extra. Don't try to improve because you will keep improving. Follow the Tao in every moment Every effort you put consciously is always against the Tao. Tao flows and so should you. Everything has the Tao. The river has a Tao. Your chair has a Tao. Tao is in everything You learn to embrace the Tao. You crack open the universe. Or else you will always be restless in the search for truth and it will always elude you. Embrace the Tao and you'll be free. Thats the essence of Tao De Ching.

I want to extend further on this. It should be like a map consisting of different aspects of life. And the questions should be addressing each and every aspect. The answers to these questions can be either yes or no or descriptive.

Hey cute girl, how are you doing?

Mass Hysteria and the fear and paranoia of the unknown.

The problem of consent. I think in the modern society that we currently live in, we need to discuss the subject of consent in an in-depth manner. What I see going on in the world breaks my heart and I wish a lot of people would come forward and address the madness.. So many veils, so many loopholes, so many excuses used to bury that which is bad. Some of the nefarious people today are using the word consent in really exploitative ways and this needs to be looked at and this needs a careful dismantling. Words cannot do justice to how I feel because feelings and intuition is all I got when it comes to matter like these. In the past few months I've constantly been observing a curious phenomenon on the internet and it has been bugging me. Maybe I'm just judging it. But it makes me uncomfortable and when my spidery witchy tentacles wake up, they fire off in all directions which tells me that it's not a good sign. This is how my heart is. It feels what it feels. This curious phenomenon is of the abuse of consent. Last week I saw a video where my favorite YouTuber Loey Lane discussed about McKamey Manor and what was going on in there. When I looked deeper into it, I felt uneasy and I couldn't process what was going on. I kinda wish I hadn't known about it. To me it sounds bizzare that you could make a person consent to something and then use it against their own will as a collateral in lieu of which they can do harm to the person and not be held accountable for it. In this particular artsy kinda horror house, people are subjected to certain bad things, it's even beyond my space to use the language to describe it, I refrain from using the words, and words wouldn't do any justice anyway. People are made to sign a waiver. A multi paged document in which they should consent to whatever consequences that are to come upon them and no one will be held accountable to whatever is being done to them. They are also given a code word. Still I don't agree with such things. The waiver certainly needs to be picked apart by an expert in law. Coming to other areas where I feel a rather mild form of the abuse of consent is prevalent. The case in point here is that of Poppy. A YouTube sensation, she is a singer and she has created an avatar, like a semi robot and this particular character plays out incessantly on her channel. It's all good until you start to notice that this is not just role playing or character playing for views but basically living the character all of the time, literally being the character. This is what creeped the bejesus out of me. I knew about Poppy since quite some time now. But recently she was involved in a feud between the collaborator Titanic Sinclair and his ex girlfriend Mars Argo. From what I read, I find this Sinclair guy very suspicious and sketchy. He used the same trick with Mars Argo and made her play this character and obviously he profits from it. Now when things went sour between them, he took another girl and got her to dye her hair platinum blonde and used her as a replacement and thus we got Poppy. Poppy seems interesting and surreal but there could be a dark underbelly to all of the innocence you see on the outside. There were allegations against Sinclair that he psychologically abused these girls to play these characters to create his business. Some might argue and say that these girls consented to the whole idea of playing these roles so how can any of this be considered objectionable. I still feel that psychological manipulation is a very curious and difficult maze to navigate and often the word consent is used as a loophole. Can't it be possible that a person was ill informed and basically unaware of what he/she was getting into at the time of giving the consent and now they are unable to escape by the very thing that was supposed to guarantee their safety,an object, an agreement like those so called stupid NDAs, spelled non disclosure agreements, are being used to hold them hostage. What a convenient way to continue with absurdity. So this sketchy Sinclair character continues to profit from his psychological manipulation of his clients or protégé and the only way to defend his behavior is to use the word consent. Consent is a human right, bound by its inherent aspect of the need to request the humanity of the consenter. Can't consent be taken back. Obviously it can. A consent does not give the right or privilege to go against or break the law. This is something that these people forget. They take the word consent very literally. This whole thing reminds me of what Andy Warhol said "art is what you can get away with."

I'm glad.

I'll always remember your love and kindness. Thank you for being here. Your support means a lot.

Those who have observed me for some time and my writing and my analysis and thoughts can probably have a better idea I guess.

I often find that my writing is not lucid enough. I find it hard to articulate. This is not because English is not my native language but I guess it's just that I lack in creative skill. Hopefully with time, I will detach away from my disconnected scattered sort of writing and be able to smoothly and coherently articulate in a more condensed manner. But right now this will be my writing style for some time. Scattered just like my brain is. I might have a mild degree of autism on the spectrum. I suspect a deficit that causes me to not be very quick or be clumsy and haphazard all the time.

@fridjonk yep. Great suggestion I will need to keep working harder around it.

The dream was about...hmm. I forgot.. Forgetting it is the most frustrating part. The quality of my sleep has been badly impacted because of these nightmares. I barely sleep now.

I broke myself out of my dream. Right when it was progressing to a nightmare I snapped. I will have to develop the intuitive skill to snap during the nightmare in order to stop the panic attacks. I cannot go to a therapist now. So I'm stuck. I will have to find my own solutions to this problem.

In a few days I'm going to discuss the problem of consent. I see consent being widely abused and a very misunderstood word that is being thrown around liberally to defend any form of criminal behavior. I think it's time that the guidelines for consent are changed so that people with bad intentions are not allowed to misuse them anymore. Right now Poppy(thatpoppy) is just a politically correct character in my book.

I'm thinking about beautiful creatures - imaginary Like Elves, Dwarfs, Angels, goblins, Fairies /Faes, Nymphs and Gods and Goddesses.

I actually like the idea of the war nymph created by grimes. Interesting. It's like your very survival has been a war all along. If you look closely at your life then you will see that Almost everything has been you fighting for something You had to fight so many diseases as a child to survive You try to survive at your job You compete for a career You struggle against time during exams You struggle to fill the needs of your family You struggle against time and age You struggle to keep your body healthy You fight against bullies in the classroom Your struggle with broken friendships You struggle and fight to get a good partner or relationship You fight to keep the relationship alive You fight to keep your kids healthy You fight or struggle to keep your marriage alive You fight to save enough money You fight to prevent the toxicity of the world You literally struggle for every single thing every day. You have to work hard to secure it. If you look at life, it's a war like state of being all along. Everything in your life has been a fight for something, a fight to survive and live despite all the odds. You are a warrior anyway, whether you like it or not. You are a war nymph.

New technique I will call it "questioning relevance" technique. This is a questionnaire based technique. You need to ask the question, "if this is relevant to me, what things are actually relevant to my future?“ An example. Let's say you are a successful trader at Wall Street. Just imagine. You have tons of money in your bank account. You don't need anymore. You don't need to chase money anymore. So now when you look at the map of your future you want to narrow your focus to something more important You can use this technique in this manner by asking questions like ? Can more money make my life any better? ?So right now what element can dramatically alter the quality of my life - is it money or relationships? ? Whats lacking in my life? ? Is this going to serve my purpose?

Project 1 - mini exercises Project 2 - Emotional love and healing Project 3 - spiritual love and universal love Project 4 - sexual love and romantic love Project 5 - building self esteem and confidence