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Battle of Egoes versus Battle of Values.

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@Parththakkar12 a lot of Americans don't want guns. And that's true as well. America is very divided on guns. Not every American wants guns.. Things are going to change rapidly.

I completely understand your point. I have already seen America's obsession and love for the second amendment and how they like to flaunt their toys. But children shouldn't play with toys Guns are owned by people without proper background checks. Humanity hasn't reached the point of spiritual sanity where guns can be safely used only for the most righteous intents and purposes. Btw when you reach that level of spirituality you wouldn't need to use guns. The whole world is not stupid or crazy to not have guns. Guns are weapons just like weapons of mass destruction. Guns create unnecessary fear and paranoia and that's why they are revered in the West. If you are going to worship a gun, also learn to face the psychological consequences of the person being shot. Guns are only useful as long as they are used. Otherwise they would be sitting in your attic or basement catching rust. Guns are no toys. Guns are responsible for millions of suicides per year. Guns are responsible for a lot of domestic homicides. Guns is what America was built on. That's why guns need to be gone, because how much ever pride is associated with it, they are a symbol of oppression and destruction. Drugs were also considered a symbol of fantasy. Coke and junk food was considered a symbol of modernity. But times have changed and people shun junk food and organic food has become the latest craze. Once people realize that something is toxic, conscious people gradually begin to drop it from their lifestyle menu. Unconscious people later follow suit. People need to give up outdated thinking and move on to a healthy future. That's how society evolves. We aren't tribals to remain stuck to outdated patterns.

You cannot hold on to what can happen and what cannot happen. Technically speaking a lot of things can happen. People should stop living in the future and start living in the present. Don't think what can happen. Rather think what is happening. Right now guns are happening and they are pretty bad and they need to be done away with. Leo makes it look so easy by saying you can't get rid of guns. Why be so pessimistic? Anything is possible if you put your mind to it A revolution will happen in America. People will get fed up with guns. The CHAZ has been created. Even if it's a small change, it's still a change. America will be truly free when the whole of America will be free of guns. Then Tecumseh’s curse will be lifted.

@abundance exactly. @Godhead

@Godhead I totally agree with you. I have no idea how Leo doesn't understand such a basic thing.

Trying living in a country where there are absolutely no guns. Live in India. I don't know other countries but I guess there are many many countries that don't have guns. Take that gun wool off your eyes. You have this illusion that criminals will kill you with guns. Nope. That's just an illusion. If that was true, I would have been dead by now, shot dead by a criminal with a gun In a country that bans guns very strictly, criminals cannot stock up guns. It's difficult. Who will supply them with guns? You don't understand. It doesn't work like this. Even if a few criminals have guns, they can't kill everyone. There's the police that can kill them. America is under an illusion that it needs guns. You don't need guns..

Haha. Pretty much like the conversation between me and my boyfriend regarding this issue.

I would propose the complete elimination of guns. Because even if there are background checks, people still find a way to illegally get guns. Guns is the root cause of all the police brutality issues. Here in my country the police are not paranoid because they are already aware that nobody has a gun. There is just no way to get a gun because nobody sells them. They will be immediately confiscated. The police in America are very scared of the possibility of someone killing them with a gun. That's why they act so fast and they have to be on such a tight guard. They are on high alert all the time and that causes them to use excessive force even if they don't intend to. Remove the guns and see how differently police will approach people. You're ginormously increasingly the threat levels by introducing guns. Guns can't create a society. But they can definitely destroy a society.

@Epikur that's what police training is supposed to be all about and not just learning to use a weapon and police protocols. 2 month training for a cop is the biggest joke. 2 months is not even enough for my art course, how in the world does it become enough to be a cop? The USA as with everything else wants to produce the Fast Cop industry just like their fast food industry. They let in any Tom Dick and Harry to become a cop just because they are under staffed. Let's talk about reality here from a meta perspective. I am very well aware and I also got a confirmation from my American boyfriend who told me that most cops who enroll into the police force are not good people. These are bullies, thuggish people, who have served in the military, who drink beer and are generally aggressive and violent and not high on morals. Such people sign up to become cops. Then what do you expect? Do you expect they will care for human life.

The trade off and the choice is yours. The trade off really is between killing a person from a minority community and then having the entire country blow up in your face in the form of riots and more people getting killed, buildings burned, businesses destroyed and general civil unrest and even possibility of civil war, deploying military to control the public unrest as Trump tried to do which involves ultimately even more expenditure of money, resources and manpower. And all of this expenditure together with the uncertainty of the masses reactions. All of this mayhem over what? The death of a man at the hands of the police. Maybe the police were better off letting the dude go.. You're not being practical here. You have to make the trade off between opting for that miniscule 0.9 % extra fairness or face a situation of civil riots disruption and many deaths for the death of one person. I personally would be more than ready to pay 3 times more tax to the government to have a properly funded and staffed well trained police and have a sense of peace rather than having to face riots and possibilities of a war zone and tensed community relations. Because that's even a bigger threat than a bunch of hooligans let go by the police.

@Onemanwolfpac I understand your need to protect your family. I would have said that the cop has the right to use his gun. But only under one circumstance. When the guy he is chasing has a gun pointed at the cop. In this situation, the cop's life also matters and he has every right to defend himself by using the guy. But you're not getting my point. You are constantly missing my point. If the criminal is not a threat, then the cop does not have the right to kill him. And then claim self defense. Such a law or right is not available to the general public in the United States, let alone cops.

Human life is not free of cost either. That's why you currently have riots in your country. If you recklessly kill people as a cop, also pay for the consequences by standing in court and face murder charges. This also consumes a lot of energy and resources. Do you know where all this money and resources come from? They don't come from the ass of the American government. They come from taxpayers money. Money that people give to the government to be protected and not killed. The first and foremost duty and obligation of the government and the police is to protect and serve people and not rule them. Not bully them. Not kill them If the police is under staffed, that's not the mistake of the citizen and he doesn't have to pay for the mistakes of a failing government. The government needs to make the police better and safer and well staffed and well trained to deal with every kind of situation. This is the job of the government and not of the people. The people have trusted the government with their money to do their job right. If a police officer cannot get his job done right, he may very well resign from the job because he is unfit. Police job is like any other job. It should be like that. If you are unfit for the job and cannot arrest a person without killing the person, you aren't fit to be a cop and must resign. United States as a country should not be a playground for people to play cops and use their untrained cop skills on civilians. It's not a cop video game.

@Onemanwolfpac when policing a community you can't make split sec decisions. You are not being a child. Police need some maturity especially American police It's a matter of life and death. You cannot simply make a decision on someone's life in a split second. That's extreme self righteousness. And Blue and Red Stage mentality at its finest. People are people, not dogs. Everyone deserves respect and life is more valuable than any constitution or gun laws..

@Epikur That's exactly what @Serotoninluv, @electroBeam and I have been trying to say on this thread Fix the system instead of punishing the people (by killing them) who are victims of the same system. USA can easily turn into a killing field. Corpses created by cops.

Leo, (just one reply from me on this thread and no more, because it's just common sense so I don't need to reply over and over) I completely disagree with you on this. The video you have shown in your post is not a case of proper policing. I discussed this issue with my American boyfriend yesterday and he is a white guy and he doesn't come from a ghetto. He absolutely agreed that it wasn't okay to shoot the guy. In fact he was the one to show me the same video yesterday. You don't need to actually come from a ghetto to actually understand someone from there. You need basic empathy to understand people better. With empathy you can put yourself in their shoes and visualize how it feels to be treated like them. This black man was a sturdy guy who had immense strength. Those 2 white officers were completely unprepared to handle this guy on their own. You would need a minimum of 6 white police officers to handle such a guy. So the police department was under staffed to deal with such a situation. If there are more police officers they wouldn't be so stressed out. The responsibilities would be divided into lot of people. Now the main context. This person was running away with a taser. There is no requirement for them to shoot this person. They can arrest him the next day. If they have a person running away from them, then they just have to let them go.. Now see how I can dig holes in your argument. Look at the police in other countries. Police in my country for example. Here the police is very under staffed and the criminals always run away. What do the police do? They come back the next day and catch them. That's hard work that these American cops do not wish to do. They are impatient and full of toxic pride. The black guy ran away. Maybe that hurt the pride of the cop because they couldn't get him so maybe they shot him to get their job done. At least that's how I see this situation. Consider this situation a bit tilted and changed. Imagine that it's not a black man in this same situation. But a pregnant black woman. Let's say they are trying to overpower her and she somehow grabbed the taser and is now running away. Would the cops still shoot her?? The danger that they have to face from this black man holding a taser is the same danger that they will face from the pregnant black woman holding a taser. But they most likely wouldn't shoot her and let her go. Out of sympathy for her being pregnant. So why would they shoot this guy?? Because it's probably much easier to shoot a black man than any other race or gender. Would they shoot a kid who is running away with a taser? This is where your theory falls completely apart. The perceived sense of danger is only a perceived sense of danger. Remember when you sign up for being a cop, you sign up for all sorts of dangers, mainly danger to life. You can't sign up for the military and expect not to get killed. You can't sign up to be a cop and not expect to be killed in line of duty. This is their duty. Their duty is not to arrest people dead. But to arrest them alive. Police duty is not as hard as you make it out to be. It is hard only and only in the US. It is hard in other countries as well but guess what people don't end up dead at the hands of the police. You have to be glad that this is the US and this shit is allowed under your constitution and people aren't fighting enough. If this was happening in Saudi Arabia and India or any other non European country, the police would have been immediately disbanded because these countries don't tolerate such brutal violence, that's why we don't have guns and that's why we don't have a gun culture. I will give you a good reason why your police is so agressive in their actions. First reason is that United States has such a ridiculous gun culture that doesn't exist in any country in the world. This should probably be a good clue that guns are just bad. Communities have to live in basic decency and not in constant fear and mistrust of each other. Otherwise it should be called a tribal community, like yours, and such communities are not sustainable, because they will lead to a lot of chaos out of sheer fear and paranoia, just like your country is witnessing right now. Second reason is that your constitution just allows all of this violence from the cops. In other countries there are procedures for arrests, and by constitution they are not supposed to kill a person even if it meant letting him go. And this applies to severe criminals as well. Police strictly follow these procedures or they will be indicted for murder. Other countries are fully aware that police can abuse power if power is absolutely concentrated in their hands. That's why they don't let the police make absolute decisions. The fact that your police officers can decide between life and death during an arrest (and they aren't arresting Ted Bundy or El Chapo or Pablo Escobar in this case, just a regular arrest of a criminal) then it goes to show how much power has been placed in the hands of the cops, given that America is touted as the greatest democracy, the land of the brave and free, this is laughable. Freedom should not come at the cost of someone's death. Total power in the hands of the cop is the opposite of Freedom and Liberty. Third reason is - absolutely zero respect for the rights of the citizen. Understand that with or without a constitution, by human law, a person has the basic right to life. Even a doctor cannot decide to end the life of the terminally ill and such a request to end the life is then surrendered to the family members to finally make the decision. The Right to Life is the most important of all rights and can be compromised only in the situation of self defense. In the case of a cop, self defense situations are arising every day. Doesn't mean that he can simply kill everyone who he perceives as a threat. A cop can use a gun when the criminal is armed, not with a taser, but with a gun, and when the criminal is actually using the gun.. The perception that someone might shoot you is just a perception, a paranoia. This is why police training is done. Police training means training the police to accurately gauge which situation is deadly and which situation is not. To understand the difference between a real threat and a perceived threat. Nobody needs such a training more than a cop. They have to know exactly when to pull the gun. This will substantially reduce the trigger happy behavior. Killing a person on the spot instead of letting him go is a clear violation of that person's Right to Life. That basically means violation of human rights. You cannot simply kill a person just because you perceived a threat. Understand that even a normal citizen, when they kill a person out of a perceived fear, have to face 2nd degree murder charges unless they are able to prove that self defense was absolutely necessary /justified. In case of cops, these rules will have to be fine tuned even further because they can have a greater probability of escaping criminal charges by simply claiming self defense. You are not focusing on the root of the problem but only on band-aid solutions. I agree with what @electroBeamsaid in this thread. People need to feel safer, their basic needs must be met, they shouldn't have to feel they are going to be discriminated, poverty has to be reduced, less systemic problems, people need to be treated better and not like shit, there has to be compassion and only then people will feel safer around the police and they will be less likely to resist and less likely to fear a cop. Also you constantly kept saying in some other threads that these are rare occurrences in the US out of thousands of arrests. Doesn't look very rare to me given that just a few weeks ago George Floyd was killed and now this incident in Atlanta. You have come to accept the American culture as the standard culture because you think that you know better when you don't know better which is a typical American mentality. Self righteousness is their creed. Do you understand that you are normalizing something that is very abnormal. Because you have been raised in the United States and you have gotten so used to it. Maybe live in some other culture, live in Europe, South America or Australia or India and see the difference for yourself? Nobody is carrying a gun here and nobody fears a cop. Nobody fears their neighbor either. You should thank your Gods that these people are only resisting arrest. If people completely turn against the police, they will openly shoot the police on sight, simply out of fear, this can easily become deadly, and for this nobody will be more responsible than your cops that you are defending. The USA needs a notice or warning from the United Nations Human Rights Commission for clear violation of human rights using cops as a guise. It's not acceptable on international guidelines of policing or treatment of citizens.

The question is how many such mistakes are you gonna allow in the name of a mistake. Deep down a woman who is always ready to forgive mistakes is either a Codependent or is too scared to lose the guy. Either way it reflects bad on her self esteem.. I recommend every woman go through a self esteem analysis from time to time because a lot of women are simply unaware that they have very low self esteem until something really bad happens and they get knocked out enough to understand that they need to fix their issues or attract more trouble

Yea a bit. Like being programmed. I wanted self actualization to be more natural and effortless.

I will try to give a more realistic and nuanced opinion on this subject. I clearly see the benefits and the good sides of having wonderful friends but I also take into account the harm that some people can do to you in the name of friendship. I have dealt with a lot of toxic people. And until you have dealt with your own share of evil in the world, your opinions on people and humanity in general are going to be all airy-fairy through rose tinted glasses. It's not all rainbows and unicorns in practical life though. I'd say to each his own.. Some people have a good time having friends and some people tend to suffer when they have friends. To me a friend is someone who has to be absolutely loyal. Often times I end up meeting a person who turns out to be a back-biter. This can be very upsetting and discourages me from actively looking for friendships. For me the trust level with people is a bit low. This is because of bad past experiences which are difficult to get over with. If you come across a loyal and wonderful friend then you're lucky. I have very few friends. But they are loyal to me. That's what matters. I'm not into flaunting my friendships or bragging about how many friends I have. I don't see the point in it. I think that is something fake people would do. I never brag about having friends. Just a small group that I can share with sometimes. And they are light hearted so I don't feel mistrust with them. True friends are those who deeply respect you. Rest are just vultures, wolves in sheep's clothing trying to get the better of you or feeding off of your energy. Beware of frenemies. Keep your heart open and your fortress close to you. With your open heart you attract the warmest kindest people. With your fortress you repel the ones who pester you under the garb of friendship. Life is balancing the double edged sword. Take in the good. Leave out the bad. Attract the love. Repel the hate. Have a nice day.

@IJB063 this looks awesome to me. Even I get hooked to the television especially because of this corona. I will add this to my journal. And you're right about systems exploiting our dopamine energy for money making. Thanks for sharing btw

The point of healthy sexuality was discussed in another thread between me and ijb. If anyone wants to get some good points. Me and him had a really good conversation on this.

I can't stress enough how Christianity has helped me in my life.. A lot of Christians take it for granted. They don't understand that Christianity has some beautiful nuggets for life and humanity in general. Only if all the Christians tried to be true Christians. Christian values are awesome.