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That's a good one.

Meditation is a skill you build. Psychedelics are substances that take you places. Which is better? This is a trick, context-dependent, question.

Probably bought himself a bike and felt awesome for needing just one spare tire.

Reality is such. It has been, it will be, and it is love, regardless of whether you believe it, or not believe it. Your belief makes no difference for reality, but it makes one hell of a difference to you, especially because you are trying to orient your life in accordance with it. It does not matter that your belief is factually correct. Nothing follows from the statement "everything is love". This statement is so underconstrained that anything can be read out of it. It is an expression of experience that is already gone, and trying to make sense out of it when you don't experience the reality of this belief is a dead end. Now, the truth behind the statement "all is love" can be experienced in various ways, enlightenment, satori, awakening, or whatever, but it is besides the point. It is not your job as a human to become infinite love, by loving everything. Infinite love already is, and "is" precisely because it isn't, it is not-a-thing, it is no-thing, it has no bounds, it is emptiness. It is transcendent of form that exists in it, and it is immanent in its existence. The "you" that you speak of, the one that has likes and dislikes is not supposed to become empty. If you squint hard enough at the core of you, you will see that it is exactly nothing, and yet - it is an unique facet of it. Your job, as an incarnated being is to give expression to this uniqueness, so it is no wonder that you are attracted and repulsed to things. Within this framework of "unique nothing", spirituality exists as a path of shedding beliefs that cloud your apperception so that your uniqueness shines through your actions without obstruction. "Everything is love" is then experienced as surrender, continuously falling, into unknowing and being held in the world's embrace, experiencing its mercy. Shedding of beliefs is synonymous to transcending ego, because the "I" that is held as a belief deteriorates into fantasy of being a human, of being a body, of being a female, male, child, father, employee, etc. It is made of rules and regulations that mimic behavior that already happened and worked, but is devoid of presence, of seeing what is appropriate here and now. On the other end, the capital "I", the I that is experienced and not believed in, is awareness itself, is seeing what is here and being guided by what is appropriate. There is no other way to experience this capital "I", than to include what you feel is appropriate for you, personally. This is the paradox of self-realization, to be something and nothing, simultaneously, without contradiction.

Amazing quote!!!

I appreciate that you posted this because my inner critic decided to wipe his ass with your post and smear it all over my face. Thankfully, I was able to see that and I took no offense in what you wrote.

To me, it's absolutely mind-boggling-amazing that a woman's body can create another human being. This does not compute to me, like HOW?! I mean, the mechanics are pretty clear lol, but really? You just need a little bit of soap water and you will turn food into a tiny human? And this human will not just be a dead body, but a living breathing thing? Will discover the world, fall in love, disrespect authority and be obnoxious like us? This DOES NOT compute. I'm halfway convinced into trying just to see if this is not a hoax lol. A part of me feels sorry for you for having this enormous pressure and a deadline, but the other part of me envies the mere fact that your life has a purpose that is biologically built in. I mean, this is both a blessing and a curse depending on your choices, but I see it as something you can always fall back on if everything else fails. We don't have that option. If you ever wondered what you're gonna do with your life when you can't have children anymore, well, we men are born this way.

@Nahm Great to see that you found an avenue to approach this place .

I would add a following exercise: Look at something that is obvious to you, like your hand. It is obvious that your hand is your hand. Now look at something else, like a glass ow water. Obvious, right? What is this obviousness?

@nistake this is good. I had major shifts when I tried to experience the boundary between sight and hearing or hearing and touching.

I disagree with David Deida. Love is more fundamental than freedom.

This bugs me a lot. Why can't we just have a "clear the post" button with a pop-up confirmation?

The first paragraph is pure gold. Thank you @Guru Fat Bastard for sharing this!

On the flip side, Leo's big strength is allowing threads like this to continue.

Imagine you are 80, on on your deathbed, in your home. Waiting for your time. Would you honestly think that you regret not having worked more, having accomplishments that you can show off with? I mean seriously. Do this right now. Do this visualization and see what you think in the face of death.

Equating me with your ex was a dirty move. I feel terrible. They only appear "cruel" and "brutal" from the point of view of the person that hasn't yet learned the lessons that are offered. It will feel different when you learn the lessons and look back at your current self. My lessons taught me that I'm only protecting my ignorance.

Plot twist: I'm your ex.

It's these seemingly small words like "finally get it" that keep triggering your partners into fighting you . I encourage you to go back through our conversation and read it with this relaxed mindset and see whether I said that dating is easy.

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Yes, my answer is yes. Dating is absolutely brutal. No regards for personal feelings. You will be hurt over and over until you learn how to spot fuckboys. Then, the relationship will put to the test whether you actually love the person you married. You will be hurt over and over until you learn to do that.

Yes, being hurt over and over is a big challenge. I believe that I said so multiple times. This comes off as condescending. The premise of the question is false.

Men are equally capable of playing the victim and it is seen frequently on these forums. Also, when someone is called out for "playing" the victim, they are asked to stop playing the victim. Victim-oppressor-rescuer is a very common unconscious theme that plays out in relationships. Noticing the unconscious invitation to play the oppressor is a significant challenge for men. Apart from extreme cases where people are physically threatened, relationships are always voluntary and the victim-oppressor-rescuer cycle is a form of mutual power play. Children do that.

@Preety_India Take a deep breath and tell me if you truly believe this, or were you simply being cheeky. I am not denying that this is super difficult. I agree that this is super difficult and this is why I said that dating is brutal. Dating is not concerned with you as a person. Spotting fuckboys is ultimately what you have to learn as a woman and you will keep being hurt until you learn how to do it. "Presenting your challenges" will not change a single thing.

@Preety_India When you present your statements as objective facts, you are not merely "stating your challenges". There are a lot of generalizations in your posts and even though some of them are accurate, you are painting a picture that is heavily influenced by the painful experiences that you've shared here. You have every right to be angry and I understand that, but I don't think most men will be able to empathize with you when you blame them. Yes, the men you dated were players and they've hurt you, but you also entered these relationships out of your own free will. They played your blind spots and it's not okay, but you kept being attracted to them. The existence of fuckboys is for the sole purpose of teaching women how to find men. They are not doing this deliberately, so they should not be thanked for it.

You've grown bitter. Men are not evil. You're playing the victim here. The sexual game is asymmetrical and there are good reasons for it. Your resentment is clouding your vision.