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  5. Posted · Edited by Rilles

    1 hour ago, Terell Kirby said:

    How did you get her from the bar to the bedroom? What principles of attraction and physical escalation did you use?

    Not sharing these kinds of details makes your story sound suspect, especially to those that know how this shit works (like me).

    Well, the attraction kind of happened spontaneously, I wasnt actually planning on getting laid, I was planning on having a good time. So I dont know what I did because I wasnt thinking about that. The point of the post was to encourage people to go out despite their fears of embarrasment, not a step-by-step pickup artist post. 

     

    23 minutes ago, Shin said:

    Why would he lie ?

    I have absolutely nothing to gain by lying, nobody knows who I am on here anyways, I could be Obama for all you guys know. I just wanted to share something fun that happened to me and maybe inspire others. 

  6. Posted · Edited by Rilles

    1 minute ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

    That you shouldn't expect to get this lucky. You basically got chatted up by someone, that almost never happens, unless you've been hanging out at that bar many times, and people already know you. But, that's not luck then.

     

    But I wouldnt have been "lucky" if I hadnt gone there in the first place which was a conscious choice!

  9. Posted · Edited by Rilles

    30 minutes ago, something_else said:

    Nice dude! I've always struggled going to bars alone, I like clubs cos you can blend into the crowd, bars are tougher, so really nicely done :D

    Also same for drinking, I live in a heavy drinking culture so going out and not drinking is a lot harder

    I dont like clubs normally so I would never choose to go to them alone. The vibe is usually too rowdy and the music too loud. Havent missed them at all during the pandemic tbh. 

     

    3 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

    You got lucky af

    And what does that tell you?

  12. Posted · Edited by Rilles

    Because I havent done that before and it is a good way to conquer social anxiety. Funnily enough I hadnt stepped inside until someone chatted ME up! Which blew my mind, I thought I would have a hard time just sitting alone at the bar maybe chatting up the bartender but the opposite happened. The last funny thing was I basically got laid but I was too drunk to get it up so we just laid around and talked lmao! We had good chemistry! Im very happy that I took the daring choice of going out alone. Wont be my last time. 

    (No commenting on the alcohol please, its part of my culture and social matrix and it is very difficult to not drink in social situations.)

    My point is basically; Stop caring what your scaredy little mind tells you! Just do it! Try stuff! The worst that can happen is you hang around for 5 minutes and then go home, noone knows who you are and noone cares, the worlds eyes are not on you!

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    17 minutes ago, CuriousityIsKey said:

    Wait so there is death? 

    Really, guys, sometimes you say death is impossible because existence is all there is, then you say death is real and care about methods to avoid death.

     

    Relative vs absolute. Ego/body/physical will die, awareness will not because its not a thing. But 99% of people are identified with the ego so they are afraid of dying which makes sense because ego will go someday... completely. 

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    12 minutes ago, itachi uchiha said:

    @Rilles the people who make videos about turqoise are yellow.some are dishonest.i remeber a gentleman who made a video about coral saying he is in coral and some of his friends are in coral and he disabled comment section

    Thats why you need study Spiral Dynamics for a long time to really understand what its all about. Its really hard to get fooled for me nowadays , first off all because Coral is so rare that finding it on Youtube is most likely impossible and also because alot of people misuse Spiral Dynamics for narcissistic purposes so thats something to always keep in mind. If someone says outright that they are a particular stage without being asked about they are most likely a bullshitter. You have to have extraordinary discernment and always be critical.

  16. Posted · Edited by Rilles

    6 minutes ago, Gesundheit2 said:

    Principles are values that need conscious enforcement. They stem from your authentic values and are based on them. But since principles are not technically the values themselves but rather a way by which the values manifest themselves out there in the world, or a medium that the values get expressed through, they are more prone to corruption, distraction, gaslighting, delusion, forgetfulness, etc. even by oneself. Hence why many people can't follow through their chosen principles.

    Finally someone put the nail on the head! Something like this had been floating around in my mind but I couldnt put it in the words! Yes principles are steadfast which goes against the sort of looseness of being a relativist but at the same time they are important because without them you can easily veer off a good path because you delude yourself. Imagine an 1 year sober alcoholic saying "Oh having one beer its not technically bad because thats just a judgement I make in my mind!" and then he goes and fucks up his life again. Its a tricky balance. That alcoholic could easily be better off following some close-minded hardcore principle. 

  17. Posted

    10 hours ago, Matt23 said:

    I see principles as being more like guidelines for behavior.  Guidelines that one adopts since they think it will give them a certain result.  Like codes of behavior, thinking, feeling, or interacting.

    Values i see as being more broad.  So, you can value certain principles, like being honest in conversation.  Yet, you can also value your dog, a certain book, or making $3000 a month.  You can even value certain feelings. 

    So, in short, values for me cover a more broad category of things one, well, values and likes and sees as desireable.  Whereas I see principles as guidelines for behavior to achieve certain outcomes (or values).

    In a certain way...

    Principles = How

    Values = What 

    That makes alot of sense!

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    3 hours ago, itachi uchiha said:

    Is turqoise thinking better than yellow thinking

    Turquoise builds on top of Yellow and keeps the systems view, probably expanding it even more but Turquoise lets go of the mind and goes into Being so its not as analytical and more chill. Thats one of the bottlenecks that makes Turquoise or even enlightenment difficult to reach because the mind is so addicted to thinking and modeling. 

  19. Posted

    12 minutes ago, Carl-Richard said:

    Seems right :P

     

    Thank you! :x:x:x

    I kind of want to create my own mega-post with everything I have learned the past year too. There is so much stuff mostly scattered haphazardly on my laptop that it would be quite hard to put it all into writing here... But maybe I will... We need more Systems Thinking on this forum... Its severly lacking! 

    Also I dont feel like I have learned it all, it will probably take my 5 years to fully integrate a concept like Holism, its so fucking vast! 

  21. Posted

    My top 5 personal principles I figured out are... 

     

    1.Integrity and Honesty

    2.Decency, Respect and Kindness

    3.Thoughtfulness

    4.Accountability

    5.Humility

     

    But my values on the other hand are probably around 50-100...

    So what makes values and principles different from eachother? 

    Principles seem to be more "holy" than values and seem to be more like guidelines for a good and virtuos life... They often seem more pure and beautiful can almost put a tear to my eye when I contemplate them... why is that?

    What do you think? What are your highest principles? 

  23. Posted

    Leo...

     

    1. Claims hes more awake than anyone ever in history despite this being impossible to know except through his own narcissistic inference. 

     

    2. Claims everyone else is delusional.

     

    3. Constantly keeps you on the hook with new subjects which keeps you stuck and make you feel like you wont enough as a person if you stop following him. "You havent even begun to grow!" "Go deeper!" "That was a taste, now do 25000 trips more"

     

    4. Says you shouldnt make it about him then makes it all about him. "Im so awake!"

     

    5. Uses non-dual gaslighting everytime you criticize something he does, notice he almost never holds himself accountable when you question him, he always knows more than you! Its almost like he is omniscient! Weird huh!

     

    What happened to humblessness, letting go of ego? Perhaps some Shadow Work is necessary? 

     

    Its almost like how forgot how to be a decent human living in the relative world. This thread will get locked obviously. Criticism is not allowed here. But this is my personal view and you can disagree or not. I dont care. Im not coming back after this relevation. Im thankful for the 1000s of ideas I learned from Actualized although half of them arent really new and borrowed from other thinkers but it was nice to have them collected on one channel although it went downhill somewhere around 2019 when it all became about how God he was and how delusional everyone else was. My self-reflection alarm bell feelings have been ringing for about a year now about this and I have had enough.

    I have been too nice because I myself grew up with a narcissist and was too forgiving so I can see how I have been too forgiving here and been stuck in a blindspot. Of course the response here will be "Im not awake enough, Im imagining this and that" typical narcissist gaslightning answer to make you invalidate your own feelings. Bye. 

  25. Posted · Edited by Rilles

    7 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    Because you guys are gullible enough to actually listen to those foolish teachers, unable to distinguish between God-realization and all the other nondual bullshit.

    I don't care about other teachers because I am aware that they are just something I dreamed up to keep myself asleep. You, however, are not aware of this. And that is the issue here.

    And you constantly harping on how elevated you are makes me start fantasizing about distant awakening lands that I will never reach which turns me off even more. I will never awaken unless I shove 500 capsules of 5-Meo DMT up my ass which I will never do anyway so whats even the point anymore. Its like youre floating around Jupiter in a spaceship telling me how awesome it is while Im a homeless bum on street barely having food to eat. Anyway do you I guess, Im leaving this forum and your videos soon, feel like I have integrated most stuff already atleast mentally. Hopefully I will become infinitely conscious the day physically I die anyway.