Solace

I did 2 hours a day of do nothing/SDS for a year, and personally found that there wasn't much results due to one factor. My awareness was unfocused. It was going all over the place, to my thoughts one moment and then to a bird the next moment. What changed everything was choosing a point of focus which for me is my heart. I do this because the heart is the first place your soul enters to express itself in physical form. From focusing on your heart you can go into a state of no thoughts easily I have found, find inner guidance, and become tangibly grounded. Have a go!

Our natural state is intense passion and excitement, we are committed to our spiritual practice, just as we are committed to life, and committed to people. We live life to the absolute fullest

You see a girl that you like, walk right up to her, and be as interested and passionate as you can about her life as you humanely can. Keep asking her questions about what she does and get super fascinated by it. Dive into her heart! When the thought comes up: why are there no girls in my life? Bless the opposite vibration by saying for example, may I attract the most beautiful and loving girl that I have always dreamed of having in my life. This change in focus will change everything. It's not about asking what life isn't giving you, but what you can give to life! The secret to life is giving without expecting to receive, counter intuitively you end up receiving it all. Go have some fun before you die and find a girl if that is what excites you my man

Your hurt at what he said to you is your intuition saying, "Do not hang around this person because he will not allow your light in your heart to shine the brightest that it could". Honor that, aren't you looking for something deeper? You're on this forum afterall May you be blessed with the most deep, fulfilling and intimate relationship with a man that you deserve.

Thank the lordiest of Lords that we finally realize that we cannot escape the present moment, I bless you with the courage to respond to whatever arises in this present moment with more love, forgiveness and compassion; as the true spiritual practice of a fully integrated soul.

Like a child in our mind, the ego wants to stay in a perpetual cycle of bad habits as a replacement to the love it didn't receive from it's parents in childhood, and presently, ourselves as it's eternal wellspring of love. Whenever certain feelings of discomfort come up I've found myself at the kitchen cupboard eyeing up some chocolate. I've found myself as well in my mind, thinking of fantasies where everyone loves me because I'm a hero in that world, and I've even gone on the internet for days in the wake of the almighty feeling of discomfort. Discomfort only arises to be loved, any feeling is only here to be loved and accepted and adored; but we often choose to push this "ugly side" away because it is painful to feel it. Painful, until you realize that pain is your highest evolution happening to clearing the emotions were judged and ridiculed by your parents in childhood. We all thus carry trauma within us as children that has shaped our entire ego, our entire identity; and if we decide to love this trauma in the form of emotions, you will fell like your dying because the ego is being transformed into pure light. Barriers are the key to stopping addictions combined with self-love. Here is the process! There is of course other ways too, such as calling very sticky addictions talents, and just enjoying it to the max. That is also self-love. This is really fun when you get the hang of it, doing anything spiritual should be at least on some level fun and enjoyable or it's probably another form of sneaky self-avoidance. Many blessings. This whole video is heart opening, sooo watch it if you can.

(Thank you Keyboard)

I was addicted to chocolate a few months ago, as well as Masterbation, and searching the internet for short moments of happiness. I have overcome them now through centering on the heart, as the heart is the source of all thoughts, and when you control your thoughts, you control your addictions I am working on becoming more honest and direct with people, as my defense mechanism when I was younger was to be aloof so i received the attention from my parents that I needed.

I was addicted to chocolate a few months ago, as well as Masterbation, and searching the internet for short moments of happiness. I have overcome them now through centring on the heart, as the heart is the source of all thoughts, and when you control your thoughts, you control your addictions

The psychedelics will amplify the suffering inside of you. Your expanded awareness will see all of the unresolved hurt and pain in your body. Right now you are hurt deeply I read, and what is that hurt calling you to do? To feel it. There is no other way Sirius, I wish there was too. Psychedelics will accelerate the healing of this hurt, but you in the end, have still got to feel every last bit of it as the kind loving parent you always wanted in your life; as the best friend you never had; as your caring, thoughtful companion you want to be for yourself. So whenever pain arises, whenever hurt arises, whenever judgement of that hurt arises, whenever fear arises, whenever sadness arises please sit in a comfortable place (in your blankets in bed), place your hand on your heart and place your awareness on the location you feel the emotion. In time you will heal every hurt inside of yourself until you become an enlightened master, who is unconditionally loving to himself. As Matt Kahn has said, "You may be done with Sadness, but it's not done with you". I've have written this mantra for you Sirius to read out loud, as your first step in honoring your emotions, hold your heart my dear: I accept that: There is no way out of pain, there is no way out of judgement, there is no way out of hurt, there is no way out of fear, there is no way out of sadness, there is no way out of neglect. There is no way out of the present moment, only a choice to identify with the content or observe it benevolently. There is no way out of feeling my heart, there is no way out of respecting every emotion as it is, only a choice to identify with the emotion or be the parent that holds it; do what feels right. There is no way out of here, yet so many people I see want to be anywhere but here. Even their effort to get out of here is arising in the present moment. There is no way out of this pain. There is no shortcut to get out of here, because there is no way out. Loving my heart is how I can bear to be in this present moment even in pain. Loving my heart is not the way out of here too. It is a way so far deep into here that you become the present moment, and suffer in pain no more, until it arises again. There is no way to stop this moment from arising whatever emotion it wants, whatever person it wants, or whatever thought it wants. That's why there is no way out, period. An open heart makes you see this moment through love, an open mind makes you see this moment through the eyes of God. May we rest peacefully in accepting this. Amen. You may rest now. Have a nap maybe A warm cup of hot chocolate, and just know I'm here for you as a reflection of how much you will be there for yourself. Out of love, my guides brought me back here to post this, and they know that you deserve more love. They are saying that you don't need to analyse anything, you don't need to change anything, just love the one who is suffering by feeling your pain in the warmth of a pillow fort or blankets or your favorite chair. We love you so much <3

Watch for 15 minutes "Nothing stranger than people spending hours on spiritual forums and using it in a counterproductive manner" -Matt Kahn Especially watch from 1:14:40. Another Quote: "At the end of the day when you are unconsciously zonked out on technology you're just scrolling from page to page waiting for someone else to inspire you instead of you being the most inspirational person you've ever encountered; and I don't mind a world sitting back waiting for someone to inspire them cause I'm here to light a fire of inspiration in your heart and every heart so definitively that we wake up out of victim consciousness and we start blessing, distributing, healing and loving, creating the tipping point that brings to this planet the will of divinity so all beings can be free, equal, healthy whole and nourished. That is our mission we are guaranteed success but our choices determine the kind of journey we have towards that destination... you'll feel safer in your body when you start living a little bit more for others".

This is what I'll be spending my time doing:

Thank you everyone! I'll take your blessings and good wishes with me

It's funny how in a year from now I'll probably be in such a state of love, and see how innocent I was in asking this. I really only want to give advice on this forum from that place, the higher self. So I'm probably better off working on my heart than being here, it's hard to let the need to share knowledge go, one of my last addictions aside from thought itself. It's all a balance. I'm committed to love wholeheartedly, forever and ever. Nothing can stop me

Become one with your heart; it's the answer to every question you have.

It's the subconscious flow of energy, that arose from your heart as emotions to take form as a thought. Here is a question that I can't answer: Is everything I just wrote down just a thought? Anyone have some ideas on this?

You can't, you ego still controls you like a puppet, letting you have a few weeks or months off just to remind you that you need to face the deeper emotions in your heart first that are allowing these patterns to continue. Same with all other addictions, there is no use fighting them at all. Be with your emotions instead, and they will naturally disappear, masturbation being one of the last to naturally fall away, second only to the process of thought. A good way to feel your emotions is to place your default awareness in your heart instead of your head. May you see the light that you are, being the spirit guide to this body that will walk around with or without your participation.

His sentence at 1:34:00 is also very liberating.

Some people may think that I am strong, but I am deeply hurt on the inside just like everyone else. As I love my heart, it is revealing to me a hurt I didn't know existed. A hurt that if it arose all at once would destroy me. I have started to accept it as a part of me. I'm okay with hurt and being hurt, I want it to be seen so that it can know that it really is loved by me. There is no way out of pain, there is no way out of judgement, there is no way out of hurt, there is no way out of fear, there is no way out of sadness, there is no way out of neglect. There is no way out of the present moment, only a choice to identify with the content or observe it benevolently. It feels liberating to write this down, and feel this. There is no way out of feeling my heart, there is no way out of respecting every emotion it has, only a choice to identify with the emotion or be the parent that holds it; that depends on what feels right. There is no way out of here, yet so many people I see want to be anywhere but here. Even their effort to get out of here is arising in the present moment. There is no way out of this pain. There is no shortcut to get out of here, because there is no way out. Loving my heart is how I can bear to be in this present moment even in pain. Loving my heart is not the way out of here too. It is a way so far deep into here that you become the present moment, and suffer in pain no more, until it arises again. There is no way to stop this moment from arising whatever emotion it wants, whatever person it wants, or whatever thought it wants. That's why there is no way out, period. An open heart makes you see this moment through love, an open mind makes you see this moment through the eyes of God. May we rest peacefully in accepting this. Amen.

Beautiful. It shows that everything in reality comes, and go's; and to live in divine love we sometimes need to let go (of attachments; which have served all they can).

Hear is something important about love that may astound you. It doesn't require you to change anything about yourself. Love doesn't reject anything about your reality, for the love I talk about is unconditional. You don't need to get rid of any thoughts in your head; let yourself judge as much as you want. You don't need to get rid of your feelings; just allow them to be. There is no resistance here, you aren't changing anything about yourself. All we are changing is the way we view the thoughts or feelings that arise in us which are triggered by our everyday life. We start to respect, and be OK with the emotions that arise, or at least be OK with the part of you that isn't OK with the emotions that arise. Do you know the only requirement to live a harmonious life is? Come as you are. You don't need to change a single thing. All I teach you is a different perspective to see your reality with. A more loving, grounded and harmonious perspective. Doesn't that just feel good to hear? That you are already perfect and don't need to fix anything about yourself. Sit with that throughout your day. Love what arises, don't change what arises. And so we are free.

@moon777light I'm soo happy that you were comforted, and for which I hope can help you with this greater perspective on things. Take it slowly so your body has the time to adapt, reading books while meditating will always lead you to the light.

There is 7 billion of these anti-gurus. They must be eliminated, lol. Anything popular in society is the biggest anti guru such as mainstream media and big corporations like McDonald's I believe.

@MiracleMan Thanks for sharing that. You're right about Rupert Spira, he is very calm, direct, but less attractive for a person used to entertainment. You're not being a asshole because you're being honest about your experience. That is authentic. Nothing wrong with that, but projection I always watch out for

I feel this post I wrote on FB a few hours ago will really help put the spiritual journey in perspective, and light the fire in your heart to be pure, unrestrained love. May you be the loving parent to your heart, that holds it's hand and walks it back into heaven to awaken a universe of love inside your body. "Love yourself relentlessly! And when you start to love yourself so deeply that you kinda start to think that you're going a little crazy, that's when you are starting to cross the threshold of true heart-felt sanity." -Matt Kahn I live by this, I am that love which he speaks of. For every person who I've met who I know has gone through unimaginable pain, and for everyone I haven't had the privilege of opening my arms to; I hereby fully commit to this journey of love. To love myself, the universe, on such a deep level that the identity of Jayden Birch disintegrates into an empty space for more love to shine through. I single-handedly will love this world so much that all abuse, all neglect, all suffering, torture, and malnourishment is transformed back into pure love and light so that my children can live in a world where they feel safe, respected, and loved as we all deserve to be. This is only the beginning. I'm 17, and have got another 100 years or so to bless the living shit out of this world, one heart at time. This is my purpose in life, and I won't stop. I only ask those willing, able and ready to join me by developing greater compassion for ourselves so that we can bring compassion with us in our lives. I hope to be a living example of this love, so that when people are around me, they can feel safe in this world of seemingly endless problems, to realize there was never a problem, only a heart in deep need of tender loving care; a big hug that lasts forever in the greatest moment of connection humanely possible. I know what I am here for, the question is, do you? Will you choose to see the perfection all around you, or put yourself under a microscope, while apologizing for existing. You can only choose one. Remember, you are the whole universe manifested as a human being; you are the formless silence in which every form can exist. You have so much love and compassion inside of yourself that it is literally infinite. My hand is extended to you and I'm offering to guide you out of this hell into the light you are, the light being dimmed by the decades of human conditioning we went through. Conditioning which told us to fear death because we are nothing more than what we see, as bags of walking meat. Conditioning which said that your happiness is outside of your heart, coercing you to avoid the very emotions which keep you in this cycle of suffering in exchange for short moments of instant gratification. We are bigger than all of that, we just can't see it right now from one thing. Our nervous systems, which are so overstimulated because of the deep feeling of insecurity in us, and the lack of safety, that we have shifted into a numbed out state from who we truly are. You can stay there if you want, but eventually love will always win, and you will feel your emotions until you relax your nervous system enough to experience an awakening into a reality where pain doesn't exist, or abuse or needless problems. Only the things you love are attracted to you. Wake up out of this dream! Make a practice to feel your emotions right now, and see the play called life reveal itself to you as infinite love. Every emotion you feel frees it from arising in the hearts of others, perhaps stopping the anger in a father who came home from work causing him to attack his wife. That's how powerful you are. I've been on this path for 2 years. I've studied about non-duality and how we are not our thoughts and feelings. I have found personally, and through more heart-centered teachers that non-duality is now an outdated teaching as we are moving to a new era of humanity where the true spiritual practice begins with feeling our emotions. After feeling our emotions, we can also learn to see joy/love/abundance/light/grace inside ourselves; then naturally you will see it in others. It is so simple, which is what is so beautiful about this time we are living in. We don't need to meditate, we just need to feel our emotions; and see the goodness in whatever arises. I choose to say an, "I love you" to everything that arises, but if that's not authentic to you, say, "I wish I could love you" or any other blessing/compliment you want! Use loving what arises as a space to be creative as possible, to see even in the smallest things how it is God incarnate. To see as well, that everything you do is right because you can never do anything wrong. You are nailing anger, you are perfectly jealous, you are acing opening your fridge door. You are doing everything right! Oh, you just hurt someone without meaning to? What a talent you have! I mean without meaning to takes a master. You did that right. No matter what you are doing, you're doing it right! So take these gifts with you in a few steps: 1. Give attention to each emotion 2. Love whatever gets your attention relentlessly or wish you could love it. Or you could give joy or gratitude to what gets your attention 3. You're doing everything right. You're reading this like a champ. See this now. It's time to freakin shine. Let's be committed to the light as most people in the world are committed to judging and ridiculing whatever arises! I am the light, the light I am. May we all be blessed with the light of our own attention which for so long we thought had abandoned us, until we realized now that we can choose to focus on loving whatever arises as much as we want, leading to our own realization that we are all angels from heaven, here on Earth to uplift this planet by feeling what's inside our hearts at the rate we think is comfortable. My rate right now is 24/7, and I'm feeling everything turning into love. I cry everyday at the chance to live to help an entire planet end their suffering by saying "I love you" to the suffering in their hearts for the well being of an entire universe which lives inside of me, and you, in the most literal, concrete sense imaginable. And so with this knowledge you are free to heal yourself at a more accelerated rate, and be free from reincarnating to this world just for another chance to love your heart. When will you start loving your heart? How much more suffering do you need to experience until you love your heart? How much more proof do you need before you just dive into love and never look back? In the meantime I'm will be loving the world for you relentlessly with great passion and enthusiasm to be a catalyst of ending what we were so hurt by in the past. I'm so excited for y'all to see me transform to inspire that in you. I do this all for you, and my child-like heart. I will go far and wide into love, and see you on the other side liberated and free as we already are.