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you forgot to dip it in seed oils!

Learned this the hard way. But even then, high standards beat low standards every single time. So much pain around relationships come from people forcing an encounter where there's nothing there.

lol this shit is too easy! Tell her point blank that children are not in the cards for you. Tell her you're open to further companionship but you understand if she would rather end things. Leave. Have sex with her and ignore her texts. Leave. Don't even talk about your income or social status. Get good at redirecting attention, like a magician. Don't announce that you're looking for monogamy, unless they ask first. Shotgun approach with your sexuality is acceptable prior to any commitments. Don't fuck people you don't find hot. Come on. Sounds like a skill issue. If you find the one for you, then stfu and choose to love her. Don't pull an aubrey marcus. Or if you just can't resist your inner STALLION OF EROS, then just decide to be a poly slut and stop larping monogamy. It's a simple binary decision.

We don't. the profit gets siphoned to the top, obviously Nothing is immune to selfish incentives

I was thinking this but I didn't want to be the one to say it lol the difference is that overdosing on B-vitamins once (or even consistently) is not harmful at all, you'll just pee it out. whereas a multivitamin is something you take every single day, and can contain compounds that you can't simply pee away. Like iron. Excess iron could cause serious problems for some men. you should actually check whether a multivitamin is right for you or not.

Good point

I agree that lip filler is ugly as fuck. There's no real ROI other than aligning with the group-think (and it's not clear what that actually gets you. maybe a sense of safety and belonging?) However, some cosmetic enhancements do have genuine non-consensus ROI because they mimic a genetically desireable trait without giving away the fakeness like fake tits in 2025 (not to be confused with fake tits in <2010) which can give an ectomorphic woman an ungodly hourglass figure which historically could only be possible if you were a 1 in 1000 genetic unicorn, but now if your baseline is decently thin you can go to the clinic, get your tiddies done, hit glutes at the gym... and watch your power over men skyrocket. You could argue that this is still consensus, but I would argue that you are now hijacking biology (to an extent that something like lip filler cannot keep up) so the ROI is grounded 1 layer deeper than social trends. I should also note that obviously you can overdo fake tits as well. The most ideal breasts would compliment your frame. Often, less is more. This also applies to men with muscles. Western men are vastly overinflated with muscle and they're not even aware of it. Fight club brad pitt has always been ideal, but now we're all trying to be thor. Mike thurston and all of his fans don't even realize that he has over done it.

No, you specifically said that if you were truthful, you would likely still be a virgin (aka ALL of your sex was false) and furthermore you universalized it by suggesting that all of us will face this trade off to "test our seriousness." Obviously some sex is more truthful than others, but the nature of the beast skews the ratio towards falsehood, it's not 50/50

@ExploringReality she literally starts wiggling around as she's explaining lol. peak

Yes, actually. Which is why if you 100% committed to truth, you would have 0 preferences and actually drop dead as you neglect to feed yourself In that sense, a baseline falsehood is necessary to sustain human life. Still, the allure of sex is categorically different from your preference for a particular pastry. Sex dominates your day to day thoughts, unless you're asexual or already having lots of it; Sex is highly personal and emotionally charged. You perceive real stakes. Whether you get to eat your éclair or not is trivial. Having sex with the wrong person, or having no sex at all will drive you crazy. Furthermore, sex invovles complex social dynamics and the coordination of competing agendas, which makes navigation a whole lot more thorny than going to your local french bakery It's really simple. Are you acting in service of truth or not? That's it. If you take this inquiry all the way, you realize your entire life is one giant falsehood, and one of the most egregious offenders is your sexuality To be clear, I barely believe in the things I'm writing. I'm a devil. I choose sex. I'm just following Leo's claims to its ultimate logical conclusion with good faith. Everybody here should be able to do that much.

Ok let me get serious and try to steelman you. sex is typically a negotiation between 2 people's survival agendas. you're surviving the self, and she's surviving the self, and you both come together and survive together while pretending its pure and benevolent and motivated by goodness and "love" when actually you're just being mutually transactional + in denial of your own self-serving nature people only have sex to acquire personal benefit. Even the tantric "divine feminine" with her opened heart-chakra, exploring her sexuality and self-expression with no strings attached, cherishing "sacred union" with the "emotional containment" of the "divine masculine" is really just farming positivity which fuels her self-agenda. In that sense, you can see any and all sex as inherently seducing you away from truth. There WILL be a conflict of interest between what's actually happening VS how you would rather frame the process to maximize self-serving agenda But then that gets me thinking, what would truthful sex look like? Surely this exists... I imagine that to have truth and sex at the same time, you just have to be very lucid and transparent about your own incentives to yourself. As long as you're able to spell out to yourself how you are actively succumbing to self-agenda in real time, you actually do salvage a meager morsel of truth, relative to the version of you who would rather do away with truthseeking entirely. But even then you're not in the clear because even though you may have seen through your own self-agenda, it's not the case that she has seen through her self-agenda. And it's not your place to deconstruct her agenda on her behalf. In fact, to give her a good time, you have a responsibility to keep her fantasies in-tact. The more you play up the fantasy, the more fun it is for both (but especially her). Good sex is like handling a delicate vase and trying not to accidentally drop it, causing it to shatter into a million pieces. HARSH REALITY kills the game. womp womp. Ok but surely if you find your super spiritual hot witch wifey, you can both be enlightened together and finally have truthful sex without coy fake dual-agendas but actually every relationship must, by necessity have at least a little bit of falsehood. because you're choosing to love a specific person unequally from the rest of reality. You're being awfully selective about your union. You will only unify flesh with that which you are attracted to. Of course, this is not a glitch by any means. You have no obligation to fuck people outside of your category of attraction. But just notice that you are necessarily using your genitals to carve distinctions that you dare not question (ESPECIALLY if you romantically favor them): "this one here is more special than the others" you are voting with your actions and there's no denying that your sensemaking is being deliberately skewed as you elect to cherish one person at the cost of all other beings (you having loving tantric sex with your unicorn wife is you NOT having loving tantric sex with an obese woman; an ugly grandma; a MALE; a dog; a donkey; etc.) It's not that selectiveness is bad. It's that you are grotesquely effective at cherry picking who to unify with. You are happy to NOT love the majority of beings deeply, intimately, and personally. You dare not hold a homelessman or a sewer rat or a cockroach the way you hold your wife. And again, this is not a mistake or a moral judgement. It's just an objective measure of your distance from God. If you wholly commit to truth, it's not enough to merely acknowledge your biases and then to continue acting them out. At some point, you yearn for unbias so sincerely that you literally cannot bring yourself to discriminate so blatantly with your cock. As you are fucking your unicorn wife, you're almost disappointed in how limited she is - that she is not all beings at once. But this is not her fault, she's not meant to be all beings at once. That's a distinction for MIND to collapse. Ultimately, your method of unification can no longer be your cock. Your cock becomes untenable. The only way to unify all beings into absolute intimacy is pure MIND there's something deeply human about sex and relationships. by definition it is a biased pursuit that derails the quest for unbias. It is actually this rich, inescapable bias that is precisely beautiful, but nonetheless false

but leooooo truth is everything so sex = truth! i'll have all the sex I want, AND have the truth! you can't stop me!

@Schizophonia how do you deal with this in yourself?

@Leo Gura Actualized.org community IRL meetup when? :]

not the extra credits guy 😭😭 also THOTH!?

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keyasworld rocks lol

I appreciate you for always pointing these out

it's the stiletto heels. no man would dare

come on bro I was trying to gas you up for NOT having sex with your students but now you're like "actually, having sex with your students is situationally optimal! lets be objective!" classic leo

ah but you did! because consciousness :] that's pretty spicy. in the vid above, it's clearly a sex extraction factory, in stark contrast to ralston who would rather sit in his broom closet to quote your wisdom there is certainly a difference in intent to be mindful of

@Miguel1 See I would actually trust your word because you're a stud that's been through the wringer I see too many monogamous normies with their fat wives acting self righteous at the sight of someone like aubrey marcus, as if they themselves would authentically turn down a hot new side piece. On paper they say they would, but they can only maintain that position because in practice they will never even encounter the temptation.

what a trash way to get sex. same with marc gafni, but abusing your guru status to sleep with your students is basically a self-admission of your own unattractiveness and unpopularity with women. It wouldn't even occur to a man who is genuinely loved by women to concoct and maintain these elaborate victimization schemes.

@ExploringReality "angel numbers" are garbage. offensive levels of narcissistic self importance and group think/dogma. 0 construct awareness. herculean mental gymnastics to ascribe importance and meaning and then pretending that your own overactive imagination is not involved - as if the repeating number ACTUALLY means something significant beyond your interpretation of it. And of course, the disgusting duality between repeating numbers VS non-repeating numbers. as if the repeating numbers are somehow distinct and special and imbued with a "message" but non-repeating numbers are dull and forgettable and devoid of a "message." Not realizing that all numbers are projections of MIND