Leo Gura

Well, now you understand why conscious relationships are so rare. It's possible, but it's very challenging precisely for these reasons. Because the whole point of most relationships is selfish gain. If you didn't desire selfish gain you probably wouldn't ever enter a relationship to begin with. So there is a deep existential paradox here. Why relate at all if you need nothing? And if you need something, then you are selfish and that selfishness will sour your relationship. This is the whole problem of desire. As Buddha said, all desire leads to suffering. And so it does. So if you enter a relationship you should be aware that your doing so will cause suffering. The suffering is existentially baked into the structure of the thing. Because the truth is, if you were happy without a relationship, you wouldn't pursue it at all. If you think about it, a relationship is really no different than shooting up heroin. You are a fool if you think there won't be suffering involved. If you're going to do it at all, at least admit to yourself that there will be suffering, rather than doing the surprised pikachu face when it inevitably blindsides you upside the head. Think about it. The best case scenario in a perfect long-term relationship is that you die before your partner does. Or else you have to watch them die and suffer terribly. But either way, one of you will suffer terribly.

Haha! Now you are playing the ultimate game. Your game is to get everyone to stop playing games so that you get the upper hand. You see how sneaky you are?! You want mating and survival to be honest, but survival is grounded in dishonesty, selfishness, and manipulation. The desire to make survival selfless and honest it the highest form of dishonesty and self-deception. Human mating will always involve games, because it is a game. The fact that it has serious consequences does not make it any less of a game. In fact, that's what makes it such a serious game. Since the stakes are life and death, games will be played by both sides. This is the nature of the beast and if you want to be honest then you have to start by admitting that. The most honest position in a dating situation is this: "I will game you and you will game me. Let's play and see what happens. Let's enjoy it." When you say: "Oh, I'm above that. I don't play any games. I'm not selfish like you, so you should stop being selfish and stop playing games because that's gross." << that is dishonest and that is your game.

He can't tell you that because you will get disguised and leave. You can't handle hearing what a man is really attracted to, you want him to be attracted to what serves you. Hence men have to hide and play games. Because unless he plays games, you will reject him. If a man walked up to a woman and honestly said, "Hey, I find you sexy. Let's fuck." He would never ever get laid. But that is honestly how most guys feel. But we also know you ladies would never accept it, hence we play games. You want the man to be attracted to your nonphysical attributes, but that is not what a man needs most from a woman and it is not what he is most attracted to. And no amount of logic will change that. So again, the issue is one of self-bias. If you find men's sexual attraction gross, that's not the man's problem or fault. That's your self-bias and it is part of your game. It is like finding it gross that peacocks are attracted to big tails. That is not the peacock's problem. That is your problem. There is nothing inherently gross about it. The peacock likes what it likes and your desire for the peacock to like something else, something that you want him to like, is selfish and absurd. Imagine if you scolded a peacock at the zoo and told it to stop liking big tails because it's too shallow and empty, and instead to like personality and deep intimacy. The peacock would look at you stupid, and carry on with chasing big tails, as it has for a million years.

It is true that we can and should pursue higher stuff. Game B. But we also have to recognize that we are deeply stuck in Game A right now, and that is not easy to ignore. Most guys are barely able to survive playing Game A such that Game B is like talking calculus to a mule. And here's the thing: most women are playing Game A too. Very few women are playing Game B. So few that it is not a viable dating strategy to tailor your game to Game B women. The ladies on this forum are advocating for Game B dating and relationships. That's great. But that can only happen in rare cases. Most men here are concered with getting laid, and for that purpose Game A is most effective. So we have here not only a male vs female bias issue, we have a Game A vs Game B issue.

Now it is you who's being biased. That is not true at all. Plenty of men are monogomous. The situtation is not as bad as you portray it be.

Everyone loves a big pair of tits. Fun for the whole family

I meant that consciousness is in no way limited to what archetypes humans invent. This was an existential point that does not necessarily mean archetypes are not useful. I think they can be useful for newbies to get their bearings. For example, you could say that I fit a philosopher archetype. And that is would have been helpful for me to know 10-20 years ago. But nothing beats the God archetype once you discover it

@Raphael It's so funny how cultures which are so different are also so predictably similar. I'm waiting to see some Buddhist monks with a private jet preaching prosperity gospel

There is no comparison. They a very different substances.

You can't change her. She has to want to change. She will have to make serious permanent dietary changes. The first of which should be cutting out all wheat products forever. Good luck convincing her of that.

One time I was just confident 150% at the club -- I was just on fire -- I talked to this one girl and just plowed her with confidence for like 15 minutes straight, making obnoxious jokes and just laughing. She just stood and soaked it in for 15 mins, not saying much. After those 15 minutes were done, she followed me around like a lapdog. Totally owned. She would follow me into hell. Unfortunately I was not attracted to her. I was so on fire that I forget to check if I was actually attracted to her. That's the power (and danger) of not giving a fuck. But it was an eye-opening lesson in the power of raw confidence and detachment. It works like magic.

Research, research, research! Buy books and read them. The root cause of many auto-immune conditions is either a food or environmental toxin trigger that aggravates the immune system. You must find the trigger and eliminate it. Could be gluten, dairy, heavy metals, plastics, trans fats, MSG, preservatives, food coloring, metal fillings, pesticides, or a thousand other things. Traditional doctors are clueless and will deeply mislead you on this condition. Their advice can not only be not-helpful but even harmful.

My point here is meta. It's a point about self-bias and how it distorts the perceptions of both men and women. I agree that selfish men can and will take my words and use them to act like devils. No doubt about it. It does not even need to be said. Just like shy guys will have a harder time attracting and keeping women. Which is why women with nice tits love to show them off to everyone in subtle ways. She knows how powerful it is. She uses those tits to score a higher quality man. A beautiful woman knows how to use her beauty to skate by in life, in the same way that a bird knows how to flap its wings. They've even done studies on this. Women with bigger tits earn 30-40% more tips as waitresses or cashiers than the same woman with smaller tits. They will do the experiment with the same exact woman, but stuff her chest with cotton to triple her cup size. She starts earning way more tips of course. It fact, if you are a waitress, getting fake tits just makes pure business sense because they will pay for themselves within a few years. $7000 for a pair of big tits is a money maker. Which is why most strippers get fake tits. A stripper in Vegas with huge tits will earn back her money within a month! The nice thing about money is that it shows you very starkly what a thing is worth.

You've never heard it because where would you hear it? And who would even know? Millions of people die every year from cancer, or suffer from depression, anxiety, dozens of auto-immune diseases, brain fog, ADD, autism, insomnia, chronic fatigue, and hundreds of other conditions. They themselves don't understand that many of these are caused by heavy metal toxicity. And even if they do find out, you certainly won't hear them advertising it to you on YT. Most of the things you know are what sells, not healthy solutions. There are tons of studies and research that has been done on the affects of heavy metals on cognitive performance and many health conditions. Google and ye shall find. Leaded gasoline was banned in the 1970's because the lead in the gasoline caused serious cognitive decline and diseases within children turn them into criminals as adult. Lead in your brain literally increases your likelihood of being a criminal by like 5-10x. There are millions of criminals in the US right now who only became criminals because their brains are toxified with heavy metals and they don't even have a clue.

No there isn't. That is chief the self-deception and meta-self-bias at work here. What you are talking about is survival value. And it comes in infinite flavors. One flavor of survival value is big tits. Another flavor of survival value is masculine containment or marriage or intimacy. There is no reason whatsoever that intimacy is more important than big tits. If you think there is, that's because it's more important TO YOU. To say that big tits are just as functional as little tits is to not see the situation holistically. What we are attracted to need not have any functional value per se. A giant peacock's tail is not functional. Also, little tits are not as functional when it comes to sticking your dick between them. So there are many facets to "functional" which you are reducing. Your definition of "functional" is already corrupted by your self-biases. If you were a man, you wound find big tits very functional. Just ask any man.

Realistically you should find a local wingman in your area who has some experience and can show you the ropes. Look online for one in your city. If that fails and you dare to brave it solo, you need to research areas in your city where lots of attractive women hang out: bars, clubs, cafes, malls, etc. You need to make a list of all these venues, visit them, double-check them, and find the best ones that you will be using in the future. Then start going then several times a week and start approach single women.

@Hardkill Heavy metals If you want optimum health don't look at sources like WebMD. They merely regurgitate mainstream dogma. There's little scientific about it. There is no safe level of heavy metals. They are toxic in any amount and it all adds up.

That's one option. There are many different spiritual practices you could do instead. I think Kriya yoga is one of the best. Mindfulness mediation with labeling is also very powerful if done rigorously. See my video: Mindfulness Meditation, also see my video The Important of Real Yoga. Yes Yes, this is challenge if you're new. You need to spend a good deal of time researching your options and then sit down and draw up a plan of what you'll be focusing on. Go with what feels most right for you. There is no one size fits all plan. You are unique and need a unique plan designed by you. Don't feel guilty or bad if you spend a year or more just watching videos and reading books to get your bearings. You need an big picture idea of what all the methods are and what is worth doing and what is not. Education is not a waste of time it is a crucial first step. You want a decent view of the whole territory so that you don't get stuck in some dead end or trivial pursuit.

@Roy Then you should love the What Is Goodness video. It addresses this point in much more detail.

@Iksander Good. Those are important and core realizations. But, Are you conscious of what Infinity is? Are you conscious of what God is?

Yes. I've done both for years. Of course it's not as effective as picking one. They do interfere with each other. Then again, you could establish strong spiritual practice habits while you go about building your success. You could implement something like a Kryia yoga routine which only requires 1-2 hrs per day and takes years to solidify, while you focus on your work. That is a wise strategy since newbies cannot handle too much spiritual practice too quickly. But if you really want enlightenment there will come a time when you will want to take time off work and focus on it exclusively until a breakthrough happens.

Of course you can and should still do that. Containment is offered by being a strong man. And nothing I say is anti- healthy relationships. One leads into the other. Once she falls in love with you, THEN you can offer her all the perks of a highly conscious and empathetic man. But not before. Be like chocolate candy: hard exterior, a soft interior. She gets to taste the soft interior if she's willing to open her legs for you. In the end, this is what she really wants as well, so it will be a win-win. But just don't go discussing this strategy with her because she will never explicitly agree to it for game reasons. It must be implicit. Which is why you should not seek dating advice from women.

In a conservative state they would probably just arrest all the homeless and put them in a for-profit prison. Although there are tons of homeless in Austin. You don't see Joe Rogan talking about that.

Lol. What are you smoking? Women worry all the time about the guy leaving her for a hotter, younger girl. As a man you gotta suck ass for a woman to leave you once she's in love with you. It's effortless to keep women. It's much harder to keep men. A woman's reproductive value is dropping every year. A man's value increases every year if he's doing personal development work. In this respect, relationships are much either for men than women. The hardest part for the man is the attraction phase -- which is why men focus on it almost exclusively. Indeed

I would attribute the CA homelessness problem more toward CA's crazy real estate prices, which are due to CA's popularity as a highly successful and desirable state to live in. The rent in CA is like 3x that of Nevada, for example. It's not even affordable for me to buy a house there, and I'm rich. To live well in CA you gotta be more than a millionaire. Ask yourself this, if CA is such a shitty place, why do so many people move there and want to live there? Despite the recent CA exodus, people have been flocking to CA for the last 50 years because it was such a great and progressive place to live. The progressiveness of CA is part of its appeal. Who the fuck wants to live in Alabama? Texas is an appealing state because it's way more affordable than CA. But Texas culture is ignorant and backward in many ways. Having lived for a long time in both places, CA culture is way better. Texas feels like a redneck backwater compared to CA. Once I went to a grocery store in Forth Worth and asked them where the capers were. The cashier had no clue what capers were. So she called up her manage to help. The manager had no idea what capers were either. I looked at them like they were Neanderthals and left shaking my head in disbelief. And it won't take long before Texas real estate prices also skyrocket.