Leo Gura

Do not rally any outrage. Calm down and let me handle it.

@Eonwe5 You have to be careful about how you are using your mind here. Notice that a lot of mental activity is going on -- thinking -- and this thinking is putting you into negative states. This is not awakening nor consciousness, this is the ego-mind at work. Your mind is trying to compensate for lack of consciousness and awakening by coming up with philosophical conclusions and stories about reality. A thought like "I don't exist" is NOT awakening, nor is it high consciousness. I recommend a few things: 1) Stop thinking about this stuff so much and instead do a meditation practice like mindfulness with labeling so that you bust out of your mental masturbation. You have to learn to step outside your thoughts and observe them. Thinking about thinking is not the same thing as stepping outside of thinking and observing it. Taking your thinking too seriously is the fundamental problem here. 2) Make a rule with yourself that no matter how much you suffer or what you think, you will never physically harm yourself. 3) Make sure you create a fulfilling life for yourself before you go deep into spiritual seeking. Ground your life in normal stuff like career, life purpose, fitness, healthy eating, socialization, sex, relationships, friendships, learning, etc. 4) If you're going into spirituality have a rigorous practice that you do, not just thinking about spirituality. Thinking about spirituality is NOT a spiritual practice.

You take death very seriously. Stop kidding yourself.

@r0ckyreed I do an opposite practice where I remind myself that death isn't real and that I am forver.

Dude, of course people are doing to judge you. She isn't space Jesus. Girls are commonly insecure about such things. Really the solution here is read between the lines of her words, quickly realize she's being insecure, and then rather than trying to logically convince her of anything, just give her the security she craves. So you hug her, maker her feel loved, look in her face, kiss her, etc. Be careful trying to win over girls with logic. It usually backfires. You gotta learn to shower them with love instead. Basically when a girl gets pissy with you, whatever the logic is, just cut through it and realize that what she's really telling you is, "Love me more". It's not really about the porn, it's about how you make her feel. She doesn't really care about your porn, she cares how she feels. So make her feel good and then she will be fine. Rather than trying to explain yourself to her logically, just skip straight to making her feel loved. Also, take the lead. Lead her into understanding that porn is normal and trivial for guys. Lead her to understanding that porn does not diminish your love for her.

It doesn't mean that. You ARE Infinity. That's the kicker: Heaven/Love is when you realize that there is no difference between any experiences, therefore they are all the Best. When you realize this, you realize Infinite Love. It's not that you must be without bias. It's that no bias exists at the highest levels of consciousness because you are too conscious to see a difference between anything. To say "you must be without bias" is to say "you must love". And the reason you must love is because that's what God is, and you are God. - - - - - - - Awakening/Death is the experience of Infinity in its entirety. But this doesn't mean you live through every life in some linear sequence or some such thing that you imagine.

If your account is in the top 1%, they will shut you down and ask for $5k minimum.

Ahahahahahaha.... If you were clever you could have used this moment to deflect and also entrench your frame with a response like: "I was thinking about your mom." And then move on to another conversation topic. You don't have to engage girls in conversation topics which don't lead anywhere good. If she asks you who you fantasize about when you jerk off, you don't have to tell her. Which is not to say you lie to her. You just say, "Don't fill your mind with such things." and then change topics. Don't let girls lead conversations in lose-lose directions. You should already know if your girl is too insecure to handle such a conversation. For example, if my girl asks me to take her to the strip club and I sense that she's not secure enough to handle it, I will say NO. Because nothing good will come from that. A girl only gets to go to a strip club with me if she demonstrates that she can handle it. Many girls can't. Some girls can't even handle going to a nightclub with me. I once took an old ex gf to a Vegas nightclub and she ran out of there after 15 minutes crying. Because she was too insecure to handle the competition. I learned my lesson: I should have known she was too insecure to handle it and just refused to take her. BTW, it was her idea to go to the nightclub. I should have said NO. Because I knew she had insecurity issues. A Vegas nightclub will make a lot of average girls feel insecure and unworthy. Your girl is just too entitled and insecure. You tell her you were jerking off to some pornstar as if you don't even think twice about it. Your girl just sounds inexperienced with guys. She doesn't understand how guys work. Of course you jerk off to other girls. Of course. You and 4 billion other guys. If she protests about this, you tell her that you would rather be inside her, but if she's unavailable you are willing to settle for porn. You're doing her a favor here by not bothering her with your horniness. She also needs to understand that you have a high sex drive and you're going to use it, either on her or elsewhere. But again, this is about proper framing. She should sense from the moment she meets you that you're a sexual tyrannosaur. There should be no doubt in her mind that you have a high sex drive and that you own it and use it. Then it's her job to satisfy you if she wants to keep you. Again, this is not said explicitly, this is sub-communicated by setting the player frame vs the boyfriend frame. Of course you can still be her boyfriend and be committed to her, but she has to know that she is taming a player here, not some dickless chump, and that you are doing her a huge favor by going exclusive with her and that she should respect that rather than getting all spoiled and whiny with you about something as trivial as porn. Setting frames in critical for your relationships to go well. Your girl must have proper expectations about you. Once these frames are set early on, they are very difficult to reset. So learn to set them correctly right off the bat.

I am half Ukrainian. Why am I getting robbed here?

Of course normal dating will yield more relationships. But also normal dating is very low volume. You get a date once in a blue moon. If you want to do normie dating, go ahead. But you will be in such scarcity, so needy, and the quality of girls you get will be meh, and when your girl breaks up with you, you will want to kill yourself because you know you will not get a new one for years. It also depends on how social you are. If you're highly social without doing pickup, then you will naturally have decent dating opportunities. But most guys are not that social so they are screwed. You have to decide how much abundance you want in your life. Most guys sleep with less than 10 girls in their entire life and the quality is meh. You also have to decide how high of quality of girl you want. If your standards are very low then you can be much more lazy about this whole thing. It's also a question of how good do you want to be with girls? How much do you want to grow yourself as a man? Normal dating doesn't really grow you because it's too infrequent and random. Your neediness for a girl's love will turn off most girls and make them run away from you towards a guy who doesn't give a shit. So even those few girls you manage to date once in a blue moon, they will likely lose attraction for you and break your heart because you're going to be the biggest classic "nice guy".

@Karmadhi No one is gonna want to be your gf until you sleep with them. If you sleep with 10 girls, maybe 2-4 will want to be your gf. So sleep away.

That's the devil of pickup. There is a tradeoff between growing with relationships vs growing your game. If you seriously want to build your game you have to say no to relationships for at least a few years. But then again, if you find an awesome girl, it may be worth it to do a relationship. I am not telling you what to do. The choice is yours. But the combo of a really well-matched and pretty girl is rare, so don't throw that away when you stumble upon it.

Love is a subset of sex in this case. You're not going to get love from a girl without sex. But you will get sex without love.

It's relative to within the dream.

This thread is getting more and more absurd.

Let's not resort to such talk please.

Ban has been revoked.

Sounds like the perfect personality to be monk/mystic. No desire, no problem. Hell is other people anyway.

@integration journey You're just going to be needy until you get laid a lot. The best solution in the meantime is to be talking to lots of girls, so you don't get clingy with any one. The real solution to neediness is getting results.

Warning to him has been issued.

Stop turning things I say into ideology.

Sounds to me like you did not awaken but are just parroting words and turning this into a belief system. Be honest with yourself.

Stop calling it a "dark field". It's not a dark field, it's a field of pure consciousness. Pure consciousness feels more like a light field. That darkness is couched inside the light of consciousness. That light is Nothing/Infinity. There's nothing there but this nothing "glows" because it is self-aware. It is pure existence without and qualities or attributed.

Just gotta find a girl who is not so insecure and who understands that porn is to be expected for guys. Also set the frame early that you watch porn and that this is just business as usual for you. It shouldn't come as a surprise to her. You shouldn't be brutally explicit with women. You gotta learn how to set certain frames though in implicit ways, so she isn't surprised. Then again, you should tell her that you jerk off to her too sometimes. This is pretty natural for me. Usually this makes them feel flattered. One way to set the frame here is to ask her early on what kind of porn she likes, and then naturally she will ask you what kind you like. From this convo it should be implicitly clear to her that you watch porn.

Of course that is also a factor. What you guys need to understand is that geo-political positioning is about dozens of factors and it's about achieving a holistic outcome of increasing a country's power and leverage on the world stage. These are not simplistic decisions with narrow aims. You're basically doing whatever possible to increase your country's strength. And of course Putin believes that his country will be stronger with him in power vs him losing power. And he will naturally believe that even if the Russia people are influenced by the Wes to want to be more Western, that will weaken Russia because the West does not care about Russian sovereignty or strength.