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True love lies in authenticity. 

Connection is important but authenticity is authenticity, it cannot have another face or antonym or opposite 

For example take the word truth. 

Truth is simply truth.. So what's the opposite of truth? It's false. 

Do you want false/falsehood? 

Or do you want truth? 

The simple answer is truth. Because nothing other than that is good. A lie is always a lie no matter how beautiful and sweet. 

If you witnessed a murder, you witnessed it and you know that it's the truth. It's your moral integrity and conscience that will decide how you treat this truth. If you are moral, then you will honor this truth. If you are not moral or lack in conscience, then you would be okay with hiding or obfuscating or manipulating this truth to suit your needs 

 

 

That is what manipulative people do. They hide the truth on purpose or change its nature to pander to someone so that they get the  desired result. The objective of this person in this case is not to honor or pursue truth but to pursue his own greed. Which means they will go against their conscience as and when it suits them even if it comes at the cost of hurting others or even putting them in harm's way or completely disregarding that person's wellbeing and abandoning them to die off in a corner. 

Lies betray you. 

Truth does not betray and does not make you suffer. It liberates you, sets you free and even saves you from harm. It also means that the person who tells you the truth cares about you enormously and deeply loves you since truth = love.. Truth lies in love, is deeply rooted in love and love is deeply rooted in truth if it's real true love. 

No love that is true will ever exist in falsehood. That would be equivalent to saying that water can exist as both water and ice. But that's not how the laws of the universe work. A thing cannot exist in both states. 

So if love is deep, then it has to be grounded in truth. It cannot be a lie. Because love is such that in order to be true, it has to be grounded in truth. Now imagine water. In order to be called water it has to exist as water. Even if it's contaminated and dirty, it is still water.. Because the molecular structure of water does not change even if it is pure or dirty. The dirt does not impact the molecular structure of water. So we know it is still water. True love is not tainted by anything. It remains true to its form. Just like water. True love is pure. Because water is true to its nature. Will always remain the same. Similarly real love is true to its nature, will always remain the same. That is what I mean  when I say grounded in truth. It has a fundamental aspect that doesn't change at all and cannot be manipulated. The statement "the molecular structure of water is H2O" is grounded in truth because the fact of the statement just cannot be manipulated. There just cannot be another statement which is different from that statement and still is true. That is, you cannot say "the molecular structure of water is so and so, but not H2O", you simply cannot make this statement because you know it's not true. 

So something that is grounded in truth will have a fundamental or absolute aspect to it. 

Love which is true is grounded in truth. Therefore truth cannot betray love and love cannot betray truth. It's almost like they are interconnected. One leads to another and vice versa. So truth will lead to love and love will lead to truth. 

 

 

 

You have to see whether a person values truth or if they value anything that pleases them. 

For example do you value healthy food because you know it's good for your health, even if it may not taste good. 

Or do you value tasty food because it tickles your taste buds and you feel good but it's eventually going to cause your premature death. 

The choice will depend on how close you want to be to truth.. 

 

There are certain values that are fundamental and certain values that are not fundamental. 

I'll explain this with examples. 

What I mean is that certain values possess a fundamental aspect or character. 

Examples 

Truth 

Love 

Honesty

Peace 

Authenticity 

 

Honesty is a very good example that I can use to describe what I'm trying to convey here. 

Honesty has a fundamental aspect. It is not neutral. It is an absolute virtue. Thus it is non dual. There is nothing secondary to it 

Whereas consider the following qualities or values

Temperament 

Connection 

 

Now Temperament has no absolute aspect to it. It is a dual value or it has dual aspects - a person can be hot tempered or have a calm temperament. Thus there is a dual aspect here. 

Similarly love is absolute but connection is not. 

When I say love, I mean true love. 

Connection can be shaky. Connection can be sweet but deceptive. Connection can be deceitful. Connection can be shallow and fake. Maybe it feels good but it can be totally fake 

Connection can also be true 

Thus connection carries a dual aspect 

But if I say person A is very honest. 

Honesty is not dual. There is no dual aspect.. Honesty is honesty. We don't say fake honesty or true honesty. Honesty is honesty. If it's fake, then it's not honesty at all, it's just dishonest. But dishonesty is not the same as honesty. Thus honesty is absolute. 

But connection is still a connection even if it's fake. 

Friendship is still  friendship even if it is fake. 

But true love is just true love. 

Certain things exist in dual aspects and certain things exist in absolute aspects. 

So if a person loves you truly, then that's absolute. There's nothing more to it. It's permanent, not subject to change. It is as it is. 

But if a person has a connection with you, now that can change with time, they can suddenly dissolve this connection, they could have a connection out of greed, this connection could be fake or false, thus it might appear true as of now, but at a later time, it can be exposed as fake, thus connection is dual and subject to Change in the future and therefore not trustworthy. 

You can trust love. 

You can trust honesty

But you cannot trust connection. 

Because nature of honesty doesn't change tomorrow 

 

But the nature of connection can change tomorrow. 

So don't base your love/affection on something as cheap as connection

Connection can only be rewarded when it's true....genuine. 

Similarly friendship can only be appreciated when it's genuine. 

 

Do not base your life decisions on aspects which are dual or changeable like friendship or connection because these conditions/values come with a dual nature, today they exist, tomorrow they may not. 

You can trust these values or conditions only when they are genuine. 

The person has passed the test and proved multiple times that the connection or friendship is genuine. Only then you can trust and base your decisions on such values /conditions. 

However if you are not sure whether the friendship or connection is genuine or not, then you shouldn't risk your decisions on it. First test it's genuineness. 

But honesty can always be trusted. 

Definitely base your decisions on fundamental values. 

 

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3 shit tests that I need in dating!!! 

Based on the theory that I described above, 

I need to have 3 shit tests whenever I'm dating a guy based on the insights above

  1. Character test 
  2. Genuineness test
  3. Connection test 

 

 


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I (you) have to be with someone who is faithful and who accepts you for who you are. 

 


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I'm never ever going to give up my emotional integrity or my moral integrity or my sexual integrity NO MATTER WHAT. 

 


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Lmfao June 2021 is my romantic month. 

 

 

This is 2020....oops It's 2021.

 

 

 

 


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This song is so magical and romantic. 

It takes me to another world. 

 


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Earth signs 

Air signs 

Water signs

Fire signs 

I usually get along really well with Earth Signs and Water Signs. 

 

 

Fire Signs - Aries, Leo, Sagittarius 

 

Earth signs - Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn. 

 

Water signs -  CANCER, Scorpio, Pisces 

 

Air signs - Gemini, Libra, Aquarius 

 

 

 

Triplicity rulerships

Triplicity Day Ruler Participating Ruler

Fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) Sun Saturn

Earth (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn)Saturn Mars

Air (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius )Saturn Jupiter

Water (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces)JupiterMoon

 

 

 

I usually never get along with Air Signs. They are too fickle for me. 

 

Also I don't get along with Fire Signs like Leo, Sagittarius and Aries. They are too high energy for me. 

 

 

Earth signs(Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn) create feelings in me. 

 

 

Water Signs (Scorpio, Pisces, Cancer) pressure me into getting involved with them. 

 

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So for me it's Earth Signs

TAURUS 

VIRGO

CAPRICORN 

 

but out of these the strongest earth is A Capricorn. 

 

Hehehe. 

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But my zodiac compatibility are the following signs 

 

TAURUS (MY DESCENDANT) 

 

SCORPIO (MY ASCENDANT) 

 

CANCER 

 

CAPRICORN 

 

 

 

 


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4 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

 

 

 

I compared both results . I can easily see that a Scorpio Ascendant describes my personality much more accurately than a Libra Ascendant.

 

 

The final verdict..

 

I'm a Scorpio Ascendant and my Descendant is a Taurus 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Earth signs tend to produce a heady or tipsy feeling in me

 

 

 

 


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