The key to talking with anyone (on what to say to strangers)

[turtleneck]

How many times did I not talk to someone because I was not sure what to say? I used to think that if only I knew what to say, then I would be able to talk to anyone but frustration got me thinking.

What do my best interactions have in comon? is it a topic of conversation? Definetely not, what they have in comon is that I am relaxed, at ease, present and ready to react to the situation wherever it goes.

The truth is that when you are in the moment, everything takes care of itself. You never think about to say when you run into a friends. This is not a problem of knowing the right answer, this is a mental exercise of being present, you already know how to talk to people, you have been doing it all your life!

Good luck out there

 

Edited March 26, 2020 by turtleneck
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[universe]

Nice start. Definitely its not about what you say but how you say it. 

What is also great to have is

-taking interest in how the other person sees the world. In general being interested.

-being non-needy, not thirsty for getting their validation. Already at peace

-being respectful (also having respect for yourself)

-be a little childish, in a way that you are not so serious

-a smile

-a willingness to share and open up after a while

[Villager Albert]

I say what's on my mind

 

 

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