Surrendering vs Will Power

[Unemployed]

I just watched Aaron Abke's episode "NonDoership - The Wisdom Of Zen"  I struggle with laziness and porn addiction. I like the idea of surrendering to the flow of life. But I'm also afraid that if I surrender too much then my laziness and addiction will get out of control and and halt my progress. I know what needs to be done but sometimes my will power is so weak. Anyone have any suggestions?

 

[Gili Trawangan]

Tricky... the ego will gladly take the idea of non-doership and use it as an excuse to keep the addiction.

If non-doership is not in your experience, drop the idea altogether, it serves no purpose except perhaps for the elimination of regret.

However, will power alone will not pull you out of the addiction, in fact part of the process is loving yourself despite relapsing on occasion. You need to clearly see how porn is really bad for you, make long-term plans with the clear vision of your life without porn, and have so much going on to be excited about that there's no time or inclination to go back to it.

None of this is easy, I'm still grappling with it myself, it's a very old and ingrained pattern. Wish I could be more helpful... 

[Shadowraix]

You say go with the flow, but yet do not flow with your urges. You seek to resist that feeling by satisfying it.