What sparks people to grow?

[Identity]

I am on my way to becoming a leader and want to inspire growth.

However, in my attempts to do it, I find my assumptions questioned.

Vision seemed like a more straightforward answer to me. Overall, I think the vision idea resonates a lot with this community, as Leo has talked a lot about it in the past, and still does.

So the story seems quite easy to me. As Robert Fritz explains, you connect to your desires and values. Create a powerful vision from that. Compare that to your current reality. This creates structural tension, which than will be resolved through action. Vision = current reality.

Nice theory and all, and it still seems Powerful to me.

However, what is that thing that creates that spark in people? That spark that really creates a powerful change? That moment where it clicks for someone, where from one day onto the next, their life is set on a different track?

What other factors come into play here?

It seems that there has to be a certain resonance with the source. A video from Leo falls on deaf ears for all the people around me. The workshops I have been offering also seem to resonate with only a percentage of the audience. (And that does not seem to be only “the level of development”, but a personal vibe kind of thing).

Than there is the timing. Some people might not be ready for a major change. For some people it might hit them at the right time.

Than there is the specific issue they are dealing with. Maybe vision is not the answer for all. For example, I was talking to a friend about how he got inspired by David Goggins and his “no bullshit approach”. Far-ahead talks and concepts don’t seem to work for him. He just wants something in front of him, so he can put his nose on the grindstone. 
 

What other factors come into play?

What can really light that spark in people?

How do you become effective at leading and inspiring people? (Even if you have personal embodiment)

 

 

[Eph75]

You can't change people, people change thmeselves. It's not that people don't want to change, they don't want to be changed. So being the catalyzer for change that you are looking to be is difficult, it's an effort that can only be that effort and if it create change is fully up to the individual. 

So the only thing you can do is to be who you need to be in order to resonate with that individual and communicate with individual i  such a way that it creates a space in which he or her can stretch his or hers sense making. 

Depending on the scenario you can create challenges for that individual that creates an environment in which that someone needs to operate in which it is depanded for he/her to do that stretch. In a work related scenario that could be a challenging promotion or some sort of role that require that individual to adopt skills and abilities that are outside of their current skill set. 

In a non-work related scenario it becomes a lot more difficult as you can't play on accountability, the individual simple have no reason to accept your challenges except for the simole reason that they themselves find them in some way intriguing. 

You're left to communicating with them in such a way that they get to stretch their sense making and reasoning to new grounds and thereby trigger developmental growth. 

Another way to trigger developmental growth is to go through crisis. In a worl related scenario you can implement deliberate "mini crisis" that psychoactivates people in suvh a way that they have to make new sense out of a situation that they previously haven't experiences. 

In a non-work related scenario, creating crisis would seems a bit sociopathic or even psychopathic. You simply don't have thw right to toy with peoples lives. 

So you are pretty much left to reasoning with themnand getting them to reason for themselves through coaching like conversations that are deliberately designed to be developmental.

With some luck you trigger unvonscious developmental growth / upgraded sense making through such conversations but they are more likely to be rather local than globally psychoactive in such a way that they are more comparable with subliminal messages than actual growth - in a sense manipulativ. In a best case scenario it triggerst a conscious/aware growth which works like a switch, something that switches suddenly, like an a-ha experience leaving the person with a "oh wow, how did I not see that before"-experience that trigger an active hunger for continued growth. 

So in short, it's a lot about being a spiral wizard in such a way they you communicate with different individuals in different ways so that you offer what that individual needs in the exact time and space to overcome challenges that they themselves are incapable of achieving on their own.

A trap with being a catalyzer for others change is that you have a plan for in what way they should change. You can and should only set out to help upgrade their inner sense making process so that they themselves can make sense in a more complex way. What sense that is, that is not up to you to decide. They themselves will sort that out. 

[Leo Gura]

2 hours ago, Identity said:

However, what is that thing that creates that spark in people? That spark that really creates a powerful change? That moment where it clicks for someone, where from one day onto the next, their life is set on a different track?

Consciousness & insight

Also, your message needs to FIT your audience. This is key. You can apply Spiral Dynamics here. If you're speaking to a stage Orange audience, a New Age vision of meeting God will only annoy them. However, a vision of success, personal improvement, science, technology, money, sex, business, big muscles, fast cars, big houses, luxury shopping -- that will excite them. Conversely, if you're talking to a group of hippies, a vision of fast cars and luxury shopping will fall flat on its face.