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MarkusSweden

Is it wrong not to have any need for belonging?

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Am I normal as a person that has no desire for belonging. I feel I belong to the universe and myself. Too me that is enough. 

I have needs for interaction though just as anybody else. But there is no need for a particular one. 

I love to be here to discuss self development for example, I like being on a discord for discussing crypto trading  which is an interest I have. 

I play tennis in a club every week, great social interaction, but I don't have private friendships with them(which I like) 

I also like to run into strangers, I am open and warm as a person so I often go deep very quickly with people. 

In fact, I'm very interested of people. 

And when it comes to love affairs, I love the process of getting to know a "new" person intimate as well as psychologically. But I have no desire really to hold on. 

I am not interesting in building a future with anyone, I love to live on my own. I never feel lonely with myself, only in wrong company. 

So, I like to have people around me, work colleges, tennis colleges, strangers, a love affair here and there. 

I'm not in my 20's any longer, so its not a youth thing, it's just how I feel that I am. 

However, even though I'm very happy with my life and like it the way it is, and hope it continue in the same way..

..but I can't help thinking that something might be wrong with me, I don't see others that is like me really. Bohimians maybe, but I don't feel like a bohemian. I like responsibility and work ethics. 

I also feel quilty for not having any interests in family business, I don't have a family on my own, but this quity feeling is mostly regarding my parents and my brothers family.

I just don't have any desire. I don't have anything against them, I would like them to be as happy as they can. But socialising with them..I have not the slightly desire for that.

Although they have always been very generous with me, money wise. And they have always kept promises and have dinner ready whenever I like to come home.

They might not get my personality since they are very practical and I'm not. I am a spiritual person that likes music, art, sports, none of that caught my family interested. It's most about practical issues in my family such as work, house, family, economy, gossip. 

But this is not about my family, I shouldn't have write so much about that. This thread is about if it's normal not to long for deep belonging to others. As I started, I think I got deep belonging with universe and myself and feel like that is enough. 

And since I enjoy my life it shouldn't be any problem I guess. But what if I suppress something in me, like fear or unsecurity for belonging subconsciously? But then I wouldn't feel happy with my life, right? 

Or is my happiness a sign of mania in order to hide me from a past trauma or something?  

What do you think?    

Edited by MarkusSweden

Isn't it so, yes or no? 

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Consult a specialist (just in case).

Not something you can uncover like that on a forum.

If you are really bullshitting yourself here, considering what you said it's unlikely that you will realize the truth all by yourself.

I mean you could, but It would take way longer.

 

Edited by Shin

God is love

Whoever lives in love lives in God

And God in them

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20 minutes ago, MarkusSweden said:

I feel I belong to the universe and myself. Too me that is enough. 

sounds good. 

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3 minutes ago, Mighty Mouse said:

@MarkusSweden I see no problems with it.

Sounds like the mark of maturity to me.

 

Yeah but he's still making a post about it. 

So maybe consulting a specialist, just in case there is really something here sounds smart.


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Whoever lives in love lives in God

And God in them

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4 minutes ago, Mighty Mouse said:

@MarkusSweden I see no problems with it.

Sounds like the mark of maturity to me.

 

Thank you! I feel so too! :) 


Isn't it so, yes or no? 

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14 minutes ago, alyra said:

sounds good. 

Yup, it would surprise if I am on a wrong path. I felt too much joy and happiness for too long to be suspicious. It's just interesting that bonds to other peoples means so much to must humans, where as I'm almost complete indifferent to it. :) 

 

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Isn't it so, yes or no? 

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