The Way Of The Superior Man - Chapter 15 (or Why Women Test Men)

[Ariel]

This chapter talks about tests of women. Deida tells us that women often test men (in the relationship) to see the "Shiva" in a man, to see his strength and calmness. But something here is not sitting in my head. (For example, a man comes home and tells his wife he won million dollar. The wife responds like it's nothing and keeps going, that's a test).

Is it actually true? If so, why do women do this? I just feel it's pretty dumb. I understand all the book chapters so far except this one, it's just sound stupid.

Can you give some explaining?

[Preetom]

Cause she wants the D.

[Preetom]

Jokes aside, you can see it from a hindu perspective.

The universe is nothing but the interplay of Shiva (male) and Shakti(female). 

Shiva is the ultimate nothingness/stillness/awareness itself. Absolutely still.

Shakti is the energy counterpart of Shiva. Shakti lures Shiva into a cosmic dance and that's how universe and consciousness comes out of utter nothingness. 

So its Shakti's nature to disturb the stillness of Shiva in order to immerse into the game of cosmic creation.

Like so, women test and excite the energy in male to higher and higher levels so that both can be joined in that heightened rapture. Either in bed or outside..you know..... 

[Ricky Walt]

Personally I don't think that's a realistic example. I was driving to work this morning listening to a guy that just won half a mil in some competition and while him and the radio presenter were talking about it his wife couldn't stop calling him. The radio presenter then went ahead and called the wife and she was so excited lol. I find it hard to imagine a situation where a wife would sit there on the couch after hearing the news and not have a reaction?

[Ariel]

5 hours ago, Mad Max said:

Yes. They do this, because they're wired to find the man with the best possible genes. So they challenge men to see if they're insecure/neurotic, i.e. determine the quality of their genes.

Insecure/neurotic = lesser quality genes = diminished chances of survival for her and her offspring. It also means:

• less strong offspring.
• won't be able to defend her/the child if and when they're being attacked.
• poor ability to generate resources.
• poor ability to handle everyday situations.
• low status (less respect/support from other men).

Another way to put it: unable to keep his cool in life-threatening situations = death for him, her, and the child.

Or: increased emotional stability = higher quality genes = greater chances of survival for him, her and their offsping.

Additionally:

1. careful not to mistake testing/challenging with shaming/gaslighting. There is a general tendency, especially in our societies, to always condone a woman's behaviors, no matter how abusive they may be (tamper tantrums, emotional bullying, gossip, etc.). Usually dismissed under the pretense that "women are emotional creatures". That's a load of shit. There's tons of emotionally unhealthy women out there. Learn to test women yourself to separate the wheat from the chaff.
2. women usually can't stand it when their own behaviors are being mirrored back at them. Something to keep in mind when testing/challenging them.
3. the woman DD talks about in his book isn't testing him. She's just being a cu**. Again, careful not to mistake the two.

But why do they do this so often (even every 10 minutes according to Deida), isn't it enough? 

 

[Forestluv]

On 10/3/2017 at 10:10 AM, Mad Max said:

Yes. They do this, because they're wired to find the man with the best possible genes. So they challenge men to see if they're insecure/neurotic, i.e. determine the quality of their genes.

Insecure/neurotic = lesser quality genes = diminished chances of survival for her and her offspring. It also means:

• less strong offspring.
• won't be able to defend her/the child if and when they're being attacked.
• poor ability to generate resources.
• poor ability to handle everyday situations.
• low status (less respect/support from other men).

Another way to put it: unable to keep

Those are just a couple selective factors. Others such as height, sense of humor, religion and ethnicity are also strong selective forces. An insecure guy who is 6’3”, handsome with a great sense of humor would have a higher sexual fitness than an emotionally-stable confident 5’4” guy who is overweight and balding.

Edited October 5, 2017 by Serotoninluv