My relationship + contemplation situation . Anyone spot any traps ?

[felixk_priv]

So there are lots of points of question , that I have in this relationship . I am unclear on a lot . I am not sure if I would choose her as a partner . I am not sure if we fit so well . I think we wouldn't really be friends and there is more . I am unclear if these things are important and relevant , they of course sound so .  What also seems to be happening is that , when I contemplate these things since they are important to the existence of the relationship itself , I lose feelings I have for her , rather than if I left these things alone I am sure we would just be a normal relationship . But we haven't been normal  , because now to both of us it seems like I am constantly getting clear on whether to end the relationship , which in a way it sort of is like that . But emotionally she is not a okay with that , and also this questioning I feel will be ongoing as questions in life come . So 1. I think I fucked up the framing to her as in framing it as breaking up rather than learning and discovering new things potentially perhaps . And 2. This questioning seems to take me emotionally out of the relationship when I am unclear on these things and questioning the serious truth of them . 

 

So a-n-y points , help , experience , traps , or thoughts pointed and given are greatly appreciated . Thank you actualized gang