The Perfect Metaphor for Pick Up Material

[BlessedLion]

Upon reading a book on sexual evolution, I ran into the absolute best metaphor for Dating and Pick-Up coaches. I spent about 3 months studying this stuff, and while they do have some good points around low hanging fruits- for example "pecking" is where you lean in too much when talking to women, it displays that you are people-pleasing and dependent on her, like a beggar leaning in for a bowl of rice. They also share good tips on fashion, texting, dating culture, but it mostly ends there. Because after this what it becomes is manipulation.

 

It becomes about displaying a perception of being a high value choice. Women are choosy, we know this. A sample of gay men in San Francisco showed that 25% of them had more than 1,000 sexual partners. To the straight men here, have you even had 100? 50? 

 

This shows how God damn horny and easily attracted men are, if we could have it our way, restaurants would have blowjob rooms next to the toilets. 

 

This frustrates men. So what these guy are learning and teaching is basically how to display the traits that women are choosy about, it's clever, and it works for the goal which is sex. But it is fundamentally deceptive and harmful, and the thing is , the women aren't actually choosing them, they are choosing their mask of a high value option and the perception they are spinning in her eyes. 

 

Now, here comes the metaphor- sexual evolution scientists ran an experement with a certain type of fish that is color coded. Basically the females find red striped males more attractive based on the brightness of the red. So what they did is took males with dull red colors and put bright red bands over them- the female fish were tricked! They mated with and chose these males. Yet, with humans it's not so simple, you can only keep on a band like that for so long before it wears down and she is exposed to the dull, weak band that actually exists there and she leaves you. 

 

That's what dating and pick up coaches mostly do. All the RSD guys and most of the books I've read (excluding Robert Gloover) are basically teaching how to display a bright red band. It's not neccesarily evil or bad too, because in nature animals do this all the type. Males will steal other males hard earned displays for mating, they will exagerrate traits or sounds to females and they will play dirty. There's no ethics in nature. It's about gene survival by any means neccesary, period. But does that mean we need to act like fucking animals? Like clever little manipulators of perception? I think not.

 

To me? The solution is to be authentic, build a strong foundation and strong self concept, cut the low hanging fruits around your game and basic attraction skills and then display who you actually are to women, there is nothing to hide because you actually are a strong man now. (I don't like the word High-value, because that is relative and subjective, it implies people have some sort of inherit value and some are higher than others because of their sexual attraction which is bullshit) 

 

How to be a strong man?

-Integrity 

-Purpose

-Consistnecy

-Emotional Stability

-Physical Strength

-Discipline

-Sexual Mastery

-Intelligence 

-Principles that you don't break 

[Rishabh R]

@BlessedLion Great post. I think vulnerability - expressing oneself honestly to others must act as a compass in dating. In the past I have consumed pick up material but it's bunch of surface level tactics as compared to Dr. Robert Glover or Manson's wisdom. 

Yup pickup is performance compared to honest vulnerability. The outcome of 1st is that even if you grind the nail and succeed it will still be unfulfilling and leave you empty whereas if you practice the later (vulnerability) then even you get rejected or end up dateless you will be fulfilled . 

Thanks for sharing.

[LordFall]

Yes I think good game is the behaviour being behind appearing high value. Some people call it situational status. Learning to have low approach anxiety so women you encounter feel you talking to them as a confident and grounded man for example. Then you can work on your business, your career and your social media reach to become actually high status in society. 

[BlessedLion]

On 8/12/2026 at 7:45 PM, Rishabh R said:

Yup pickup is performance compared to honest vulnerability. The outcome of 1st is that even if you grind the nail and succeed it will still be unfulfilling and leave you empty whereas if you practice the later (vulnerability) then even you get rejected or end up dateless you will be fulfilled . 

Bingo! Couldn't agree more. You may get less sex when you look for connections that are truly aligned, but the sex or connections that you do have are much better and more fun. Once we drop the game of needing to be an alpha male who can sleep with a lot of chicks, a ton of stress drops

[BlessedLion]

1 hour ago, LordFall said:

Some people call it situational status. Learning to have low approach anxiety so women you encounter feel you talking to them as a confident and grounded man for example.

Definitely, that kind of behavioral awareness is very important to get down