rushing approaches

[Olaf]

I approached today and I didn't have too much time, so I rushed both my warm-up and approaches. As I am rushing, I feel the women still respond to me, but also make them feel in a rush, not because they are in a rush, but due to my lack of presence. Now chasing a certain number of approaches in a certain amount of time, sounds productive, but I think it is actually building resistance instead of presence. I guess still better than doing nothing, as it is making a habit of approaching, but not optimal for sure. Also once you rush it is kinda hard to stop that momentum, it is like you have to start present from the start, at least in my experience. Just like when you get angry, it is hard to go from anger to completly calm, it takes hours, it is better to be calm from the beginning, I guess.

That is why I like to approach mostly in parks or places with nature, as I get in my natural element and relax, calm, although it could be a bit of a weird place to approach, probably best would be nature with some people around on the grass or something, so she doesn't feel like you are doing it in private. Yet a busy city center can make you feel in a rush even when you aren't in a rush, especially in the bigger cities with millions of people.

Anyways, I would say location is important and one thing to make you present, like nature, but not rushing a certain number of approaches in a certain amount of time, also helps. It is okay to have a certain amount, but I think it shouldn't be too ambitious, as it would become more about rushing through the approaches than making one approach work well, be present and enjoyable both for her and you. 

btw let me know if you guys want to hear more of these updates on my approaching journey when getting back in to pick up? I thought it would be valuable to share my progression rather than state how it is or not. I am still learning and becoming aware myself as I am getting back into it. 

[Ulax]

Love it bro.

You should start a journal on here  

[Olaf]

@Ulax good to know you are enjoying it

[Leo Gura]

She will feel whatever you feel.

Quality over quantity. 1 great approach is worth 10 crappy ones.

Speak slower. You are speaking too fast.

Edited 2 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Olaf]

@Leo Gura yes I agree and also it is hard to get out of a rushed energy once you are in it, I think it is best to start slow from the very start