Is neediness a question of vulnerability or an actual lack of abundance?

[UpperMaster]

Mark Manson wrote that practicing vulnerability (vulnerability: intentionally making your desires and intentions been known) is the gateway to being non-needy.

I mean I think we can all agree that this is true, ofc practicing vulnerability will help us be more indifferent to people rejecting us. This is lowkey rejection therapy. 
 

but does this truly cure neediness?

Like Leo says that you should actively create abundance in your life, then you will naturally be less needy and your abundance will grow even further due to non-neediness.

 

Like I’m having several  experiences..and am seriously trying to look through the lense of truth..what’s really true here?

Please leave your opinions for discussion.

 

[Eskilon]

Lack of abundance and Incompleteness for sure. 

If you have done spiritual practice and you have experienced bliss, and temporary completeness, the thought of chasing girls and attraction is non-existent in those moments.

[Valach]

Yeah, I feel like "abundance" as in dating bunch of girls is just a temporary relief from a deeper wound.

[YIDIRYIDIR]

@UpperMaster the way i would put it is, vulnerability is expressed after dealing with neediness, not before. since you are being vulnerable because you aren't afraid to lose them or their validation. that's what vulnerable means, you give them a chance to reject you. if you are needy, it would be hard to be vulnerable. 

neediness is broad, it can be for many reason, it could be due to lack of abundance, or insecurity, or trauma, or conditioned beliefs, or inexperience, or dependance on externa validation.... 

for me personally, it was because of childhood trauma, i developed fearful avoidant attachment style because of that. (if you don't know, search what that is and you'll get a bit of understanding)

 

Edited 38 minutes ago by YIDIRYIDIR

[Valach]

29 minutes ago, YIDIRYIDIR said:

@UpperMaster the way i would put it is, vulnerability is expressed after dealing with neediness, not before. since you are being vulnerable because you aren't afraid to lose them or their validation. that's what vulnerable means, you give them a chance to reject you. if you are needy, it would be hard to be vulnerable. 

neediness is broad, it can be for many reason, it could be due to lack of abundance, or insecurity, or trauma, or conditioned beliefs, or inexperience, or dependance on externa validation.... 

for me personally, it was because of childhood trauma, i developed fearful avoidant attachment style because of that. (if you don't know, search what that is and you'll get a bit of understanding)

 

How did you go about healing that?