Greatest mesure for egoic bullshit

[YIDIRYIDIR]

The most accurate way to spot egoic dysfunctional stuff that's causing you suffering and keeping you stuck is DRAMA.

worrying, complaining, victim thinking, gossip, guilt, shame, low self worth, inner critic, identity, judgement, moralising, superiority, inferiority, fury, resentment, resistance, self hate, self centeredness, attention seeking.......all have one thing in common, they all have drama to them, and they are dysfunctional. 

in all those traits, the ego is in the middle of constructed story where it is the main thing and stuff are happening to it and is reacting to all that with all it's attachments and fears and wants.

Of course there is a difference between expressing emotions like anger, sadness, fear, disappointment, excitement, passion...and those traits. cutting all drama doesn't mean suppressing emotion. to distinguish between those is an attitude, a skill. 

If it has drama to it, it's probably dysfunctional and you gotta work on stopping it. 

(do you think there's a more accurate way?)

 

Edited Friday at 12:10 AM by YIDIRYIDIR

[gettoefl]

Yes. Better word is perpetuation. Be angry all you please. You cannot not be angry. It arises. You choice is perpetuation and this is unskilful. Realize you are the problem, not them. You misperceived. They didn't misstep. Admit I was mistaken. Don't perpetuate. The miracle that unfolds is then anger doesn't arise. You reprogrammed yourself to catch your silliness. You are free. And the world is perfect. 

[YIDIRYIDIR]

@gettoefl Yeah knowing the balance between expression and perpetuation is key. 

[gettoefl]

4 hours ago, YIDIRYIDIR said:

@gettoefl Yeah knowing the balance between expression and perpetuation is key. 

Yes anger is to drink poison and hope the other person dies.

[Lyubov]

Dysfunction most times I think is spotted based on what you’re feeling. If you feel suffering vs if you are in your flow, authentic, at peace, joyful, clear minded. The suffering is a signal that something in your belief system is out of alignment with what’s true. That doesn’t mean all painful emotions are bad and you shouldn’t feel or create them. There is to some degree a utilitarian purpose for stuff like fear, ie you get close to the ledge of a cliff. I would say we all know how truthful we are intuitively and deep down. Id you’re feeling bad it’s a signal that you have some self reflection to do. 

[Leo Gura]

Where my drama queens at?