Possible partner dances Bachata

[Howtolive]

This is more directed at the guys, 

but also open for some woman’s POV.

I meet a girl and we click good so far. She is dancing bachata since some years. 
it’s a very close/sensual dance were the partners have lots of contacts with the Hipps etc. 
 

Generally girls that dance I find very interesting/feminine. To me it’s just a bit to much when I see other guys being that close. Plus I heared that los of men join these bachata party’s more as a social event to find girls. 
So Not an atmosphere where you want a possible partner to spend much time in. 
To me these Latino dance styles also always appear a bit to hedonistic for me.

Has anybody experiences with this dancing Szene or being in a similar situation ? When is it a value clash and when is it insecurity? 
 

Happy to hear some thoughts
 

 

[Elliott]

4 hours ago, Howtolive said:

This is more directed at the guys, 

but also open for some woman’s POV.

I meet a girl and we click good so far. She is dancing bachata since some years. 
it’s a very close/sensual dance were the partners have lots of contacts with the Hipps etc. 
 

Generally girls that dance I find very interesting/feminine. To me it’s just a bit to much when I see other guys being that close. Plus I heared that los of men join these bachata party’s more as a social event to find girls. 
So Not an atmosphere where you want a possible partner to spend much time in. 
To me these Latino dance styles also always appear a bit to hedonistic for me.

Has anybody experiences with this dancing Szene or being in a similar situation ? When is it a value clash and when is it insecurity? 
 

Happy to hear some thoughts
 

 

I'm anti-hookup culture, and I like the Latin and other ballroom dance scenes and the women into it. I actually can't think of any women I thought were there being promiscuous, I go to group classes and we alternate through all partners. Women are definitely there looking for boyfriend material though, and guys for girls.

[Valach]

13 minutes ago, Elliott said:

I'm anti-hookup culture, and I like the Latin and other ballroom dance scenes and the women into it. I actually can't think of any women I thought were there being promiscuous, I go to group classes and we alternate through all partners. Women are definitely there looking for boyfriend material though, and guys for girls.

Very interesting. I am friends with a lot of people from bachata/salsa dance community. From what they say it is one big fuck-fest. Might be country and group depended though.

[Elliott]

13 minutes ago, Valach said:

Very interesting. I am friends with a lot of people from bachata/salsa dance community. From what they say it is one big fuck-fest. Might be country and group depended though.

I believe that. At the parties, it mostly seemed to be couples that came together. A lot of women(and men) just really like to dance though. At the classes is where all the singles were, party was after the class.

 

Well, I guess this is no help, @Howtolive,

Edited 2 hours ago by Elliott

[Howtolive]

34 minutes ago, Elliott said:

I'm anti-hookup culture, and I like the Latin and other ballroom dance scenes and the women into it. I actually can't think of any women I thought were there being promiscuous, I go to group classes and we alternate through all partners. Women are definitely there looking for boyfriend material though, and guys for girls.

So you describe the people there as not so promiscuous ? It’s a bit off for me, when it’s so much connected to dating 

[Howtolive]

21 minutes ago, Valach said:

Very interesting. I am friends with a lot of people from bachata/salsa dance community. From what they say it is one big fuck-fest. Might be country and group depended though.

Thanks ! Where are they from ?

[Howtolive]

8 minutes ago, Elliott said:

I believe that. At the parties, it mostly seemed to be couples that came together. A lot of women(and men) just really like to dance though. At the classes is where all the singles were, party was after the class.

 

Well, I guess this is no help, @Howtolive,

How was the experience after the classes ? Are the people really there to dance or is it more about socialization? Sometimes the batchata looks a little bit like foreplay to me.

[Elliott]

25 minutes ago, Howtolive said:

How was the experience after the classes ? Are the people really there to dance or is it more about socialization? Sometimes the batchata looks a little bit like foreplay to me.

Definitely some, some, foreplay but it was couples that I saw, most of the singles didn't dance that way except for the professional level dancers practicing. The ones I've been to were dancing and socializing while dancing. Latin is pretty intimate dancing, I can see how it would be interpreted that way, I didn't interpret it like that though, maybe it was, I wasn't there looking for anything so perhaps it went over my head. Single women were definitely very talkative to me during the class and nice to me like they were interested in me, but I didn't consider it to be in a casual sex way, more a dating way, and I've had women come on to me in the casual sex way in other settings, I think I would have noticed. I went away thinking it was like a singles mixer for dating(and a date night for couples).

Edited 1 hour ago by Elliott

[Howtolive]

50 minutes ago, Elliott said:

Definitely some, some, foreplay but it was couples that I saw, most of the singles didn't dance that way except for the professional level dancers practicing. The ones I've been to were dancing and socializing while dancing. Latin is pretty intimate dancing, I can see how it would be interpreted that way, I didn't interpret it like that though, maybe it was, I wasn't there looking for anything so perhaps it went over my head. Single women were definitely very talkative to me during the class and nice to me like they were interested in me, but I didn't consider it to be in a casual sex way, more a dating way, and I've had women come on to me in the casual sex way in other settings, I think I would have noticed. I went away thinking it was like a singles mixer for dating(and a date night for couples).

I see nice observations. So is it fair to say that it’s not comparable to other sports where you meet in a club. For example, tennis club, boxing, golf any form of sport that meets somewhere and trains? 
 

To me a sport where dating is so much in the foreground is not really a sport then per say.

[Elliott]

6 minutes ago, Howtolive said:

I see nice observations. So is it fair to say that it’s not comparable to other sports where you meet in a club. For example, tennis club, boxing, golf any form of sport that meets somewhere and trains? 
 

To me a sport where dating is so much in the foreground is not really a sport then per say.

I think that's accurate, I think it's more dating centric than sports.

Edited 1 hour ago by Elliott

[Howtolive]

7 minutes ago, Elliott said:

I think that's accurate, I think it's more dating centric than sports.

I see. If that true then it would be a no go to me.